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Question Posted Sunday January 2 2005, 12:49 am

im 15 and well honstly ive only made out with 3 guys, and thats all ive ever sexually done... ive never "masterbated" whatever that means or anything like that but my bf keeps trying to finger me and stuff! if i let him do it..is it gonna hurt? can my "cherry" pop? is it gonna feel really bad? and if i let him do it will i be labled a slut? (me and my bf have been together 10-11 months now) anything?

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Ugahottie321 answered Sunday January 16 2005, 1:48 am:
DO SOMETHING W/ HIm!
poor guy

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ArianaL13 answered Monday January 10 2005, 10:10 pm:
ok im 13 and i had this rule of nothing below the belt but i kinda let him break it...it only happend once...it can hurt a little but be very enjoyable for you to..the only reason i let him break my rule is bc i was enjoying my self so much and its a way of expressing your love...and you wont be labled as a slut if you only do it with one guy now if its 20 maybe!
hope i help
XxXxAbabiiXxXx

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SarBear456 answered Sunday January 9 2005, 8:36 pm:
Depends on how rough he is. lol.

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bAbiixPhAtT3 answered Sunday January 9 2005, 6:23 pm:
thats not gonna lable you a slut sweetie! its been like almost a year and who cares what people say and it might hurt alittle but it will feel good too lol and if he does it rough then it might pop your cherry

hope i helped xOx love becca xOx

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xoih3artyouxo answered Saturday January 8 2005, 10:08 am:
go for it you wont be labeled a slut and it wont hurt at all
~morgan

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iluvu22 answered Thursday January 6 2005, 10:30 pm:
trust me...go for it. you wont be labled a slut. and it wont hurt.

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XxCarliexX94 answered Wednesday January 5 2005, 9:06 pm:
it is not bad if you are like 15 years old and as tlong as you don't tell people you will not be called a shilt. it will probley hurt the first time and then the second time it will be as easy as kissing like making out but you have to use a comdom unless you don't have you perid if you don't you should still use a comdom cuz if you get your perid a day after you could get prgent.

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metalkat86 answered Wednesday January 5 2005, 5:26 am:
okay, your 15, a little young to do much of below the belt. but i'll answer your questions anyway. depending on how he does it, yes, it may hurt a bit the first few times. no, your cherry can't pop unless his fingers are a foot long :P if you give him the okay, it shouldn't feel bad. and if no one knows, you shouldn't be labelled a slut. but my best advice to you is don't let anything happen below the belt. oh yeah, and masturbating is when you give yourself an orgasm by, basically, fingering yourself. hope this was informative, and please, take my advice, don't do anything below the belt!! later,
Kat

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SwEeTcHiC90210 answered Tuesday January 4 2005, 4:43 pm:
aww its perfectly fine!..being fingered feels good and youre cherry cant really pop from it..and you wont be labeled a slut!..dont sweat it!..if youre scared of people finding out just dont tell ne1!..*MUAHH

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CaitLynnG answered Tuesday January 4 2005, 4:35 pm:
Not at all. Not normally does your cherry pop from being fingered. It usually doesn't hurt. Let him do it once, see how it goes and if it hurts you just tell him to stop.You will not be labeled a slut. You seem well healthy and you shouldn't have to worry about what people say when you haven't done anything, but make out! It's hard to find people still virgins at your age,and that's a really good thing that you still are! =D Good luck!

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xwastedlife29x answered Tuesday January 4 2005, 3:56 pm:
define masturbation:
female: sticking a foreign object up the vagina or anus in place of a penis. (prefferable dildo)

male: massaging of the erect penis untill it ejaculates.

it is ok to have an intimate relationship with nobody knowing. if nobody knows nobody will label you a slut. the only object that can pop ur cherry is a penis and it does hurt. with fingers it feel good and does not hurt

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Anjela answered Tuesday January 4 2005, 2:15 am:
Well first off..you will not be deamed a "slut"...you need to know that you're ready to go to the next step sexual wise. Remember that it's only your boyfriend's and your business what you do especially because you've been together for so long. Now your "cherry" can only "pop" when something is put up there so yes it probably will but it DOES NOT mean that you were devirginized...it MIGHT hurt you..it really depends on the guy and you. good luck with the decision
~Anjela

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Chellz8 answered Tuesday January 4 2005, 1:48 am:
do it -

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redlion145 answered Tuesday January 4 2005, 1:22 am:
No, you won't be a slut. No, it won't hurt. Yes your cherry can pop, and yes that will hurt. Maybe you should take it a bit slower, maybe have a bit more physical contact before going strait to this. A nice session of touch and feel can leave a guy very satisfied. Don't feel pressured to do something like this.

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sPicYx0hoTt answered Monday January 3 2005, 8:57 pm:
I think you should definitly let him do it.Your old enough.No it doesn't hurt, but if he popped your cherry it would. Dont let him go in so far..but it feels good.

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xselenebeenx answered Monday January 3 2005, 8:39 pm:
If you and your boyfriend have been together for almost 11 months now..and you really feel ready than why not give it a shot. Your cherry can only pop if he fingers you really hard. if you dont want your cherry to pop, then just tell him to be gentle, and if he is than i gurantee it wont hurt. It wont feel really bad.. it will just be a new experience for you. It will take a few times getting used to though. You wont be labled a slut if you and your bf have a mature and comitted relationship and you tell him to keep your love life between the two of you! If your not ready to take your relationship to this level, than let him know. You should only do these things when you feel really READY! i hope i helped...

xselenebeenx

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AskMeliauren12 answered Monday January 3 2005, 8:25 pm:
Hey CuTiE!!!!!
awww no of corse your not a slut! when a guy fingers you it doesnt really hurt at all but make sure that he doesnt have long nails cus that can hurt pretty bad and also make sure that his hands are clean cus ewwww that would be gross if they werent!!!! oh and yes your cherry can pop, but then again it can pop by most anything. and no of corse its not gunna feel bad DUHH! thats why hes doing it. hope every thing goes well!!!! have funnnnn!!!!!!!!!!

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whattheHELLO1514 answered Monday January 3 2005, 8:24 pm:
i think with this one, you need to relax. and especially stick to what YOU want and are ready for! dont get pressured into anything you dont want to do. and from what i have heard, the "ouch" factor in fingering, is different for everyone. and yes it is possible for your "cherry" as you call it, to "pop". and as to your boyfriend, i am pretty sure that the only way you might be labeled a slut, is if your bf goes and tells all his friends. if that happens i think you might want to have a little talk with him, or re think doing things with him if he is just going to go tell all his friends.

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tdancer11290 answered Monday January 3 2005, 12:04 pm:
its up to you whether u want him to do sumthin to u..and he might pop ur cherry but that should just hurt for a second then the rest of the time it should be ok...and i dont think you will be labled a slut because your doing something with your boyfriend its yalls buisness and its not like your going around fucking different guys every day soo its should be cool!

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sturkiee answered Monday January 3 2005, 12:00 am:
11-12 months?!?!?!?!?! jesus christ drop you pants bitch, suck his dick, make the man happy
dear god, save your soul

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hyperNerd05 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 11:02 pm:
well lets see it might hurt and if u still have a "cherry" then it most likley will brake and when your hymn brakes then you might feel a little pain but depending on the guy it should feel good from then on and if your boyfriend really cares then you wont be labled a slut
-*Tori

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iluvchristianshhxo19 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 7:54 pm:
I don't think it hurts but i wouldn't know. Ok it depends, i am labeled kind of a slut at my school I'm about 14 and i have made out with tonsof guys in the movies and stuff that i barely know and that are maybe two years older than me. And I went out w/ a guy rite after we recently hit it off with the biggest whore in our grade. But my school is full of sluts and whores so no one really points me out because people are bigger whores than i am. It all depends on iff you're ready! Hope it helped xoxo

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xhillary answered Sunday January 2 2005, 7:29 pm:
Fingering is masturbating.

Only, he'd be fingering you. You wouldn't be.

I have no clue whether it'd hurt or your "cherry would pop".

If you don't want him to do it, don't let him.

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josiechick0289 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 12:48 pm:
when you're comfortable is when you can do whatever you feel like doing.

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icey0990 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 12:14 pm:
You sound skeptical. Do you really want to do this? Because if you dont, dont do it. Well you cherry wont pop if hes gentle. It depends if it will hurt or not. If your bf does it gently..it wont hurt as much if he were rough. Before you do it tell him to be gentle or however you want it. Try to keep it quiet and you wont be called a slut..but even if it gets out you shouldnt be labled as one beause you and your bf have been going out for 10 months! good for you!

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eternity answered Sunday January 2 2005, 11:47 am:
Ok, if your b/f tells anyone he does it, you probably will be labeled a slut, since you are only 15. Your "cherry" as you so call it, will pop, but it will feel really good. So let him do it, but tell him not to tell anyone. It will advance your relationship. Maybe he will rape you and you can have a baby. Have fun! ~Jordan Wang~

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danceonme answered Sunday January 2 2005, 4:38 am:
First of all, it's completely A.O.K. and respectable that you haven't been sexually active with everyone in your hometown, so don't be embarrassed.

Secondly, do not do ANYTHING with your boyfriend/significant other/friend with benefits unless you are totally into it, willing to do it, thought over all the consequences, and know what you're dealing with.

Now on to the "good stuff"... if your boyfriend is "expirienced" then he will probably know what he is doing. I cannot tell you if it will hurt or not, everyones body is different, but YOU will know. If you're uncomfortable or in any pain, tell him to stop. Your "cherry" will not "pop" (meaning your hymen will not be broken) if he is touching your clitorus. Inserting his fingers inside you may cause your hymen to break (which would, in technical terms mean you aren't a virgin). If this is your boyfriend, whom you love, are dedicated to, and are content with doing this with, you shouldn't be labeled as a slut.

Who are you going to tell who would label you as a slut? Hopefully, no one who doesn't need to know.

Have fun, and as always, if things escalate, use protection.

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LilMia811 answered Sunday January 2 2005, 3:16 am:
Wow! Your 15 and all you've done is kiss! Good for you girl! That's a good thing, most 15 year old girls these days are fuckin horny sluts. Your a good girl you should be proud. But yeah, if your gonna let your boy friend finger you, it won't pop your cherry, and it shouldn't hurt, honestly you might not even like it, I know a lot of girls that don't, I know I don't. Only thing is once you let your bf fool around with your stuff down there, it will probably make him wanna have sex even more but if your strong enough to handle the situation if it starts to get out of hand then everything should be fine. And no this does not make you a slut, but just be sure you let your bf know that what yal do together privately is no one elses business. Because if he tells someone it will get around and you know how people are, they are so ready to gossip and label a good girl as a slut. Well good luck!

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MCalways answered Sunday January 2 2005, 2:38 am:
It just all depends on if he's cautious and gentle with you since you haven't done anything like this before. But if he isn't...yeah...your gonna feel some pain.
And no..if this is your boyfriend..and you have been together for that long..then there is no reason for you to be labeled as a slut.

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monkeygirl answered Sunday January 2 2005, 2:19 am:
Ok honestly I can tell your boyfriend likes you alot... not many guys can go thru 11 months without anything. If he does this... it doesnt hurt, at first it is a little pressure then it starts to feel good.. not being gross or anything.. No you are not gonna be labeled a slut just don't go around telling everyone. The first time this happened to me. No my cherry was not popped and I was perfectly fine... Go ahead let him try it. You will be fine believe me.. Bunches of Luck!

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