Hi, my names Hermione and i'm basically here to help! My friends all come to me for advice and so i figured that i'd like to help other people if i could. So i'll try my best to give sound, down to earth, practical advice!
So please ask me anything and i'll be happy to answer!
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ok so im going to see the gynecologyst for the first time. and well is there any way that they can tell that i've had sex? because my mom is going with me and im 16 and she doesnt know.
will the doctor tell my mom? (link)
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there's no way you can tell if you've had sex or not. he will be able to see if your hymen is still in tact or not but that doesnt really mean anything as it can be broken during exercise. your doctor will understand that you might not want to say anything in front of your mum and so may ask to speak to you alone or just wont ask you at all. you won't be the first person thats been in that position.
you could always ask your mum if you could go in alone. just say that you want some privacy or that your old enough and could go in by yourself.
hope i helped
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would it be a turn off for a guy if the girl he's dating has never been with anyone before. not even like a first kiss? because im a freshmen and im starting to date this junior and he's really cute and stuff and has been with other girls, but i've never been with a guy before. is that a major turn off, or would it be a turn on? thanks for your advice! (link)
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it all depends on the guy. some guys love the idea that they'll be your first and think its really sweet and cute, whereas other guys like experience. but i wouldnt say it would ever be a turn off, if a guy likes you then it wont make a difference to him.
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now this isn't for weight loss or anything. i am in pretty good shape. but i was wondering if it's possible to pull a muscle in your stomach. because if i stretch, like tilt my back back, i can't because it hurts soooooo bad. it's not cramps or anything. so i was wondering if i did pull it, how can i like make it better pretty much, and if it's not what is it and how can i make it better (link)
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yeah, you probably have pulled a muscle, well thats what it sounds like. you have muscles all over and its jsut a stain on the muscle fibres that you can feel. you just need to rest it for a while, just don't anything that will pull it further. it'll be fine in a few days.
Hope i helped
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ok, i made a huge mistake. I stupidly shaved off all my hair down there and now it is horrible and scratchy and itchy and there are lots of bright red dots and ingrown looking hairs. someone PLEASSSSEEEEE tell me what i can do! (link)
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You probably jsut have razor burn or because its a`very sensitive area your skins not used to it and so hasreacted to it. I wouldn't shave there for a while, you need to leave your skin time to recover. As far as the itching goes you could put some lotion on it but try to get a natural on so it doesnt aggrivate the skin anymore. And try not to put too much on, leave your skin clean and dry so it can brethe, it'll heal quicker that way.
hope i helped!
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So I like this guy named Chris...and I'm pretty sure he likes me to I mean we text ALL the time and were always talking on myspace and Aim at home...I like him alot and I'm pretty sure he likes me alot but there's one problem that is a BIG problem for me. He never talks! Like i wouldnt say he was shy..just he never talks at school unless you start the conversation...I mean I do talk alot..just i'm not a good conversation starter...so what do you think I should do to help him talk more because I would hate to go out with him and he never talked! HELP! (link)
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Sometimes it's just a question of guys feeling a bit nervous, that's why they sometimes don't talk. They don't know waht to talk to you about, and they don't want you to think they're boring if they start talking about something you don't like. so they jsut perefer to listen. Maybe you could have a little talk to him and just say that you wished he'd talk more because sometimes it feels as if he's not really there and doesn't want to talk to you. most times they don't even realise they are doing it. they jsut need a little help sometimes!
hope i helped
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I was hoping you guys would have some sugguestions on how to add body to hair that is straightened. My hair is naturally pretty straight, but I still have to use a flat iron. Why? One side of my hair likes to flip in and the other side likes to flip out. Also, I have about three little bumps/waves that I like to smooth out. If I let them stay, it looks like I went to bed with wet hair and just don't care. I already have some layers and I don't really want to get anymore because that would make it difficult to put my hair up. I know that straightening really damages your hair and I would love to not have to do it every day! So, I guess I'm asking two things:
1) How can you straighten your hair and still add volume and body?
2) Is there an alternative to flat irons that would be less damaging and be easier to create body?
Thanks so much! (link)
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Okay question one:
1) You can use a weak holding moose or syrum on you wet hair so that when you blow dry it it holds a little of the volume that the hairdrying gives it. (only if u blow dry your hair obviously)
2) Once straightened you can mess up the hair at the roots by lifting the top layer of hair in sections, spraying it with hair spray and then back combing it. then let the hair fall back down and gently brush over the top to flatten out the very top layer but still keep some of the volume from back combing.
Question two:
1) You can buy straightening syrum which you can apply to wet hair which helps your hair to dry straight.
2) But if you do need to straighten everyday you cna by sprays that help to straighten you hair more easily and protect your hair from heat damage.
Hope i helped!
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this boy and i have been hanging out this summer and we've gone as far as holding hands and stuff. he seems shy and hasnt told me he likes me yet, but my friends think its obvious because of how sweet he is to me. i dont know how to make the first move, and i just dont know what to do. i like him, but he hasnt told me he likes me back. (link)
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Well i think your friends are right, if he's being sweet and holding your hand then he probably does like you, its probably just that he's shy. Just go for it, tell him you like him. you've got nothing to loose by telling him and if you don't you'll never know if he likes you back because it sound like he's too shy to tell you first.
Just go for it, tell him!
Hope i helped!
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Ok me and my girlfriend plan to have sex soon, the thing is that it is both of are first time and i know that sometimes it can be painful or uncomfortable for the girl. so i need some tips and advice on how to make it less painful/uncomfortable for her so she can enjoy it to the full. i dont like the idea of hurting her (link)
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Make sure she's relaxed and comfortable before you start, being nervous will tighten the vagina and make it more painful. Fingering her first will make her vagina more ready and lubricated which will make it hurt less. Apart from that there is really little you can do to stop it hurting her, its just something that happens. It might be okay for her, some girls it hurts and some girls it's just a little bit uncomfortable.
Just keep asking her if shes okay and ask if she wants you to stop.
Hope i helped!
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Okay, me & my boyfriend have been going out for about a week. Seriously. But I really really like him. He likes me back. I trust him.
But that has nothing to do with the question. He's leaving tomorrow morning to go away for a week. Tonight I kissed him, twice, with tongue. Or actally he kissed me.
I'm pretty sure he's kissed someone like that before. But I'm complete new to it. I didn't feel like I did a good job. He just like, got his tongue into my mouth. & I had no idea where to put mine. Way to hard. I feel stupid.
The second time, I ruined the goodbye kiss. I had gum in my mouth and I didn't know what to do with it. So I just pulled back, "I have gum" I laughed. He kind of laughed too. But later I felt stupid.
I'm sure he's okay with it. He's going to call me tomorrow. But I need help with kissing. +X (link)
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Okay, when he slips his tongue inside your mouth your supposed to gently massage it with yours. You'll get used the feeling with practice and know whatto do better. Just try and follow his lead to start with until you get confident, move your tong with the movements of his. As far a feeling stupid, don't, everybody is new to it at some point and feels the same way you did. Just tell your boyfriend that the reason you said the 'gum' thing is because you didnt really know what you were doing and didnt want to do it wrong. just laugh it off, he'll understand, he's had a first time too remember and everybody feel like they do it wrong.
Hope i helped!
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Ok im not sure if this is under the right catergory but I want some tips on how to put eye shadow on. Because every single time i put eyeshadow on after a few hours it starts 2 disappear or something. It doesnt last so long. & I always see people how there eye shadow lasts perfect all day like from how it looks when I put it on. So what im asking is, do you have any tips on how to apply the eye shadow where it doesnt like fade away some how ? & Get the fresh applied eye shadow look all day ? Thanks for the help (link)
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If you use an eye cream in a neutal shade so it wont affect your eyeshadow colour so a white or cream. if you apply this first, just a light covering over your eye lid and then apply the eye shadow it sticks to it and doesnt fade durnig the day. you can even use just a litle bit of moisturiser underneath, that works just as well.
Be careful not to put too much cream on and let it rest a while before applying the eyeshadow or the eyeshadow will just mix in with it and it will be like just wearing cream which smudges into the crack. its a bit trial and error finding out what works for you and what you like.
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ok at night i have a very hard time going to sleep. i cant go to sleep anytime before 3:00 and i hate that because then i wake up late ( 1:00 - 2:30 ) and i feel like i wasted my day. at night i try going to sleep around 12:30 but i cant fall asleep so i either watch tv or go on the computer. now that school is starting i want to go to bed early (10:00 - 11:00 ) so i can wake up in the morning. what can i do to help me fall asleep at night? (link)
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It's because you get up late because your tired that you cant sleep the next night so you've got out of your regular sleep pattern. there are things you can try such as:
* Eating a lettuce sandwich (brown bread) before you go to bed - the digestion of this is supposed to help you sleep.
* Drinking warm milk.
* not eating too close to bed time.
* not eating sugary food close to bed time.
* have a relaxing bath before bed.
* relax and try notto worry about not sleeping.
* Make sure its dark, quiet and cool.
you could even try not sleeping one night so your really tired and fall asleep early the next night or making sure you wake up early so your really tired the next night so you get your sleep pattern back at the right time.
You could also try sleeping pills, i dont recomend some because they're not to be taken all the time but herbal ones are okay as they only use natural ingredients to help you sleep.
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Well, tonight was my fourth time having sex. It hurt a little at first but then it kinda felt pretty good. It hurt very bad the first 3 times.
It felt like i wanted to like scream [in a good way]
I was wondering if this is normal? cuz i always heard it hurts until the 10th time. But, maybe a myth? hah.
Well, thanks =] (link)
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Yeah, thats deffinetly a myth. It varies from person to person and the circumstance. if your nervous the vagina can become tight and so it will hurt more, or if the boy's penis is quite big. it can also hurt if you have sex in water as the vagina naturally tries to close so this can make it painful. If its stopped hurting for you then thats a good thing, dont worry that it has.
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this is a wierd question.. i know it depends on each girl but do you bleed ALOT ALOT if your still a virgin and the guy is big? like how much blood? (link)
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Yes your right it depends on the girl but it also depends on the circumstances. if your really nervous it can tighten the vagina making you bleed more but its nothing to worry about its only a little bit of blood, a light spotting which only last for a short time it just depends on the girl. some girls don't even bleed at all or they do and don't even notice it.
Hope i helped!
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I'm 16 years old and one of my very good friends recently asked me out. I have known him for a year and the whole time, he had been going out with another girl. He and his old girlfriend had sex often and I'm still a virgin. He says that he won't pressure me into anything..do you think he'll expect me to have sex with him like he did her? (link)
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If he's a very good friend then he shouldn't pressure you. He should understand that everybody is different and so feel ready to have sex at different times. If you feel you can, try and explain your anxieties with him, i'm sure he will understand and feel bad that he's made you feel like this in the first place.
However if he doesn't take into account waht you say and does pressure you to have sex, purely because he already had and he and his ex used to have sex then thats wrong. You're a different person to her and he should understand that. He's not worth it if he doesnt. No one sohuld feel pressured into having sex, it's supposed to be an act of mutual love and openess between people not just because one of you wants it.
hope i helped!
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i have had them for like an hour.
tips on getting them to leave?
duude pleasee help, it hurts. thanksss. (link)
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Okay, this may sound a little wierd but it works, believe me.
* Hold your breath and close your eyes.
* Get someone to place one finger on each eyelid and press gently (make sure they don't hurt you)
* Get them to slowly tickle the palm of you hand in a circular motion
and they should dissapear.
It's supposed to be because your concentrationg on their hands and not on your hiccups that gets them to stop. it's a bit of an old wives tale really but it's worked the few times i've used it!
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Sorry I didn't know what catagory. Well I was wondering if there was any way you can do your make up or do anything to make your nose appear smaller. I don't use foundation though. Please if anyone has any suggestions!!!THANKS!!! (link)
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You need to make the attention be drawn to your other features. Use striking eye make up with either bright colours (that is if you can pull them off without looking like a parrot) or my darkening and smoking up the eyes. This will draw attention the the top half of your face and away from the nose.
Or you could use a high glossed finish on your lips or a striking bright colour on your lips. this will also take the emphasis away from your nose as your lips will be the main feature of your face. Be careful not to go overboard though, many people cant pull off bright lips, i for one can't i look scary! so just try both and see which works for you.
I also recoment that you only make a feature out of either your eyes or your lips, doing both can make your face look overpowering and attention will be drawn back to the centre of your face, which is your nose.
hope i helped!
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okay so today...i was talking to the boy i like, online..and he weve liked eachother for a while...and you know we'd kinda flirt and stuff...but yeah it was just friendly i guess. and then the other day he told me that his friend tricked him into saying he loved me and then today he's like, you wanna know something? and im like sure and hes like well today i said i loved you and i wasnt tricked and im like ooo and then my friend talked to him b/c i had to do something and then i came back and talked to him and then i told him i loved him too and he said that i shouldnt say it just because he did and im like i didnt i mean it
so yeah, i know i meant it...but it felt weird telling him that.
so my question is...
how do you know you love someone?
and being 14...is that too young to know what love is?
14/f by the way. thanks..sorry its so long. (link)
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There's all different kinds of love and i don't really think love has an age limit, just a sort of an emotional limit. As you get older you'll get more experience in understaning how you feel about people and about the sort of people you like, its unfortunate but this only comes with age. But i think at your age you can like someone enough to say you love them.
There's no realy way to tell that you're in love either, it's a tricky business. sometimes it can be so obvious that you don't know what you'd do without the person and other times it can sneak up on you and you love them without realising it. i think one on the signs that you love a person is that you feel comfortable to tell them anything, they have to be like a best friend to you and you can't be scared of what they'll say. because to love someone you have to be totally honest and willing to share anything.
Hope i helped!
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im stupid about all this stuff but if you would answer, that would be nice. when you have sex for the first time, is there something in the vagina that like breaks? and im not talking about the wall of the vagina cause i know that stretches (link)
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Yes, it's kind of a thin layer, called the hymen, at the top of the vagina that breaks when the penis enters it. It can be painfull for some people or just mildly uncomfortable and sometimes a person can bleed afterwards but it's nothing to worry about. The hymen is only very thin and so can be broken prior to the person even having sex, horse riding, cycling, using tampons or just vigarous exercise can break it.
hope i answered your question!
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