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How Do I Learn to Stand Up For Myself?
Posted Wednesday January 12 2011, 4:50 pm
Long story short: I can never stand up for myself. Especially when it comes to guys. Especially my ex. We've had a REALLY rocky past. Really. He had so much power over me... I guess I let him. I was sooo whipped. I just let him walk all over me... Talk me into stuff... Well the bj. At one point he did physically force the fingering on me... But the bj he would say "If you loved me you'd do this..." or "I do things for you but you won't do this...?" so I did it... I hate myself. Why couldn't I just put my foot down?? Why can't I just have a backbone? And it doesn't stop there. I just let people boss me around... My ex still makes me feel small and worthless... And I hate it. I mean I am small... I'm like 5'4 and 105... An...
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i want to have sex but what if i get pregnant?
Posted Wednesday January 12 2011, 2:41 pm
im 18..me n my bf we r planning to have sex and i really want to do it2 bt i am afraid wat if i get pregnant? sometimes condoms are not fully the protection and i waz just thinking whats the good thing to do?
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how to deal with verbal abuse?
Posted Wednesday January 12 2011, 2:05 pm
22/f
i need advice. i've been with my boyfriend for about 7 years now and hes great and we're really in love and we have plans to marry eventually. the problem is when he gets angry or upset even if its a stupid fight that could have been over with one word, he gets too angry and just opens this whole portal of really hurtful words. i know he doesnt mean it cuz hes angry but at the point it really hurts and it makes want to leave him which i dont want to at all. so how can i get him to stop being mean when hes angry? thanks.
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absolutely shattered.
Posted Wednesday January 12 2011, 8:37 am
im 18/f hes 19/m
im absolutely gutted right now. recently, up until this morning, ive had the most amazing, wonderful and deep conversations with the guy i like. I opened myself up to him more then anyone before. He told me secrets that not even his best friend knows. We have so much in common that we were actually genuinely stunned to even find someone with so many similarities. He would keep telling me how he cant believe we have so much in common, he even said that it was getting to a point it was scaring him, yet he says its the most amazing thing ever. We would send each other cute messages, and made plans to go out on this saturday night, provided that the area wasn't flooded (due to living in Queensland, Australia whe...
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Starting over
Posted Tuesday January 11 2011, 9:26 pm
I never had a real boyfriend before,we both are saved and keeping ourself untill it comes to getting married,what are some things you can help me to get to know what he's looking for in me.
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boy trouble
Posted Tuesday January 11 2011, 8:36 pm
hey i need some advice theres this guy and i rlyl like ancd have no idea how to tell him i c him evryday and we laugh alot but ... dk know
signed,
boy-crazy
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Does this sound odd?? Please help! :P
Posted Tuesday January 11 2011, 7:31 pm
13/F ok so I have a grandmother that loves to watch old movies on Tcm and I am at her house a lot and so I always have to watch them. Well over the time I have learned to really like them. Well the other day, I watched this Elvis movie, and I liked it well sinse then I have been renting his movies and I litteraly have became obsessed! I know this sounds wierd but I really like him lol like a lot of people did but like for example it is really late at night like right now and It we just had a snow storm two days ago and the roads are all ice and stuff but I can't stop talking about him alllll the time and I was upset cuz I finished the movie I got today and I didn't have anymore so my mom made my dad go out and get another one of his movies ...
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I think he likes me, but im not sure, and im nervous!
Posted Tuesday January 11 2011, 5:45 pm
18/f hes 19/m
ok so i've been texting this guy a lot lately :) we have so much in common its ridiculous! He always keeps bringing up how we do have so much in common that is almost scary...yet so amazing. Im really starting to like him, but i am trying not to fall for him too fast. I don't want to rush things, especially if it meant i'd lose him. We had the most in depth conversation i've ever had with anyone before, for the first time ever i completely opened myself up. He told me things that not even his best friends know about, he trusts me that much.
the thing is, we are meeting properly for the first time maybe on saturday night, (as long as the place isn't flooded) and i'm actually really nervous that i...
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after prom ideas? many ideas as possible=)
Posted Tuesday January 11 2011, 11:21 am
okay so I'm 16, almost 17 in 4 months. my boyfriend is 15, i am a year and one month older than him. he is in the 9th grade and im in the 11th (he was held back a year lol. its not as bad as it sounds.) we are both virgins, and i told him that i wanted to wait. it will almost be 6 months on prom, but im still wanting to wait. ive learned recently that waiting is a very good thing haha. but i want to just spend time with him. i want it to be sweet, romantic, and fun. i want him to have a good time. i have a best friend that he absolutely hates but i was going to see if we could go in on a beachouse together. i just dont know though. i want to spend it with some friends as well because i would not be able to pay for it all. i think the more t...
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I wrote this guy a note .. but should i give it to him ?
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 11:57 pm
I wrote this guy that I like a note. But I don't know if I should give it to him . The note say's .
[Persons Name]
Well I don't know what to do, Since that night i've done so much thinking! Yeah my feeling's for you came back and I don't know what to do, You said your not gonna date me because of my age but if you really like someone you should say age as just a number. It hurt me three years ago when you left... I wish still to this day i would of left my ex for you but I didn't. When you left alot of shit happened in my life and I still can't trust guy's but for some reason there's something about you that I know I can trust. I guess what i'm saying is I see something different in you.... When she said the same thing is gonn...
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Why can't I be happy without a boy??
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 10:38 pm
Hello, I'm a sixteen year old girl, sophomore. Let's just say I've been through A LOT of hurt dealing with guys... Being used, hit, pressured, guilted, dumped, cheated on, objectified, lied to, played with... Yeah. I've only dated two guys but jeez I don't think I could have picked a worse two. The worst was probably being guilted and physically forced to do certain things... Like beyond making out. In one of my relationships I completely lost who I was. By the end the guy admitted that he only liked me when we were hooking up. That's the only reason he stayed with me. I'm still getting over him. In between those two bad relationsips and after (now) I have clinged to boys... I don't know what it is but I've always felt like I've needed to b...
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do I like him?
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 10:38 pm
I'm one of those people who.. when they like someone, they like them a lottt. I fall hard when I like someone. It's not a small crush or a yeah I kinda like you thing with me... usually.
sooo I think I'm breaking my own reputation. There's this guy who I've been talking to. I think he's cute, I've kissed him and I want to again - something formed, some sort of feelings I can't really explain, I love to talk to him, I love hanging out with him.. and he likes me but I can't decide if I like him back. I forget what it feels like to like someone simply.
Just like.
Every other time, I loved them. I dont know him well enough to say that. But I know him well enough to like him... I think.
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Is it really that bad?
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 9:05 pm
Im 18/f and I've been dating my boyfriend for a few months. I still live at home with my parents because Im a Senior in highschool. I have a job, and I've always made good grades.
What I don't understand is my parents. They say I need to learn how to make decisions on my own, and take responsibilty and what not, and I try. They don't let me. For my 18th birthday, my mom let me get a Hotel room with my boyfriend; (my dad didn't know he was staying) and for New Years, BOTH of my parents knew I was stayin at a Hotel with my boyfriend, ONLY. They didn't care.
Well, my boyfriends mom recently asked me if I would be allowed to stay the night; and when I asked my parents, they didn't even hear me out, they said NO imm...
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Long Distiance and Long Time
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 8:03 pm
Hey, so my problem is that me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half. I love him so much and he really does mean the world to me. I dont know what I'd do with out him. Lately though he's been being less affectionate and well doesnt really remind me anymore that i'm important to him. It's bothering me because well i'll tell him cute things or text him that hes the best and i love him. and his answer is always just "thanks and same." were in highschool but were very mature for our age and have been through lots together. He goes to a different school and i only get to see him on the weekends usually just saturday bc i work on fridays and sundays are family day for him. It's very stressful and i know that we...
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Tell me what to do about you?
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 2:55 pm
For four years I have really 'liked' this guy (Guy A) but he hasn't ever returned these feelings, and I still can't understand why I still 'like' him. At this current moment I am dating another guy (let's call him guy B) but guy B's best friend (Guy C)has a crush on me and Guy C also happens to be one of my best friends, so things are all tense between Guy B and C which makes it weird for me because I don't wanna get involved. The worst part is that as much as I care for Guy B and Guy C, the only guy I can say I could quite possibly be in love with is Guy A. He means the world to me but now I feel like a horrible person because I'm dating one guy, and hurting another when I just love someone else. What do I do?
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is he second guessing??
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 12:50 pm
Hey guys! first off I'm 20/F and he's 19/M.
Background information:
we dated in high school (my senior year, his junior year). He broke up with me. Not sure of the reason why. I know, how can you not know? Well believe me, I don't know.
We are both now in college. Me- Junior in college. Him- Sophomore in college.
In October we started talking again. We started talking about our past relationship and why we broke up. We both said that we still had feelings for each other and we'd like a second chance. He had a girlfriend at that time and I said that I couldn't continue talking to him how we were talking since he had a girlfriend, it was not fair to me or his girlfriend. He said he understo...
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I have aspergers (a really bad case, every smtyem) she's normal. Plz Help
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 9:48 am
I have a very bad case of aspergers but she is normal and I can't stop thinking about her she is 10 months 10 days 17 hours 37 minutes younger than me. I want to know everything about her and kiss her, marry her, etc... Oh yea she knows about myy dissabiliy. So on to my questions.
a) Is it normal that I can't stop thinking of her.
b) Do I have a chance, she says we are just friends, but we always hang out alone, like every day.
c) Should I kiss her.
D) any other help bout me & her, plz.
I am 13 she is 12, I am a dude, and I livee in Canada.
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Get over all this
Posted Monday January 10 2011, 12:56 am
16/f
Ok I have a boyfriend, same age. He moved so now it's long distance now and we hardly get to talk. I still care about him though and he's what I want.
I have this really close friend. He's 18 and just went to college so I don't see him anymore. I care about him so much. We've been friends since he was 16 and I was 14.
Anyway, I like him a lot. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because I ended up liking my friend a whole lot more than I had planned. After that we ended up telling each other we liked each other. Then I started liking my current boyfriend and he asked me out. I wasn't completely over my friend but I didn't want to miss a good chance with a guy I kinda liked.
I ended up cheating on my b...
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Flirts with me but has a girlfriend
Posted Sunday January 9 2011, 8:07 pm
20/f/nj
Okay so long story short, me and this guy from work were seeing each other for about 3 months, a month ago i found out he was seeing another girl along with me from his school, well she gave him an ultimatium to get with other people or go out with her and he took the ultimatium he told me he still liked me but she was convenient since i lived too far away i commute to school.(I live 20 minutes away from his college)
Well at work he still flirts with me, he ignites the flirting everytime i try not to go along with it but i cant help it. He will make excuses to talk to me,push stuff into me,etc i still really like him. And clearly he still likes me and he knows i still like him (i kinda hinted to him i s...
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boyfriend stole my best friend
Posted Sunday January 9 2011, 7:36 pm
before i asked my boyfriend out last year, i had a best friend who was a guy. me, my friend, and my boyfriend are all in band. my boyfriend would make me feel like crap for hanging out with my friend becuz he was a guy, he got mad if i even talked to him. this went on for like a year so i finally stopped talking to my friend to make my boyfriend happy. then we broke up for a little while, like 2 weeks. when we got back together he was best friends with my old friend. now all he wants to do is play fricken black ops with this kid. i hate my boyfriend for what he did, i hate him so bad for it. he pretty much stole my friend. but if i tell him this, he will ask me what he's supposed to do. and i don't know the answer to that. please help me.
we are 16 and in highschool.
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