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I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
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okay, ive been thinking about what i am...straight, bi, lesbian. and i dont know.like i think i am bi but im not sure. i found out the other day that my ex is bi and that made me think alot about myself. like if i did anything wrong or something. but i dont know. i think i am bi. but i dont want to be, cuz if i am, then my friends and family would hate me. im only 13 an usually when kids are younge and say the arent straight, people usually dont take them seriously and say "oh your straight, your just saying that to get attention" well im not trying to get attention. im just confused. (link)
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well your going through puberty and all and hormones and sexual preference change. sometimes adults blow it off cuz they know you will grow out of it when horemones balance out later. if you dont want to be bi, dont act out anything with a person of the same gender as you. you might get used to it and stay bi for life.then wait and if you think your still bi when your older and still dont want to be, stick with guys. if your fine with it by then try different things
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I am 15 and I will be turning 16 in October. Should I be worried that I haven't had one sign of a period yet? (link)
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depends. some ppl dont get it until theyre 19. if your mom/sister/aunt got theirs earlier go to your doctor. there are many signs that ur period is gonna come-ru saying puberty hasnt started for you? if you have pubic hair leg and underarm hair, any signs of boobs, greasyer hair and skin, then its gonna come sooner than you think. its really close if you see discharge on your underwear.
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Is there anything that you can eat/drink/do to make your boobs bigger (that won't make you fat because I know gaining weight makes your breats larger)? Also, is there anything you can wear to make your boobs LOOK bigger, bras or certain shirts or layering or any tricks? (link)
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No foods make your boobs bigger. Pills just trick your body into making fat around your chest and it's probably not healthy, I wouldn't suggest surgery or stuffing either. Then v neck shirts or low cut shirts with padded bras and underwire would make your chest look bigger. Shirts with words on them also might make you look bigger.Some bras come with lil air sacks to help them keep its shape and they dont fall out, but if for any reason they popped you would be screwed. Also taking powder or lotion and putting it on your chest in a kind of Y shape down your chest might make an illusion of a bigger chest.
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My cousin has been masturbating since she was 3 years old. Is that normal? She is 17 now. (link)
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since she was lil when she started im not surprised shes still doing it. i think its normal
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is it normal for a girls breasts to be uneven? im a 14/f and like my left is alot bigger than the other one like practically a half a size or a full size. and its annoying . is it going to change?
sorry if this is in the wrong category (link)
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its normal eventually they will even out but no two breasts are alike neways
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does your penis get smaller the more you have sex (link)
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no way.
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Last night I was at a party and made out with this guy (hes 18) four times. The thing is, that was my first kiss.. but I think I did pretty well. Anyways, he started with his mouth open which was sooo awkward, but then again we were both kinda drunk. Is it normal to begin with fullout french kissing.. no closed mouth kiss before?
Thanksss.. :) (link)
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i would consider myself lucky to makeout before closed mouth. i say your cool. and since you were drunk you probably woulnt think to start the simple way anyways. in your situation i think its normal, but usually it would be out of the ordinary but not in a bad way
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ok im 5'3 & i weigh about 115 pounds and i feel like i weigh so much. i wanna weigh like 95-100 pounds. is that to light for my height. or what people say i look anorexic but im not even close to it. & im ashamed of the way i look. does anyone know any ways so that i can loose weight
i excersize every night doing 50 cruches/pull ups
thankss so much
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you really shouldnt try to loose weight cuz if you were to loose 15 pounds you would be underweight. in fact if you were to lose 9 or 8 pounds you would be underweight too. just dont compare yourself to other people. besides, skinny girls barely have figures anyways. if you do crunches to stay in shape, fine but its not all that nessesary. in fact you can afford to gain 15+ pounds before your near getting overweight
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Hello, I'm a girl and I'm 14. I have a lot of fat around my buttocks, thighs, and my stomach. I'm actually had a woman at an amusement park ask me if I was pregnant! (If I was she wasn't going to let me ride a certain thing.) I didn't think I looked that bad until that day so now I'm worried about losing weight. I'm 130 pounds so I figure my goal will be to lose 20 pounds, but more importantly lose the fat. Has anyone got any tips, rountines, and exercises I should try? I like in the country so I haven't got any good places to run and it's so hot here. I can't swim, btw. Anyway, please help me lose the extra pounds so I can feel confident again! (link)
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im no doctor, but my dads one. i think the best exersize to do for fat in those areas is squats and crunches. Every day for 2 weeks do 50 crunches. at first your belly might be sore so i would start out with 10 a day and if you can take more a day without a sore stomach, fine. then for a minute, squat against a threshold with your back flat against the board in the dorway.and stay in that position without getting up or going any higher. then you can just do 30 regular quats every day
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I know that when you are younger. Guys tease girls if they like them. Is it still the same way in your upper teens.? (link)
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most likely theyre interested in something about you. not exactly in the same way when you were 6, but if they tease you they may think your hot, they might think your funny, have a good sence of humor stuff like that
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i weigh 107 about and im 5 foot . my frie4nds are TALLER than me and weigh about 90 i feel so fat and nasty in a bikini . but ik i weigh a luittle of that because of my boobs lool (link)
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your not fat. your friends are just skinny. feel good you have boobs and your a normal weight.
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I'm a female, 13 years old, and I wear 34b for a bra size. Is that big or average for my age? (link)
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depends on your weight in my opinion. for the thirteen year olds I know, your big, but i dunno every 13 year old in the world, so i would say your about average
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What do you do when a friend for 9 years gets upset because they were told that you said something supposedly They won't talk about it. They say that they are upset and won't tell you what was said so that you can deny or explain (link)
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do you mean if your friends for 9 years get upset because they heard something you said and they wont tell you wat it is so you cant deny or explain whether you really said it or not? then i have an answer for you. if you are persitant enough, or you ask other people who no whats what what you supposedly said, you can find out and talk to them even if they dont want to hear. you can do this is person or a letter to some of them, because its easier if you dont have to be there when they read it. tell them you really wanna be friends with them you miss them, and your sorry. if they dont tell you, they dont want you to explain yourself, so they probably dont want to be your friend, which means, i hope at least, you dont want to be their friend either
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uhmm. how do your boobs get bigger? because im a 32A and im 14. andd does rubbing toothpaste on your nipples or massaging your breast work? (link)
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you still growing there is no way to make your boobs get bigger. toothpaste is for pimples and teeth not boobs. try a padded bra and v neck shirts they make your boobs look bigger. stuff if you want
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Me and my friend have been friends for a while and recently she told me about her cusion. i met him and a couple months later we started going out. just last week he broke up with me suddenly because he said he wasnt ready for a girlfriend.But i odnt think its that...i think it's because im in 8th and he's in 11th i mean, even his best friend cant figure him out! then the next day he e-mailed me back saying he was stupid he did and he still really likes me a lot and misses me. now he is on vacation and he said when he comes home he will have made a decision about going out with me or not. I really really like him but if he ends up asking me out i dont want to sound easy and say yes but i really like him but i dont want to sound easy!Also i've never made-out before and im dying to with him because he is the only one i would but now i dont know what to do!
help me please!
-confused- (link)
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First, I don't think he should be the only one with a say on whether you two need to go out or not. If he act's weird and your not into him anymore and he wants to go out you should have a say. He seems kinda confused. if he wants to go out with you when he gets back, fine say yes but really you should talk to him about why he broke up with you in the first place and ask him how he feels about the grade/age difference. If all goes well after you talk to him say yes trust me you wont sound easy. You can makeout with him when you're together. Most likely he will be the one to kiss you but if it takes forever and your dying to makeout with him go ahead and make the first move. Now if he doesn't wanna go out with you when he comes back and you still wanna go out with him you should ask him why he doesn't want to and why hes going back and forth with his emotions-breaking up with you, missing you and wanting you again but having to chose to go out with you or not. If he has a good reason like hes really not ready, fine leave him alone, give him time. If he has a lame excuse like he found somone his age he likes or he's been with some other girl, or something as dumb as that, dont let him waste your time and forget about him for good. The bad thing about him not wanting to go out with you, if he doesn't want to go out with you is he might ignore you-sometimes guys are like that, so if he does you should go up to him and ask him if he's made a decsion, and prepare yourself for the worst. hopefully things wont end up that way. good luck!
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My period is really haevy this month, and I have to be changing my pad really frequently. What should I do at night? (link)
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whatever you do dont try tampons you mite get TSS. try overnight pads with a liner or something.the stayfree advanced protection line of pads seems pretty good in their largest size
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after i finger myself for like 10 minutes, i get realllyy tired and i end up falling asleep and taking a nap for a while. is this normal to make u really tired? (link)
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i heard masturbation helps insomnia, so i think it would be normal for you to fall asleep
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14.f.
My parents make me go to my grandparents house during the day, because they don't trust me in our house alone.
Well, a few days ago I was reading this book that I have to read for school. I finished the book, and my grandmother asked if she could read it then give it back to me. And I said sure, and gave it to her.
The thing is, I don't know what I was thinking, because the book has SO many cursewords and has sex (gasp) in it. And she's my grandmother...
My mom went over to my grandparents house today just for a visit, and my grandmother said she finished the book, and was concerned about my school, for assigning a book like that. She said she was really surprised about all the cursewords and that I was reading it.
I have to go to their house again all this week. And I am SO embarressed, you have no idea. I'm not sure what my exact question is, just, what do I do?
Does anyone care to be my savior? (link)
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if she asks say, "the school assigned it they should've thought about what they put in it. im the one who has to read it it wasnt my choice" then switch the subject and pray she doesnt ask again.
thats all i would do.
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How do you learn to love your body? (link)
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you find good things about your body and emphasize them through clothes that make those parts look better. make sure these clothes make the worse parts look better too, and be sure your comfortable wearing them. plus if you practice accepting your body instead of rejecting it you will get used to saying and meaning good things about your body. then always remember its what is on the inside that counts, so make sure you know what you lack on the outside can easily be made up for on your inside
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What would you do if you hated your body so much that you would't let your partner see it?
What are your thoughts? (link)
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I would look at my body in a mirror and find 10 good things about it to boost my confidence. I would reassure myself that my partner wouldnt be my partner if he hated my body anyways, so I would acsept what I have, unless I wanted to try to change it, which would mean pills and surgery but I wouldnt do that
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