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ok here's the deal. It's with me and my gf
Ok me and my girlfriend plan to have sex soon, the thing is that it is both of are first time and i know that sometimes it can be painful or uncomfortable for the girl. so i need some tips and advice on how to make it less painful/uncomfortable for her so she can enjoy it to the full. i dont like the idea of hurting her
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well, for the first time its good to use lube, preferbly chilli sauce of marmite, you may think im crazy but its a lot better then the stuff you buy specialy made for sex
hope i could help xo
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well what you do is like wet your fingers and then move very slow not fast and like every so often ask her how is it and after that it will be loose and wont hurt as much but dont get me wrong wat ever you do it will hurt
well hope evrything works out good
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ok well you sound like a really sweet guy and the only advice i can give is to take it slow tell her if it hurts to much that you will stop so just take it slow and make sure you tell her to tell you when it hurts to much and make sure you use protection unless you want to get her pregnant and also remember the first time is always painfull theres no way you can make it not painfull unless you dont have sex now i've heard that sex is pleasure for the guys and pain for the girls but girls can enjoy it to but we enjoy it more the second time or whatever time cause the more times you have sex the less painfull it gets and the more pleasurable it gets ok so if i have been any help to you please tell anyone who has any questions to ask me cause i can help now i'm sorry if i have not been any help to you good luck
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Make sure she's relaxed and comfortable before you start, being nervous will tighten the vagina and make it more painful. Fingering her first will make her vagina more ready and lubricated which will make it hurt less. Apart from that there is really little you can do to stop it hurting her, its just something that happens. It might be okay for her, some girls it hurts and some girls it's just a little bit uncomfortable.
Just keep asking her if shes okay and ask if she wants you to stop.
Hope i helped!
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It is most likely gonna hurt her no matter what but fingering her first can help to get her ready. Also, going slow and not too hard at first is also good. Ask her ever once in a while if she wants you to stop because it can get very painful for her.
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Just so you know, that's very sweet.
Anyways, it is going to hurt her a little, and the best thing for you to do is suggest lubrication (like KY Jelly) and finger her right before. The fingering will loosen her up and make the idea of going up there easier, and the KY Jelly will help with the natural lubrication that is usually not there when a girl first has sex because of the stress of the whole thing. Really, all you can do is go slow, and ask her if you want her to stop. Just let her guide the speed and penetration, because it's a lot more painful on her. Trust me.
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Well the trick is to make her feel loved and make her very "horny" so that she is well lubracated and wont hurt as much. No matter what it is going to be a little bit painful to her. Just go slow until you both feel comortable. Or better yet.Just wait.
good luck =]
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My best advice to you is for you to wait! I'm not sure how old you are, but it is going to hurt her no matter what and if you wait you will minimize the emotional hurt, but the physical hurt will be the same. I wish I could tell you there was some magic way for you to make it great for her, but there just isn't.
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