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15/F

ok so i hate it when my parents do it. (i mean blow jobs!!) I don't even like saying the word!!
When "love" scenes come on a screen for a movie i get discusted too!

why do i?? how can i get it out of my head...without having to talk to them about it...didn't go well the first time...they got all mad at me...(but that was last year...when i heard them..and by the way thats when this all started!)

and how can i make it stop! get it out of my head!!!!!!

Wow... Nice mental image, huh?

But all great mental images fade in time. Just don't allow yourself to think about it. If you let it go and stop bringing it up and thinking about it, eventually you'll forget... I hope. My apologies and sypathy.

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first things first--15/m.
ok so like i said, im 15 and theres this girl(lets just call her bonqueesha lol) who is basically all over me, and shes really cute and all.. but shes only 13. see in my opinion i think it would be wrong/weird for us to hook up or go out or whatever, so what do all you advicenators think?

Bonqueesha? Creative.

Two years is not much of an age difference, but if you think it would be weird and are not interested at all in this girl then just tell her straight up. Don't lead her on or let her think there's a possibility you would even consider going out with her. Just tell her that you like her better as a friend, even if you don't. (It's probably the easiest way to let her down
and break her heart)

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my nipples are like in. i don't know how to explain it. like they dont stick out. so i dont have any nipples it looks like. but when i touch them they come out a little but then go right back in. can anyone tell me if this is normal?
15/f

It's perfectly normal, don't worry about it.

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how do u give a bj?????

If you can't make a wild guess then you shouldn't be doing it.

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16/f

Recently, my boyfriend and I started having sex. The first time, it hurt pretty bad.. but it doesn't hurt so much anymore. But, the thing is, i haven't bled yet. Does that mean that he didn't tear my hymen? I know some of my friends didn't bleed either. Am i still concidered a virgin?

You had sex. You're not a virgin. If you want to consider yourself a virgin then fine. And not everybody bleeds the first time they have sex either.

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Sombody asked me to babysit for her son on next monday,tuesday,wendnesday for $15 each day but my aunt wants me to go with her to wisconsin dells those days should i stay or should i go?

It depends. What do you want more? Do you want to go to Wisconsin or do you want $45? No one can make your decision for you.

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I always get zits, ect. I know most people go through that but is there any advice for skin? I don't use stuff like proactive or anything bought. I wash my face and all but any advice you can through out?

Proactive woeks really well, but if you don't want to spend the money try Neutrogena. It works well also. Use the Acne scrub, toner, face masks... Anything from that product works.

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Me and this guy have been back and forth, I can't never know for sure if he likes me or not.
I told him I like him, but he never said anything back to me. But he always talks to me; always txt me; always emails me.......

We went out one night, and both got drunk.
He told me how beautiful I am, and he always loves me(yes, love is the word he used), and then he kissed me. (for really long time.....)
The next day he called and asked me what did he say the night before..........(he only remember he made up with me, but doesn't remember what he said to me!!)
Then he asked me out again for movie, but barely talked to me the whole time when we were out. I asked him why did he kiss me the first place (the night we were both drunk), he said "it just happened."

WHAT?!! I'm confused!! Does he like me or just try to get into my pants?!! Help!!

If you were just a conquest he probably would have moved on ny now, and he wouldn't waste his time with the emails and texts. I think it's safe to say he likes you. I don't know for sure but maybe he does remember what he said that night, that could be the reason he's acting weird. He could possibly love you. When you are drunk you don’t really care what other people think about what you do or say, so it’s alot easier to just speak your mind.

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I want to be an actress but the problem is I cant sing. I'm not so sure what to do. And usually to act you also need a little singing skill. Any advice? Also I'm not aloud to take singing lessons I already take ot many dance classes. Any acting tips also? thanks!!!!!=]

You don't have to be able to sing to be an actress, unless you want to do broadway. If you go to an audition they won't ask you to sing, unless the part you are auditioning for requires that you are able to sing.

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I have known this guy for 8 months. We have been dating for one month now and I am a virgin, would it be bad if I had sex with him? I mean I am ready and everything else.

It's not a matter of bad or good. If your ready then you wouldn't be doubting or quetioning your decision to have sex with him. No one on this site can tell you if you're ready. It's up to you. Just think about for a while, make sure you're really ready.

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How do i get my cat to walk on a leash?

I don't know if it's possible. I have tried with all three of my cats. They just don't get it or maybe they just don't want to be treated like dogs. If you wan't to try good luck. I hope you have lots of patience. Get a color and a leash and see if they'll cooperate.

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if i go to a salon... could they bleach er, i think the correct term is "tint" my eyebrows? overplucking has made them grow back way darker. :/ my natural hair color is dark brown and i want my eyebrows to be lighter so it doesn't look so harsh.

is it possible?

Yes, it's possible. I'm not exactly sure where they do it but people do it all the time so there eyebrows match there hair color.

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alright sorry if this gets long. i was dating this guys for about 6 months. im 17 and hes 18.
ive had more sexual partners then him. and i lied to him in the begingin of the relationship, saying there was about half as any as there actually were which is 2. but my cauntious caught up to me and i told him the truth. he broke up with me. but we\'ve talked alot since then. but im getting mixed signals. yesturday i talked to him and he told me with out me even asking him if we could hang out when we got off work. i said yes. and he said he would try and get a ride. i said my mom can pick you up if you want. but he said no i dont want your mom doing that even though its only 2 mins out of the way. but anyway he never called. does it seem to you tht he really wants to make things work? i dont understand wats going on? shouldnt he be able to forgive me if he says he loves me as much as he does?

You probably hurt him by lying to him, however I don't agree with his decision of breaking up with you just based on that. The ball's in your court though. You're the one that lied to him. Go out of your way to arrange to meet up with him and talk to him. Tell him that your sorry you lied to him, explain why you lied and tell him that you still want to be with him. Tell him the only reason you told him was because you didn't want to lie anymore. Good luck, I hope everything works out.

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im really confused and i think i just want some reaction or opinion to the following situation with what the guy did.

so basically me and my boyfriend dated for 3 1/2 months. for some reason .. i break up with every guy around that mark.. but anyway.. for a while it was the greatest thing in the world. we had sex twice.. and he told me he did it because he loved me and because he was tempted. i asked him which one sent him overboard to decide to actually do it though.. and he said it was cause he was really tempted and he wanted to and i wanted to.. so he's like.. why not? should i be really mad and feel used that he said that and that he did it more cause he was tempted than that he "loved" me?? we're broken up now and its been bugging me. please help?

He already said he did it because he loved you once, you shouldn't be mad just because he didn't say it again when you asked. Besides, you've broken up. It shouldn't matter why he did it now. Don't let it bug you, let it go.

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Hmmm, so I'm 15/f and I have like 10 friends? I don't care, though, because I love all of them like whoa. The problem is that out of those 10, like only 2 are girls. I'm not a slut or being friends with the guys because I wanna go out with them. It's just that I can be myself comfortably around them since they don't care about what I say or how I act or any of that stuff. There's little to no drama or rumors among guys & they're much more relaxed and friendly and more fun to hang out with [for me anyway]. One of the 2 girls is my best friend ever & I love her like whoa [still do] but my mom banned me from her [Don't ask. LONG story] The other girl, I'm not close to that much? I mean I still love her but I'm not as close to her as I am with the first girl. Like I would barely hang out with her at the mall or movies or even bring her over to my house just so we could hang out.

The thing is that my mom is...strict and set in her own little assumptive ways. She NEVER lets me go to a guy's house even if his parents are home b/c I'll get raped and pregnant. And I can't go anywhere with just a guy unnless another girl is in the presence [I can't go to the mall or the movies and what not]. And I'm afraid to bring people over my house because my mom will most likely ban me from my friends [Again, long story but I promise you that my mom will not like them and ban me form them] So basically all summer long, I've had like 2 outside human contact [Andrew b/c he popped out of nowhere one day and decided to come over...he's now banned for a stupid reason. And another time was in the morning when I snuck out to meet Angela [the girl I'm banned from]] And I'd really like to go shopping or to the movies with Brandon or Curtis but my mom will be like "OMG!! DO YOU LIKE HIM? ARE YOU GUYS GOING OUT??" [Ironic thing--they're both gay. And my family is a big, big homophobic one] So I dn't know. I guess I'm asking what should I do?

I'm friends with a lot of guys too. My parents always assume I'm going out with every guy I want to hang out with. I'm not allowed to just hang out with guys, with no girls around. Try explaining to your mom that they're just friends and tell her you would appreciate it if she trusts you on that. Tell her that you know them all really well and that they would never pysically hurt you. Tell her that if you were going out with a guy that you would tell her. Explain how you feel and that guys are just easier to get along with and better friends. I'm sorry if she doesn't understand. Best of luck.

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ok so there is this guy named louie and i really like him but he is in the 5th grade and i'm in the 8th. and like he is really nice. and not like any of the other guys that i liked. he doesnt want to get into my pants. but like my best friend brittany's little brother is best friends with him and im over there all the time. and brittany doesnt care and like my friend laura is like eww. thats nasty but what should i do. i want to ask him out! please help!

If you like him then ask him out. If you really want to go out with him then his age and what your friends say doesn't and shouldn't matter. It's kind of a weird age gap if you know what I mean, but go for it. But to warn you a lot of people will probably react like your friend Laura and there is a huge difference in maturity levels between an 8th grader and 5th grader.

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Does anyone know that song its in the movie into the blue as well as in the new jeep commercial, just with the jeep driving around, its a guy singing and it souns like hes saying something like beautiful life

I think it's Wonderful World, Beautiful People by: Jimmy Cliff

http://www.stlyrics.com/lyrics/hardertheycome/wonderfulworldbeautifulpeople.htm

If not, here are all the songs played in the movie Into the Blue:
http://imdb.com/title/tt0378109/soundtrack

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I'm flying SouthWest Airlines tomorrow. I have one question. Are you allowed to bring liquids that are more than 3 oz in CHECKED luggage, the one that isn't your carry-on? I know the whole ziploc bag routine thing. Thanks.

Yes, as long as it's not carry-on. You can pack whatever you want for your checked luggage.

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14/girl

I am going out with this guy and one of my closest friends just told me he cheated on me. I talked to him about it and he admitted to it, but he keeps trying to make excuses for it, and it was with this girl who he hooked up with before we were going out. He said it was over, but obviously its not. He also only apologized once, which makes me think he does not regret it. I really have no clue what to do about this, and any advice is really greatly appreciated.

Maybe he doesn't regret it, after all he only appologized once. And his friend told you, he probably wasn't even planning on telling you or admitting it if someone hadn't of told you first. It doesn't exactly sound as if he's begging for forgivness. Ask if he would have told you if his friend hadn't of. If no one found out do you think he would of continued cheating on you? Plus he's making excuses for it. It's no ones fault but his own, so he should own up to it. If I were you I would dump him and find someone who would appreciate you and wouldn't even consider cheating.

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OKAY i might be a tad paranoid, but im 13, female, and i have been going out with this great guy for eh 7 months now, well he comments this girl like more than he comments me on myspace, and he always is like, your a loser, or your stupid, and stuff, and he comments all her pictures and doesnt comment mine, and i know im being soo parinoid, but its bothering me, and he commented one of her pictures saying this one is the coolest. or this is the best, and does that mean he thinks it was pretty?,
i know for the 3rd time im very parinoid, but help me out here. :D
thanksooomuch

You probably don't want your fears confirmed, but it sounds like he likes her. To me anyway. He's paying more attention to this girl than to you. Maybe he doesn't realize what he's doing. And maybe he does, I don't know. And you won't know either until you talk to him.

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