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okay.. i was talking to my friend yesterday and she told me she thinks she might be pregnant.. At first i thought she was kidding but she was being serious. She said she doesn't want to tell anybody and would be too scared to get a pregnancy test or anything. She thinks she should be on birth control too. She's only 14! what can i do?.. Oh her boyfriend doesnt know she might be pregnant either :/
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Be supportive, when I thought I was pregnant all I wanted was a friend, a shoulder to cry on, someone who would not criticize me. Because yes, she made a mistake, and she knows it she doesn`t need to hear it from other people, she is just a little girl and wants to still feel loved even though she made a huge horrible mistake. She definetely should take a test, be there with her to make her feel better, it will probably help. Whatever you do, don`t tell anyone else, it is not your place to tell! Good luck to you & especially her.
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Comfort her. tell her it is okay to be scared go wiht her to get a pregancy test. and if she is then you need to let her know that the best thing to do is tell her parents. my step-sister is pregant and she is young. but when she was 4 months she finally told me to tell my mom and my mom told her dad. if she is scared of how her parents might react believe me it isn't near as bad as yall think it would be.
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Tell her to take a home pregnancy test. Or, if it has been within 72 hours(I think), she can get emergency contraceptive from her doctor to keep her from becoming pregnant.
If she takes a test and is pregnant, she will have to take the responsibility and decide what to do. Don't try to give her your opinion, because if it turns out badly, she might blame you.
hope I was of some help.
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Ok first things first, has she had sex? If not then...well..she can't be pregnant, obviously! Before you start panicking about birth control, abortions, pregnancy tests and baby names, you have to understand that she may not be pregnant, and that this could be a cry for attention. V.few 14 year olds have sex, despite how many SAY they have. She could be feeling really fed up with life and very down, and saying a big lie like "I may be pregnant" is a fantastic way to get lots and lots of sympathy and attention. Its horrible to think that your friend may be lying, but you need to consider the option before YOU get all worried about it.
If, however, she is being serious, then she has a few options. She can either be mature enough to go and buy a pregnancy test (she should have bought contreception if she thought she was mature enough to have sex in the first place) and see if she is pregnancy. She can go to her family doctor (with or without parents/siblings) and they can give her a CONFIDENTIAL session and test. If she finds out if she is pregnant, her options really are limited. Abortion, adoption or keep it. None of those are adviseable for a 14 year old girl, but if shes stupid enough to have sex, then she has to deal with the consequences of not using contreception.
Think about your options, whether shes lying or not, and then advise her in the best way you can as a friend. I really hope my advise is helpful! Good luck! Oh and make sure her boyfriend finds out in a nice way, he REALLY needs to know. Its also adviseable to let her parents know, but that of course depends on how well she gets on with them, but parents can help in a way that friends possibly cannot. Do the best you can and use your judgement.
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The first thing to do is to find out if she actually is pregnant by doing the pregnancy test.
It may be that getting stressed out about it has delayed her period. If she is not pregnant, no problem, but she's right she must definitely organise proper birth control. Maybe a family planning nurse at the doctors who has to speak to people confidentially, or a youth organisation who offer birth control advice or a trusted adult who can give sensible advice.
It's very important that your friend does get this checked out. The thing is if she is pregnant she won't be able to hide it, and she will have to make some very important decisions about what to do.
She will have to share this and perhaps you can be with her when she does it. Maybe you could make a few anonymous enquiries to local organisations/school counsellor etc on her behalf to find out the best people to see.
I know it seems scary, but the quicker it's dealt with, the better. Not knowing is the worst thing and it may all be a false alarm and just a good reminder that contraception is essential.
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she shouldn't be scared to get a pregnancy test because if you may think you are, thats one of the first things that you should do. she can go on birth control, shes not that young, i think that showing that she wants to be on it shows that shes responsible. you should talk to your friend and convince her to talk to her boyfriend about it, he should know as soon as she has that thought.
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Shes too young for sex but its worse not knowing. Tell her to take a pregnancy test before its too late. x0
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wow 14 . people these days are having sex so damm eaerly. well i know thats not what you want to hear. so im gonna tell ya what i think you should do. You should go get a pregacy test and see what happens but those things are never like 100 % correct. so. i think you should go to the doctor. and see what he says. dont go with your mom or anything. just the 2 of you go. and see what happens. and if you really are pregant. i think you should tell her boyfriend. and discuss when you have the baby cause your not going to have an abortion cause thats wrong. when you have the baby are you gonna keep it or put it up for adoption. and if your not pregant . one she shouldnt be having sex. 2. if she is which she hsouldnt be protected! geesh
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If she wants to be on birth control or get an official pregnancy test, she can go to her doctor (this would be the best option) and it can be totally confidential, but her parents would find out eventually, or get a home pregnancy test from a drugstore. These are usually pretty accurate.
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Tell her that the only thing worse than taking a pregnancy test is waiting and not knowing. Tell her to go to the nearest Planned Parenthood- it is all confidential- they will talk to her about this and about the birth control topic, and she can take her pregnancy test there. Planned Parenthood will lead her in the right direction and should help her very much. As for the boyfriend, she really shouldn't let him know until she finds out - either way. She should let him know if she really isn't because it was still a pregnancy scare and that is a signal to be more careful. If she is pregnant, like I said, Planned Parenthood will help her in that direction too. Hope I've Helped, and if you need anything just message me! ♥
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this coould be really scary for you but think about how scary it is for your friend .. you need to be with her through this one its gunna be hard for her and shes gunna need a friend around .. she needs to get her boyfriend to get her a test .. and find out if she is for sure .. just cross you fingers and pray she gets her period .. always use a condom ppl!! LoL
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You should sit and laugh at her stupidity because this baby just fucked her up the ass big time.
Her life is going to be nothing now.
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well for one she's too damn young for sex. but she has to go and get a test. if she doesn't then you should get her one cuz she can hurt the baby(if she is) by not knowing. just be there for her and get her to tell her mom
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maybe talk to your mom about it, and make sure that your mom keeps it confidential. if you dont have that kind of a relationship with your mother, try talking to an aunt or grandma.
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You need to be a good friend, which means being there for her and no matter what the esult is not ditching her to do this by herself. She may find out she's not pregnant after getting attcahed to the idea of having a baby and she'll need your shoulder, adn if she is pregnant then you need to be there to help her through having to tell her boyfriend (guys can have some good or bad reactions to this type of situation, especially at 14). If she is too scared to get the test then you should get it for her. You have nothing to fear because well you aren't pregnant and you won't feel like everyone is watching you, like she probably would.If neither of you wanna get the test then she could make a doctors appointment and the doc isn't required to tell her mother. And if she won't so that then she will just need to wait and see if she misses her period (after missing 3 though it's almost definite, especially if she goets sick and such). The best thing you could do thoug for her is get that test, the sooner she knows the better. Good Luck!
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Hi,
You seem like a really good friend if she can tell you something like this. Although she may not want to do anything about it she may have to as if she is pregnant she will need to decide what she wants to do.
If she does not want to buy a pregnancy test, could you go with her or if it would make her feel more relaxed maybe you could go together to a chemist not nearby where you live incase someone recognises her? That might be what she is scared of.
She should tell her boyfriend- maybe you could try to advise her to, although I wouldn't suggest that you actually go and tell him yourself as this may cause resentment.
There are many helplines for young people in your friends situation. I don't know any off hand but there are phonelines you can call- pick up a magazine such a bliss or sugar (if you are in UK) or seventeen?? (if you are in the states). They may contain useful numbers.
If you know where your local family planning clinic is you could take your friend there where she can get a test done and have more advice. She can also get free condoms and advice on other contraceptives so that she can be more careful in future.
I hope this is of help to you and your friend. Good luck xxx
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Well this is really hard because she is younger than me and i wouldn't know what to do in her situation. First of all she needs to get a pregnancy test to make sure she is actaully pregnant because she could be worrying about nothing. if she is too scared then tell her that you will be with her to help her through this becuase she needs her friends! She shoudn't tell her parents yet because if she isnt pregnant then she is going to be in trouble for nothing. She needs to tell her b/f though because he needs to know, becuase it is his fault too. I dont really know what else to suggest. i hope this helps you in some way and i hope your friend srts everything out.
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You cant really do anything but give her support. Is she keeping the baby? or not send me a yes or no to mrs_radcliffe and ill be able to help more. even if shes on birth control she will still have a baby that doesnt do nothing but stop her periods and thats useless.
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