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Gramma dying and Im not sad ... =/
Ok, my gramma has cancer and shes dying. We dont think she will make it until Christmas. I have a big family, and we are all very close, so it's a sad thing. But for some reason, i just dont feel sad. I feel guilty, it feels like i dont care. I know i do care, but i dont feel sad. It seems like everyone else is sad except me. Am i like a bad person? Is this normal? Please help!
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no youre not a bad person you are just mentally strong, thats good you can cope with death.i think its better than normal
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well ur probably not sad because yuo know even though it doesnt seem like it that shes gonna make it much longer so dont feel guilty its not really your fault
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when my grandma died, i went through the same thing. you arent a bad person, its just it probly hasnt hit you yet or something. but its perfectly normal. i cant explain it, but i know numerous people it happens to. maby your just in shock. or maby you are just to exuasted to be sad. but you arent a bad person. hope i helped
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well i was like this when my great grandpa died. but i was young. i knew what death was and all but i just didnt fell anything. and then this last may my cousin/best friend died. and it was so hard to get over it. but i was closer to my cousin then to my great grandpa. i hope that kinda helps.
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omgosh i went through the excact thing with my grandpa. YOu see i felt like i should feel sad but i did only see him about 2 a year if i'm lucky and i new i was sad but i just not very much && this may sound weird but when he dies at the funerel you will start to cry really hard and you will no that you really do care about her! don't worry your not a bad person
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its ok to not be sad even though everyone else is you just have a different way of expressing your feelings that doesnt make you a bad person at all even though your not sad you should still try to spend as much time with her as you can
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Dear I'm not sad,
Reading through other member's advice, I agree with most of them. You are normal, everyone reacts differently to death. You may not even grieve after she is gone. BUT If everyone else is all sad about the news, then you should take a stand and say, "she's not dead yet, why are you all so sad" Make the most of every moment she has left on this planet. Even buy her a Christmas gift and give it to her tomorrow. With everyone around her expecting her to die soon she cannot be happy. Be the joy in her life so she can die with a smile. I hope that I have helped even a little. Give your grandma a hug for me OK. Best Wishes
Sincerely,
Honestymatters
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Don't feel guilty. Everyone handles this kind of news differently.
When you think about it, your attitude is pretty good to have. Your grandma probably doesn't need a bunch of people moping when she isn't even gone yet. Make the most of your time with her and save the sadness for when shes gone. :)
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the whole idea may not of hit you yet , when your grandma unfortanutlly gets closer to death it may hit you then . you may also not know how to deal with your really feelings of being sad so you block them and don't feel anything. your not a bad person .
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yes thats normally.alot of people dont have feelings for things i dont either so dont worry about it.......omg you are not a bad person for not having a sad bummed feeling about it and get this if you did you would be sad and you would be pisst off so think of it in a good way you dont have to worry and crying over everything.......lol byebye
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You're experiencing some pretty normal feelings. It isn't that you don't care, it could be because either it hasn't quite hit you that she will be gone soon, or because shes old now. I want you to think about something, if you had a cousin that was only about 17, or a baby cousin that was dying, would you react differently? Of course, because it is a huge deal and so shocking when someone dies so young. It's horrid that they can't experience life like your grandma has. And as I said, it isn't that you shouldn't and don't care when an old person dies, but a lot of people are dying that are old, and it doesn't come as a shock because they are in a lot of pain, where most of them want to go. They've had enough of life and feel like they need to go. I think that you will feel differently when you go to her funeral later on. God bless you and your family, I hope your grandma gets through the big family holiday at least.
-TheTeenGirl
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its normal im the same way and i see myself getting sad after the death in the family happens
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There will be a time for you to grieve. Right now just isn't the time. I say enjoy what time you have left with her. She may enjoy having someone who is not sad around. Don't feel guilty.
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I guess it is pretty weird that you're not sad at all. I got over my grandma faster than anyone else in my family when she died in May, so I do kinda understand. The day that she you couldn't tell that happened to me by talking to me. I guess everyone is different, and handles with problems on different levels. As long as you care for her and love her then there's nothing wrong with you.
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No you are not a bad person. My grandma died from cancer to. I didnt cry at her funeral and i wont go to her grave. I just acted like i didnt care but i did. Sometimes we like to hide our feelings and not show them to anyone so they dont know how we feel. They told us my grnadma wouldnt live no more than 3 months but she lived 4 years. No doctor can predict when a person is suppose to truly die. It is normal for a person to feel that way. Dont worry your not alone. Just try and make the best out of what little time you have.
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