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Not peer pressure, but something close.
I want to wait until I am married to have sex. My friend and I were talking and this is what she said to me, "My mom told me she didn't want me to wait until marriage to have sex, because she wanted me to know what to do." I was thinking about it and I don't know anymore. I mean I don't want to go and read things on what to do/watch porn and stuff. I am not that kind of girl. Plus, all my friends say they just want to wait until after they turn 16. I mean its not part of my religion. Its part of what I think is right. I mean I at least want to wait until marriage is on option... I don't know.
Should I wait?
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waiting until you're 16 like your friends are is ridiculous. They shouldnt set an age to when they will have sex. I think that it is very respectible of you to want to wait, but if the right guy comes along (or what you think is the right guy) then do what you think is right. your first time is something you'll always want to remember, so make sure that its special, with someone you care about and make sure its what you want. Hope i helped!
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well, its all your decision, I'm pretty much an Athist (but I still think there MIGHT be something out there, I don't know), so I look at thing very diffrent then people who are strongly religious, & I say that its all up to you, if you think you are ready, then its ok, but if you want to wait, that is ok too, alls you have to do is think & decide "am I ready?" & if your not its ok, wait, & if you are go for it, its not a bad thing at all
hope I helped
-Cameron
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Yes. Wait. Premariagal sex, or however it's spelled, is very bad. A lot of people (who aren't horny at the time) are deadset against people who have premariagal sex. Follow your beliefs.
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it sounds like you are really unsure and it also sounds like you are trying to wait and you know who cares what your freinds are saying and the guy you are with wehn you gt married will love you so they wont care if you are a virgin or not!! but that is what i think and you shuld do what u think i am just giving you my opinion
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Do it when you find that special guy you wanna do it with then go for it but only if your ready and your comfortable doing it...and don't just do it because wat your friends sed to or w/e do it only if you want to...so its your choice and if i knew your age that would make it easier for me to answer cuz i'm 14 almost 15 and i don't plan on waiting to much longer so0o0o yea well get back to me with your age then maybe i can help ya out a lil more if u need anything ask*
♥ Caitlin
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it's really not my place to say when your ready but if you want to wait till your married then wait and don't let your friends compromise you beliefs because this will happen many times in life so stay strong i hope i've helped
striperella
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Do what you feel is right for you...and if you're scared you won't know what to do...read cosmopolitan or redbook and learn it as you get older.
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It can be really hard sometimes but it is important to stick to what you think is right. I personally want to wait till i get married too. Your friends should respect your decision and support it. If they are true friends they will stand behind you and your decisions.
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Just wait until you find someone you really love. I personally think you should wait until marriage because you will always remember it but do what you want to do not what other want you to.
-Tiff
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Yes i think you should stick to what you thin is **right** and not do what your friends are doing.. and personally i think your friends mother is dumb for tellin her to have sex before not being married so that she would know what to do thats just stupid.. and thats basically givin her permission to fuck anybody what kinda mother says that to their child.. ♥ Dez
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That's grat that your standing up for what you beleive in! I completely agree with you that you should wait until you're with the person that you'll love forever to have sex.
Really, what happened before they didn't have the internet? What do you think couples did then? They experimented and came up with it themselves. There's no right way. If you love eachother enough to get married do you think he's going to love you less if you're not the best at it? And especially if you don't feel comfortable reading about it on the internet now, maybe when you're engaged or even after marrige you can to learn some new stuff.
Whatever you do, Wait for your husband! Think of what it will mean to him if you tell him that you were saving yourself for all those years just for him!
AG
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well...it would be a good decision to not have sex until your married because then you can watch out for sti's std's and pregnancy but...if you are having trouble making up your mind chances are, you will have sex before you are married...you dont really need to know what to do most likely the instinct will just come to you and if it doesnt oh well most likely and hopefully the person you do it with will know it is your first time so they will be prepared for you...i hope i helped :)
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i believe you shouldnt rush into having sex its not about you knowing what to do or where to touch its about the emotional side after words which people dont tend to talk about. if you was to wait till you was married or in a serious relationship it would be more special because you have formed the bond of trust, love and the emotional side. In sted of givin in to pressure having a 1 night stand and knowing the guy doesn;t care for you and your left being hurt. all strong relationships take place from friendships not based around sex make your own decisions when the moments right sex will become natural i hope i helped
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In my opinion..it doesnt reeally matter what your friends mom told her and what your friend told you...you should wait till your married..everyone should. its against God to have premarital sex..and its not right
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you should do what you think is right; i personality dont see me waiting for marriage but i am a virgin.. but inyour opition if you think you should wait then wait dont let your friends incourage you to do anything you dunt wanna do!
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I wanna save myself too. I have the same pressures too. If you save yourself and dont know what to do your husband will be totally understanding. Some things will come to you naturally and everything should turn out fine.
Its your call if you wanna wait or not. Its not your friends virginity its YOURS!
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well, you should do what you think is right. i mean if you find the right guy and you think you're ready then go for it. just make sure you're ready. most girls who arent ready feel like they've been raped after their first time. and dont let your friends tell you what to do. hope i helped.
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I think you should wait and if someone special comes around and you change your mind then thats fine. But you dont have to stick to one thing for your whole life you know! Just do what you think is best. hope that helps..rate me if i did
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