|
Get over all this
16/f
Ok I have a boyfriend, same age. He moved so now it's long distance now and we hardly get to talk. I still care about him though and he's what I want.
I have this really close friend. He's 18 and just went to college so I don't see him anymore. I care about him so much. We've been friends since he was 16 and I was 14.
Anyway, I like him a lot. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because I ended up liking my friend a whole lot more than I had planned. After that we ended up telling each other we liked each other. Then I started liking my current boyfriend and he asked me out. I wasn't completely over my friend but I didn't want to miss a good chance with a guy I kinda liked.
I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with my friend. I felt bad, wish I could take it back, all of that. Decided not to tell my boyfriend because I care about him and it was never going to happen again.
Me and my friend are close so I wasn't going to cut contact with him. I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm around their family a lot.
Well, since my friend went to college, we would text and he always told me he loved me. Not like in love, but you get it.
This is kind of long so I'm just going to end it. So to finish this, my friend ended up hurting me by some things he said. He did apologize but I know I care about my boyfriend a lot. I know it might be wrong but I still want to be with my boyfriend and I want to leave my friend in the past. I just don't know how. We haven't talked in awhile but I know I need to work at getting completely over him because I know just not talking to him isn't going to work. We've been through a lot.
So sorry about how long this was, but if you could help me at all it'd be great. Thanks.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I understand your problem from head to toe. But what you really need to be doing right now is think about what you done to your boyfriend.
You cheated on him with your best friend, and you didn't tell him. You need to feel bad for what you did because you betrayed him for your best friend. Tell your best friend that your relationship with your boyfriend is more important that anything and you don't want him to mess it up. If you start feeling guilty you will get over him very fast. Believe me, because how would you like it if your boyfriend cheated on you and he didn't feel bad at all?
And let me ask you this do you really love your boyfriend? If you do then you need to stay with him. If you don't you need to break up with him so you won't hurt him anymore. It won't be a waste of his time because you were unfaithful.
But tell your friend that you don't want to have any contact with him because you have someone else. You need to cut loose with this guy. Forget about him. Don't talk about him to other people. Just focus on your boyfriend's feelings right now. It should help you get over him.
Hope this helped!
]
You really need to be true to yourself as you are still young and you will meet loads of people who you think you are going to love like the other answer you had mine is much the same i know what a long distance relationship is like as i have been in one and i am now married but it doesn't always work out happy at the end for some people. but you do need to be honset with your friend how you feel but he needs to listen to you and understand how u feel then after that you need to spend on you and anyone who threatens you and your relationship you need to cut ties with them it is hard at first but it does get easier but you need to find out and understand what u want at the end of the day and understand that you have plenty of time for the relationships and if your boyfriend is the one is brill so just be honest to you and your friend then you can move on to the next chapter of life.
]
well...if your sure that your boyfriend is the one you want, love and care about then you shouldnt have anyone around you that threatens your relationship with your boyfriend. in your case your "close friend" as you've mentioned. if you do decide to cut him out of your life i support that, but you have to let him know and understand why your doing that. since you've been friends for along time, all you need to tell him is that you love your boyfriend and that you dont want to mess things up with him and you feel that having " this close friend" in your life will cause problems and you dont want that.
however, my concern here is not this close friend. its really you. cheating on your boyfriend is a problem. you need to start thinking about the things you really want. your need to understand yourself more, your still young so i am pretty sure your gonna meet tons of boys that you might like but if you intend to stay with your current boyfriend you need to be honest about your feelings towards him to yourself and just be sure of them. i think that if you're inlove 100% and your sure of it you'll never see anyone but your boyfriend anymore. so i guess you just need to invest more in your relationship and in your self. personally, i have a boyfriend we've been together for 7 years and we've been through so much together so we're really in love, if i ever felt that someone in my life is threating the love we have, i'd cut them off cuz my boyfriend would always mean more to me than that person. but thats just me :D you could always go for the long confusing road but i really dont recommend it, its really messy and you tend to lose things along the way. if you know what i mean. hope that gave you an insight on the situation your in. hope it helped.
]
More Questions: |