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I am a mother of young children . You probally dont have any , I hope not . Anyways you are young so I'll see if you can help me ; WHAT CAN I DO TO GET MY CHILDREN TO LISTEN TO ME ? I have to tell them to do something like a hundred times by then I just get mad . Thanks AAWE
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I think that when ever u want them to do sumthin, tell them that u will give them their favorite food or sumthin like that. That is the only way that I get the kids that I babysit to listen.
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Give them an ultimatum like if you don't clean up your mess i'll take away your allowance or like if they want to go to a party or have a sleepover, they should know they have to do whatever you want them to do in order to go out
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Ah yes, I recall my younger years. I was one of the worst. I know several people have probably said it before, but talk is cheap. Sometimes kids will deliberately disobey you out of boredom. They enjoy getting reactions, especially if the punishment for disobedience isn't much.
You could try different forms of reinforcement. Maybe set up a system for evey day, week, or month where the same rewards or punishments are carried out. This might lessen the yelling required before. From what I've seen, a good way to show your seriousness is to increase the punishments after every incident. If they get allowance, then you might take it away for a week. If they continue, you might make it two, etc. The same is possible for possitive reinforcement too. You could try to increase the rewards given for good behavior, but make sure if you do this the increase is slight.
Whatever you do, I probably wouldn't let them convince you to change your mind on a topic (unless it's absolutely necessary). If you do, they might stop listening to you. It is in my opinon that children react more to negative reinforcement than possitive, which means I would dish out more punishments than rewards since they never listen.
I'm not sure if anything I just said makes any sense, it's 4:41 right now, and I have yet to go to bed. I hope I helped in some way.
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just threaten them that you will take away their pocket money, or worse - tell them that if they dont do what their told they will not be allowed to go to that party they've been looking forward to. The thing is if they dont do what thier told you have to go through will your punishments, otherwise they will never learn!! xxx
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reverse psychology always works on me
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Bribe them that can really work thats the best thing u can do depending on the age but in most ages it will work.LOL but really it works i hope i helped...good luck with ur kids....:)
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ever heard of disiplinging your children???? if they don't listen to what you say and they're doing something really bad then punish them! it's common sense here! spank them and send them to their room, or dont let them have desert after dinner or don't let them watch their favorite tv shows. until they can start to listen to you n behave then they can't have those privelages. since they're young it'll be a great way to start things out! get back to me if something happens n u don't know how to handle it.
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Many parents nowadays are wary of reprimanding their child by using a little swat of the hand or spank on the butt. I think a little physical reminder is what influences most children to behave. And saying that it will make them turn out bad in the long run is a blatant lie. I was spanked as a child, and I turned out fine. I also plan on spanking my child if he/she gets out of hand. It will not turn the child into an anti-social weirdo, it will teach him/her right from wrong.
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I am 13 and my mom yells at me 24/7 to do things.. but i dont listen.. i will admit it! haha well i guess you have to kind of threaten to take something away.. like a toy or maybe a privlidge.. if my mom threatens to do stuff.. well sometimes it works.. it would probably work better on younger kids.. or like if you need them to pick something up make them sit there even if they are having a tantrum and don't let them do ANYTHING!.. works for me.. (( well when i was little!))
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Ok well iam 14 and I dont get along with my mother to well. I think that your kids are prolly just being kids. you could try taking away stuff or you could try to sit them down and have a talk with them reward them when they do listen to you. MAke them understand that there are priorities that can be taken away and that they can have a lot more freedom if they just listen. Try to cut down on the yelling and just ask them to do it. tell them that ur the boss!
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Well my mom tells me to stop and do things alot but now she has this thing that she does. If I don't listen I get more chores or get sent to my room, or i don't get money from that week of chores. If they don't llisten when you do that alot, spank them. I know it seems mean but my younger sister did that to and know shes fine after 2 spankings. I would so one at a time and see what works best! i hope i helped!
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I know wut u can do
1.take away stuff they luv
2.i know ur not gonna like this but bieleve me it works if u whoop them they'll stop when they know u mean bussiness
3.put them in boot camp
I know this is harsh but u gotta show your kids your the boss wut you say goes...hoped i helped
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Well make sure you never just bluntly say "no" If there grabbing something they shouldnt say "thats not a toy" When kids here No alot they start repeating it. Also, Make sure you talk to them alot when you arnt mad so they dont associate all your talking with them being in trouble. If you can help it, dont yell. Just sit them down and explain to them what you need them to do and maybe offer a small reward.
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Well, hate to tell you, but really little kids have minds of their own and think it is fun to disobey. I've got two boys, ages 2 and 4... they are punks ;) It doesn't help when the older one is just as stubborn as I am ;)
We will sometimes try bribes. Sometimes threats (take away toys, turn off TV, etc)... sometimes nothing works. Sometimes it unfortunately takes a little swat to the butt... but usually it just takes us being patient with them, realizing that they are just little guys, and they will test their ability to assert themselves at every opportunity.
Good luck.
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