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Alright I feel that Im ready to do a little more sexualy with guys then I have so far. And I am all ready to until I am actualy with the guy then I get all nervous and cant do anything! WHATS WRONG? anyways I can loosen up? cause I want to be able to.. I just get nervous but I want to do stuff!

Well it's alright to feel a little nervous about something like that. But if you are feeling nervous, then that usually means there is a little part of you thne that doesn't want to do it or that you aren't ready to. Just don't try for awhile and whenever you hang out with a guy and you don't feel nervous at all then try and do it. Just try taking deep breaths and calm yourself down some. I hope I helped!





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MELii

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Ok there is this dance on the 10 and I want to ask my Ex Boyfriend if he wanted to go with me. He has a MAJOR thing for me. Cause I asked a question on here and everyone said he did when I explaned it to them. So Whats A Good way to ask him and what do I do if he turns me down??? THANK YOU!

Well if he has a major thing for you, why would he turn you down? haha. But if he does, then just go," alright " and don't let it bother you. I mean, it's not the end of the world.. you always have your friends there to hang with =] And just ask him," hey are you going to the dance on 10th? Do you wanna go with me?" or something like that. I hope I helped and I hope he says yes! =]




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MELii

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well my ex boyfriend is always sitting next to this girl Kaitlin at lunch... and it really makes me mad! im so jealous that hes like basically in "love" with her when i cant get him to go back out with me! i guess im trying to say... how do i get him to like me again..? DONT say, talk to him or that kinda crap! im trying to win him over! ((will rate 5's))

Well there really is no way to make him like you again. He has to like you all on his own, and apprantly he likes this Kaitlin girl. =/ I know that's not what you wanna hear, sorry. But if you want to at least have a friendship with him and be close to him ( which might be good in the end cause if he ever gets his heart broken or w.e by her, he might realize how much you care about him and everythign and start liking you again ) then I know you said "dont say talk to him" but that's what you gotta do in order to be his friend and just always be there for him. If him and Kaitlin were ever to date and they broke up or anything you would always be there and he might realize that in the end. I hope I helped!





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MELii

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hey meli... i really think i am HUGE and FAT and even girls tell me im fat.. how can i loose weight? i dont want to be too skinny but i want to be a normal girl.. my mom even calls me fat. people make fun of me. i sit alone at lunch with my 2 trays of food. i cant stop eatting. i dont belong in this world. i weight about 230 and my mom trys to make me go on Maury to get me help. i cry so much. please help me.
thanks- Fatty.

Well instead of eating two trays of food at lunch, only eat one. Cut down all your foods by like, half. Read the back to see how much sugar and fat everything contains, and if it's too much.. then don't eat it. Ask your mother to help you. Ask her to make you a special healthy dinner and to not buy any junk food so you won't be urged to eat it. Maybe even try asking your mother for a personal trainer or something. Or just be your own. Go walking out in the morning, then turn walking into jogging, and jogging into running someday. And just do this daily, and slowly the pounds will go down and down. Maybe even buy some exercise videos. I don't think this should get so drastic as to result to MAURY. This can be solved by yourself. Also you should hate on yourself so much. =/ That's not helping anything. You just need to think about how great you'll be looking whenever you lose some weight =D and as you work out, you need to gain some more confidence in yourself. People like people who have a lot of self confidence =]I hope I helped!





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MELii

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ok this one is for girls to answer..

well.. ok ive been really sad lately..and thats because my crush likes one of the rich snobs..and its not even that..its more like..i want to bring something (makeup wise) about me or sumthing so people are like woah thats *my name*..shes soo cool or soo pretty or just something good..cuz i am a very pretty girl and all and i don't wanna seem like a bitch saying that but i got to have some good thought about me ;] and like i just want people to be like woah shes totally cool and ya i know here.

IM me if you want...xO S0UTH3RNBABii
thanks!!

x0x me

Well just try to wear some light makeup and some foundtain to brighten up your skin some and some eyeliner. Just whenever you are around people, just be happy and energetic and keep up the conversation and all the people around you will be happy and talkative also and they'll like you more for it. Just be socialable but be yourself more importantly. Don't be a rich snob. =/ Nobody really likes them anyway. I hope I helped!




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MELii

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I'm 13/m in jr high and I was wondering, how old is an appropriate age for sex? I've heard of people my age that have had sex, but I don't think 13 is an appropriate age, so..... how old should you be to have sex?

That's good, you agree with me. I find 13 way too young of an age to have sex. I just find 13 year olds not mature enough or responisble to come to good decision whenever it comes to sex. You need to think of the consequences of what could happen if you had sex at such an early age. What if the girl got pregnant? You'd have to tell your parents and everything.. some 13 year olds don't think through everything properly. But there really is no "appropriate" age to have sex. Just whenever you are older and more mature and responislbe enough ( you and your partner both ) to come to a decision like that and have thought through everything and are positive that you want to, then sex is fine. It's just some 13 year old's do it for fun and for curiousity. I feel sex is something shared between two people in love and everything. I hope I helped!





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MELii

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I think I might like my ex boyfriends best friend. I don;t now what to do. I still like my ex but I think I may like his friend more. what should I do. If you have ever had a problem like this please tell me what you did. thanks.

Well has your ex moved on and have a girlfriend/dated anyone? Cause if he has moved on, then you should too. If he doesn't care if you date his best friend, then I don't see why you shouldn't. But if he still has feelings for you, I might want to talk to him about it. Cause if you just go and date his best friend, that might make him mad. =/ I hope I helped!





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MELii

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Ok i'm 13/f n i'm in 8th grade. i haven't met a new guy in a while, but today on the bus there's this cute guy my age and he's rlly cool and i really want to impress him, even if i find out i don't like him i still need sum new guy frends (i go to an all girls school)so tomorrow i want to lik impress him n stuff.....so i need some advice on lik how i shud act n how i shud do my hair n make-up (im 5 feet 0inches, brown hair, brown eyes) I rate high.

-Paris-

Well really you should just be yourself. Guys like it whenever a girl acts liek themselves, and wouldn't you rather be yourself anyway? Cause then he wouldn't be liking you for you. And plus sometimes guys can tell whenever a girl is trying to impress them and might think they are trying to hard and everything. But I'll try to help.. maybe straighten your hair ( or if it's already straight, curl/wave it cause then that grabs peoples attention since they usually don't see your hair like that ) make-up? um.. just wear some nice foundation that goes nicley with your skin and wear some mascara and light colored eyeshadow and some lipgloss maybe and eyeliner. But like I said, it'd probably impress him most if your just yourself cause most girls try to be what the guy likes and everything. I hope I helped.






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MELii

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Ugh, okay well my ex and i broke up about 3 months ago, and were both obvously moving on. One thing thought, i miss him and not really in that love type way thought, i miss him more in the friendship kinda way. I don't know. Were not even talking, haven't talked since school beggan. I guess what i'm asking is, do you believe that goodbye is forever? Do you think me and my ex will ever talk again?

Thanks :(.

Nope, I don't believe that goodbye is forever. Cause whenever you say goodbye to your friends like on teh phone, you aren't saying goodbye forever, are you? I believe you and your ex could talk again...you just need to try and tlak to him and get the conversation going. I mean by just both of you sitting there not talking to eachother really isn't helping =/ Just ask him how he's doing, whats been happening with him lately and everything, and then maybe ask him if he wants to hang out sometime so you two can catch up on stuff cause you missed him and want to be friends and everything. Cause obviously he isn't going to approach you cause it's been 3 months now. I hope I helped!





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MELii

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hii. i think i am fat i weigh 141 and i dont like the way i look so im thinking about becoming anerixic for just a few weeks to shed some pounds. But i heard it can be dangerous

Anorexia is a very dangerous disease and I beg you not to do it. There is so many better ways to lose weight. Just take what you eat and make it smaller portions. Maybe eat a light breakfast and then have a normal lunch. Just cut your foods down and read how much sugar and fat they contain and if they contain alot, jsut don't eat them. Just focus on much healthier foods and try to exercise more. In the morning before you go to school ( or if you walk to your bus stop or to school ) try jogging and then slowly turn jogging into running after awhile. Talk to your parents about wanting to lose weight. Have them make a special dinner for you with good healthy foods and ask them to buy less junk foods so you don't get the urge to eat junk. They can really help you. And your friends too. Just don't even try to be anorexic. No good comes of it. Whenever peopke are anorexic, they think "oh i'll become skinnier and then i'll be prettier and more people will like me". Some people who are anorexic are ( sorry ) but scary. They are SO SKINNY. I can competley see their bones and it looks like they could like, snap in half. Like I said.. no good comes from it at all. So please try my suggestion. I hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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i feel that im being abused by words.. is that possibal?

and im 13/f and would i be able to call a abuse line? and get my mom taken away from me?

Yes it is possible. It's known as verbal abuse. Here's a site all about it, also with a number to call:


http://www.verbalabuse.com/indexmain.shtml


..but you must think about everything before you call that. Do you really want to get your mother taken away from you? ( if they can take her away, i'm not sure ) where would you live? with your dad? If that's an option, don't report her or something, just live with your dad instead. Also some teenagers just don't like their parents, I mean my mother says things to me alot but I'd never think of reporting her. Just be positive that all the things she's saying is actually verbal abuse. It'd be best just to go to that site and maybe just read some sites about verbal abuse and how to get through it =/

http://www.cyberparent.com/abuse/

there's another site to maybe take a look at. I hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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so i write a lot, mainly poetry.... but lately ive lost my inspiration.... how do i find inspiration?

You just need to write about something that comes from your heart, what your feeling. Do you like anybody at the moment? Maybe write a poem about them or maybe write about your favorite/least favorite seasona nd what you like/dislike about it. You just need to find something that interests you alot and start to write about it. Maybe write about your friends or family or yourself. =] I hope I helped!




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MELii

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please help me! I am looking at my vaines right now and I just want to take a blade and trace them all the way up my arm! I am so depressed and I really need someone to talk to that im not afraid will judge me!
PLEASE HELP ME!
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email - pink_lip_gloss91@hotmail.com

Cutting yourself isn't the answer. You think that's making your problems go away, but really.. you are only adding onto your problems by starting. I would seriously talk to someone about this. A school counselor, a friend, your parents.. someone, anyone. Even though you are only having the urge to, you still need to stop yourself from doing it. Cause most people that think it ; do it. It shouldn't even be in your thoughts =/ Please go and tell someone about it. There is other ways to handle depression. Talk to someone, listen to some music, whack a pillow, draw, write.. anything to release your feelings out on other than yourself. I hope I helped.




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MELii

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I'm really confused about a lot of things. I think that I may be bisexual, but I'm not really sure how to tell. I wonder if telling myself I am is what's making me that way. I've never done anything with someone of the same sex, but I've talked to people about bisexuality and I think about it a lot. How do you know you're bisexual? I know it's probably different for different people, and please don't say "you just know". Thanks in advance, any serious answers will be helpful.

Yeah it is tough to tell if you are bisexual or not because some teenagers are just very curious and experimental and everything. Just awhile and don't assume you are... just hang around with people that are of the same sex and see what happens. See if whenever you are hanging out with them you might think "ones cute" or something and see if you start to develop feelings for them, cause then that'll mean you are. But if you really don't, then you just might have been going through a curious phase in your life or something. I hope I helped!




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MELii

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im 13 and a girl and this year i actually feel ready for sex. is that normal at this age? is there something wrong with me? i know a guy that is willing to have sex with me, should i have sex? if i do should i tell my parents?
**sexy_gal_1992**

No, I don't think you should have sex. With 13 year olds, your changing and you start to think and learn about sex and you are curious and want to try new things, and I think your just thinking about it like everyone else. In my opinion, 13 is too young. You have to think about the consequences of what could happen. Would you really wnat to be pregnant at 13 years old? And what if your parents found out? They might want to have nothing to do with you. =/ And especially don't have sex with some guy that's just willing to do it. You should be in love with the person because sex is something that is shared between two people who love eachother very much and are mature enough and responislbe enough to come to that decision. And I might want to tell your parents ( probably your mother ) about these feelings you are having. She was a 13 year old girl too. Maybe she can tell you what it was like for her at her age also. So please.. wait until you are fully ready and are in love and feel you are 100% mature enough ( you and him ) to make that responsible of a decision. I hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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ok im 13 years old and i think i might be bisexual...i've had ALOT of boyfriends(like more then 30) I just moved from NY to LA Cali. I have a friend that is bi and latly when i hang out wiht her i feel these weird feelings for her. What should i do????

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~LiLy~

Well there is the possibility that you might be bisexual. People around this age tend to feel curious and want to experiment and such. So take awhile and figure out if you are or not. Hang around with other girls and see if you get the same weird feelings for them also. See if you actually have feelings for her and see if you like her, and if you really do... then I'd tell her. See how she feels about you and see what happens =] I hope I helped!




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MELii

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I went to my high schools last football game for the season and there i was hanging out wiht my friends ((Guys)) and after half time my friend (ganna give u letters meber guys) E ask me if i wanted to talk a walk and i said yes. We went down to the beach because its right by my school and we were laughing and giggling and stuff... and we kissed(ALOT) there would be no problem with this if i didn't have a b/f and he didn't have a g/f... well that was last friday and today in school my friend Sarah ((a girl)) asked me if i wanted to go out to the movies this afternoon with me her E and my boy J i said yess but after ins tudy hall E asked me if i could make up a lie or something because he didn't want to go because he couldn't see me with J he said it made him to sad.

I feel so BaD! Help what should i do...I love my b/f but how can i make it easier for me to hang out wiht him with out making it feel weird between us??? please!! help me!

**Nikki**

Well first of all, I'm sorry but you should break up with your boyfriend. If you love him, you wouldn't have cheated on him in the first place. =/ I would tell him what happened ( he deserves to know ) and explain that you are very very sorry and end the relationship. And then you can have a relationship with E. Just don't cheat on him also if you do. =/ I hope I helped!




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MELii

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ok... im f/14 and weigh 109.. i was anerexice in the summer and in the begining of the school year... and weighed 102... I have been eating and as u can tell i have gained weight.. But yet i still have the thought that im fat in the back of my head... but as im eating i am getting told i look to skinny more often then i have befor.... i got told i look disgostingly skinny...? but i wiegh 109? idk im kinda confused.....

Well I hope your not disgustingly skinny because I weigh 106. I am skinny but not disgustingly skinny. It might depend on the person who you are takling to. Are they overweight maybe? Cause they just might be jealous. You shouldn't listen to anyone. I was on this site one time and I entered my age ( 14 ) and my weight and it told me I am at a healthy weight. And also.. everyone feel self-concious about something. At least your eating and have stopped being anorexic. Most girls can't stop and you've stopped putting yourself in danger and I'm very happy you stopped..just never start up again =/ Trust me, you are no-where near fat. It's just whenever people sometimes look at themselves in the mirror, they just imagine themselves fat and it sticks in their mind and all they can see is fat.. but it's actually not there. Trust me: your not fat at all. Your at a very nice and healthy weight for your age. The average weight for girls that are 14 is around 110-130 or so. So you are fine. I hope I helped!




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MELii

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last night i had my first kiss. it was at my friends house. she had a LOT of people over. and so yeah, me and my friend made out for a couple of seconds.

today i regret it SO much. i wish i had never done it. i just turned 13! i guess i am too young and wasnt ready but i cant go back in time. what do i do? arent most happy when this happens? i dont want my mom and dad to find out. its hard to life with myself.....waht can i do? thank you

Well first of all calm down some. "It's hard to live with myself"? You did nothing wrong, you just kissed someone, and you aren't too young at all. Some people haev their first kisses at a younger age than yours. You also don't necessairly HAVE to tell you parents, but it's no tlike if you did, they'd shun you. It's not like you went on a sex-spree or something. It was all just an innocent kiss. Well what I would try to do is call it a "non-meaningful kiss". it's your first meaningless kiss. And the next time you kiss someone make it someone you really like and someone you want to kiss and that can be your first meaningful kiss =] I hope I helped!






Love,
MELii

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I really like this boy, but I dont know how to make him like me back! Any suggestions?!

Well there really isn't any way to make a boy like you really.. he has to like you all on his own. SO just try talking to him, maybe flrting a little and just talk to him and get to know him and let him get to know you and maybe he'll start to develop feelings for you. I hope I helepd!




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MELii

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