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I'm losing it
Ok well me and this girl have known each other for 3 years or so now right. Ok well we had some problems last year right. And it was cause of an old friend that kept telling blod face lies and i told him off but she decided to still be friends with him. And back when we first met in 2002 you know we would talk alot and we was getting closer friendship wise. And i remember clear as day that she said she dont buy liars. And i told her me neither i hate a damn liar. Ok well as far as me i mean what i say bout that. And back in when we had problems last year we ended up seeing each other at walmart and becoming friends again. And turns out i was right as far as our old friend lying and whatever else. But now the problem is she is lying. Knowing i have went off on her once for that and buying lies from people. And i seriously am about to snap on her. She keep ignoring me on messenger. This morning bout 4:30am or 5:00 am i seen her on and started talking trying to be nice and she sadi hold up. Never got no response so i started talking so then she put be right back and logs out and i she hasnt been on since and its like 12:30pm now. I am fixing to go off on the deep end i swear. But the problem is that her sister and mom well there like family to me. They are really the only people i got i can talk to. And i go over to there house some and visit them you know. And her sister and mom dont really like what she is doing and how she is acting to top it al off. Cause she is 17 fixing to turn 18 with a 9 month old baby out going wild. And everybody from me to her closest girl friend has told her she needs to be taking care of that baby but she wont listen. And she is hanging out with the wrong crowd to top it al off. She is on the internet all the time and in chat rooms talking to crack heads and everything else you can imagine. So my question is what should i do since i am bout to go off on her but her mom and sister are like my closest friends?
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What you should do is just let her go with her little group but i do think that you should aleast be there for the baby and the mother and sister just chill with them she wont no what she hade intill she lose it but then it will be to late.
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Let her go. It is her life and you have no say in it. She is not being a friend and actually she is being a total ass.
So my advice to you is to stop trying. Let her alone and let her fuck up her own life. If you don't get involved and "go off" on her, then things won't be strained and you can visit her mom and sis with no problems. She may be lying and all that other bullshit, but if it doesn't bother you, there is no problem.
Yes, she needs to take care of her baby. She isn't 18 yet and her mom needed to lay the rules down a long time ago. She can't go anywhere if there is no one to watch the baby.
If she leaves anyway, and refuses to take care of her child, then have her arrested for neglect and have her child taken away.
Her mom has the option to stop letting her run wild. If she can't take care of her child she needs to leave her house. If she endangers her child once out of the house, call DFS. They will investigate her and take her child if need be. Then her mom can apply for custody if she so desires.
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First off, everybody lies a little bit. Trust me. You do & she does & I do. We all lie.
Second, if you think she's making wrong choices, let her do them herself. She doesn't need someone going around trying to change her. Life is about making wrong & right choices & learning from them. So let her learn from her mistakes.
Try getting the mom or the sister talking to her about what she's doing. She might not listen, but it's worth a try. Just talk to her sister for now. Make some more friends. Don't just be obsessing over one. Don't do it yourself(meaning going off on her).If you do go off on her, her mom & sister will find out & sooner or later they won't talk to you either. If the mom or sister have tried talking to her & she won't listen either. Then there's nothing you can do. If you want though, you can ask the mom if it's okay to go off on her, but that'll seem kinda .. stupid.
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