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Welcome to my advice column. ...Call me Charis. First of all, before I say anything else, let me say this- I come here to give and get advice, not ratings, not comments. If you rate me, tell me whether or not I was of any help to you. Now, that being said, let me say...I'm not your typical sixteen year old girl. I'm not extremely exciting, brilliant, special, or fascinating in any way. I AM however, insane. =P I fit into several "categories" such as redneck, tomboy, bookworm, dork, and band geek, to name a few. I have a wide variety of intrests, including but not limited to: mythology, philosophy, history, art, literature, political science, religion, role playing, music, and current issues. I love politics, and will never cease to voice my opinion about something. I believe is is very important for people (especially young people) to be involved in the world around them. They need to get out, get active, and have a strong, fact-based point of view on things. I'm a very strong conservative. Die-hard, in fact. But I do have friends all over the political scale- democrats, republicans, libertarians...everything, except maybe communist. x_x I support President Bush, and I have an opinion on almost everything and anything political, because I'm good like that. I don't put my email up on sites any more because I get hate mail when someone disagrees with me. I don't mind people having their own opinions, but I refuse to have to put up with some unhinged, crazed maniac who's only goal when writing his/her e-mail is to call my vile names, curse at me, and tell me how stupid I am. I don't care what your political view is- liberal or conservative, Democrat or Republican, there're an unhinged left AND an unhinged right, and I don't have the time or patience to put up with either.I'm a strong supporter of the US Army and other branches of the Armed Forces.
I love animals, and I have two Siberian Huskies- named Hailey and Cupid; and an African Dwarf Frog called Aqua. As I said before, I especially love politics, and will never cease to voice my opinion about something. I believe is is very important for people (especially young people) to be involved in the world around them. They need to get out, get active, and have a strong, fact-based point of view on things.
I collect icons. -random-
I've been told numerous times I'm insane, and I really ought to seek professional help. I have a deep, irreversable fear of: The color pink, sharks, and being abducted by aliens only to fall out of their spaceship and be sucked into a black hole (don't ask)...
The world is my playground, and life is the practice run. ^-^
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I've had this acne around my chin for a long time. Probably for half a year or probably longer.. Is there anyway I can get rid of it? What are some good products to make them get white heads?
And also, is there any acne scar fading products? if yes, what are some good ones?
I've had really bad acne..and the scars are bothering me..
There are several prescription drugs you can get from your demetologist. Acutane is what I use for my acne (it works wonders on me) and Rentin-A works pretty good. Most of the over the counter products work, but they don't wrok nearly as well as what you would get from a doctor. You know, toothpaste actually works REALLY well, if it's the baking soda kind. I reccomend, if you're on a budget or something, get a tube of baking soda toothpaste and put a tiny little dollop of toothpaste on the zit and let it sit overnight, and wash it off in the morning.
As for scar products, mederma (spelling?) is supposed to work pretty well as a scar softerner. Things like coco butter, shea butter, and products like Aquaphor healing ointment (available at most local pharmacies like CVS) aslo work.
Hope I helped!
-Avari
I got a blister on the top gum of my mouth now i'm getting another blister at the bottom gum listerine don't help it get rid of it, it just stops hurting for awhile.. what could this be a sign of? and how do i get rid of it? thanks
I got a sore similiar to what I think you have- did the gum get paler and VERY tender? That's what happened to me. Rinsing with Listerene can help, but I also swished the area with salty water [salt is a natural healer] and got another toothbrush with very sift bristles and gently brushed the area. It was gone within days.
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Ok so i asked this before but i need diff. quotes.. this time i need quotes like... just let me tell u my story. Alrighty so my boyfriend and I broke up 5 days ago. He looks like he already moved on he's flirting with other girls etc. And i act really happy in front of him so he doesn't see how much pain im really in. But i wonder if he feels pain 2? I just dont know what to do. But i was wondering if there were any quotes out there that have something to do with this situation or something like im goign to get over you but im always here if you want me or something.. cuz if he asked me back out i'd go out with him but i wanna make it look like i got over him. So anything like that.. Sry so long!
http://www.worldofquotes.com/topic/Love-lost/1/index.html
http://www.worldofquotes.com/topic/Pain/1/index.html
Those probably fit the situation...
17/f ok this is hard to explain I had not seen this guy for over a year and he asked me to meet up in jan we met up and well i fell for him yet again!we used to go to school together. I went to his house but we never had sex i just kissed him. he aparently met a russian girl on holiday and he said to me when i saw him he loved me and only me and he will do anything for me ect. i heard that he was in hospital so i wrote a text to him asking him if hes ok. He answered me with im in hospital with nemonia. So i was like what hospital are You in he never answered i asked again he never answered. So obviously seeing hes wealthy hes in a private hospital so i found out where he was because i guessed and i phoned him up and he was so rude to me he was like dont you think its a bit late at night to be calling me! then i said how are u? ect hes like got nemonia im like yeh thats why im phoning you then i asked him if he would like me to visit him and he said No, then i went ok then and he then put the phone down on me i thought how rude. so the next day i sent a card to the hospital saying get well soon and i never put love on the end i just put from and to his name because if his parents ask he can always say a friend. Anyway i texted him the next day saying how are You i love you im here for you all that sort of thing and hes like im going to have surgery and im being moved to another hospital. Im like ok get well soon then i said are u ok? a day after he said hes having surgery he never answered me for 3 days so i became so worried! But 3 days after i sent the message he said im ok. then ive asked him so many times if he wants me to visit him i also came up with the idea of taking a friend of his with me to see him but when i asked him if he would like me to come with his friend to keep him company! I got the rudest message back which said i don't need cheering up my family does that enough and i have dvds and stuff. I thought ok fair enough but no thank you. no i love u nothing.So now im just going to leave him alone what do you think?? have i done the right thing? someone please help. I will rate high and sorry its long and hard to understand.
He probably just wants to be left alone. In my experience, there's two types of sick people- the kind that wants someone nearby all the time, and the kind who just wants the world to go away until they're better. He sounds like he's the latter kind. I know I am. When I'm sick, my friends are always coming over and are all "Are you okay?" and "get well soon" when, truth be told, I just want everyone to go away.
When he said "i don't need cheering up my family does that enough and i have dvds and stuff," he might just be annoyed becaused he's being smothered with nonstop attention from his family, and nonstop attention can get really annoying, really fast. In addition, he might feel that it would be inconviencing you- that you have to go out of your way to visit him.
If I were you, I'd just leave him alone until he gets better. Ask his parents or siblings to tell him you say hi, and guve him your best wishes, since they're going to be seeing him anyways. Being sick and having a lot of visitors can not only be annoying, but stressful and tiring. Just give him his space, and wait until he's feeling better to talk to him.
Hi, Avari. TheOldOne here.
Sorry you felt insulted in the chatroom; to tell you the truth, it bothers me (obviously, or I wouldn't be writing this).
I don't suppose that we'll ever be able to agree about politics, and that's fine. I find it particularly ironic, since you and I have very similar tastes otherwise; I'm a gamer and SF/fantasy geek too (you can check out my own gaming site at http://www.runequest.org/rq.htm ).
Having said that...there's something in your profile that seems self-contradictory:
"But if you insult me, chances are I'll just leave the chat or not reply to your email."
and
"I'm not going to waste my breath or fingers trying to tell an unhinged liberal why I think they're wrong."
"unhinged liberal"? It seems strange that you'd complain about being insulted, and then in the next sentence make a pretty nasty insult yourself.
It seems to me that you've been accusing liberals of doing things based not on what they're actually doing, but on what you've been TOLD they'll do to you by people like Rush Limbaugh, Hannity, Coulter, etc.
No one insulted you in the chatroom, after all, even after you said that we would. I'm not saying that there AREN'T liberals who will insult you; there are. But I have to say that I see that sort of behavior on all sides, and to be brutally honest there's a lot more of it coming from the right wing these days. After all, they've got almost ALL of talk radio, as well as the vast majority of TV pundit shows.
I'll stop myself here, because I really don't want to get into an argument with you; I know that there isn't much point. Which makes me sad. But in any case, please be aware that there are a lot of patriotic liberals and Democrats out here who don't hate you or America. In fact, we believe that what we advocate is BEST for America.
And, um, you might want to at least separate the "Don't insult me" sentence from the insulting one with another sentence or two. It will look less hypocritical that way. :D
-le sigh- I aslso said "I've taken my email off the display since people keep sending me hate-mail, whether from this site or not, I don't know, but ti doesn;t matter. Because, in my humble opinion, just because I have the opinion I do, doesn't mean I deserve to be cursed at, threatened, and yelled at incoherently. If you can CALMLY tell me your OPINIONS, I'd be happy to respond likewise." I'm a member of serveral other sites, not all of them advice sites, et all. I said I don't know if the people who send me hate maile were from this site or not, so I just took down the thing to my email on them all. Those people are obviously unhinged. There's such a thing as an unhinged Republican, too, imho. I do have liberal friends, but none of them are the kinds of people who would dare sink to the level or shouting mindless insults via e-mail to someone the don't know. Same thing with my conservative friends. Maybe I ought to add that to my profile? ;) I don't mind people debating with me 0in fact, I love it- but on all the other sites I've been to, school, et all, I'm pretty used to the average democrat chewing me out and calling me horrible names...the worst I think I ever try to call anyone is an unhinged physcopath who needs mental help...and I call most of my friends that on a daily basis. (don't get me wrong- I lose my temper, I have insulted people, but I almost always feel terrible about it after I've calmed down)
And I never said anyone there insulted me, but when it was clear I was the only republican, I didn't safe. Like a man standing at a mark, with the whole army ready to shoot at him...sure, the army might not shoot, but it can't be the most comfortable of situation, neh? It's the sort of thing that makes me uncomfortable, to be more or less alone in my opinions, so I said it was probably best if I left, before someone went crazy. Someone might decide..."Hmm..now's a good time to let that proverbial arrow fly" or such a thought might never occur to them, but that doesn't make it any less enjoyable since I can't tell what they're thinking...
In any matter, I hope that...made some sort of sense...what with my tendancy to ramble on and on and on and on and on...lol.
Thanks for caring enough to write, though. It's really nice. ^_^
Has anyone ever used the pillS called Vilantae and accutane, its supposed to help with face acne and stuff. If you have, has it worked? And, if you have used any other type of face products to rid of acne other then pro active please let me know as soon as possible. Thanks.
I use accutane and the stuff is working wonders. I had acne REALLY bad and now it's SOO much better. The downside is that it makes my lips really chapped, but I use Aquaphor, which you can get at Walgreens. Those two combined will give you clear skin and nice lips, haha. I highly reccomend Accutane, but it WILL dry out your lips, so get Aquaphor or some other 'healing ointment' for skin. The accutane also made my skin very sensative to lotions, and it felt like it was burning if I used Olay or anything- you can also get CeraVe at most drug stores, and it's the only lotion I use on my skin with the accutane because it's for really sensative.
I have a bad habbit of slouching at my desk at work. I go home and my neck and back are killing me.
I don't even realize I am doing it while I am focused on doing my work. How can I teach myself not to slouch?
Well, I've been in band since 6th grade, and one problem everyone had was/is slouching. Our director would make us sit on the very edge of our chair, so we sorta had to lean back not to fall off. Sometimes he made us sit on an upside down trash bin, since they don't exactly have a back to lean against.
I still have a slouching problem, but I wear a rubber band around my wrist, and if I catch myself slouching, I pull it REALLY hard....it really helps me to remember ;)
Hope I helped!
Does anyone have any insight into why my boss has suddenly turned a 180 degree on me? She always used to be pretty nasty to me. I was kind of afraid of her somedays because she could yell at me and be really hard on me. Lately though she's been SOO nice. She told me twice today what an awsome job I've been doing. This one lady that used to be one of her favorites found a better job. She had seniority over me. She is still working for us but has restricted hours. She hasnt been showing up; and today my boss told me that she wasnt going to give this lady any more hours and that I could have them. Do you think this has something to do with her attitude change? Also do you think it got back to the manager how she had been treating us and she got talked to?
It could be you're her new "favorite" because of this lady. I had a high-school teacher last year who picked one student to hate with the white-hot fury of a thousand suns, and a student to dote upon as though he/she was royalty. Usually, she picked best friends. Unfortunately, I was the one she hated with the buring white-hot passion of a thousand suns, and my best friend the one she trted like a queen. The rest of the students she was VERY nsaty to (I got specail treatment) so NO ONE liked her, not even my friend (seeing as we were all smart enough to figure out what she was doing). Apparent;y she did this EVERY year. Anyways, it IS very possible you're her new 'favorite.' On the other hand though, she could have just gone through a turn around in her personality. You said she used to yell at you- did she yell at the other employees, too? If so, does she yell at THEM now that she's being extremely nice to you? If she's still mean to them, you're probably right in suspecting she just chose a new favorite. If she's nicer to them, then it's possible she just...grew a heart. x.x
Hope I helped!
This is just an example. If I eat 2000 calories a day, and I burn off 2500, does that mean I've lost 500 calories, and 1/7 of a pound?
Or, if I eat 2000 calories, but I require 2200 daily, does that mean I've lost 200 calories?
Which of those two ideas is the correct one?
"If I eat 2000 calories a day, and I burn off 2500, does that mean I've lost 500 calories"--It can be very dangerous to burn off more calories than you take in. Think of it this way- you every day, you take in 2000 calories, and you burn off 2500, yes, you've lost weight, but you have ALSO burned off ALL the food calories you've eaten, so you're not getting any nutrients.
"if I eat 2000 calories, but I require 2200 daily, does that mean I've lost 200 calories?"--no, it means you're not taking in as much as you should. You need to keep at least some of your calories, because a calorie is "A unit of energy-producing potential equal to this amount of heat that is contained in food and released upon oxidation by the body."
i use mozilla firefox and i dont use internet explorer so could i just go and delete the internet explorer folder in the program files folder? or would that affect my computer?
Go to your C drive, and then Program Files. (At least that's where MY IE folder is located) From there, you can delete the folder, which will delete EVERYTHING Internet Explorer related. ONLY do this if you are SURE you won't need IE again, though. If you cannot find the folder, do a search on your computer with the keywords "internet" and it will show you ever IE related folder/icon/etc. From there you can go and delete it.
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Ava
I've been to the dermatologists once, before and i few regrets of un asked questions that i thought of the day after (or weeks) i was wondering what some questions i should ask the derm, (besides that ones i have already) they be a few you asked some you witch you asked, and ect.
& by the way im going to a whole new derm and there giving me something new and stuff.
Would it be a good idea to write down the names of the products i currently use? I have bad acne and i want to regrets of un asked questions!.
I RATE HiGH!!
A good question to ask about skin medications would be what sort of side effects do they have? I, for example, am currently on Accutane for my acne. Let me tell you, this product works wonders! I have tried just about every other cream, pill, and facial scrub out there, and nothing has worked. But Accutane is God's way of saying "There is hope!"
However, there ARE some very serious side effects. Accutane can cause depression, weaken the muscles, and if you are female, WILL cause SEVERE birth defects if you get pregnant (Accutane users are required to sign a form stating they nderstand the risks if they have sex while on the medicine, etc etc, so no one can sue the company.), so you're also required to say you have two forms of birth control you are taking. (I used "abstinence for moral reasons, and abstinence for religious reasons). It can also cause mood swings and crying spells. Luckily, I have only suffered from very minor depression from the product, and since teenagers can have mood swings and depression easily anyways, I've noticied very little difference in that area.
...Anyways, the point of my rambling is this: You need to ask him about all the different medications they have to offer (not all derm's provide accutane), and the side effects of ALL the medications...
Then you and your derm need to decide (together) what medication you think is best for you, based partially on how drastic the result are on average from that medicine, and what ill side effects you can and cannot live without.
-avari
Any good way to get gum off of a retainer? I cannot give up gum chewing and usually forget to bring my case to school. At the end of the day it ends up stuck to it, and looks discusting. thanks
I too have retainers, and having to wear them all the time can really suck. But in my experience, you can take retainers off (which is the biggest advantage- they're sorta like removable braces, haha). Sooo...why did you chew gum with the retainers on? When I chew gum (I too never take my case with me) I find a paper towel or something to wrap them in, or just hold them. But I've gotten gum on mine, too. I have metal retainers, so I run them under the sink, with hot water. The hot water softens the gum up.
ive got a MAJOR sleeping probelm. I JUST CANT GO TO BED BEFORE 9. everybody has been noticng, i'm getting lower scores on tests, i even LOOK more tired, it sucks. and im getting a lot more acone than usual, i hate it, i wish i could learnt o go to beda t the right time. I just can't seem to get myself into bed before 9. i'm always like just 10 more minutes, just 10 more mintues and after that i go do soemthing else for 10 more mintues which stretches out into half an hour. i WANT AND NEED SLEEP< HELP!!!!!!!!!!!! please? (IT'S 10:03 p.m now):/
It is possible you have insomnia. You might want to ask your doctor about it- see about getting some sleep pills perscribed. Also, people's bodies function based on an internal clock- there are some things you can do to help your internal clock recognize "sleep time" sooner.
1. First and formost, set a bed time for yourself. This may seem little kid-ish, but it works. Set a time, and go to bed at tat time EVERY night, sleepy or not. If you aren't sleepy, just lay there in bed. Yes, it will be boring as heck, but you have to do it. The bordem itself can make you tired. ;)
2. do a specific activity RIGHT before you go to bed each night, I.E. Drink some warm milk (It's better with honey) before you go to bed. Such activites, after a while, will make your body go "Oh, I do this before I sleep every time...guess it's time to shut down."
Doing routine things like that will help your body adjust to a sleeping pattern that starts earlier. You may be extr tired when you first start these, but after a week or so, you'll see a difference in what time you start to get tired at.
(it's 1 am right now......I am an insomiac by choice)
-Avari
does anyone know any home remedies for scarred skin? i'm talking a few semi-dark pimple scars on my face...please help! thanks!
I don't know any home remedies, I'm afriad, but you can buy scar products at your local drug store. If you don't want to buy scar products, try going to Wal-Mart of Walgreens and buying Aquaphor. It's a brilliant skin product that can help soften scars (and skin in general) and works about 100 times better and faster than chapstick (in my personal experience). It's really amazing stuff- and it has so many uses that no one will know you're buying it for a scar. It looks a lot like vaseline, and comes in either a jar or a tube. just take a dab of it on your finger and massage it onto and into the skin you need it applied to. It sinks in relatively quickly, and is also a good moisturizer. I'm taking an acne medicine that dries my skin and makes my lips REALLY chapped, but I use Aquaphor and you can't even tell. :)
-Avari
14/f Sry it's so long. So there's this boy and he asked me out like 2 weeks ago I said yes. We've gone bowling a few times with friends and we hang out whenever we can. He comes to my play pratices and whatever he can whenever he can and vice versa. We put our arms around each other and cuddle and stuff but when ever any one asks either of us wheather it's offical or not we say no. The problem is my friends are giving me grief about this. They're like if your not offical then you shouldn't let him hold you and if your not offical and he decides to like some one else he could drop you and you'd get hurt and have no argument. The truth is idc about this and I know he won't just drop me. Does any body know how I can explain this to my friends nicely and does he have to like ask me to be his gf for it to be offical or does time make offical? I rate. Thanx
Honestly, I think you should tell her exeactly what you just said. If you don't really consider this to be an issue, because you have confidence in this young man to not just drop you, because you believe that he genuinely cares for you. Even if he DIDN'T consider you to be his girlfriend officially, the way he is treating you indicates that he cares for you.
I can't really tell you whether or not he has to ask you for it to be official, but you might want to talk to him about it. Get it out in the open with him (the whole official/unofficial thing) so that you, your friends, AND him all understand where exactly you stand. Your friends are probably only "giving you grief" about it because they care for you and don't want to see you get hurt. It may seem frustrating, but they just want the best for you. :)
-Avari
I don't want to offend anyone with my questions but theres just so much that doesnt make sense about god and religion. i really do want to believe but i dont understand somethings and it makes me think god cant exist becaus of these things that dont add up.
firstly evolution. humans evolved from apes, there's been loads of scienctific evidence and documentries about it and you learn about it in science. But the bible says adam and eve were the first man and woman, so according to religion evolution cant have existed, well not in humans anyway.
If god is so great and loves us all, why does he make people suffer? i mean even highly religion people. the pope sufferd loads before he died and he's about as religios as people get, so why would god make him suffer?
Also, if god is so great and loves us all, why does he send people to hell? i know some deserve it but surely he wouldnt want anyone to be sent to hell for eternity?
This last point is not something i thought of, it's something that was talked about on the radio but it makes you think. There are lots of religions, but if any, only 1 must be true and the rest of them are lies. people must have made some religions up because some say theres only 1 god, some religions have many gods and all different types of beliefs, so they cant all be true. i hope someone can help me, because its so confusing and i honestly do want to believe.
sorry, if i offended anyone, i really dont want to. its just so confusing.
thank you x
This is coming from my viewpoint as a Christian. I'll address these one at a time:
"humans evolved from apes, there's been loads of scienctific evidence and documentries about it and you learn about it in science. But the bible says adam and eve were the first man and woman, so according to religion evolution cant have existed, well not in humans anyway." --There is no SOLID proof that humans are in fact evolved from apes. Humans and other primates share DNA that is so close, there is less than 1% of difference between our DNA and theirs, so that particular evoloutionary theory is just that- I theory based on facts. There is no way to ACTUALLY proove that humans are ape decendants. Also, many people believe in evoloution AND religion- the Bible says that time is different to God: a million years to us could be one second to Him, we don't know for sure. Sot he whole "the earth was created in 7 days" thing the Bible says- it never specifies whether it means day as WE percieve it, or day as HE percieves it.
"If god is so great and loves us all, why does he make people suffer?" --Yes, God does love us all. The Bible says that suffering does not come from God, but from the Devil. No, this doesn't mean that everything bad in our lives is eveil- have you ever been in a situation where you thought something was aweful, but later on it turned out to be the pathway for something great? God gives us trials, but never more than we can handle.
"Also, if god is so great and loves us all, why does he send people to hell? i know some deserve it but surely he wouldnt want anyone to be sent to hell for eternity?" --Hell is where non-believers go. He doesn't send just anybody and everybody. Because He loves us, He isn't going to FORCE us to believe in Him while we're here on earth. So when the time comes for every tongue to confess He lives, those who gladly choose Him NOW will be the ones to live with Him in Heaven.
"This last point is not something i thought of, it's something that was talked about on the radio but it makes you think. There are lots of religions, but if any, only 1 must be true and the rest of them are lies. people must have made some religions up because some say theres only 1 god, some religions have many gods and all different types of beliefs, so they cant all be true. i hope someone can help me, because its so confusing and i honestly do want to believe." --That is a very good point. If you will look at history, you will see that EVERY group of people throught time has worshiped SOME sort of deity, which means that at least one of them has to be right. Yes, there are people who don't believe in any God, but every GROUP of people, every civilization as a whole, has had some sort of god/dess they believe(d) in..so doesn't that sort of show that hey, if everyone believe the same thing (more or less) then there's got to be a reason for it.
I can't tell you what religion to believe in. I would prefer it if you (and the whole world) were Christian, but obviously that is not something I have control of. The most I can tell you at this point it to figure out what YOU think is true in a universal sense, and see what religion(s) coincide most closely with what you percieve to be the truth.
I sinerely hope this helped you, and that you figure out what you believe in.
-Avari
If a white person called a black person a "nigga" on the computer, is this some sort of discrimination, could that person get in any kind of trouble or anything like that?
Thank you.
I, personally, would say it is derogatory. Then again, I would say that anyone of ANY race calling ANYONE else by that name would be derogatory. A lot of people think it's okay for black's to call another black "nigga," but I view it as a cuss word that is not approproate for use by anyone at all. Whether the person is being discriminatory or not is based entirely upon the situation, as well as the context. If two people were fighting or arguing, etc. then yes, it probably was meant as a racist insult. But if to people were just chatting it up, then probably not. If the person say....just randomly called a stranger "nigga," it's really hard to tell- they could just be messing around, like "hey nigga, what's up?" or something, or they could be sayong it with spite. However, I doubt the person would get into any trouble unless it got reported or something. Like I said, it depends entirely on whatever direction the conversation was going before they spouted out the "n" word. If it's a friend of yours, then confront them, and ask them directly. If they weren't trying to be hateful, they might not have known it would upset you.
I hope I helped some
Ava
I am thirteen years old and I have two dogs and two cats. As much as I love my dogs right now, they are very old and they cant run or play or anything. Ive always wanted a small dog of my own but my parents say I cant have one. Should I keep on trying to get them to let me have a dog or should I lay off?
I think it would be best it you didn't bring it up until a later time. From experience as an owner of two dogs, older dogs don't adapt to another (especially younger) dog as well. The younger dog will get the bulk of the attention- you will want to play with, cuddle, and spend a lot more time with the active, younger dog than the older ones. Your best bet is to just love the dogs you have now (you can help get them more active by taking them on walks to help rebuild the stamina and speed they had in their youth- it won't be the same, but it's better than nothing), and after they die, give yourself a time for mourning before you think about another pet. Any major decesions you make in the family WILL effect your pets, because your pets ARE family. You have to make sure that what you and your parents choose could have very real effects on all your pets, too.
-Avari
well me and my friend just started a colum but it seems like everytime we go on something has changed that neither one of us has change and people are deleting our questions. Any ides on what could be happening?
On this site? If I were you, I'd check:
http://advicenators.com/faq.php ...especially the "How To Ask Questions That Don't Get Rejected" part. That will tell you why questions are deleted...
-Ava
I have a boyfriend who I have been with for about a month and a half. He's only a year younger than me but since my birthday is at the start of the month (JAN 06) and his is at the end (NOV 24)it sounds like a bigger age gap (I'm 17 and he's still 15) I really love him and I know he cares about me. But theres this voice in the back of my head telling me its all wrong. Please help me I don't know what to do.
PS I rate really high
I wouldn't really worry about it- right now, it might seem like a bigger gap, but in the future (say, when you are both out of your parents houses, living your own lives) it won't seem like such a big difference. People get married to someone who is 10 years older than them sometimes! It really depends on how you look at it. If you're in high school and he's a year and a half younger than you, he's probably ine or two grades behind you, but say, when you're living your own lives, you won't have those sorts of barriers to make it uncomfortable. I hope I'm makeing sense, there.