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Friend in Trouble?
I've had a close friend for 3 years now, for two of those years we have been roommates. We are both 20-year-old females.
My friend Megan used to be the most empathic person I ever met, she was always the first to notice if you were upset or unhappy. She was very quick and caring, but in the last few months she has completely changed.
She doesn't listen to what anyone else says, she only waits for her chance to talk, and then she says things that make it quite clear she didn't listen to you at all. She is completely ignorant of other people's feelings, you can't get her off the phone or out of your room even by being down right rude to her. She just doesn't clue in at all. Where she used to be sympathetic and very clever she is now sluggish and annoying.
It's not just socially either. Today in class she said the exact same thing as the person five seconds before her did, even after it was pointed out she didn't notice and she is having a lot of trouble following a sequence. When we do projects together or play cards she has to be told every step individually and is constantly forgetting or ignoring rules or instructions. She doesn't seem to do it because she is bored and she doesn't take offence at being corrected, she is just that out of it.
This is NOT like the girl I first met at all and it's been going on for at least 3 months now, getting progressively worse. We thought she might just be tired and that winter break would rejuvenate her. All of her close friends (about four of us) have noticed it independently now and are getting really worried.
She doesn't do drugs. There have been no major life changes, no breakups or anything. This seemed to come out of nowhere. She is so out of it we aren't even sure how to start talking about it. We think an 'intervention' might make her feel accused. Does anyone have any idea what we can say or do to help her?
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Do not discout the possibility of drug abuse just yet. It could be the case. Her actions could be indicative of a number of potential problems: drugs being one, psychological issues being another, or perhaps even a neurological disorder.
Take note of the symptoms and seek out a health specialist. Perhaps such an individual will be able to shed more light on this curious matter.
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Sounds like depression, to me.
You're going to a college, which has a health services department, or some such thing? If so, go to the health department, and ask a counselor or a doctor or some such person about what to do about the matter.
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hi im alex and my e-mail is alxsuz@yahoo.com
and i wanna help you with your question maybe your friend is having trouble in school and realy frustrated or maybe just maybe shes having problems with her parents and its realy hard on her i think you should just sit down with her one day and say "her name" youve been acting diffrent over the past few months and you scaring me but i dont wanna get in your buisness i just wanna know whats up becas i dont like to see my friend just change one day just can you tell me whats wrong
alex
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