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I am a married women and i have two boys of ages 3 and 6 years old. since being with my husband we have loads of ups and downs and we are still together. I am a good listener and i am none- judgemental no matter what i am told i keep to myself and i am honset in my answers i give to questions i have been asked and also with my life i am also honset as well.

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what are some non-profit organizations that do a lot of traveling to 3rd world countries (or anywhere), helping kids, or people? I want to get involved with an organization that allows me to travel as well as make a difference.

there is one and it is called home-start they work with families that are with the forces they work with children on the at risk register as well, there is also red cross as well i can also say look on the internet and also on the www.do-it.org.uk

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18/F

For the past few years I've felt insecure about EVERYTHING. From my relationships, to my body, to my personality, etc.
I know that I'm a pretty girl and I know I have a great personality but a voice in my head keeps telling me I could be better.. which is affecting my relationships.
I'm a very sensitive person so I take everything to heart, which I think is my downfall. I just don't know how to stop saying negative things about myself, it's just always on my mind.
I have also cut in the past because I don't like who I am. I've tried to talk to God to help me stop cutting but it's very hard to speak to someone who doesn't directly talk back, if you know what I mean.

Can someone please give me tips on overcoming this and how to gain some confidence?

Also, I've been put on Celexa (an anti-depressant) to help me get out of this rut, but it's not working 100%.

Hi there all this sounds similar to what i have been through and i had to go back to the doctor to change my anti-depressant when they didn't work but it is a nightmare to go but we did find some that work and i had to turn negitives into positives and then i worked on me self harming by writing my thoughts and feelings down or i found a hobbie just something to keep my mind off it all

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Okaii, Well I am a 12 year old girl && I'm kinda scared.): I haven't started my period yet, but I'm getting this discharge I guess you would call it, but my mom thinks I've started my period but its just a different color. I don't know what to think && or do. This is kinda personal && in your case *I'm sorry I'm telling you about this:P* weird but I wanna know if there is something wrong with me or what. Can you help.?

i can remember that i had discharge when i was getting ready to start but i think if you are that worried talk to your mum and also say that you what to speak to a female doctor but i think that what you have said it does sound like you have but talk to a medical perfessional hope this helps

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I met a guy, we know each other for 2 months now.
The second week we kissed. after that, it all went down hill.
people started gossiping.
he said i shouldn't care but the one who does is him.
i told him to follow his own advise.
I guess he did.
So he went out with a friend to a birthday.
It was at the bar i work so we said hi we hugged.
and that was it. at a certain point of the night while my bar shift his friend started throwing water and i got pissed so i told him not to do that.
it wasn't very serious but i was soaked.
i threw at the guy and it also got on my friend. he started throwing back but because of a small amount of alcohol he went overboard.
so because of the fun we started fooling around and a bit of wrestling playfully.
When my boss interfered and said he was about throwing my friend out he went into a tunnel.
lately a lot of those kind of things happen.
And i really do love him that why we hug a lot and but he is ignoring me and is short lately!

What have i done?

16 year old from The Netherlands

it could be a number of things and you wont know till you sit down and speak to him and you both need to be honest with each other but i would say keep work and private life away from each other as it is the rule of thumb when you start work that's it you are focus on work and not your private life

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I'm a freshmen and I lost my virginity in the spring of 2010 to my boyfriend. Things got rough when he broke up with me and I found out he had been cheating. I went to this summer high school party and things got a little crazy even though I wasn't drinking. I ended up having sex with a bunch of the guys there. It was really, really bad. I got pregnant, panicked and told like all of my friends, and then ended up having a miscarriage (not abortion like some rumors going around say). So like everybody knew what went on since a lot of people were at the party and then I opened my big mouth about me getting pregnant.

This year everybody calls me a slut, but I swear I'm not really. I was just hurt, I guess. It hurts because right before winter vacation a senior asked me to prom and I accepted and was happy at first but then he was all saying how he doesn't want to knock me up and I figured out that's the whole reason (sex) why he wanted to go with me so I had to tell him no to going.

I confronted one girl who was ALWAYS picking on me and calling me slut and whore. We had this fight but I feel terrible because at one point she asked me how many guys I've had sex with and my number is kinda big for my age and I didn't know more than half the guys that did it with me. It only makes things worse for me because I keep thinking of what I did and how it was pretty bad.

I don't want to be slutty. I haven't had sex with ANYBODY since summer. How do I get people to forget about the summer thing and just move on with things? I don't want to be THE slut of the school because of 1 thing I did.

slut is a word with different meaning to it and it can be depending on the person who is receiving it is weather how they take it i would say avoid fighting and ignore them if they can't get a reaction out of you they will leave you alone i would say think about what you are saying stuff like what you did at a party and pregnant is you and you alone people will do things to hurt there friends etc if they are jealous of the other person so take no notice i know it is hard but i eventually it does quieten down as that is what i had to do in a similar situation and it worked it was hard going not to react but it worked and being nice works as it throws the other person off guard as they are not expecting it and works as you have forgotten in a since and they then know it is pointless in saying anything

hope it helps selinajones 28

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19/f

the other night my boyfriend and i were having sex and we did it for about an hour and towards the end i didn't feel "wet" anymore and it started to hurt. I figured that it was just like that because we had sex for a long time but i still feel abnormally dry down there. is this normal?

i actual was like that and i had to rub my clit during sex and then i also found ways of turning myself on as well sometimes i have to have more foreplay but i got us to explore each others body's and trying to find each other's turn on spot's as i have got some that turn me on more than the others i would say sort a nite when you can do this and just have fun with each other and with the foreplay but if it still hurts after that i would say ask ur nurse or female doctor or if you are that worried about it you could do the asking doctor first

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To begin with, I love my boyfriend...we always have a great time together and he is my best friend. He's the only guy I've ever done stuff more then kissing with and I've lost my virginity to him (and he lost his to me). This morning I woke up really happy because we had a date last night and it was really fun. But then I checked my facebook, and everyone else updated their status about them hanging out with friends and my best friend sent me a text and said she missed hanging out with me...I'm so confused, because I LOVE hanging out with my boyfriend, I'd rather hang out with him then anyone else, but at the same time I miss hanging out with my friends. I feel like my friends are just like "oh, she's always with her boyfriend now, she probably won't want to hang out with us anyway" and they never invite me to stuff like they used to :( I guess I have been more distant since I've been with this guy, and I miss my friends but I'd still choose to hang out with my boyfriend over hanging out with them...I don't know why but I've been craving the 'single life' lately, even though I'd never break up with my boyfriend, at least not right now. And I don't believe in 'taking a break'...if I ever broke up with him (or him with me), I couldn't ever allow us to get back together because if we can't work out the first time, then we probably can't work out the second time. So what do I do? I feel like I'm torn between my friends and my boyfriend, but I'm not...I'd rather hang out with my boyfriend. Maybe I just like the idea of being more social rather then actually doing it? A lot of times when I used to hang out with a friend, I'd get really bored and just want them to leave so I could be alone...I just don't know what's up with me! I'm so confused :( please help, any advice is appreciated!

Also, if it helps, I'm 17 and he's 18...we've been together for a little bit over a year.

you don't need to feel torn or like you have to break up with him you just need to come up with some way of dividing your time so you give some time with your friends and some to your boyfriend they can be equal it is going to be hard as it sounds to me like he his your first love if i am wrong i am sorry but that is what i did i spent time in the week with my boyfriend/ husband now and then when i wasn't seeing him i spent time with my friends then i even made time to having a me night pampering myself with a nice bath with candle's to make me relax from the stress's of the day
i hope it helps

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i've had my period for 4 years now, (i'm 18), and i've had about 4 extremely bad periods. i don't even know how to explain it. its like someone put my uterus in a blender and put it on the highest notch. i can't walk, i can't talk, i can't eat, i'm throwing up, i can't sleep, the pain is intolerable, and all i can manage to do is writhe on my bathroom floor and scream as if i'm in labor. but like i said, that's only happened 4 times since i started, at least that i can remember. well, my last period was on december 11th and it was one of the bad ones. a friend was over and my mom had to take her home at 7 in the morning. i didn't want her to hear me screaming.

and now i'm supposed to be starting my period this weekend and i'm fucking terrified. i don't know if i can handle another period like that. and soon i'm going to be graduating highschool and getting a job and such and how am i supposed to keep a job if i have to miss a day because my periods are that horrible? is there anything i can do?

well if i was in your shoes i would book appointment with my doctor or nurse and they will help you to get the bottom of it and if they are that bad and you are scared for this weekend I would make the appointment ASAP and do that well you are on so they can see what you are like and if you are having big blood clots while you are on i would defo say go seek a medical opinon from the doctor or nures

hope this has helped you out from selinajones28

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How do i give a good hand job ? I feel stupid when i do it and he dosen't get off.

well if i was giving my husband one i would do it slow, steady and plenty of oil on my hands and i would to tease him a little bit flick my tongue over the tip i would has i move my hand down fondle his balls as well

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I been on what I call a diet for the past 8 months. At first everybody was amazed I lost so much weight so fast but now they always tell me I'm TOO thin. I want to be skinnier and I think I still look FAT. I did a BMI calculator and I'm like a number 15 (the thing said 15.1 actually). I don't eat allot. Somebody told me they think I have a eating disorder called anorexia. I looked it up. I might have that. I haven't got my period in a couple months even. I don't want to be sick? So does it go away on its own or do I need to get medicine? Im kind of confused about what to do? I didnt tell my mom because shes already upset Im still dieting and I dont want her to freak out again on me. What do you think I could do to be normal I guess? Thanks you

What i would do if one of my friend's asked me the same thing is go to a doctor and your mum wants to help all mum's freak out when there daughter's are going through something that is out of there control but you will need to be honset as it is not something you can go through on your own you will need the support and a shoulder to cry on to laugh with and i would say write down was happend since dieting like the fact your period's have stopped so you can hand it to a doctor and if at first you don't want your mum to go to the doctor's with you at the moment then take another family member or a gd friend that you trust then once you have a yes or a no off the doctor then tell her but it would be gd to tell her first as later on you both could feel bad but you do need a doctor and to be honset with yourself that you may have a problem then that will help you wen you got to the doctors I HOPE this has helped you

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I went to this past on New Years and was having a good time. This cute guy was talking to me and we were flirting. At one point we were making out and he kept pushing me for more. I kept telling him no and that I just wanted to have a good time, no sex involved. I don't know where things went wrong. All of a sudden I found myself agreeing to give him a blow job. Everything was moving so fast and by the end of it, I felt horrible. It's not what I really wanted to happen. I mean, he was nice and everything but that wasn't me, who I am as a person.

Now I feel really guilty and depressed over it. I don't even know the guy's last name. He was practically just a stranger who was being nice to me at a party. I can't believe I did that with him. How do I get over this and feel not so bad about myself? It was a mistake.

everyone makes the mistake the only thing you can do is learn from it and basically it happend in the past when you make a mistake the best thing you can do is turn the negitives into positives and then move on the more you dwell on it the more depressed over it u will become and that is not good. Just write off as something everyone has done we all mistakes as we are all not perfect so please i hope this has helped you

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16/f

Ok I have a boyfriend, same age. He moved so now it's long distance now and we hardly get to talk. I still care about him though and he's what I want.
I have this really close friend. He's 18 and just went to college so I don't see him anymore. I care about him so much. We've been friends since he was 16 and I was 14.
Anyway, I like him a lot. I broke up with my ex boyfriend because I ended up liking my friend a whole lot more than I had planned. After that we ended up telling each other we liked each other. Then I started liking my current boyfriend and he asked me out. I wasn't completely over my friend but I didn't want to miss a good chance with a guy I kinda liked.
I ended up cheating on my boyfriend with my friend. I felt bad, wish I could take it back, all of that. Decided not to tell my boyfriend because I care about him and it was never going to happen again.
Me and my friend are close so I wasn't going to cut contact with him. I'm also best friends with his sister so I'm around their family a lot.
Well, since my friend went to college, we would text and he always told me he loved me. Not like in love, but you get it.
This is kind of long so I'm just going to end it. So to finish this, my friend ended up hurting me by some things he said. He did apologize but I know I care about my boyfriend a lot. I know it might be wrong but I still want to be with my boyfriend and I want to leave my friend in the past. I just don't know how. We haven't talked in awhile but I know I need to work at getting completely over him because I know just not talking to him isn't going to work. We've been through a lot.

So sorry about how long this was, but if you could help me at all it'd be great. Thanks.

You really need to be true to yourself as you are still young and you will meet loads of people who you think you are going to love like the other answer you had mine is much the same i know what a long distance relationship is like as i have been in one and i am now married but it doesn't always work out happy at the end for some people. but you do need to be honset with your friend how you feel but he needs to listen to you and understand how u feel then after that you need to spend on you and anyone who threatens you and your relationship you need to cut ties with them it is hard at first but it does get easier but you need to find out and understand what u want at the end of the day and understand that you have plenty of time for the relationships and if your boyfriend is the one is brill so just be honest to you and your friend then you can move on to the next chapter of life.

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