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Car Accident
My Boyfriend and I were involved in a car accident friday afternoon... We are alright though. The car is totalled he hurt his shoulder and I hit my head.. but anyway.. I am terrified to ride with him.. or for that fact even drive. Since his car is totalled we've been driving my car and I've been driving. and hes like I'll drive.. and I tell him no that I Am.. I really trust him. I mean we've been together almost 11 months. and this really hurt him when I told him I was scared to drive.. and now he feels like I dont trust him anymore. and I don't know what to do to fix this. I even told him that I trusted him that he's just got to give me sometime to get over the accident that it just happened... What Can I Do?? :( Sorry This Is Soooo Long.
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Hmmm.
I had a bike crash a few years ago and was in hospital for nearly 8 weeks.
I was right on a motorbike the day i came out of hospital, but i can't stand being a passenger, it's a control issue.
I think your boyfriend feels the need to prove to yourself and more important prove to himself that he is a good driver and is capable of driving again.
This may take some time to get over, as my crash was 3 years ago and even now i don't like not being in control of a bike.
I'm sure if you reassure him that the accident wasn't his fault or couldn't have been avoided he will eventually be fine.
Hope this helps.
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well you were fine when you told him to give you sometime..and if the accident was his fault then i wouild be scared to drive with him to..but if it was a nother cars fault then you know what couild he do about it..but i understand how you feel...and you guys just need to be more safe out in the roads..theres some crazy people out there..always buckle your seat belt..those things can save your life..but you know all you can tel your boyfriend is how you feel..that you do trust him and that you do need time to get over the accident!
and then maybe he will understand..????
hope i helped..
*love always*
Bridgette>ilovepink101
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Oh I'm the same way. But i'm scared driving with my mom. Just explain to him that it has nothing to do with not trusting him but considering you got in the accident you still need time to get over it. Everyone goes through it. Maybe letting him drive will help you
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First of all, glad to hear yall are ok. Reactions like yours are common after a traumatic experience. It's ok to not want to drive or even be in a car, especially since the accident is recent. I'd suggest telling him it has nothing to do with trusting him, but it's about you feeling safe. Explain that you do trust him in every other way, but this is just one of those things. If he loves you, he'll understand and back off. But you also can't feel to hurt that he feels that way as well. Put yourself in his shoes. He's probably feeling like you think his driving abilities aren't as good as you thought they were, or maybe his reaction time, or something else that makes him look bad in some way, and we all know how guys usually have to impress. Sometimes, they get their ego hurt easily. Tell him you still trust him and love him and everything, really try to boost his ego. Hope it helps. Good Luck!
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You need some time to qet over the accident. Let him know that. You are just terrified to drive still since the accident happend && you just dont want him to get hurt again. He should be a little more careful but it was an accident tho. right... but still tell him that you still trust him but you just need some time to get over the accident. He will understand.
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YOu are exactly right, you need some time to get over the accident. It's like post traumtic stress syndrom. After the accident, you tend to tense up in the car when it even comes close to anything, or if he doesn't stop soon enough. you can't help it. And you feel soo much better when you are behind the wheel. I know, I went through the same thing. Only time and driving a lot will get rid of it. Eventually it will go away. Trouble is, he feels the same way to. so you both have to be patient.
Good luck.
Michele
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It`s okay it`s not lonq ! That`s really hard but you need to learn to drive with him if your really in that deep of a reletionship. You sound like terrified of it and i would be too. Maybe try (i know this sounds stupid) havinq a really close friend in the car with you two for the first few times. And have him drive only very short distances so you get your trust in him driving back. Sorry that was a hard question hope i helped ! - courtney ***
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You did the right thing by telling him that the car accident has made you scared to drive and that you are going to need sometime to get over it! But you do need to gain confadiance in him. Soon you will get over it and won't mind him driving it happends to everyone!
Clair
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Well first and foremost, I am really sorry about the accident, and with the car totaled, its a blessing that both of you are okay. You should just sit down with him and tell him that the reason why your scared to ride with him isn't because you dont trust him, its because having the wreck was a really bad experience and it just feels uncomfortable to be in a car. Make sure that he knows you still trust him, and your sorry it's going to take you a little while to fully recover. Just ask him to take it slow with you and if he cares about you, he will give you some extra time to get used to the idea of riding with him. Just take it easy~ thanks for the question and I hope things go well!
♥Emily
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