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anorexia
My BESTfriend.. Let's call her *Liza. She is anorexic, i didn't know this before.. i just thought she was super skinny. But she left her diary over my house, and i just read some of it. She's been anorexic for almost two years, it's crazy. She doesn't know that i know yet.. so i'm scared to try and help her! Do you have any ideas on how i can tell her that i know and try to get her to stop. Cause i'm soo scared that something bad is gonna happen to her, Please, pretty please.. someone help me. Thank you so much, sorry it's so long.
Signed,
Very Scared!
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This is a scary thing.. and a terrible position to be in considering that a diary is something very private and u violated that! But something wanted u to read her diary so you can find this information out and help her. Tell her parents a counseler at school someone in higher athority. she probably needs ur help or is too deep into wat shes doing that she doesnt relize how serious this situation is! Get some help.. this isnt a light subject she could die from this and i dont think you want to just see her suffer like that... get her some help! she might be mad at first but she'll thank you later... what you should do is tell her how good she looks and complement her alot but once in a while add like a comment like this "... "liza" why are you loosing soo much weight you've had this gorgeous body" ... get her some help please...
Teresita
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You def need to say something to her or tell someone even if she gets mad about it.Because this will soon hurt her seriously and you will be helping her out in the long run and it will be worth it.I Hope everything works out with your friend.Good luck and if you need anything else let me know!
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you should just say that you know and that she needs help. you also need to tell someone, an adult; one that you trust like a councelor or principal or someone, not her parents. it might not go that well between yall at first but in the long run she love you for it.
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You are right to be scared. Anorexia is a serious disease; even with treatment, most people who suffer from it will relapse. Eventually, she'll be hospitalized and she could possibly die.
I'm not saying this to make you panic, but to let you know that you need to turn your fear for her into action. Confronting her is NOT the best option. Talk to your parents - perhaps they'd be willing to help you talk to her parents. You want to talk to people who can help her help herself; if she really has actual anorexia, she's beyond helping herself.
Maybe it's fate or just plain luck you found out about this situation, but it's up to you to decide if you want to help you friend kill herself. Because that's what anorexia is - slow suicide.
I won't tell you all the symptoms and what could happen to her - every minute you're here reading this is a minute you could have already talked to an adult you trust.
She might get upset with you, but you'll have saved her life. Be strong.
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Don't tell her you read her diary, but you need to talk to her about it. She'll probably get defensive, but something needs to be done before she does even more serious damage. Get her to tell her parents // some other adult, or tell someone yourself. You don't want something bad to happen and then have to live with knowing you could've done something to help her but you didn't.
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Ask her if she is... and well be there for her.. but dont tell her that u read her diary.. or she might be EXTREMEMLY mad because of that... just try to work into it.. dont be like "are you anorexic?" just make a LOT of food and ask how she stays sooo skinnny... work into it =) hope everything goes out okay.. <3
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Im sorry about your friend. You should be very scared. Thats never happened to me but the best advice is to tell her parents or yours. Becasue then she wont know thta you know. If you dont tell anyone she could really hurt herself and im sure you dont want that to happen. good luck
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well if you dont want her to get mad that you went through her diary, you can leave it where it is and pretend that you never saw it. not on the same day, but maybe a couple of days later, you should say to her that she looks awfully thin lately.. and ask her has she been dieting. you can say that she actually looks anorexic thin, but im afraid if you say that that she might get upset. maybe you should tell her parents without your friend knowing and her parents should be able to do something about it.
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you definately have to let someone know! this is a really serious thing! just confront her and tell her the truth and tell her parents, a counselor or someone!! she might be mad at you at first but in the long run after she gets help she'll be very grateful to you. looking at her diary was wrong, but people make mistakes and its a good thing that u did so u can help her- maybe this was meant to happen so u can save her life! if ur truly her friend you'd help her cause something really bad could happen to her, and shes truly ur friend this wont hurt ur friendship it will probably even make it stronger! even if this down ruin ur friendship (which i really dont think it will), dont u think its better she get healthy so she can live a long happy life?? YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HER!
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You should definatly alert her parents. Even though it seems like going behind her back it could save her life. Looking at her diary was wrong but if you can help her it is actually better than letting her suffer anorexia.
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okai i did alot of research on anorexia it is a reeli bad eatin disorder nd 15% of the people die from it soo maib u shood like tell her that u dun want her gettin hurt nd she means alot to u nd ur scared soo ask her if u can help her nd the best thing to do is be there for her nd stick by her side nd let her no that hope i helped xoxo Jessi
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I'm sorry to hear about your friend. You just have to tell her b/c that is soo bad for her. There was a girl in my town who was anorexic and she died a few years later from that so you DONT want that to happen to her. Just straight out tell her you know. SHe shoudl really tell her parents that she has a problem and that she needs help. Hope i helped you and good luck with your friend
lauRa
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Hi. i understand how you feel about helping your friend...have her over and just talk to her straight up about it and that she needs to get it cured...she might be mad at you for reading her diary but its better having her being mad at you then her dying in front of you yah kno? tell her that! and how you feel and how much you want to help her and i'm sure she'll understand your trying to help. let her parents kno too after you've talked to her and all of you can help her...and make sure he's alright. need anything else contact me...i'm forever here to help! Take Care..Hope I helpe! x3 SweetStar.
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Tell her exactly wat happened. She may be mad at u for reading her personal thoughts and feelings, but she'll get over it because anorexia can kill, and she'll be happy u saved her life. Atleast she should be. If not, just be happy with urself for helping a friend, it feels good even if they get upset because it always turns for the best in the end!
*Mayya
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What you could do is just dont tell her that you read her diary and everything but just be like i have a funny feeling or something like that you might be anorexic and everything and i mean show her that you care and everything show her that your worried and all cause i mean she is your best friend and everything but you need to say something to her and try to help her if she wants it you cant just force help on her you have to take it slow
-Cass-
hope i helped
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