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cheersquad or a death squad?
I'm the co-captain for my middle school's cheer squad. There are 3 girls specificly that talk bad about, make fun of, and put all the other girls down. They won't listen to anything I say and if I make a descision they don't like they simply to not do what they are supposed to. They act like they rule the squad. I've had many complaints about these girls hurting other teamates feelings and talked to my captain about this but those 3 girls are her best friends and since she doesn't wanna have to yell at them about it she ignores the problem. Our coach is very self-absorbed and won't listen to anything I try to tell her. All she says is "You're the Co-Captain, figure it out" And I can't change those girls attitudes on my own, they just won't listen to me. Does anyone know how I can solve this?
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Well the only way to deal with girls like that is to be aggresive.i don't mean to beat the crap out of them. But you need to be stern. Before the next practice you should have a little 5 minute in-formal meeting whether your co-captain wants it or not. at the meeting i would say "we are a team. In order for us to be a great cheerleading team, we need to respect each others feelings. That means you all need to respect each other and the captains and the coach no matter what. No one on this team is better than any one else on the team [those 3 girls will probably snicker here] so if you don't follow the rules then you can easily be excluded from the next football game/basketball game/ pep-rally. If you think you are to good to be on this team then you can go! we are not about putting people down or making fun of people and nor will we tolerate it. " something like that! Ok! let me know how this works out and I hope i helped!
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what you need to do is actually confront the captain in an unyielding fashion -if that makes sense-. you need to tell her again that she needs to speak to those cheerleaders about it or you will get the principal involved (or any other important staff member). dont take any of the captain's "well theyre my best friends and they would hate me" crap. say "i dont care. they are harassing the other members of the squad and thats making them not look forward to practice." you could even say -if your good at lieing- "well the girls getting made fun of are my friends too." you need to be harsh about it and dont let her convince you to back off. stick with it. and really get the principal involved if it doesnt stop.
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My suggestion would be to suspend them for lowering the moral of the other members. However, that may not be something you are able to do.
Maybe you need to really rally all those other girls. As a group you should all be able to ignore the little princesses, and make them look like fools who talk to themselves. :)
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