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possible breakup, and i like my friend ?
15/f -i have a boyfriend of 11 months i love him so much but we fight nonstop. some friends ask how i put up with it n my only reason is that i love him. i really dont ever wana loose him but im starting to question a breakup what should i do, if we did breakup itd hurt us both so much but the fightings bringing me back to insanity and i start hallucinating again. but we also have alot of magical moments where we are on top of the world n i cant imagine anything better and were so deep in love were talking about when we have kids and our future. i love him so much but i cant handle the fighting anymore, what shud i do?
i also just started likeing a friend, and i feel so bad to like someone else, but does that mean me n my boyfriend are drifting? my boyfriend makes me cry atleast daily from the fights because he is very insecure n i try my hardest to help him, hes doing bad in school and he doesnt workout or do any kind of sports but is like pro guitarist. my dream guy is a guitarist, in great shape, secure in anything, smart and he is hott. and the guy i like has all of that plus hes 18. i designed his tattoo n he got it n shows me often as he flexs his muscles n smiles. he also sometimes helps me with what to say when me and my boyfriend are fighting. but he is my bestfriends brother, altho they are veryyy close so ther more like friends then siblings n us three went out yesterday and it was pretty sweet we kept flirting but i would stop and say something about my boyfriend to remind us both, but it was an overall best n sweetest time with my bestfriends, i like him, but i love my boyfriend even tho its tearing me up. but im never going to cheat. what do i do??
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well heres the thing if he really did love you yall would be going though this and if you love him as much as you say you do than ask him if yall can stop fighting and if this relationship isnt better any time soon than break up.
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well you do sound like you love your boyfriend. maybe you just "think" you like your friend because its easier then putting up with the fightnig and maybe you think thats what you need and itsgetting in the way of wwhat you truely want. i dont think you should throw away preetty much a year of you and your boyfriend if you guys were even talking about having kids and getting married. try to work things out and thats great you would never cheat just trust your gutt itll tell you
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It seems to me that you are confused. When you and your boyfriend fight, what is it exactly over? Is it over small, dumb things or huge, controversial things? It all varies by your relationship between him and your friend. Yet, you love your boyfriend but all you do is fight. Are things getting resolved? Try fixing things.. talking them out with him. See if anything happens.
It's normal to start having feelings for someone else when your relationship is going bad right now. It seems you need emotional support when you boyfriend is unable to give you that. From saying that, it seems as though your crush has more to offer than your boyfriend.
If you feel the relationship won't work at all, even trying to resolve things, I would go to your crush if it is possible in the future. Try working things out, and if things can't work themselves out chances are he's not meant for you. Your crush seems more like someone who'll treat you better, but I can't measure that based off a few paragraphs.
Try going that route if you'd like. Try fixing things with the boyfriend and maybe the feelings for your crush will go away. If things persist or worsen, your boyfriend and you will likely drift apart emotionally, and you'll go nearer to your crush for the emotional support.
Try doing that, and see if it all works out. If you have any more questions, feel free to send me another message. I'll be here for you every step of the way.
Good luck
Leah
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