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hey, well i have pretty thick hair...which makes it difficult to do anything with it. How can i scrunch it or even make it wavy??
thanks,macy

Alrighty. My hair is really thick, too. I used to get perms, but now the curl has about grew out. However, I can still scrunch my hair and make it wavy. Heres the way I do it...

Wash your hair and use a little conditioner. Towel off all the excess water out of your hair. Use some curling gel (aussie or pantene are both really good) and spread it evenly throughout your hair. Then scrunch your hair with your fingers. You should also lean your head over and scrunch all the underside hair. After you have spread the gel and scrunched, blow dry your hair on low, and keep scrunching while you blow it dry. After you blow it almost completely dry, spray it with hairspray.

I hope this helped. Let me know!
♥Emily

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i have this grandma SHE is a total neat freak and sometimes just plain wierd she will not let me watch pg13 movies even though im 15 so when my mom buys me one we have to keep it a secret. when im with her all day i juat cant wait to get away . i still love her though. and after christmas me my mo and her are going to tenneessee for 10 and when my mom drives she pretends there is a fack brake petal and pushes her foot down. now tell me how will i stand her for 10 days straight? i RATE HIGH!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok I understand your grandma thing...shes annoying blah blah... but the break petal thing? Um... Shes your grandma.. Be nice until shes croaks.. You want inheritance money right? ;-)
♥Em

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my nose is very sore and irritated from blowing it so much. what can i put on it to soothe it?

Ok. I know this sucks. I have horrible allergies, espcailly when it gets cold outside. Its always a good idea to use the Kleenex with the lotion on them. Thats one way to help prevent the irritation and dry skin. Try putting NON SCENTED lotion around your nose. Thats what helps me. Vaseline makes tons of soothing lotions without the scents. Hope this helped.
♥Emily

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my dad is always really impatient and sometimes he hurts me but i dont know if it would be considered abusing me. the worst time was when he shoved me up the stairs and started smacking me screaming at me and then shoved me into my room and i hit the door..it was horrible. other times he squeezes my arm or twists it so i listen to him. so would this be considered abuse or not? if it is should i do something about it? thanks, i rate high!!!

Child abuse is the infliction of physical harm. This is definately one of those cases. I wuoldnt immediately go to a counselor, without talking to my father first. Tell him how you feel about his physical harm. Maybe this will make him see that he does lose his temper and can become violent. This may cause a change. However, if the problem persists, or gets worse, you should definately seek help in a school counselor or another adult! Hope this helped!
♥Emily

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Ok there is a boy who I have like the hugest crush on. But sometimes he can be so mean then I think "I hate him". Then the next day I'll like him. But most of the time he is nice. Now I think he likes me a little but how do I find out or not thats the thing? :( Please help me!

Sometimes the way a guy flirts is to act like he doesnt like you. It may be a little immature, but thats just how some guys operate. That may just be his mood for the day. If you like him then whats the big deal? If he always flirting with you and talking to you chances are he just might. Be foward with your flirting. Go for it, girl!
♥Emily

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Yea, I'm the one who keeps asking how to mix music. I know, it's probably annoying, but I offered to mix for someone at school. Do you have any idea where you can mix music at home? Like with Windows Media PLayer or anything? If you do know how, can I have a process please? Thanks so much!!

Um I really dont know how to explain this. I do it all the time but its really hard for me to tell you over the internet! You would have to have a music downloader and windows media player, and yes, its a long drawn out process. Im me and I would be happy to help! EmerleeAnn42
♥Emily

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What can I do to get my hair curly/spiraled mixed? Like, what should I use?

Wash your hair with a really good shampoo (Pantene is what I use). DONT USE CONDITIONER! Towel hair until all excess water comes out. Then, rub Garnier Fiber Gum (Wal Mart $4) evenly through your hair. Blow dry with a flat brush. Then you will need to spiral curl your hair with a large barrelled curling iron, starting with your bottom layers of hair. It will be soo purty! Hope that helped!
♥Emily

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Okay Christmas 8 days away


i have this boyfriend his name is Jeremy and the thing is i havent got him anything for christmas yet im spending christmas with him and his family please help me nothing to expensive but nothing to cheap please help i rate 5's for good answers (american eagle, abercrombie and fitch, no problem)

if this helps we've been datin 5 months the 26th of December

Victorias Secret has this WONDERFUL smelling cologne called "VERY SEXY" for men. Cologne is always a safe gift! Men can never have too much! Hope it helped!!
♥Emily

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okay well, i guess this is stupid. But im afraid of lsbian/gay/bi sexual people. Or i hate associating with them, i know theres nothing wrong with that because my uncles gay. But i guess what im asking is, how can i get over this? I think its stupid to be afraid of those people, but still im afraid(or whatever word youd like to use). So once again, how can i get over this?

This is kinda strange. Why would you be scared of gay people. There will always be things I dont neccesarilly understand, such as homosexuality, but theres no reason to be afraid. First of all, I think everyone has a tendency to think that all gay men/women are instantly attracted to ANYONE of their same sex. Gay people arent attracted to EVERYONE. They arent anymore oversexed than anyone else. I can understand them making you uncomfortable but its crazy to let them "scare" you. Try seeing the bigger picture, and learn to be more accepting. Try to maintain the thought that they are ordinary people, too, who just happen to be sexually attracted to the same sex. They are human, too, and have hobbies and interests like everyone else. Dont let their sexual preference scare you, because, in fact, its nothing to be scared of. Its normal to be uncomfortable, just take my advice and see if it helps.

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i didnt know what category this would go in so i just put it here

ok well im 13/f and when i try to remember happy times in my life, like family vacations and stuff all i remember is bad times i can remember every bad thing that has ever happened to me but i cant remember the good things.. does any one know why

Sometimes all the good things run together. If you have many good memories, the bad ones may tend to stand out a little more because they affected and perhaps traumatized you a little more. Some people are easily affected by bad times. This doesnt neccesarilly mean that you have had more good times than bad. Try keeping a journal and writing down your day and all the good things that happen as an easy reminder of the good times!
♥Emily

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well it's a little lengthy but here it goes.
I ahve this friend we'll call Hannah and were really close. we have a lot of the same interests and stuff but now she's being very mean to me. I have this other friend who we'll call Michelle and shes a year younger ( 7th grade) and i think Hannah is jealous. she says i always ditch her for Michelle, but i really dont. i just have prior plans. im really torn by what to do because hannah said sum very hurtful things. and Michelle isnt a mean person shes very ncie and has never sed anything mean to Hannah. Hannah just started acting, like shes having mood swings all this has been going on since school started in september.

I rate high if you help me!
thanks in advance
ToRn BeAuTiFuL

Dear Torn Beautiful~
Sometimes its normal for friends to be jealous when your spending a lot of time with another friend. Just make sure you make it a point to tell her that you arent ditching her, that you would be happy for to come with you and Michelle. Make sure you spend a little extra time with her now and then. Things will fall back into place. K?
♥Emily

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My boyfriend who I truly love just broke up with me. It was because I told this one guy I was going to break up with my boyfriend but soon I realized how much I loved my boyfriend. I apolozied so many times but he said he doesnt believe me. He still loves me. My question is how can I get him back? I love him. Dont say "Move On" because I am not giving up hope plus my school is really small and only has 50 people I already dated 3 guys and dont want to look slutty moving on so fast plus I love my ex. I will rate high for good advice
!Lilcutie1212!

I dont really see why your asking for advice when your pretty much narrowing down the adive your going to get. "Dont say move on" "dont say your so mean you broke his heart" "dont say date other guys.. bc i will look like a slut" But im going to try to tell you what I think. First of all, it must be hard to take all at once. If you truly loved your boyfriend, it must be overwhelming. I suggest that you give it a few days and see what happens. Just let him have some time to himself to think, and then call him. It will be easier for the both of you to talk about it when its not fresh on your minds. If you still decide to call him you should tell him you really didnt mean what you said...you were just having a bad day and feeling crazy. Explain that you love him very much and would never hurt him intentionally. Just explain your feelings for the guy. Hopefully he will be understanding and tell you how he feels. Everything takes a little time to work out. I wish you the best! Email me with an update!
♥Em

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I honestly don't think I like my boyfriend anymore. He's wayy too protective, and he'll always say the stupidest things. I just woke up this morning & I really don't like him as much as I used to. Should I ignore this feeling, and maybe it'll go away? Or, do you think you shouldn't have negative feelings about your relationship when you're dating someone? + I'm NOT Pmsing. (: lol Thanks.

Well, first of all I really dont think it would be right to act on a feeling that you just randomly had one morning. If you constantly have this feeling then you should def. talk to him about it. Things arent the same when you have been in a relationship a long times. Somedays you might feel like there is no excitement anymore, but thats something you may have to overlook. If you have these negative feelings often, you should talk to your boyfriend and see if he feels the same way. This may be something the two of you can work through. Dont get discouraged. Be sure to keep me updated!
*Emily

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OK so i like this guy..hes 16-17 and I'm 13. Is that a big difference?? He has a car and everything..do guys like not like younger girls? I like him SOOO much!! He's like perfect!! What do I do?? Thanks!!

Thats just about the age difference between my sister and my little brother. I kinda find that a little odd. While some say age is only a number, that type of age difference can definately put space between the two of you. He's probably been through much more than you have and have experienced things that you have yet to experienced~ which may not be a good thing. It may push you into certain situations that you may not be ready for yet. I assume that what your feeling is just puppy love or a crush or something to that nature. I wouldnt put a lot of time or energy into making something work~ whatever happens happens, but I wouldnt go after him too hard!
*Emily

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okay how gross is this...
on dates with my bf while talking casually about what we've done before meeting each other (usually involving a rush to get out of bed) ect I always list down that I managed to brush my teeth and have a drink before leaving the house... him on the other hand spends his mornings on the computer or watching TV... he doesn't even BOTHER to brush his teeth or anything :S and he tells me this! can you be more of a turn off... ewwww... and once he got really mad at me for not wanting to kiss him but can you blame me!! how do I subtely get the message across to him that that is the biggest turn off like, ever :|
plus, I dunno, is this like a hint he can't be bothered? he's always dragging on about how he doesn't care about his appearance ect.. but after 3 months he's never even complimented how I look and I always try my best, blah...
Please help + opinions on this
xxx

Thats crazy. I mean, im all for not caring what others think about you and your appearance and things like that, but there just comes a point when you have to put your foot down and ask yourself is he just not caring what people think about him or is he just crossing the "terrible hygiene" line. I dont blame you for thinking that him not brushing his teeth is unattractive. Not only is it a turn off, it is almost disgusting. If I were you I would just tell him how you felt. Tell him that you like the way he is and his whole grunge attitude is alright, but it's just very unattractive to not brush his teeth. It kinda makes you wonder if he doesnt bother to brush his teeth, what makes you think he's cleaning other parts of his body? Eww! You need to find a way to tell him. Just be straightfoward with him about it~ its cool!
♥Emily

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how do u make those hearts on myspace and stuff..??

Webdings font capital Y is the heart! S.I.M.P.L.E!
♥Emily

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Ok... i see my boyfriend every day for at least 3 hours or so... well he works during the week...

is it weird that i miss him all day?

people tell me i'm too dependent on him but i just love him


and i miss him

Its not at all abnormal that you miss your boyfriend. I miss Matthew when hes gone. Its not like a deathly situation but its not wierd. It doesnt mean your too dependent on him~ it just means that you care a lot about him, which is a good thing! I think its sweet. Thanks for the question and feel free to drop one in my inbox anytime!
&heartsl;Emily

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Well okay see I have this friend, and like she finds something that's wrong to start a fight with me..i mean i like her as a friend but sometimes she gets me really mad, and i just can't take it anymore, we've been thru thousands of fights.. and she talks about me.But i dont care when ppl talk about me..but she sooo muchh..and some of the stuff she finds out i say isnt true, but she'll never believe me..she always brags about herself..and she called me last night and said someone said you said something about me and i was like who? but i dont talk about her...so i know its not true and she told me his name and i said i didnt say anything and she didnt believe me..idk what to do, sorry its long..help ?

Well it sounds to me like you have a lot of things that you dont like about your "friend". She doesnt sound like she cares a lot about the way you feel. There is no reason for her to just be picking fights and trying to find something to argue about. You shouldnt feel bad for talking about her to some of your other close friends, because if she is being that unruly you have a reason to vent your feelings about her. If you really care about making things right then you should really just sit her down and tell her how you feel. Telling her the things that she does that make you mad migh actually make her realize thats shes in the wrong. Just talk to her about it, and be true and everything will work out. Thanx for the question!
♥Emily

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My Boyfriend and I were involved in a car accident friday afternoon... We are alright though. The car is totalled he hurt his shoulder and I hit my head.. but anyway.. I am terrified to ride with him.. or for that fact even drive. Since his car is totalled we've been driving my car and I've been driving. and hes like I'll drive.. and I tell him no that I Am.. I really trust him. I mean we've been together almost 11 months. and this really hurt him when I told him I was scared to drive.. and now he feels like I dont trust him anymore. and I don't know what to do to fix this. I even told him that I trusted him that he's just got to give me sometime to get over the accident that it just happened... What Can I Do?? :( Sorry This Is Soooo Long.

Well first and foremost, I am really sorry about the accident, and with the car totaled, its a blessing that both of you are okay. You should just sit down with him and tell him that the reason why your scared to ride with him isn't because you dont trust him, its because having the wreck was a really bad experience and it just feels uncomfortable to be in a car. Make sure that he knows you still trust him, and your sorry it's going to take you a little while to fully recover. Just ask him to take it slow with you and if he cares about you, he will give you some extra time to get used to the idea of riding with him. Just take it easy~ thanks for the question and I hope things go well!
♥Emily

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IM S0RRY BUT i D0TN KN0W A L0T 0F IT !
can someone please helped me find out wh0 sings this s0ng i d0nt knw0 wat its call but s0me 0f it g0es " as for now im going to hear the saddest song and sit around and woder , how your maeking out " pleaaassseee help mmmwee ! I rite 5z !

Its called "Screaming Infidelities" by Dashboard Confessional! No prob!
♥Emily

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