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i have now discovered that even though girls say they want genuinely nice guys they chase after assholes, who do nothing but treat them badly. but why do girls still do it. (link)
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Not all girls do that...Just the not so smart ones. It's because girls feel the need to be important and think that if they can change the guy then they have done something important. It's hard to give a detailed answer for this question because every girl is different but that's the main idea of it. Hope I helped!
~Mae
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So i'll be turning 18 in a few months. Four actually. I've gone up and down with my weight like crazy. It's always made me self conscious, I don't feel I'm attractive at all. My old psychologist said it might ave something to do with past abuse and bullying, verbal and such. I'm sure that's it. Anyways, the past year was terrible my family broke apart. Long story short. I haven't spoken to my mom in about a year. I live with my father and my older sister and her boyfriend. We've moved to a new town far from my old one, and basically lost all my friends. Eh, the few I had. I don't care about making new ones right now. I just want to be able to leave my home. Go for peaceful walks, and not feel like everyone's eyes are on me. I feel like I'm repulsive and everyone knows about my Eating disorders. I've been trying to gain more weight, I'm well under weight. I haven't cut in over 2 years, but have been having VERY strong urges. Instead I just pick my face. Which I've been trying to stop as well. It just makes me feel terrible after, I try to eat, but I fear of getting fat and uglier. I went out for a 20 minute walk today, a miracle. But the whole time my heart was racing like a a million times per second. And I couldn't stop sweating or jittering. I felt so awkward and out of place, as people drove by. I tried my best not to make eye contact, and focused on my music. But I started to get anxious and my chest began to tighten, so I went back home. I ran home. It made me feel so pathetic and like such a freak. :(
I didn't even realize how anti social I became in the last year, I feel like a loser. It's very upsetting. When I'm home I get anxious 'cause my sister works from 6 am to 7 pm when she comes home she's tired and doesn't want to talk or do anything. Her boyfriend doesn't like me I think. It's not just an assumption, I can feel the tension as it layers the air with awkwardness. So I try to stay in my room. But that also frustraits me. I look after our pets and plants most of the time, I cook alot. But for them, I barely eat anything I make. I try to, it's very healthy too, But if I eat too much (or what I think maybe too much) I start gagging, I'm trying to fight it but it's very hard. It doesn't help the fact that my other older sister that is big and losing weight, keeps blabbing about how much she works out and how the fat is just melting off. I tell her, yeah I been there and done that, I'm still thin you know. But she teases me, playfully I suppose. Like I don't know, you're guts sticking out a bit. Which right after I fast for two days on water alone, and then feel terribly faint the rest of the week. I try to talk to my sisters and my dad but they don't understand. They say just eat and you'll be fine. I wish it was that easy. I hate myself so much. I've been meditating a lot, I'm very spiritual and practicing cleansing and healing with spirituality and herbs. It's helped me a lot, I believe in it. It keeps me a live.
Anyway, I would appreciate any advice, on getting rid of this...what bothers me is when I leave my home, I feel fat and ugly and like everyone's eyes are on me. Which I know isn't the case but, it's an overwhelming sensation. I've been more critical lately towards my weight, since the reason our family fell apart, is do to my mother having the by pass surgery, she went from 279 to 135. She looks 60 now and I hate it, it scares me and makes me feel upset. After her weight loss, she cheated on my dad, in public. She made it known. Everyone in our town knew. It's made so. I'm not sure. I wish I could sleep and wake up on a boat in the sea, so far away from everyone and everything.
I'm sorry if this is long. I don't know where else to turn, or to vent.
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It sounds like the problems you had have caused this. not just the bullying in school but what happened with your mom. Remember you are not her. You are probably smarter, you would never throw away a relationship like that would you? So you can't compare yourself to her.
Try eating really healthy stuff first. Convince your body that eating healthy is good for you. Believe that everything will be better if you work towards your goal. Then start eating more food each day. Just a little more don't push yourself to much because I understand that this is hard enough. I know that your sister may be tired when she gets home but you need your family's suppport to work through this. Tell her 'I'm sorry I know your probably tired but I need your help with something...'
Connect to yoru family more because you need to be able to trust their advice, their help. You need to know that these people have your back for sure and believe in you. Try to explain to them that this is important to you and that you don't want to feel like this anymore. Good Luck! YOu can always inbox me if you need any support!
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Ok,so i know asking this probably isn't going to get me anywhere as people feel too morally obliged not to answer a question like this but i'll give it a go nonetheless. The thing is,i am considering the possibility of claiming my own life very serious as of late and would like to know what would be the most efficient way to go about it.I'm not going to try and justify my considering this but i would really appreciate an honest answer.I realise asking this puts anyone who reads this in a very awkward position and i am very sorry for that,all i need are just a few simple suggestions. (link)
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DON'T DO IT!! Plz don't. I may not know you, but I know that there are people who love you in this world somewhere that would say the same thing. When my aunt commited suicide, I was only six. She went missing for a month and then they found her body in a river. I was so hurt by it I couldn't imagine why someone would do that. Was I a bad person? Did she not love me? Did she not care about me? I still get upset about sometimes and it takes everything I have in me to pull myself together. Please, please, PLEASE do not do this. I can't imagine how people close to you would feel. Whenever you start thinking about suicide just think about your funeral. Think about the people who love you crying. You don't want that do you? Live a full life and keep yoru head up because whatever your going through, it will get better. Believe me.
~Mae
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So..
I've been writing this book..that I love writing..but when people comment on my work saying I have a good topic, and it's a good story..yet I need to work on my grammar. It's the simple things that I'm not doing right..like putting the comma's in the right place..and there, their and they're.
>.< I'm going to be in advanced English and I don't want to lose even more of my self esteem x.x
Please, and thank yah. :3 (link)
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Congratulations! I hope your story get's published so I can read it, I love reading. I think that grammer is a big problem when writing, people need to understand it right? Advanced English should help you figure a few things out btu here are some tips:
-Make flash cards and leave them lyign around the house. Then when you walk by them you'll see it and have to figure out stuff like "Where sould the comma go?" or whatever. After a while you usually just end up memorizing it and making sense of it. Comma's can be entered when you want to enter extra writing but do not need a period, like right now.
-I always had trouble with the there, their, they're thing. I always think of their because it has an I in it. I kind of used the I to represent it. The opposite of me having something is them having something (hope that makes sense). So i and their kinda went together for me. You can use flash cards for this to. Put the word on one side and the meaning on the other, after a while you'll have the correct meaning for the correct word!
-Whenever I use they're I always check to see if it makes sense if I use 'they are' instead because they're is the abbreviation.
Don't let what others say get to you either. Just know that you are a creative person and can accomplish anything you put your mind to. Good Luck!
~Mae
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My name is B.
18/F
I met this guy when I was doing some volunteer work. He is 3 years older than I am, and absolutely perfect because he has major respect and we have all the same values. I feel this could go somewhere. I constantly get scared when it comes to opening up in a new relationship because of past relationships. How can i prevent myself from getting so scared and ruining everything? We have the same wants in life, and we want the same career even though he will get it much sooner than I will. We both are on our way to becoming Police Officers, and I find that a plus because we both know a lot, him more, but I find great potential in this and I just don't want to be scared. HELP! (link)
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Think about your past relationships. Are those people any thing like this person? This guy sounds perfect for you, congratulations. Take a leap of faith, and trust him to help you feel better. If he really is perfect for you he will understand that you might be scared or want to take things slow. There's nothing to be scared of when someone you love is by your side. :)
~Mae
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I am 14 and i think i started my period becuz my underwear got stained of blood so i think i did buttt is it normal 2 get your period like today and not the next day (link)
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It is really normal for that to happen and it does all the time. Especially if yoru period just started within that year. For a year about =, yor period won't regulate. You might have one day periods, skip a month all together, or have a period that feels like it's going on forever. I reccomend keeping track of your period on a mini calender so after a while you will find a pattern and be able to tell when your periods coming. Good Luck!
~Mae
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how do you know if your in a real relationship? (link)
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You can't always know if your in a real relationship. There are some ways to know if your in a fake relationship though.
-They shouldn't be scared to tell their friends your dating, or hold hands in public.
-You should be able to really talk to them. They should know your secrets, what your scared of.
^^You should be able to trust them with these secrets. To know that they won't tell anyone else and they should also share their secrets to. Relationships work with a give-a-little-take-a-little kinda way.
You also kind of have to hope. Things could be going great and suddenly go wrong. It could seem like there is no hope and suddenly be the best tiem of your life.
With relationships you kinda have to jump, and hope for the best. Now, I could go on for hours and am sure your already broed. So I'll leave it at that and if you need any other help, inbox me! Good Luck!
~Mae
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I told my ex boyfriend to get his actions together then ill consider going back out with him but now i don't want to date him anymore what do i do? (link)
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You told him you would consider, you don't have to accept. Saying things like "I need time alone" or "i want to date different types of guys, and find my type" will work, but they may still get angry. Saying "Let's just be friends for awhile" will you help get to know them better well keeping your options open. Good Luck with what you choose to do though! :)
~Mae
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A friend of mine constantly changes guys. The thing is, she will only talk to them for a few days and think she is "in love" with them. I try to explain to her that she is not. Currently, she is stuck on a guy from another part of the state and she calls him her boyfriend and says she loves him and cannot go on without him. How can I give her a reality check without checking out of our friendship? (link)
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This is actually really normal. And being her friend, you can't attack her for it. She's trying to figure out what type of guy she wants to spend her life with. If you tell her that she shouldn't date guys that she's "in love with". She's just going to hate you for it. Just stick it out and wait for the phase to end. At the end of this, you'll be closer to her than ever before. Good Luck!
~Mae
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Is clearasil oil free daily face wash a good product to use? Cause I just got this evening and used it a few hours ago and my friend has it and her skin is very clear. I don't have too many pimples but I'm a 13 year old girl so it's my age too but I want something that works and it's probably too soon to tell but it looks a little bit better than before. So any advice on this or other skin products is good! Thank youu! :) (link)
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I used to get pimples all the time and then found this really cheap product called St.Ive's Apricot Scrub. Your face feels better after using it and it has little dots in it that rub against your face and takes away the dead skin. Your face seriously glows after using it.
Of course, all skin is different the St.Ives product that I use is made for sensitive skin. Just because a product works for one person doesn't mean it will work for everyone. You should try different products for a few months and decide which is the best from those. Good Luck! :)
~Mae
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Okay, so for about five years now, I've been having numbing, aching pains from the center of my palm all the way down to my elbow and it's only on the underside of my arm. I use my hands to type a lot since I am a writer. Recently, the pain has turned a bit sharp in my wrists every so often if I don't stop to stretch my hands or crack my knuckles. Is pausing to stretch every so often good to make sure I don't get carpol tunnel syndrome? Because I've been told that I have a chance of getting it since I over use my hands. I type all day long from when I wake up until I go to bed.
Also, I've had the pain in my arms get so bad once that I had to leave school because I couldn't lift my arms or hold a pencil. My teacher told me I should've gone straight to the hospital, but my dad didn't want to take me... Should I have gone? (link)
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YES! You should've gone to the hospital then, and I still think you should go now. Because your using your hands so much and already feel this pain, you could already have carpol tunnel syndrome.
Just a little extra help.....when typing, it may be better to use and arm supporter cushion (do you get what I mean) to prevent putting presssure on your wrists from leaning against the desk or table.
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i am 13 and everyone i know (including girls younger than me) have bigger breasts than me. is there anyway to help stimulate their growth? big boobs run in my family ( my sister has DD's!) but apparently not me. am i normal? (link)
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I'm the same age as you and all my friends make fun of me for my size! Don't worry, you'll grow more. It runs in your family so you shouldn't have a problem.
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Ok so here is the situation, my sister and I are best friends like we are really close. I'm the oldest and recently she did something that I thought was really foolish and very dangerous, so I told on her. My sister is a lot more advanced than me as far as sexual things go (I'm a virgin, she isn't) and so I don't know I think the big sister part of me kicked in. She war really mad at me but she isn't big on holding grudges, Do you think I over reacted by telling on her? (link)
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I think telling on her was kinda childish. If you have a problem with what she is doing tell her. Don't just go tattle on her. I know you were doing what you thought was right, and I'm not saying it wasn't a good idea because you must have felt kind of panicky. Next time, you should think out how she will respond and maybe just discuss with her how you feel about what she's doing and how you feel protective when she does foolish things. Don't let anything get between you, your family! :)
~Mae
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what are some cool ideas to do for crazy hair day? (link)
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For crazy hair days I usually by a temporary dye (like hot pink, purple, or blue). I know a friend (a boy) who went out and bought a hot pink bob wig. Wigs, dye, or crazy updo's just make sure it doesn't feel uncomfortable because you'll have to deal with it all school day! Have fun!
~Mae
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I always felt like it.Have feelings like a bowling ball!! :( (link)
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Depending on the school rules. My school had a no PDA rule (Publc Dispalys of Affection) that was so strict you couldn't even hold hands. Of course, I broke the rule several times. My first kiss was in 7th grade and was amazing! Maybe you should save your first kiss for someone in the future though (like a husband, or long time relationship). Nows your time to decide what kind of person you want to marry in the future, date lots of different kinds of guys. Just go for it!!!!!!! :)
~Mae w/love & expierence
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I have been liking this boy for 11 months now and Im so mad in love with him we are both 11 but Im always getting this feeling that I wanna kiss him but he doesnt wanna hang with me what to do? SOS BIG TIME!! :( (link)
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If he doesn't want you, he don't deserve you. You shouldn't follow him around like a little lost puppy. Go be your awesome self with your friends and he will come around soon.
~Mae :)
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I have a few songs on my mind; Fergie voo doo doll,glamorous Fergie,Wind it up Gwen Stefani,break it off Rihanna,barbie girl Aqua,Sk8ter boi Avril lavigne,and lollipop Aqua,and get the party started by p!nk. Which do you think I should sing,and which ones are school appropriate and irrapropriate? My talent show tryouts are a week from now!!!! (link)
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I'd seen Sk8ter Boi by Avril Lavigne. It's interesting because it's a love song that isn't slow paced like all the other songs of that type. Lot's of people know this song and will love to hear you sing it.
I can't completly help you here though. It depends on your vocal ability. Are you an bass, alto, soprano? What kind of music do you like? Can you push you voice enough to keep up with Avril Lavigne's singing style?
I'm sure you'll do great and wish you lots of luck!!!!!! :)
-Mae♥
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I'm a 20 year old female college student. Please bear with me as this is going to be very long, but I'm in desperate need of help!
I've been working full time at a restaurant similiarly setup like a Chuckie Cheese (pizza & games) for almost a year. I was recently fired by my boss for theft.
To explain the situation, I was considered a lower level manager. I generally worked front counter, however occasionally I worked at the ticket redemption counter in the game room. Everyone I work with manages to come home with handfuls of tokens on a nightly basis. Not neccessarily on purpose, but generally everyone carries tokens with them in order to have access to fix/test games and to give out to children who have fed tokens into a game only to have them not work.
Needless to say, when I would wash my clothes I would always manage to have tokens on me that I would throw on my dresser or into my purse after I got home. Never thought twice about it. Employers there constantly play games with those tokens, add tickets to their accounts or give away tokens to family members when they come in. No one ever mentioned it, and it wasn't something anyone really tried to hide.
One night my boyfriend came into work to eat, and as I was almost finished with my closing duties, he decided to just wait for me to finish and let me take him home. He asked if he could have the tokens from my purse that I had collected, and I told him sure. He played games for a while, and managed to take tokens when I wasn't back there (I was unaware of the fact). He won tickets, and me and a fellow coworker counted them, and fed them into the system like we would with anyone else. The end...or so I thought.
That same night the register came up short on night shift 100 dollars. The person responsible for the money had to either be me, the lower level manager that night, or the dish boy. Needless to say my manager spent all week looking into it, going through paper work and videos trying to find out what happened with the money.
I wasn't worried about it, because I knew it wasn't me. I'm not a thief and I respected my job way to much to ruin it by taking 100 dollars. I would NEVER do that! Turns out, the 100 dollars was my fault though. A person gave me a 100 dollar bill, and for some reason and with serious lack of judgement, I handed the 100 back to him as well as his 90some change. I have no idea what I was thinking, and I knew right then and there I would be fired when my manager showed me the video.
However my manager claims that was not the reason I was fired. She fired me over the tokens in the game room. I find this absolutely ridiculous, but what's done is done. My question is, how much trouble am I in over little fake tokens? She said she's not even shown the tapes to the owner, and she has no idea what he will do. My boyfriend called her and told her that between the two of them if she would drop the situation he would pay her back for the tokens he played games with. She said okay and she appreciated it. I asked my manager before I left if I could use her as a good reference and her exact words were "Yes. You were always on time and never called in. But theft is theft and I can't keep you."
What's going to happen to me? Should I use her as a reference or will she tell prospective employers that I am a theif? Will I go to jail? What should I say on an interview if they ask why I was terminated from my last job? Helppp!? (link)
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I don't think anything will happen to you, as long as your boyfriend payed the company back for the stolen tokens. I would use her as a reference. You can ask her not to say anything about the theft ans explain it was a misunderstanding on your part. You won't go to jail. If your future employers ask why you were fired say there was a mix-up while you were on register duty because that was the main reason she was going over the tapes anyway. You should definately try to point out that other than that mix-up you '...were always on time and never called in....'
Good Luck-Mae♥
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There's a guy at my work who only really talks to me. He seems he likes me but I can't tell. He talks about exes all the time and sometimes other girls. Do guys do talk about that stuff to girls they like or do u think he just thinks of me as a friend? (link)
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I think he considers you a colleague. You guys work together. Your probably the only person there that he finds easy to talk to, or can consider a good work friend so that is why he talks to you. If you like him though, take your chance, you never know. ;-)
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What are good ideas for a talent show?
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Singing is good,however there is always competition. Getting your friends to do some sort of skit with you will make people laugh and like your performance 10x more. Good Luck!
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