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im not sure if to give him up but i love him its hard!
17/f ok this is hard to explain I had not seen this guy for over a year and he asked me to meet up in jan we met up and well i fell for him yet again!we used to go to school together. I went to his house but we never had sex i just kissed him. he aparently met a russian girl on holiday and he said to me when i saw him he loved me and only me and he will do anything for me ect. i heard that he was in hospital so i wrote a text to him asking him if hes ok. He answered me with im in hospital with nemonia. So i was like what hospital are You in he never answered i asked again he never answered. So obviously seeing hes wealthy hes in a private hospital so i found out where he was because i guessed and i phoned him up and he was so rude to me he was like dont you think its a bit late at night to be calling me! then i said how are u? ect hes like got nemonia im like yeh thats why im phoning you then i asked him if he would like me to visit him and he said No, then i went ok then and he then put the phone down on me i thought how rude. so the next day i sent a card to the hospital saying get well soon and i never put love on the end i just put from and to his name because if his parents ask he can always say a friend. Anyway i texted him the next day saying how are You i love you im here for you all that sort of thing and hes like im going to have surgery and im being moved to another hospital. Im like ok get well soon then i said are u ok? a day after he said hes having surgery he never answered me for 3 days so i became so worried! But 3 days after i sent the message he said im ok. then ive asked him so many times if he wants me to visit him i also came up with the idea of taking a friend of his with me to see him but when i asked him if he would like me to come with his friend to keep him company! I got the rudest message back which said i don't need cheering up my family does that enough and i have dvds and stuff. I thought ok fair enough but no thank you. no i love u nothing.So now im just going to leave him alone what do you think?? have i done the right thing? someone please help. I will rate high and sorry its long and hard to understand.
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He probably just wants to be left alone. In my experience, there's two types of sick people- the kind that wants someone nearby all the time, and the kind who just wants the world to go away until they're better. He sounds like he's the latter kind. I know I am. When I'm sick, my friends are always coming over and are all "Are you okay?" and "get well soon" when, truth be told, I just want everyone to go away.
When he said "i don't need cheering up my family does that enough and i have dvds and stuff," he might just be annoyed becaused he's being smothered with nonstop attention from his family, and nonstop attention can get <i>really</i> annoying, really fast. In addition, he might feel that it would be inconviencing you- that you have to go out of your way to visit him.
If I were you, I'd just leave him alone until he gets better. Ask his parents or siblings to tell him you say hi, and guve him your best wishes, since they're going to be seeing him anyways. Being sick and having a lot of visitors can not only be annoying, but stressful and tiring. Just give him his space, and wait until he's feeling better to talk to him.
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Yes you are doing the right thing if you stop bothering him.
He may have sent some mixed signals but he obviously wants to be left alone. Don't wait until he gets really angry and really hurts your feelings in the process of telling you. It seems he has been trying to be nice about it.
There is someone for you out there somewhere. You won't find him if you are wasting time with this guy. :)
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