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hey everyone! You can call me elle. I absolutley love helping people so i hope you will come to me if you need anything!!! i'm into acting and i have an agent...its my passion and i've been surrounded by it my whole life. also, if anyone is depressed or anything i'm a good person to ask how to deal with it. i myself went through that sort of pain and came out the other end a better person. i'm here for everyone...anytime you need me! thanks!!!
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so today is me and my boyfriends 1 year 6 months anniversary, and last night i had a dream that i cheated on him with his best friend! i was crying and upset in the dream, but why did i dream that? what does it mean?
while im sure that there are SOME meanings behind CERTAIN dreams, i do not believe that all of them have subtext. your dream could mean a number of things...maybe you're scared your bf is cheating on you, or maybe you're scared you can't handle the relationship, or...now seriously think about this...maybe you have feelings for your bf friend. if all of that isn't the meaning then you really don't have to worry. dreams are dreams...they are just your brain finding a way to amuse itself until you wake up. i mean, seriously, i had a dream a man was throwing cows at me..hehe...i dont think that has any kind of significance.(unless i secretly ave a fear of flying cows or something...ha)...and now that ive shown just how much of a geek i am, i'll finish with this. think about it...who cares about the dream? i mean, as long as you dont REALLY cheat on him then ABSOLUTLEY nothing is wrong! dont worry! seriously! hope i helped!
i really like this boy but he likes kind of the preppy girls and im not like that he knows that i like him but all he cares is to make fun of me, kind of
i really want ot change my personality and i dont know were to start can u help me?
first off...i get where you're coming from. i'm not preppy either. honestly, when i was younger i used to be..but as i grew older i realized it just wasn't making me happy being that way..something wasn't right..i wasn't myself. slowly, i changed into the person i am today..and i could not be more happy about it. i'm sure you're expecting to hear from me that you shouldn't change ...after all, lets be real here, thats what most people will tell you. i'm not gonna tell you that though...on the contrary...people (everyone in the world) are constantly changing..wheather they realize it or not...some change for good and some for bad.i myself, can find a flaw or something that truley makes me uncomfortable with myself and strive to change it...gradually. its just not something you do over night...bottom line. remember when you watched a movie when you were younger and wanted to be like the person in the movie or on t.v.? and then you tried to change yourself...by the end of the day ya just couldn't do it...because it wasnt you. lol...or maybe that was just me...either way, its similar to what you're asking me now...you see, although tiny tweaks of yourslef can be good... drastically changing your attitide for whatever reason isnt.i mean sorry, it just won't work...and its not healthy. even if you had strong enough will power to make it last a while...it would eventually drive you crazy, and mark my words..would spiral you into a painful world of depression. and about the boy,i know its so hard likeing someone who makes fun of you or dosen't like you back...and its also hard to admit what im about to say...as generic and over used as this expression is..hes not worth it! anyone and i mean anyone who would dare make you feel insecure enough to make you not want to be who you are isn't worth anything. wait...please, you will find someone who makes you feel so happy to be who you really are. and, not to be horrible here, but usually the guys who go for the preppy girls think about getting laid every second of every day..and you dont want someone to like you just for that. think about it...how compleatly dususting is it he would make fun of someone in the first place...can you say insecure about himself? and thats not a good thing either. time heals everything..you can't be with someone who does this to you. here is the best advice i could give you...if you have to ask someone other than yourself the question you asked me then something isn't right, something is outta line, and you've hesitated too long about this...move on to the other millions of boys in the world...belive me...there are SOME decent ones still left. lol. think about what i said, okay. it may not be exactly what you want to hear but you have to admit it makes a lot more sense then going crazy over something that in retrospect dosen't even matter. hope i helped you!
I was recently dumped and have absolutely lost my appetite. I don't want to eat, move or do anything at all. Is this depression?
first off...and you're prob. tired of hearing this but i'm very sorry..he must not have been worth it because everything happens for a reason, even if it may not seem like it right now. i know that sounds like bull shit but i can honestly say from experience,its true..wheather its god or the universe or a higher being that none of us know about..whatever accually exists does things in our best interest. now, about the loss of appetitie...its very normal...believe me i have two other sisters and a brother,all of which are much older than me and if i hadn't had gotton to watch thier love so-called-trageties before i hit teen years im not sure i could have survived my love life. i get u though..when i found out who i thought was the love of my life had cheated on me i felt so numb..like i had absolutley no emotion left in my body. i felt like eating had become a chor..i just bsimply didn't want to do it anymore. and yes...it may feel like depression but its not. i've been through depression..its a whole lot worse and i know what you're thinking..how could anything be worse than this but there are things. you're suffering from the heart break blues basically and as shitty as it is to hear now..time heals everything..eventually your heart will mend and you'll be ok..i promise! you'll find someone thats accually worth your time,even if you thought this guy was the one and can't stand me talking about him this way. but i promise you..listen to some angry chick music and cry and let it out then decide to get up and move on..no matter how hard it is..you'll get through it..and im hear if ya need to talk..i hope i could help..please let me know!
ok,i really need to build up my confidence,personality,and stuff like that. i feel like i want to change,for me,to feel better about myself. i want to be able to yell and scream and have fun,not care. what i need help is, how can i do all this***? how can i break down my wall i've had up for so long?
wow..when i read this i had a total flash back..seriously. it really wasn't all that long ago that i had the trouble of getting myself out there and showing people that im not just some shy little girl that they thought i was. i hated thinking i wouldn't be thought as someone "fun" and couldn't release things by yelling or just having a great time running around and being crazy, which was ultimatley what i really wanted to do. a lot of that comes with age..you learn not to care what people think of you,therefore you can be as crazy as you want without feeling wierd about it. then again, that must sound like a pretty crappy piece of advice...so im gonna try and help you get this done now. first off, scream..i know i know...just run outside, do the craziest dance you can and screm like you're in a really bad horror movie..lol...that'll be your way of telling yourself you're ready..now, just do it! maybe have a party or sleep over where you can do stupid games or something..that'll definaley give people different perspective on you...once you show them 1 time..the'll expect it always..it will work if you really want this. hope i helped! let me know!
me and my boyfriend were talking and he said that him and his ex gf had a scare where she was pregnant.. She wasn't but they got that scare so they had to take a test for her. Anyways he said "we thought she was pregnant but that was before we had sex" He said its possible to get pregnant wtihout really having sex. Am I really confused can someone help me out please.
while its not very likley, it is possible. normally, you have to have full blown out sex to get pregnant,right? but...sometimes...when you are fooling around and he cums on the outside it can get near your vagina and go in. its really rare but its not impossible. hope i could help!
I steal and I cheat and i LIE and I hack and do bunch of illegal stuff and i ususally do this to the people that actually trust me (which isnt a lot of people these days) and i don't know how to stop it or what to do, i want to becoma a good person with good karma, bu it just doesn't work. Has anyone ever turned their life around COMPLETELY? for the better.. and how'd you do it?
i have turned my life around. not in the same way but i've definatley done that. personally, i've never stolen anything or cheated but changing your life is changing your life nevertheless. I was a compulsive lyer and also extreamly depressed to the point were i didn't ever get out of bed. It's definatley hard to change but it can happen..and you'll come out on the other sude a better person. Go to a support group or accually go to a doctor and they can usually talk to you about everything and that really helps. they also make medicine for that stuff! hope i helped!
Like many people in high school living in a cold area, Im obsessed with summer. I cant wait. I look back at last summer (most amazing time of my life) and I want that so bad. I cant focus on anything but getting out of school and getting crazy. Is this normal or am I like the only one? Because none of my friends are as excited/anxious about summer as me. Theyre excited to go skiing..Anyway, I think I may have seasonal depression. What do I do about all this?!
no! you are not the only one! last summer was the best summer of my life! not only was it warm and beautiful but i met the love of my life and got to hang out with the best people in the world! I don't know about you but i hate school! I love my friends but some of the people there...are idiots! Its just one of those things you have to deal with,right? Most of the people love going to school every day but me, I just want it to be over so I can have the next best summer of my life. You arn't alone! I'm sure we'll be able to stick it out..until then, I'm still daydreaming of the last day of school right beside you!
13/f
hey...i have a question. I am a really outgoing person and really nice to everyone. Soemtimes though, i get really mad over little things cry from it. I later realise how small it was. I get moodswings alot and really angry sometimes. I cut myslef sometimes when im REALLY upset but not always. I just wanted to know from ANYONE how can i deal with my temper? When im mad what can i do? I either punch the wall or break something and i know thats not right. I take a deep breath and count to 10 but that doesnt work. I tried writing it down on paper but im afraid my mom will find it because she always gos through my room. I get depressed Sometimes and i really dont want to go to a doctor about it or anything because true say, the problem is usually small. Can anyone tell me a way to control this anger?
Please and thanks alot
I understand the anger issue. beleive me, I've had my fair share of outburts! my guess is that your under a lot of stress maybe more than you even relize and thats whats causing this. if not, there may be a deeper issue, in which case you should probably get checked out, even though you don't want to. its as easy as going to the school nurse and your mom dosn't even have to know about it. i get that you don't want to see a doctor though, i felt the same way about depression and anger...i just wanted answers, not some person in a white coat analyzing me.So we'll leave that as a last resort. For me, when i feel an out burst coming (fyi: this sounds ridiculous but really does work!), i imagine myself petting a cat or dog,just an animal that i really love. It works because it helps to lower your blood pressure,which helps to calm you down long enough to get a grip. i get why the breathing thing dosen't work. having to breath hard with something that feirce running through your body is just a sucky technique becasue it almost makes you hypervenilate,which makes you freak out, which adds to the feeling of anger. try the petting thing and if you want something else,scream into your pillow...again sounds stupid,but you'd be surprised how easy it is and how much better you feel. i'm going to say something becasue i truley want to help you and I hope you'll listen...DO NOT CUT YOURSELF!! Beleive me, depression is hard enough without adding wounds. They just hurt and don't solve anything! There are far better ways to take care of this than by cutting! Thats not healthy, and i know what your thinking, its too hard to stop but if you do i promise it'll be that much eaiser to control what you're feeling! trust me! I only want to help! Don't fuel the anger. Let me know how it goes!
okay,here is the scenario
i met this gal on the net,so what happens is that it is a chatroom,right,and we chat and soon find that we share the same interest and all that.we did not have cyber sex and it was just pure talk,later she sent me her photo and her msn.we soon had a great chat,but she has never seen me before.she then confessed her feelings to me on one night so here's my question:
1)does it count as love when a gal says she loves you when she has never seen you before,but loves your personality,chatting with you and everything else.
don't ask why i did not sent her my pic yet,i'm working on it,but i just wanna ask if it counts as love or not till this point where she doesn't know how i look like but likes my personality and other stuff.
ok,personally,i've never been into the whole meet someone from a chatroom and build a relationahip thing but I'm certainly not saying its all bad.I know people in my life who have started talking to someone online and it has worked out for them..and also people who its not worked out so well for. truthfully, I think this ones you're own feeling toward the subject. I mean, who am i to say shes not in love with you..i've never met her and don't know anything about her so she could be the kind of person who can connect with someone without meeting them but then again, maybe shes not. I have a question for you..do you trust her? I mean, chatrooms are made especially to get people to think they know each other better than they really do. If you think you have a valid reason to beleive she knows you through your words then great for you, but i'm here to tell you it dosn't always work that way. personally, i don't think i could fall in love with someone i've never met..thats just my perspective. But i can't possibly begin to speak for this girl. Who am i to ruin love if its accually there. You've never met this girl,and you may never meet her...who knows if its accually safe to. This is a pure from the heart dicision. to me, i have to know a person well enough but who knows, love works in misterious ways and no 2 people are the same when it come down to it. Someone once said you should beleive the person the first time until they give you a reaon not to and thats exactly what i'm telling you. You're lucky to find someone who cares for you so much but be careful, a heart is an easy thing to break. If you decide to trust, be aware of the consicuences. Hope i could help!
im a sophomore... soo this guy who i met last year and talked to him sometimes during school... well i ran into him a few times sometime after school started back this year, and after a little bit he started runnin outta class to see me in the halls, would come by my locker after school to talk to me and walk with me to the bus, and call me every night sometimes numerous times if i didnt answer, for like at least a month straight. i was never mean to him i was always nice and stuff but all of a sudden he quit callin, quit comin to talk to me, and is giving me the cold shoulder. he'll walk right by my locker without even looking at me, and the other day when he passed me i walked up behind him and tapped him on the shoulder to say hey and happy birthday and he was just like 'what!?' when i tapped him.. so i was like well fine then i was just gonna say happy birthday... and he still didnt say anything else so i walked on. whats up with this?
dont say talk to him because obviously he's not talking to me haha and we werent really good friends to begin with anyway so honestly i really dont care but im jw what that behaviors about.
and also i dont have feelings for him at all incase youre wondering.
alright...heres the thing, sometimes when people have feelings for someone else they tend to do things like that(running out of class to see you..etc)If i had to guess,he prob. have a lot of romantic feelings about you and because you have none for him,it prob. hurt his pride a little. i know what it feels like to like someone and not have them like you back..it hurts..so i understand why hes doing this. don't worry though, hes just trying to save whatever self asteem he has left..and its not your fault by ANY means..so don't think that if you do. i remember being very frustrated,angry,and hurt..but i got over it. now me and the guy are best friends. just give him time..time heals everything..and eventually, he'll get over it and himself and stop acting like such a baby! hope i helped! tell me how it goes!
15/f. i've recently found out that i get crushes on people waaay too easily and quickly. like today we had a field trip and on of the guys that was new this year who is friends with a lot of girls i talked to the first time. he is really nice and funny and we stayed together the whole time on the field trip and sat next to each other for two of the presentations and at lunch. it is so weird because i just basically met him but i've started to like him. i know that he doesn't suspect anything because he is friends with like a lot of girls because he is easy to talk to. and we got each others numbers and screen names, but that doesn't really mean anything to him. what can i do to stop getting crushes on guys so easily.
also i started out being friends with this "punkish" guy that is bi. he is so nice and even though i'm kinda girly, i've kinda started to like him. i know that i have no chance with him because 1) he likes older people, and 2)people would probably make fun of us. what can i do to stop liking him. i'd much rather just be friends with him.
thanks!
the thing about being 15 is, thats what we do! we get crushes on people we barly even know or people we have a strong connection for one day..thats perfectly normal.guys are a very important part of our lives and looking for the right one and hoping he'll be the one you want all the time makes a lot of sense because smart girls like us know that they really could be the one we want! keep doing your thing...its the only way to find someone you truley care about and beleive me,when you do its the best feeling in the world!!!also, when you find that person,you'll stop looking and falling for those other guys. until then,enjoy the fact that you are free to date and go out with whoever you like that way!!! thats half the fun!!!about your guy friend, you just have to tell yourself it won't work..that is,if you truley beleive it won't. personally, i wouldn't care about what others think...i mean..why should those people care..its your life,ya know! i also know that although he may like older people that he won't nessisarily always go for them. if you really don't think its worth a try, exept it and move on. you can't help who you like but once you except it,time heals everything..and thats a promise!hope i could help!
How do you go about getting tested for depression? What do they do?
Because I'm tired of being unhappy.. I have been feeling like this for years and I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.
Do pills really help making you "happy" or is it just a waste of time?
I just want to be happy again..
I can't do anything I like anymore. I oversleep and I'm still tired.. All I want to do is lay down and I keep canceling plans with friends..
And my confidence is low.. I dont know anymore..
I promise you, I know EXACTLY how you feel!! I'm one to know too...it really sucks! You can't take it anymore and i know you feel increadibly anxious about just getting beeter and feeling happy! I myself would just sleep or lay in my bed and do nothing..it seemed like the only thing close to an escape.I never went out with friends..i didn't care if i saw anyone ever again. When i did, I was very tired and only wanted to get back in bed. I didn't know or care for anything anymore.To answer your question about medicine, it really depends who you are and what kind of depression you have. Normally, docters or whoever diagnoses you with depression will just ask you whats wrong and if your sleeping habbits have changed..stuff like that. Depending on how you respond,they'll probably test your blood and see what comes up so they know what kind of depression you have. Yes, medicine tends to work but seeing as i don't know you and have never talked to you personally i don't know if it will in your case. Its better to try then not to. Beleive me, it made me feel tons better! I'll be here to help anytime if you want to talk! just ask!!!I wish no one had to go through the pain i went through so i hope you get better as soon as possible!! Hope i could help!
Ok so i'm 15/m
Ok right, is it ok for a guy to straighten his hair ? Because i straighten my fringe..because it luks stupid without it straightened, but i don't think many people realise i do. Anyway, one person in my class made a comment about how only gay guys straighten their hair :| and i was..:(..because i'm not gay.
Do you think it is right/wrong ?
of course it isn't wrong! I'm sure whoever that person was made the comment to distract people from there imperfections or nervousness about something. Just because you straigten your hair dosn't mean you're gay..even if you were it wouldn't matter but all the same...atleaste you're trying to make yourself look good. A lot of guys just wake up,put pants on and are out the door. I think its great that you care enough about your appearence to straighten your hair...i promise you..theres nothing at all wrong with that!!!Just think, girls are usually very attracted to guys who take good care of themselves..in whatever way. Just keep doing your thing!..you'll have the girls all over you and you'll look good at the same time!It dosn't matter what other people say.
Ok Take Me Serious..I May Sound Selfish But I Dont Care..
Im relaly considering giving up life, ive nearly died so many times. Someone wants me dead..
My ex tried to kill me..
Everyone walks over me..Hurts me once comes back for more and hruts me again
I cant handle life any longer Its killing slowly id rather get it over and done with :'(
take a second..step back and breath! i've been were you are and even though you prob. don't beleive it, i know how you feel. if you are feeling like the world is out to get you,i promise they arn't. its almost hard for me to say that because i still feel like they are from time to time. DO NOT KILL YOURSELF!! I SWEAR to you thats the worst thing you could do. no matter what,life goes on. ask your parents if you can transfer schools..do something! you can't take people walking all over you..its not right! i used to get walked all over too..i was very insecure and emotional..and thought about how much i wished it could just end. it gets better! as you get older and things change..it gets SO much better!!! i promise!! i also promise that no matter what, i'm here for you! i'll help you anyway i can to get you out of this awful place you are in,emotionally. please remember that life is worth so much more than its given credit and you have to stay alive and keep fighting. i have no dobt you will turn out to be an increadibly strong person in the end! keep talking to me!i'm a friend to turn to no matter what!hope i could help!
ok. my mom made me go to see a therapist when i was about 9 or 10, and he diagnosed me with depression. ever since them i have been going to a counseler every other week. ive been on an anti-depressant for maybe 4 years now, and nothing has changed. im always depressed and i feel hopeless. i really just want to die so i dont have to deal with all this crap, but i would NEVEREVER kill myself. i just wouldnt be able to do it. i just cant handle the pain and sadness anymore. please help me! i know there is nothing that will fix this, but i need suggestions. i really want to stop hating my life!!
wow...and it just got more clear as why you are depressed. you truley are a contender! i commend you for everything and how well you are handeling this! yes,i beleive you do have somewhat of situational depression. i'm so sorry for everything your life has thrown at you and i wish you the very best! i promise you that you'll come out so strong and i'll be here helping you! i wish i could help you more! i'll do my best! hope i could help!
Hey everyone! On Tuesday my whole grade is going to a theatre to see a Christmas Carol. We are supposed to dress nice because we are representing our school, except nobody actually told us how nice we are supposed to dress. So my question is, what type of clothes should I wear so I look nice if people dress up but I don't look too weird if people don't dress up. Thanks in advanced &hearts
thats an easy one! trust me, theatres my life and i know exactly how to dress for it. 1)you can never go wrong with skirts and tops. 2) theres no need to get ALL decked out unless you are going to a broadway show or something like that so save the fancy dresses for another occasion 3)to be diffrent..find a skirt and top thats a little funky and cute..if your cute then people rarley think twice about what your wearing. 4)be unique...you don't want to look like everyone else...aim to be the best dressed..people will admire you and you'll have a wondeful time at the show. oh! and pick something comfy..it sucks when you sit there cute but in pain! hope i could help!
there is this boy at my school who really likes me. and alot of people keep coming up to me and asking me do i go out with him. the problem is that one of my friends told me that he has a girlfriend. what i don't understand is how he has a girlfriend and flirts with me everyday?!! my friend said that she would ask him if he broke up with her, but she never got the chance. i was wondering if i should just back off before i know if he still has a girlfriend? because i'm not trying to fight over some boy who is coming on to me.
good for you! men arn't worth getting all worked up over unless its in a good way. what you need to know is, most of the time, it won't be in a good way. i've been cheated on once in my life and i'm still getting over it. if a boy thinks he can flirt with one girl and go out with another then he has some serious issues. the good news is, he hasn't tried anything with you..and if he does..don't let it happen! think about how the other girl would feel if something went too far.now, i know thats diffrent from what your asking but what i'm saying accually had a lot to do with this. yes, back off until you know his relationship statis...you could end up herting many people,including yourself if you don't.i'm not saying be mean about it but don't let another man in the world play around with girl's feeling! hope i could help!if he dosn't have a gf then thats another story..now isn't it.
ok. well in class my teacher who is kinda old droped some pop sickle sticks and i decided to pick them up for him and i pick them all up and give them to him. these stick were under an all guys table and they were all laughing for some reason and this guy ray grabed my arm and said my teacher was looking at my butt and stuff and the whole table of guys were laughing. now i didnt really believ it becuz 1. im not a **** and i dont wear the short short skirts. and 2 i was at an angle so i didnt think he saw anything but why were they laughing?? Now next question. im 13 years old and i know teens like me dont truly flirt yet but how do girls my age flirt. in our own way. im in the 8th grade by the way. and what do guys really like to see in girls?? also. we were on my felid trip. and my friend sat in one seat and i sat in the other next to her and we were by ourselves because we were trying to save seats for friends. then there were these guys nick and his friend collin who i like. and nick told me and my friend:he was talking to my friend and said scoot over so she did and then he told me to scoot over and he pulled collin by the arm and pushed him into my seat so he would be next to me. what does that mean and collin is a guy where sometimes he doesnt really want to talk to somepne or be by someone and im trying to talk to him more because most of the time he is just like stay away from me and he stands in the corner by himself and ill go over and talk to him but hes not a geek. he has tons of friends and all the gilrs talk to him. he talks to me more than he does with anybody but when nick pushed him into my seat he didnt say anything it was like he really didnt mind and then my friend was like how about i sit with Brianna and you guys can sit together and nick said fine but collin said nothing. so what does all of this mean?? thanx!!
good question! alright...i'm older than you and i know what your feeling because i've gone through it. everyone your age is still figuring out who they are(as dumb as that sounds)and a lot of time guys who are 13 think they have to act a certain way. now, i don't know who these guys are personally but i know what guys were like when i was 13. you want to know how to flirt?..try something like..for instance, when he said all that stuff about your teacher you could have replied with "Why are you so concerned about who looks at my butt? oh! its probably becasue no one looks at yours and you're jeleous..poor thing..keep hoping,someone might glance at it one day"..now i know you arn't a **** but thats a good way coming back and not sounding dirty. More than likley, the other guys at the table will side with you (and admire you for it) after a witty remark like that.sassy and not mean is the way to go at your age. now, about the other guy, if i had to guess..yeah, he prob. has a crush on you..weather he'll admit it or not. just remember, guys at that age are weird about relationships so don't be surprised if hes all over the place about this sort of stuff. just keep living life..sooner or later the guys will mature and everything will be a lot eaier.Hope i helped!
does anybody know where i can get the earlier seasons of friends [seasons 1-3] the cheapest?!
i have every season of friends and if i remember correctly, i got them form borders. if your looking for cheap though, i've seen them at walmart. look online too, a lot of the time there are people selling movies and what not. hope i helped!
Well I met this guy at the dog park. He's incredible, and we totally hit it off. Then, this afternoon, we made plans to meet again, and we did, and though we didn't talk as much (there were other people there we were talking to) I had an incredible time. He's one of my myspace friends, should I message him and tell him I had fun, or would that be wierd? Should I wait a while? How long should I wait to see if he wants to hang out again?
Also I'm 18 and he's 24, do you think he'll think I'm too young? Ah this is so crazy I'm so infatuated with him.
GO FOR IT!!! i bet he feels the same. fyi: i'm 5 years younger than my bf and we're going strong so you arn't too young! tell us how it goes