Im gay and I dont know how to tell my family. I overheard that my dad will kill someone in the family if he found out they were gay. I feel horrible. I know that my whole family would hate me. I already messed everything up with half of my friends. If any of my friends find out im gay no one will want to be near me. They'll hate me. Half of my friends already hate me from something a while ago. I feel horrible. I told one of my friends and they told me that they will always be my friend. I love her so much. I dont want to lose my friends. How do I tell them?
pootietang answered Saturday January 14 2006, 11:05 pm: let me start off saying that if you're a girl, then it is usually -at least where i come from- more accepted to be gay than a guy being gay. and yes girls can be gay, for everyone who says they cant. =) well anyways, i would start off by telling your dad that youre going through some changes and that youre confused about your future, relationships, school, etc. this will probably loosen him up. then simply say that you arent sure if girls attract you. DONT say that guys DO attract you, just that girls dont. -i am assuming that you are a guy-. if he asks why, say that "well like i said, ive been confused about life lately..." or something like that. if he asks "well do you like guys?" then say "im not really sure." see how he reacts. if he gets angry and starts threatening you in any way, then i would suggest not telling him until you move out. otherwise, youre safe to tell him in the future when you claim to "not be confused anymore". i hope i helped..
OH, and about your friends, i would suggest only telling your close friends -like the girl that you already told- that youre gay. otherwise rumors spread, gossip starts, and people start making fun. and we dont want that. [ pootietang's advice column | Ask pootietang A Question ]
hopelessly_devoted answered Saturday January 14 2006, 7:29 pm: true friends, like that nice, sweet girl, will understand, you dont need a bunch of jerky friends around who dont love you for who you are. and for the family thing, youre going to have to tell them somethime and the sooner you do the sooner you can start to mend whatever relationship may be broken, if anything bad does happen. good luck ♥ [ hopelessly_devoted's advice column | Ask hopelessly_devoted A Question ]
DrivenCrazy6 answered Saturday January 14 2006, 11:04 am: Listen. Your real friends are the ones who will always love you for who you are. Brake it down to them. If they are not willing to be friends with you anymore, forget them. You dont need people who dont like you because you are gay. You need the people who will always care for you no matter what. Like that girl. She must love you alot! Just incase this dont work for you, there is a show on channel 123 (Noggin) at 6:00 or at 6:30. Its called Degrassi and it is about issues that occur at times. There is a boy named Marco and he is also gay. He doesnt know what to do. Watch the show daily if you can and the episodes will combine up to helping you with your life and how to solve your problems. Write back to me to see if my advice have worked for you.-Hope everything turns out okay! :) [ DrivenCrazy6's advice column | Ask DrivenCrazy6 A Question ]
H0LDM3CL0S3 answered Saturday January 14 2006, 11:00 am: theres no way to tell them that will make them happy. you cant be something that youre not. stop pretending and dont be scared to be yourself. your parents have to accept you and they will love you no matter what. and if your friends will just drop you like that then they arent worth having anyway, they arent good friends. judgemental. if you already told one friend then think of how you told her and talk to her about how to tell your other friends.
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