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I dont understand how all these younge kids come on here and ask for love advice and say how they are in love and "falling" for people. I dont think you kids really know what your talking about. Maybe instead of saying love so freely you all should start saying lust. thats what it really is.
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I believe that kids can be in love and fall for people.... Being in love and loving sum1 are 2 different things. Being in love is having both people love one another....loving sumone is not having the love being returned... these kids can be in love... love can be used towards a friend and means that u care about sum1 alot ... falling for sum1 of course they can ive fallen in love many times....but just because u fall in love doesnt mean everything always works out perfect.....these kids are young and if they believe they are in love then let them believe it many people meet their partners at a young age so who are you to say these kids arent in love.....theyre young let them live and love for themselves and decide whats love and what isnt
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It's an abstract concept, and less mature people have problems understanding abstract concepts.
Anyways, despite that I didn't post the original question, this crochety old maid wants to respond to some of the other commenters:
<i>"Things are alot different now since you were young, so you wouldnt really understand how things work in our relationships"</i>
I would love to know how teenybopper relationships have changed so <i>drastically</i> since I graduated from high school four years ago.
<i>"I don't think you understand things now-a-days and what its like to be in our shoes at this time."</i>
I've BEEN in your shoes. I've already done the whole "he treats me like shit but I still LOVE him!" routine. I've said "We'll be together forever and ever!" more times than I'd care to count. It's frustrating to see people repeat the same mistakes I've made.
<i>"maybe you should stop trying to put a damper on young love and realize that you're an idiot, just let things be what they are."</i>
"Let things be what they are?" If you had to spend your days counseling teens whose lives were ruined by pregnancy and abusive relationships, you'd be "trying to put a damper on young love," too.
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ok just because all of us are younger then you doesnt mean we cant be in love. Things are alot different now since you were young.so you wouldnt really understand how things work in our relationships.Everyone has a different way of handling a relationship and they know when their in love or when there not
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Just because we're young doesn't mean we can't be in love. I don't think you understand things now-a-days and what its like to be in our shoes at this time. Being in love has no age limit...
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Listen-how do you know? I mean, maybe it iz luzt and maybe itz love! I don't belive that being older than someone else means the younger person can't fall in love! Unless your like, 3.
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Maybe kids can fall in love early... i don't think age should really matter-- i mean- unless ur 4.
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It's very disturbing when you get question after question saying "this guy treats me like shit and I think he's cheating on me, but I don't want to say anything or break up with him because he might get mad at me and I REALLY DO LOVE HIM"
I agree that people throw the word around without knowing what it really means, and that's just too bad for them. When they do actually meet someone who is really great, who loves them back, and who they truly love, then it wont be special. I fell in love at 18, and he was the only person I ever said it to, and I was the only one he said it to. That meant something to us.
I do not think a 13 year old can know what love is just by dating a guy/girl for a few months
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I think there are many levels of love. And yes I doubt that many teenager are "in love". But it doesn't mean that they are just lusting for eachother. When i was 16, i dated a guy for a year and a half and i truely loved him...i knew i wasn't inlove with him and wouldnt marry him or anything...but there was a connection and we bothed cared for eachother very much. So i think there is nothing wrong with saying you love the person...cause you can love them without them being the love of your life. Well i hope that makes sence to you cause it does for me lol
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Heh. I've been reading some of these answers and they're pretty funny. My opinion is that most of the young people who think they're in love, aren't. Most probably believe in love at first sight, which is just ignorant. Maybe crush at first sight, but not love. Some may also think just because you constantly think about someone, that you're in love with them. This, of course, isn't true. If it were, people would be falling in love without even getting to know the person. Do most of you even know the difference between a crush/lust and love? I'm guessing almost everyone who doesn't feel age is a factor when falling in love is still a teenager. This is just my opinion. And I really, really doubt she/he is talking about the love one has for their parents (chuckles).
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*laughs at cowsoink reply*
Oh, man...
Don't tell us <b>little kids</b>...^^
That was rude of me, I'm sorry, it's just so funny.
But anyway, I'm 13 and it bothers me too. BUt whatever floats their boat...
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I can see where you're coming from - it bothers me when people (kids) throw around the word "love" without really knowing what it is.
However, age cannot determine how mature a person is. That's why I say age is a state of mind, not being.
At the risk of your thinking I'm a know-nothing kid who thinks she knows love and doesn't, I'm sixteen and I truly beleive I do know what love is.
When I was fourteen, I thought I did - but then, you have to experience what it isn't to know what it is. You've gotta have something to compare it to. It's like - if we didn't have depression, or sadness, we would never know what happiness was.
Please consider this before coming to the conclusion that everyone who uses the word "love" when they're at a certain age means "lust" instead. Snappishness and bad spelling is not a way to get people to agree with you.
Just thought I'd give you my opinion.
-Siren =)
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Well id have to agree. Though I think there are different degrees of love. When you are younger you havent experienced much and it is hard to determine what love is exactly.
The one thing that completely disgusts me is how the kids are asking for sex tips. That is just plain wrong..boys and girls at that age arent even through puberty yet! Who wants to sex up a boy with a small weiner? I mean..common. "i really want to give a blow job..but could anyone tell me what it is?"
HAHA MAN.
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I don't think you should be able to tell us what we are and are't doing. I think you're pathetic that u have to tell little kids what to do and i don't even know why i'm wastin my time here. Latas moron!
.::Chelsea::.
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thank you!!
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I guess it just depends on the different opinions people have on love. Some believe it can come at many age. Others disagree with that. I think they are the only ones who can know if it's love or lust. And if they can't figure that out then they probably just don't know if they are in love yet. -Mandee
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Well I know what I'm feeling, you don't. But I mean there are circumstances where it's not love. But you can be falling for someone at any age.
So if what you say is true, then I 'lusted' for my parents? No. I loved them. And I know it, still. You can LOVE someone as well, but just not be IN LOVE with them.
EDIT: Point taken about the parental love thing...eeeeh. But I mean...I know what I feel, but I haven't said I've fallen in love yet. Like someone up there said, state of mind, not state of being. But they(teenagers) do throw it around alot.
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