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I think my parents are gonna get a divorce? What do i stop or help to prevent that?
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im sry to say i dont think you can stop it. its their decision and it may be for the best (even though it doesnt seem like that.) they just dont want to fight in front of you, or siblings. and it would make them happier probably, and it would help you/siblings by not having to see them argue or whatever they do. i hope everything works out between you and them. just be strong and brave and everything will work out for the best.
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There are things in life that you will have no control over. I'm afraid this is one of them. What your parents do or don't do is out of your control. You can do nothing to stop or prevent it. It is not your fault, you don't have to pick sides just be supportive as you can to each of them.
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I think that you should sit them down and have a long talk about how you truely feel about this divorce.. let all emotions go, this is maybe your only chance to tell them whats going on with you. Divorces are not good, and i`m sorry, but i don`t have much experience in this topic.. just talk to them, talking solves most problems. And if your parents are still edging towards divorce.. i guess there`s not muchh to do about it.. but i hope the best of luck with you, and i`m sorry about your parents divorce
best of luck
xo0x- Kata
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sit down and talk to them about it first and let them hear why you don't want them to get a divorce. it might help a little bit. i'm not sure that you can stop them from getting a divorce though because if they are not happy living together then maybe its for the best. but i would still try to talk to them! ~Kerri~
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Get your parents and talk about this and if that doesn't happen maybe the divorce was meant to be but don't let it make u sad or mad. Find a bright side.
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make sure you know for certain before you start feaking out..but if its true and your parents are getting a divorce theres nothing you can really do (im sry this wasnt the answer you were looking for) just remember that this might be a good thing and it will make both of your parents happier..im sry!
hope this helps?! x33
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There isnt a way to stop them getting a divorce maybe its for the best! Because you parents must not be very happy if they want a divorce dont worry you will be ok. You'll get to see them both and an upside you'll get more prezzies.
luv roxie
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Well most likeley they Are going to get A divorce not mAtter whAt.And there is really nothing you cAn do I know this is not the Advice you wAnted to hear sorry.
Hope I helped
MD_GIRL101
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You shouldn't try to stop it, really. If your parents feel that a divorce is what's best for both of them, and you (and i guarantee you're a chief concern), then that's probably what's best. They're the ones who pay the bills and put food on the table, i presume, so they know more about the economics of your household. In short, it's just one of those things you're going to have to come to terms with. Talk with both your parents, and find out why, but don't outright try to stop it. If you did manage to reverse the decision somehow, it would most likely end up more unhealthy for both your parents and you than if you just let it happen. Just know that it's definitely not your fault (it's pretty common to blame yourself, but it's always unfounded) and that this is just a natural product of how your parents each function emotionally. It's going to be a big change, but it's something you should embrace and adapt to, not fight.
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Yup, I hate to state the worst, but in a case like that, it's something you have -no- control over... just have to bite it, bear it, and live it. Find a good freind, talk about it, and it helps to have a shoulder to cry on.
I talk from experience, and that -does- matter...
also, I don't know how close you and you parents' are, but talk to them. And when I mean them I mean -individually-, becuase talking to them together could spawn some pretty crappy situations, assuming they've been argueing alot...
hey, I'm just taking the worst case here, I don't know the senario, so it could even be a phaze or some problem they'll get over, but as I go by....
Prepare for the worst, Hope for the best.
Hope I helpped
~Kitsune Tokkan
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tell them how bad ur life is gonna be if they get a divorce and whatever else u feel.
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There is nothing you can do to stop your parents from getting a divorce. The problem is between your parents only. The best thing you can do is stay out of their problems and issues and just don't get involved. If you really wanna take action just sit down with both of your parents talk to them about the divorce and tell both them how you feel. I wish you the best of luck. ♥ Peachgirly
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YOu may not be able to do anything, but I understand that you feel helpless and you want to try. YOu could try some honesty. You do sound smart and maybe, just maybe they'll listen, After all, they must have loved each other at one time.
If you can talk to them, tell them that it is YOUR FAMILY TOO. YOu don't want your family to break up. Tell them that they loved each other once, they should make every effort, even getting into therapy to save the marriage before giving up. Tell them that there are many regrets involved with divorce, and that even when you are an adult, you will still have bad feelings about it, and that a divorce will traumatize you.
ANd hey, all this is true, I am not making it up, and someone should tell parents that. No, everyone just say, oh well, you fell out of love, I guess you are entitled to leave and find tru love again. It's like only their rights matter, and not yours. Well ,you have rights too, speak up. STand up for yourself.
I hope you can, but if you don't have that kind of relationship with your parents, that you can talk to them like that, then I guess there is not much you can do. But you will be hurt. and well, don't let them off the hook. If they go through with this you will still love both of them, and of course they will both still love you, but one day when you are an adult, you will be able to tell them how much it hurt you. YOu could also go to the library and get a book or two by Dr. Laura Shlessinger. She is a family therapist. ANd has written some excellent books on love, marriage, divorce and parenting. She makes a lot of sense.
I hope this helps dear. Good luck to you.
Michele
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There's really nothing you can do and whatever happens it's not your fault
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Hey, honestly I would ask them. Dont come right up and ask but ask how they are doing and questions like that.
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You really shouldn't . I know it is really stupid to say it but I think you're thinking about what is healthy for you when you need to think about what is healthy for your parents. What you may like isn't always what others may need. They may be suffering together and they just may need to get a divorce. It's hard to deal with but you have to accept it because it's the best thing for them. An unhappy and unstable home isn't healthy and it can affect anyone and cause an unstable mind. It can affect them too because this isn't always for the children too. You have to understand and accept the fact that there may be a possibility of them not ever meant being together. And if they are, they SURELY will find their way back to each other. Sometimes it's best for that time away. You opposing the divorce will only make matters more difficult than they already are and what good is that going to do for you and your parents. It'll only force them further apart. It's their lives and they have a choice to do this. They should think about you too, but it may just be the best for you because it may provide a stable environment. Free of anomosity . Give them time and let them do what they have to do.
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there is nothng u can do bout your parents relationship... let them kno how u feel but if their set on devorcing then its probly final...
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Aww!! I'm veRy soRRie to heaR this!!! That's teRRible news, Kiddo. But as unfoRtunate as this is, theRe Really ISN'T anything you can do to change theiR minds FOR them, ya know?? I can pRomise you that youR paRents aRe not getting a divoRce BECAUSE OF you, so don't even BEGIN to woRRie about THAT. I would say that the only thing foR you to do is to let them know how much you love them individually, and then togetheR as a family. I wish you and youR family the best of luck and happiness!! Know that if you eveR feel you need to talk, you can always, always, always come to me. ♥
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