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cloudy_conscience
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Ok 15/f, my current bf is 14/m. He asked me out today. I've only known him since august 19 (the first day of school) because I am a sophmore this year and he is brand new to the highschool, being a freshman. So yeah, I hardly know him at all, and I totally don't get why I said yes... I mean I was just really happy because he's really cute and sweet, but seriously I hardly know anything about him. Today, my friend was saying that she knew him and that he had a myspace so I thought I'd go check it out :/ bad idea. All of his previous statuses from before school started were things like "I think I still love her", "I really miss her" and things like that, which were obviously not applying to me since we didn't know each other at the time of those posts. Now I think he's just using me or something :/ however, I don't really know for sure and I feel like I don't really know him well enough to get mad at him or something... plus I don't really want to tell him that I was actually looking up his myspace page... I don't know what to do...what should I say to him? Should I just end it? How can I tell if he actually likes me? :( thanks for any answers I get... (link)
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bring the myspace thing up to him , see what he says. trustt your instinct
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Okay, one night i was at a party and i drank so much that i got sick. i'm only 95 pounds and i am only 5 foot 3. that night i went through so many rounds of beer pong and i got owned haha, i was the one who was really drinking the cups of beer because my partner couldnt drink anymore. then i had a bunch of beers before/after that. and then afterwards i went and had "wine shots" with my friend because there was no beer left. soon after those "wine shots" i was throwing up all over the place, i blacked out in the bathroom and i passed out with my face in the toilet. I was throwing up for about 2 days.
ever since that night, if i take about 3 sips of beer my stomach gets all twistie turnie. i dont even like the taste of beer but after 1 or 2 i get used to the taste and i dont taste much of it anymore. But 3 sips of beer made me throw up once, THREE SIPS. and i even ate plenty of food throughout the day.
Can someone tell me whats going on with my body? (link)
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one night when i got bad .. i drank liquor and i still dont like to smell the smell of it and it was over a year ago. when i smell it or taste something like it i get the same feeling pretty much. and how old r u? cause if your young becareful how much alcohol youre consuming in one night. you need to learn your tolerance too
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Okay we all have a point i think at witch we are stuck in between two people right? Well i am currently dating someone, who is absolutly amazing and there is no doubt that i love him and id never risk anything to lose him. BUT the thing is one of my really good friends says he loves me. He lives about 2 hours away from me so we dont see each other very often. I have always been interested in him and i love him as more than a friend but im not IN love with him. We have been friends for almost a year. Now heres the catch i got pretty close with his best friend and he told me a whole bunch of stuff about collin that threw me off, basically he was a huge player and would say anything to get into a girls pants, it fit considerably well with all the girls around him and his myspace. So i backed off and began questioning his intentions with me. Then i found out that Aaron, his best friend had it really bad for me. Of course collin denied everything but i question some of the things aaron told me not all but some. Not to mention i flat out told collin that i wasnt going to sleep with him and he still tells me that he loves me and im still number one on his tops. Not to mention hes very loyal to his girlfriends. He calls me 'his baby' and makes me feel all special inside. I let him know that i love him but that nothings going to come out of that because i dont trust him. he understands that. i guess i just need some advice on what everyone thinks of him. (link)
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you need to know a goodthing when you have it and sometimes it sucks cause you dont realize ituntil their gone.so i dont think you should throw away what you and your boyfriend have. the other two guys can be lieing and it would take alot for you to trust them. but i think you do love your boyfriend but your just confused because of all the other attention from other guys , which is obviously understandable. my boyfriend i have right now for a yearr was considered a player and got around too but i didnt open up to him for awhilee. and then grew to trust him alittle more and now i love him. but if you want to breakup with your boyfriend you have to make sure its what you want and to risk the chance that those other 2 guys might just be jerks. so just take it sloww for noww and dont rush anything causeyou might lose the person you might really want
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Background:
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months now. i know that doesnt seem like a long time, but it's our third time together. He seems to always come back in my life. We dated for 4 months then broke up for about 3 and now we've been back together since.He said I love you about 2 weeks ago, and meant it. It's not those 3 words that get thrown around between us, it's sincere. We're going to college this upcoming fall. I leave in less than a month. I'm going 4 hours west from home he's going 3 hours north from home.
Question:
Should we stay together and try to make things work with the long distant relationship? I mean I'll barely see him because it'll be hard to come home let alone visit him at school or have him visit me. But I love him, he loves me. We can barely go 2 days without seeing eachother.
*Sorry it's long, but any help, advice, personal experiences would be helpful. Thanks in advance! (link)
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if you guys really lovve eachother try to make it work . you guys will find a way
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I lost my virginity about 2 years ago and my boyfriend is still a virgin. We muck around sometimes with nothing on and sometimes he gets a tiny bit of semen on me. He fingers me all the time and the other day he was fingering me and I felt myself become really wet then he pulled his fingers outa few moments later and his hand was covered in blood. It stopped bleeding straight away but I have had a tiny bit of dark brown blood in the last two days since. I'm not due to have my period for another week at least. Could I be pregnant? I'm really scared, why is this happening? (link)
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if you didnt have sex with him i dont see how you would be getting pregnant if the semen isnt going in your vagina.
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15/f -i have a boyfriend of 11 months i love him so much but we fight nonstop. some friends ask how i put up with it n my only reason is that i love him. i really dont ever wana loose him but im starting to question a breakup what should i do, if we did breakup itd hurt us both so much but the fightings bringing me back to insanity and i start hallucinating again. but we also have alot of magical moments where we are on top of the world n i cant imagine anything better and were so deep in love were talking about when we have kids and our future. i love him so much but i cant handle the fighting anymore, what shud i do?
i also just started likeing a friend, and i feel so bad to like someone else, but does that mean me n my boyfriend are drifting? my boyfriend makes me cry atleast daily from the fights because he is very insecure n i try my hardest to help him, hes doing bad in school and he doesnt workout or do any kind of sports but is like pro guitarist. my dream guy is a guitarist, in great shape, secure in anything, smart and he is hott. and the guy i like has all of that plus hes 18. i designed his tattoo n he got it n shows me often as he flexs his muscles n smiles. he also sometimes helps me with what to say when me and my boyfriend are fighting. but he is my bestfriends brother, altho they are veryyy close so ther more like friends then siblings n us three went out yesterday and it was pretty sweet we kept flirting but i would stop and say something about my boyfriend to remind us both, but it was an overall best n sweetest time with my bestfriends, i like him, but i love my boyfriend even tho its tearing me up. but im never going to cheat. what do i do?? (link)
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well you do sound like you love your boyfriend. maybe you just "think" you like your friend because its easier then putting up with the fightnig and maybe you think thats what you need and itsgetting in the way of wwhat you truely want. i dont think you should throw away preetty much a year of you and your boyfriend if you guys were even talking about having kids and getting married. try to work things out and thats great you would never cheat just trust your gutt itll tell you
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I'm a girl & i'm 16 years old. I was talking to this kid for almost five months, and i liked him a lot. Obviously i thought he liked me too, considering thats what he told me. He went to prom last minute, then met a chick there & they started dating right away. I was left hanging and he wanted nothing to do with me, and this was out of nowhere. I couldnt do anything about it, and it made me feel helpless. He's still dating this girl and i dont even know why. I dont know why i still care, but i do. He still textes me sometimes and i think he wants us to be friends. The whole situation still has me confused, what should I do? (link)
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yeeah this is toughh for you to deall with . most girls probably go threw this a few times in their life haha. guys can be a real pain. but if you feel like you can be on good terms with him & you forgiven him then theres no reason to be on bad terms. yes, he was wrong. but only be friends with him if you feel like its the right thing.
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can using tampons "pop your cherry" and make you not a virgin? (link)
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yes she is right. it can "pop your cherry" and you probably wouldnt even know but yes you are a virgin you are onlyyyyy not a virgin when you have sex. and usually people wont bleed if they popped their cheery that is how you can tell.
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Recently I have been getting 2 periods a month. Like at the end on the previous month I get it around the end, and it goes several days into the next month.Then I would get it later in the month.
Well now, I will litterally get 2 in a month.One at the beginning and one at the end.What Im wondering is if this is normal, and if not what I can do to fix it!
Thanks
-xoxo; (link)
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it shouldnt be a problem. it happened to my friend and her doctor put her on pills but it hasnt really helped her. its probably not a problem. just see your doctor to make sure=]
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so i have this best friend (let's call her sam). she has a boyfriend she's been going out with for like TWO years almost, and she's always been totally obsesed with him. but the guy (jake?) is a complete PLAYER. i mean, it is SOO obvious he's not that into sam, because he always makes excuses to cancel their dates at the last minute, and the earliest they always see each other on the weekends is like, one o clock. in the morning. Once when I was getting a ride home, i saw him with another girl, walking from school, holding HANDS. ive told sam countless times that jake's definitely two-timing her, or three- or four-timing her, for all i know, but she won't ever LISTEN. and what hurts me is that she always accuses me of being JEALOUS of her for having such a hot boyfriend. is she completely clueless or what??? and what hurts me even MORE is that she always cries every time jake ditches her. then the next day, she's calling him, e-mailing him, giving him gifts, completely SPOILING him. i am getting so annoyed with sam, i'm thinking of not being friends with her anymore. i used to really really like her, but now she's just a guy-obsessed bitch!
do you think what i'm doing is right? what should i do?
Signed,
Fed Up (link)
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i alsoo totally agree with you. but sometimes people are so wrapped on someone that they dont want to believe or face the truth cause the truth hurts alot of the time. youre being a great friend by telling her. and you should try to just say im not jealous , im not trying to make you not like him but i know what i saw and it is obvious and im just trying to help you. just let her know that you care and thats all you can do. even though it sucks people are gonna make their own decisions whether there the right ones or not. and unfortuneltly your friend probably will learn the truth about her boyfriend.. but a hard way and then she will realize she should of listened to you. dont worry itll come.
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So, my boyfriend has fingered me a few times before. The first few times I didn't bleed, but then the pass two times I have bled. A lot. Is this something I should worry about or is my hymen just wearing away? I'm worried that there might be something wrong! Oh and I finished my period about 4 days ago, so that can't be it. (link)
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its normal , even a tampon can pop ur cherry and u wont even know. thats why some people dont bleed during sex ( the first time). dont worry its fineee
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ok i am 13 nd this guy i lyke is 14. me n him want to make out. ive kissed b4 i hve neva made out!! ik its dumb bt i want to make out wit him sum1 tell me how to!!! (link)
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dont stick your tongue to farr in and jusst gooo with itt. you will know what to do
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This might be long, sorry.
I have been seeing my boyfriend for about 3 years now. He's really a great guy, comes from a wonderful family, works really hard in college, etc. He's probably the best guy out there. He's really perfect. I don't have anything bad at all to say about him.
Well, I've been cheating on my boyfriend for about a year or year and a half now. All the cheating has been with the same guy so I'm not like a whore or something. My boyfriend has NO idea that I've been seeing this other guy on the side.
Anyway, the problem is that I'm pregnant. I don't want to lose my boyfriend though!
Now, maybe you are asking, "Well, how do you KNOW it isn't your boyfriend's baby? Why not wait until you give birth and then have the baby paternity tested?" Well, because my boyfriend and I had decided to stay virgins until our wedding night. Yeah, in three years we haven't had any sort of sexual relationship. Yes, he thinks I'm a virgin just like him.
I REALLY love my boyfriend though! I want to marry him! I mean, I just feel like I'm totally in the wrong, but I know I'm not. If I tell him about cheating on him and stuff he's going to think I'm a whore. How can I like feel better about this? (link)
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if your boyfriend really loves you maybe he will forgive you , it might take him alittle time because when my boyfriend cheated on me i forgave him but its not easy to forget because all i was thinking was if he loved me that much why would he cheat on me with someone else? so eventually he proved to me and then i trused him again. so just give him timee and if he loves you then he might be able to forgive and forget especially if your pregnant. good luck!
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14/f & 14/m (he'll be 15 in aug.)
so im going to try to keep this short and sweet.
my boyfriend and i try to see each other weekly but when we cant we txt. But lately he hasn't been txtin very much, towards me only. When this first happened i was so scared we were going to break up again, thenn i saw him later on that day and he showed absolutley no signs of breaking up, only more to love. He was very sweet wen we were togeether, so i thought he would keep txtin: still nothing. So...why doesn't he want to txt with me anymore? (link)
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well depending on how long you two have been going outt maybee he just getting used to things so he doesnt talk to you as much because he feels theres no need. maybe he just feels comfortable around you and used to you ( i dont thinkthats a bad thing) but if its bothering you and you feel like theres something wrong thenn ask him about it im sure he wont be meaan or harsh about it.
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Dear Columnist,
I have a girlfriend, we've been together for a few weeks now, but she has already made it evident that she has secrets about her life that she is not comfortable with telling me. I was not too worried about them until her friends mother, (who she lives with) let me in on a big secret, but made me swear not to tell my girlfriend that I know. She told me last night because me and my girlfriend were fighting over sexual issues. The problem was, that I was kissing her, and touching her, and we were about to have sex, but all she wanted to do was kiss, and she was very reluctant to have sex, or touch me, but all she gave was a lot of far fetched excuses. This irritated me because this has been going on for the past week or so with her. After our fight, we still haven't truly made up, but I had time to talk 1 on 1 with her friends mother. I explained my situation, knowing that she is a very open person, and would have no problem offering her advice based on how we have talked about practically anything and everything since I have met the woman. But I did not expect what she was about to reveal to me by a long shot. We were sitting there in the living room just me and her, and she tells me that my girlfriend has some medical issues that she has been reluctant to tell me, and that might be the missing piece in this puzzle here. She then goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has heart issues, and explains them to me... I did not know how to feel about this, but it didn't seem life threatening, so I was still relaxed. Then she goes on to tell me that my girlfriend has Hepatitis C. This is a very serious condition; and I could be at a great risk of getting it from her. Since last night I have not been able to collect myself, and I've just been a wreck because now I feel like a jerk for pressuring her into sexual relations, when she was resisting, not because of me, but because she wanted to protect me, because she doesn't know if she can get me infected with the same dangerous disease. As far as I know, her knowledge on the disease is limited. Now I can't relax, because I want to tell her how sorry I am, and how I can't even explain how I feel about it, but on the same note I don't wanna blow her friend's mom's cover by saying how she revealed my girlfriends best kept secret. For this would hurt the relationship between myself and her friends mother, and she might not tell me any information ever again. I also feel upset towards my girlfriend for not telling me but I don't know what to do?!?
There's a whole bunch of emotion going on with me, I know I still love my girlfriend, but how do I handle this situation? Please help, the quicker the better..
Sincerely,
PeoplePerson27 (link)
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yeaa thats a really hard situation. but since she just seemed uncomfortable or emabbarsed with her disease i think you should wait till she is comfortable and ready to tell you. she might have a hard time telling people about it. just give her time and dont feel guilty you didn't know.
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so..my guy friend wants to play with me a little. And my vagina is really hairy. and im afraid to shave it, because it gets bumping and really itching, but he likes it smooth and idk what to do. i dont know how to shave it or wax it... (link)
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shaving wont hurt like waxing. but waxing would probably do a better job
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Hey Folks:
I need some advice. I don't know how to say this, but will try my best. I've been talking to someone who lately has been having life problems. Here's what's going on with her. Her mom left her when she was about 4 or 5 years old, she's now 19. Her dad treats her like crap and dosen't really care for her and she also has a grandmother that lives with them that also dosen't seem to care about her. That can be very hard on someone for when they need their parents but don't give them the care that they need. Up until last night, she was dating a boyfriend who was pretty abusive to her. They were together for a year. Just last week, I was giving her advice and told her that they needed to break up, well she wouldn't listen. She said that her and her bf were gonna try to talk and that she would tell him how she felt about him. Well he didn't want to listen. So they broke up last night. Since the breakup, she's been very sad and in the past, she's had suicidal thoughts and at one point, had to stay in some place for a few months due to something else I won't say on here. I'm afraid she could become that way again. I would like to know what I can do about this situation. Also, does the fact that her parents not giving her much support is causing her to feel like no one cares about her? She does have friends including me who do care about her, but she dosen't think so. What is up with her? She's tried counseling in the past, but it didn't help her. (link)
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well it seems like your friend really needs people right now to show her that people do care for her and not everyone is going to be like her parents and grandma. right now its probably hard for her to trust people and htink people care about her. and i would think yes to the part where her parents not supporting her makes her like this. & obviously the boyfriend isnt doing any help hes obviously making it worse. but shes probably staying with him because she feels like someones there to care for her even though he looks like hes doing the opposite.. but she really need support by you & whoever cares for herr with this boyfriend & tell her she doesnt deserve that & she shouldnt put up with it and can do much better . hope i help & i hope everything goes good with your friend. she seems like a great person that doesnt deserve this.
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okay so i can do a back bend kick over on flat ground. and i need a backhandspring to try out for the winter cheerleading team, i figure if i work on it now i can make it really good by the time tryouts are. i cant do a backhandspring nor have i really tried. im going to be doing a class as soon as i can sign up. is there anything i can do to help with my total goal? i really want to achieve this because its all i really have to lok forward to. im willing to do anything. (link)
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okayy.well i think i can help.. i did gymnastics for 10 yearss before i got hurt and had to stopp well.. my best advice is make sure you have enough upper body stregnth if you dont have good upper body stregnth than you wont be able to keep yourself up .. so you wanna practice is at first have someone spot you . by spotting you they should have one hand on the middle of youre back and one had on the back of ur knees. and youre gonna squat than jump backk .your head is AFTER youre arms come down . once your feel comfortable doing it thann. have the person spotting just put their hand on the middle of youre backk just for the support and once you can do that you might be alittle scared and htink you cant do it .. at that point you CAN youre friend is barely touching you..if theres any other quesgtions with this you need help with you can askk.. but i think i covered the basics..goodluck! and hope you make the teamm =)
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ok well my boyfriend ask me to choose between one of my best guy friends and him and i choosed
my friend because i knew him way longer and then my boyfriend broke up with me....... was i wrong to choose my friend? also take in the fact that me and this guy friend use to date i still love him but he has a girl friend he's been dating for like a year (link)
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I definitly dont think its wrong that you chose your'e friend. your boyfriend should understand that he isnt the only person in your life and that he cant be the only guy you talk to . if there was nothing going on between you & youre friend at the time when you & your boyfriend was going out than he had no right to get mad and break up with you just because of a friendship.
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