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i just had sex should i tell my mom?
Ok im 13 and I have had sex twice....I know that I want to tell my mom....but i know that if I tell my mom she will tell my dad and I KNOW that he will flip out....But I had ses with a guy that i have been goin out with for 2 years already and we are still going out...so I dont think it is that big of deal...but how do I tell my parents without them like killing me??? Also do you think I am considered a slut or something because a couple people at my school do...
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I dont think that you are a slut at all. If you where sleeping around with a bunch of different guys, of course that would be a different story. But you two have been together in a relationship for a pretty long time so i suppose what your doing is ok.
I dont advise you tell your parents. They will definitly not like the idea of their thirteen year old daughter being sexually active. If you do openly tell them that you've been having sex with your boyfriend..they will try and stop you from seeing him. Just keep it to yourself.
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Dont tell your parents theyll make you break up w/ the guy and they wont trust you anymore that would be the worst position you could put urself in than they wont trust you w/ any other guys either so they wont let you date guys anymore.
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hey guess what...your in love! lol well i dont know about the whole parent thing but if your mom is cool with it and she will handel it better then tell her that you trust her not to tell your dad because you know he will get mad also congrats two years!! jeeze well anyway i dont consider you a slut cause if your in love and he didnt leave you even after you had sex then hes a pretty nice guy hope i helped ♥ Kelley ♥
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well, acually you would need a lot of angels by your side if your gonna tell them...but any way do it like this..... mom ... dad can i talkk to you.. i no that i am only 13 but i have already made some rong decesions.. for 1.. i am sorry for wat you are bout to hear but here it gooss... i had sex.... i know it is wrong but i am truely sorry....(and you have to figure out the rest)
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hunnie, you are WAYYY too young to be having sex, but if its your thing and its not a big deal for you, then its ok i guess. but dont go telling a lot of ppl at your school, its a very personal thing....
ask your mom if she has a minute to talk to her, most likely she would say yes, because now-a-days any mom would take any chance they get to talk to their kid, but all you should say is "this is rly private mom u have to keep it between us, ok, (take a deep breath) mom i have had sex"
most likely her smile or grin with be exchanged with a jawdrop and then be like mom i did it with (guys name) and she will be a little bit more comfortable since uve been dating him for 3 years, and just calmly and slowly explain to her about protection and stuff
but i would try not to do it too much because you dont want to become pregnanat at age 13
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ok ive been reading every1 elses advice on this question. How can you all sit there and think that its ok for a 13 year old to be having sex? How would you feel if you found out your 1st year teenager was having sex? Shes just a little girl going through puberty! Sex shouldnt even be crossing the minds of kids this age!! And what is an 11 year old doing having a bf?? This is rediculous! Why cant kids be kids? Why are you rushing to grow up sooo fast? You have the rest of your lives to be an adult and to be having sex!! Enjoy these precious years, because you can NEVER take them back!!! Your parents are going to be very hurt, but obviously they dont condone you having a bf. I cant believe they dont suspect anything. If my daughter had a boy over, you can bet that they would NOT be left alone. I blame the parents, because theyre has to be rules, especially at youre age! Im sorry, but youre on your way to getting a bad reputation already. How are you gonna feel when he breaks up? You know that most likely you 2 will not be together forever!!! You have alot to experience out there, and i dont mean sexual experiences!!! I guarantee you 1 thing: you are gonna regret having had sex already. Your not mature enough to handle all the heartache that will come!! i cant even imagine where two 13 year olds go to have sex? Keep your legs closed from now on, and start acting like a 13 year old.
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oK first things if your parents are the really really really over pretected parents then i would just keep it to myself. But if you know for a fact that they will not "kill" you then i would tell them.
And second things. No your not a slut. The people at your school are sorrie bitches cuz they don't know what a fucking slut is.
A slut is a chick that "sleeps around with "many" guys" What you just told me you only slept with a your boy that you've been going out with for TWO BLOODY YEARS. so NO your not a slut.
But don't get caught having sex by your parents cuz that's even worse. If you tell them their gunna be happy that your atleast told them the truth and not hid it.
i hoped i helped.
-love.
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ok ist of all your not really a slut because you oonly had it with one guy and hes been your bf for a while, 2nd yes tell your parents but talk to them calmly. probably they will freak out but its better for them to hear it from you then form a stranger. also you should go to the doctor you can have any infection if you didint use protection. and like im sorry but 13 is way to young. my friend had it when she was 11, and she regrets it.oh and how does somepplin ur school now? just tell your perents your very sorry and that you love your bf. well good luck!!
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Your 13 and you had sex??
I think your parents will be pretty mad.
But if you truely love this guy I would tell my mom first because I tend to notice moms won't get as mad as dads would. I would also ask for my mom to tell my dad so he won't go balistic on you. It's a lot to put on your mom at once but just sit down with her when your dad isn't there and talk to her about it and ask her to tell you dad.
Hope I helped!!!!!
xHlaxstarWx
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ok your not a slut, havin sex doesnt make some one a slut. havin sex with many differnt people often does. But if you fell that you need to tell your parents then you should just st them down and say that you felt that you were ready and tell them as it is. but just because you had sex deosnt mean you have to tell them. because honsetly how is it any of thier buisness? just be as mature as you can about the issue and be calm. good luck!
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i honestly think that sex is sometthing apart of your personal life..and i wouldnt share that with my parents because of my beleif that they simply dont need to know...as well as what you said..how it will stirr up drama in the family pretty much. when i start to have sex (who knows when that will be..) i dont see myself sharing it with my parents. they dont share their past sex lives with us..so why share with them..it jsut seems weird to me i guess..but this is only my opinion.
i dont think your a slut..your in a very long relationship..its not like it was a one night stand. there will always be hypocrits out there..you cant stop that..dont listen to those people who call you a slut because your not.
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Okay sweetie. First of all, you're not a slut, but in my personal opinion, I would have waited just a little longer, but in no means does having sex with your two year boyfriend make you a slut. Well, if you really feel the need to tell your mother, you need to get her at a time when she's alone, and calmly, maturely discuss this with her. You could ask her to not inform your father.
You should say somewhere in there that being her daughter, you felt like you could turn to her whenever you needed her. ANd right now you need her to understand you and be supportive.
So you've had sex. IF you REALLY want your mother to know, just sit her down and do the above, but unless she doesn't really need to know, don't tell her. But you should be having safe sex no matter what.
Good luck honey!
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You should just make sure youre mom wont tell your dad. You arent a slut if you guys really love each other and youve been going out for 2 years.
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Do u have Ture Feelings for him?...Dont Tell Your Parents..thats what i would do...and no i wouldnt consider u as a slut
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Okay, now I wouldn't call you a slut since you had sex with someone you've been dating for a while, but you definitely should not have started having sex at 13....that's way too early. I think the earliest would be 16 for when you're body might really be ready. But in any case, your parents should still know, especially since you should now have a gynocological exam, seeing as you started sexual activity. Just let your mom in on it slowly, start suggesting that you guys have been closer than just kissing, and try to understand that she won't be happy. I hope this works out for you. Good luck!
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At 13 you should NOT be having sex. It doesn't matter how upset your parents will get, they only care about you. You need to tell them so you can take proper precautions.
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You're way too young to be having sex, so it is not surprise your dad would freak out. Thirteen years old would put you in middle school, and that is no time to be engaging in adult actions. So how should you tell your parents without them freaking? There most likely isn't a way. You can either tell them and expect any negative reactions from them, or not tell them and hopefully continue to live a normal middle schoolers life. Are you a slut, no. Making the wrong decisions, confused and trying to be more mature than you are, deffinetly.
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I think it's always better when they hear it from you than from someone else, which they will if you don't tell them. You are not a slut at all. You've been going out with the same guy for two years. Anyways, this kind of stuff is always really hard to do. You do need to tell your parents especially since other people know about it. Your parents may even surprise you by being completely understanding. If they know you've been going out with the same guy for two whole years they may even kind of expect it. What you should do is tell your mom about it and say nothing to your dad. Tell your mom that you are afraid of him getting really angry and that you don't want her to tell him. Tell her that your relationship is going really well and that you are worried that telling them that you had sex could mess that up. Really pour your feelings out to her and she may not even tell your dad at all. One last thing, you need to be really careful. Sex is something that shouldn't be taken lightly and it can have life ruining consequences. I'm sure that you're being careful, but make sure that you know ALL of the risks you are taking. I hope your parents take it well and good luck with your relationship!
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You've had sex with one guy two times and you've been together for two years. I don't think that makes you a slut in any way, though I do think that's a very young age to be so involved. If you really feel like you need to tell your mom, then just sit her down and tell her. I'm sure she's not gonna be happy to hear it, but what can you expect? I really wouldn't advise telling them, but you didn't ask about that. The most you can do about your father is tell your mother and ask her not to tell your father, which is far from a guarentee, but then again, I wouldn't suggest telling your parents in the first place.
One last very important thing is that you need to be safe. If you choose to have sex at the age of 13, then that's your choice, but you need to be safe about it and use birth control or a condom. But I'm sure you already knew that and already do.
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if your a slut for havin* sex 2 times.. then i dont kno* what the hell i am.. ive had it maybe over.. um.. lets see 10 times haha a lot more but with the same guy.. and dont listen to that other bitch that she said like yeah i consider you as a slut.. its like look up the word bitch.. slut means sleeping around with OTHER guys.. first off you had sex with um hmm ONE guy.. and had it TWO times.. after TWO years of goin* out.. so she need to shut the fuck up.. << sorry for my language.. just tell your parents its better if you just come straight up forward with them than them finding out later and ya kno*.. but be careful becuz* parents like to say you cant date him anymore.. hope i helped..
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If you want to tell them, don't present the topic with complete confidence.What i mean is dont say "I had sex twice, and it was great." Leave a condom in front of your room where they see it, and they might bring sex up, and you can tell them then and you can have a good conversation. And as for the slut thing, yes I think your a slut. Thats just my opinion though. But at the same time Im seriously questioning whether you were expecting a straightforward non sugar coated answer for that.
Good luck!
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No you don't sound like a slut. A slut is when a girl sleeps around, or is around, has been around, more then one guy in one night. That kind of a thing, so you're not considered a slut. If you are in love with the guy that you had sex with, and it seems like you are because of how long you two have been going out then i don't think that's a big deal. About your parents... most parents don't want to know that stuff- they want to just think that you lost your virginity when you were married. But to me 13 seems a little young to be loosing your virginity but thats my opion so i'm not telling you that it's wrong. And if you think that your mom will tell your dad, then maybe you should wait a while to tell her, like until you can trust her not to tell your dad like positive. Because belive me, I wouldn't want my dad to know that i wasn't a virgin because he would chase the guy down that i lost it to and kill him.
JUSTKIDDING. well hope all goes well for you, if you do tell her come back and tell me what happens! If you need more advice, just pop one in the inbox. <3
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