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friendship crushed
Posted Sunday January 15 2006, 10:11 pm
Dear Advicenators-
This year one of my best friends, let's call her amanda, went into highschool. See, I was always more popular and had more friends then her. (I'm in 8th grade now)And when she was in middle school, let's say she wasn't the coolest of the bunch. We were best friends until I was in 7th grade and she was in 8th. See, then I started hanging out with my friends from school on the weekends; and me and amanda's sleepovers every friday and saturday turned into once or twice hour hang outs once a month. Yet, sure enough, when school was out, we became close again, adn real tight. Now she went into highschool and started to make new friends, when i was still in middle school. She got a new boyfriend, got a new best f...
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Posted Sunday January 15 2006, 5:29 pm
I hate to start a question with "there's this guy" but unfortunately that is pretty much what this is about so i'll make it as brief as possible: I like him very much, we were pretty close a few months ago (just friends, we're both attached). Nowadays we talk fairly sporadically and when we do it feels so mundane and guarded compared to what we used to have. I feel like he's deliberately shutting me out (though he still says to me and others that i am one of his best friends) and i've no idea why. It's basically like we've had a friendship in reverse-knowing each other very well almost immediately and now moving backwards into the realm of the casual and formal.
I can't talk to him about it because he would get ver...
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Dumb Barbie
Posted Sunday January 15 2006, 3:34 pm
Weve been friends for 3 Years!!We were a trio.Me,Miranda,and the stupid barbie,Kaylie.Me and Miranda dumped her because she thinks shes all that.She wears things that are in style(they dont even look good on her and no im not lieing)and trys to compete with me.I dont mean to brag or anything but im Phater and way thinner than her.Shes very jelous of me.She feels really mad because she knows were better of with out her.Right now shes hanging out with the stupidest girls in school.She recentley came up to me and told me she needed to talk to me.I just walked away.Then she came up to me and asked do you think we will ever be friends again.I said i dunno(In a rude way)then she started giving me dirty looks and told her :"you know what,no i...
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friend told me I had issues, not were not speaking
Posted Sunday January 15 2006, 1:10 pm
I am so mad. I just got into an argument with a friend. It all started when I told her that I wouldn't date a man who already had children. I told her this because I wanted to have children of my own someday, and that from my parents divorce I learned that dating other people who had kids was a recipe for disaster, especially if the kids didnt like you.
Well then she told me that I had issues!! I told her it was a personal choice and that why would I want to date a man who already had kids if I wanted my own. She is a stepmum and was judging me, that's what go me so mad. I told her it was fine for her to be a stepmom but it wasnt for everyone, and that she had no right judging me. NOw she's not speaking to me.
What should I do? I had every right to defend myself.
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making friends
Posted Sunday January 15 2006, 2:16 am
I can't seem to make many new friends this year. I've always found social skills an easy thing for me, but this year something's different. It's really hard for me to strike up a conversation, because now I get really shy. I've already gone through the initial introduction process, so most of the people in my classes at least know who I am and I'd like to start hanging out with them, but wouldn't it be kind of weird to randomly start hanging out with them in the middle of the year? or going up to a group in my class and start hanging out with them (when they've already bonded)?
How do I get past the acquaintance stage without it being weird?
I've tried compliments (and been sincere about it) but there's only s...
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sex
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 9:57 pm
Well my best friend since 1st grade (im in 8th by the way! Well she has always been the goody goody type like when she goes out with guys all she does is the basics (kiss), well just this year she went out with a guy named mark and she didnt know this but he loved to go all the way just on the first date. so she goes on the first date and then goes back to his house. she didnt exspect to you know do anything. Well then they start kissing and little before u know he has hind down her pants and she didnt say anything cause she is "shy" well all through that night they were so close to haveing sex, she gave a blowjob and a handjob, but his dad came home so they didnt go any further. And I might sound over protected but to go all that...
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three's a crowd
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 9:22 pm
okay so my best friend and i have known each other for 3 years and weve been best friends for atleast a year and a half now we have a new friend and weve known her since september but i have a problem. whenever we hang out someone is always left out and its always me. i love my friends and i dont want to blame anyone especially our new friend b/c she hasnt done anything wrong but im like being forgotten and pushed out i never hang out w/ them anymore and they always hang out now its like our new friend has taken my place and then they made this big deal about it today and it really made me mad bc they were like were not leaving you out but they are im not in there profiles anymore on aim and theyre in each others i feel like they dont care...
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cheersquad or a death squad?
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 6:32 pm
I'm the co-captain for my middle school's cheer squad. There are 3 girls specificly that talk bad about, make fun of, and put all the other girls down. They won't listen to anything I say and if I make a descision they don't like they simply to not do what they are supposed to. They act like they rule the squad. I've had many complaints about these girls hurting other teamates feelings and talked to my captain about this but those 3 girls are her best friends and since she doesn't wanna have to yell at them about it she ignores the problem. Our coach is very self-absorbed and won't listen to anything I try to tell her. All she says is "You're the Co-Captain, figure it out" And I can't change those girls attitudes on my own, they ...
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Party.
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 2:12 pm
Okay, I just turned 15 & want to have a cool party. I want at least 40 ppl. My original idea was to go bowling, which would be sooo fun, but it cost so much, so that idea's kinda striked out. Does anyone have any idea where I could have a party that's cheap, and 14/15 year olds will enjoy. My house isn't an option. Thanks.
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I'm losing it
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 12:34 pm
Ok well me and this girl have known each other for 3 years or so now right. Ok well we had some problems last year right. And it was cause of an old friend that kept telling blod face lies and i told him off but she decided to still be friends with him. And back when we first met in 2002 you know we would talk alot and we was getting closer friendship wise. And i remember clear as day that she said she dont buy liars. And i told her me neither i hate a damn liar. Ok well as far as me i mean what i say bout that. And back in when we had problems last year we ended up seeing each other at walmart and becoming friends again. And turns out i was right as far as our old friend lying and whatever else. But now the problem is she is lying. Knowing...
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Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 10:34 am
wellllllllll..... i moved here last year, and everybody hated me, they didnt want a new kid, the girl who is now my best friend was the only one who gave me a chance, but the problem is, she is really popular and her friends hate me, and she has had to choose who to stay whith when she is with me because they just bug her about it, i feel reallly bad, What do i do
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Im confused
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 2:13 am
Im 15.I have 2 crushes. 2 huge crushes. Im really confused. I like this girl. I really like her. But I have feeling for this guy to. I dont know. I've dated the girl before. I was at one point best friends with the guy. I dont know which to choose. I dont know if im gay or if im straight. I dont even know. I know that the girl likes me. I know that the guy is gay. Im so confused. Dose anyone know should I choose the girl or the guy? I need advice.
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Im gay
Posted Saturday January 14 2006, 1:58 am
Im gay and I dont know how to tell my family. I overheard that my dad will kill someone in the family if he found out they were gay. I feel horrible. I know that my whole family would hate me. I already messed everything up with half of my friends. If any of my friends find out im gay no one will want to be near me. They'll hate me. Half of my friends already hate me from something a while ago. I feel horrible. I told one of my friends and they told me that they will always be my friend. I love her so much. I dont want to lose my friends. How do I tell them?
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My friends hate me and I dont blame them.
Posted Friday January 13 2006, 11:45 pm
Im 15 and a guy. One of my friends came out of the closet.He told his best friend and she made him tell me. I told the girl that he liked that he was gay. Then he find out and he yelled at me and so did his best friend. Now niether of them want to talk to me or look at me. They hate me. I lost half of my only true friends. My best friend said that she heard him say that he was going to hire someone to beat me up. I feel horrible. I recently told all of my friends that I myself was gay. I feel horrible about this all. I dont want to lose them as friends.I have had them forever as friends. I feel like im losing half of myself. What do I say to make everything right? I need some advice.
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Helping without nagging
Posted Friday January 13 2006, 11:01 pm
If a friend is doing idiotic things that are endangering her health, how far must you go to stop them before it becomes "nagging"? Urge them to change their ways once? Twice? Get other friends and gang up on them? In the opinions of the great Advicenators, when do such actions go past the point of being helpful and instead become merely annoying and likely to irritate the person you're trying to help?
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Friend in Trouble?
Posted Friday January 13 2006, 10:33 pm
I've had a close friend for 3 years now, for two of those years we have been roommates. We are both 20-year-old females.
My friend Megan used to be the most empathic person I ever met, she was always the first to notice if you were upset or unhappy. She was very quick and caring, but in the last few months she has completely changed.
She doesn't listen to what anyone else says, she only waits for her chance to talk, and then she says things that make it quite clear she didn't listen to you at all. She is completely ignorant of other people's feelings, you can't get her off the phone or out of your room even by being down right rude to her. She just doesn't clue in at all. Where she used to be sympathetic and ve...
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i like this boy, but...
Posted Friday January 13 2006, 9:45 pm
So there's this boy and I used to be able to talk to him with no problem, but now that i like him i can't even say hi to him. our winter formal is coming up and i kinda want to ask him, but i don't have enough courage to do it. for christmas i gave him a card and he really liked it, but since then i can't even say the word hi to him. i really want to tell him i like him, but i'm afraid it'll be awkward. and should i make him something for valentines?
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Read please....realllllyy long though
Posted Friday January 13 2006, 9:00 pm
I have 2 friends, Bailey and Lauren. Bailey is my best friend, and we literally do (or did) EVERYTHING together. We hung out so much that people began thinking we were sisters. If one of us is going somewhere, the other one is bound to follow. It was just a really strong relationship.
Then she started hanging out with Lauren. Lauren and me aren't really very close at all, in fact, the only reason we're friends is through Bailey. Deep inside I kind of dislike her, for personal reasons, mainly her attitude. But I get along with her for the sake of Bailey.
Anyways, Bailey and Lauren started hanging out a lot. And Bailey kind of forgot about me. Like, they would go over each other's houses everyday and not even inv...
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Par-tay
Posted Friday January 13 2006, 8:13 pm
hey 15/f
well im having a party tommorrow(not really just a few of my closest friends over- all girls) and i want to know if you guys have any ideas of what to do? we're real girly and besides truth or dare i wanted to know if any of you girls have anything you do with yoour friends when you hang out at your house? im basically looking for different things and as many as you can come up with? we're pretty much rated pg if you know what i mean?ill rate 5s for good stuff
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Posted Friday January 13 2006, 3:19 pm
kinda wrong subject.
well today at school i was going from 1 period to 2nd period and i have to go down stairs to get there well i was walking down the stairs and this guy i know was walking up. we dont talk to eachtoher just online like once a month. well here when i got to the last step i looked back and he was looking at me like straight looking at me it was wierd. i dont think he could like me cause he is either bi or gay not sure which one.
help would be nice thxx.
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