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I'm a white cisgender homosexual female. White racism isn't real, cisphobia isn't real, misandry isn't real, and heterophobia isn't real. Were white people enslaved and segregated for decades and still get killed in hate crimes? Nope. Do cisgenders get an increased risk of being bullied, suicidal, or killed? Nope. Did heterosexuals get burned and prevented from being married and have people insult them for holding hands in public, or people call things they don't like "straight"? Nope. Do rich people starve on the streets and have no clothes or water and need to work their ass off? Nope. Did males ever get sold into sexual slavery, rights taken away, pushed from science careers? Nope. It makes no sense to me these people who had everything handed to them on a golden platter with a silver spoon in their mouth already with a head start in life feel opressed. Why? (link)
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It's the use of the word "privileged" that does it. If you tell a person they are privileged, they immediately start to think of all the shit that is wrong in their life. Some people have trouble separating that from their advantages. For example, you are privileged due to being white and cisgendered. This does not negate the persecution you face due to being a homosexual female. It means you have advantages some people don't. I'm a white, cisgendered, heterosexual male. But I'm poor. I have lots of advantages others don't, but I still have not led a happy life. I am able to understand that I have advantages others don't. Being a straight white male is not having everything handed on a golden platter with a silver spoon. It's playing life on easy mode. Some people will still lose the game on easy mode, and some people will win on hard mode. That's the other thing some people have a hard time grasping: averages. They'll point out single examples of successful people who fit various disadvantaged categories, or unsuccessful people who have all the advantages and think it proves them right.
Here is a fun article that gets better into how to talk to people about privilege: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gina-crosleycorcoran/explaining-white-privilege-to-a-broke-white-person_b_5269255.html
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i want to do sex wth my virgin girl with out condom is it safe. (link)
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No. Being a virgin does nothing to increase safety of having sex without a condom.
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Sorry I'm new to this and I'm sorry if this is forward. Okay, I'm 17 & the guy I've been seeing for almost 2 months is 18. We hang out for a little over the school week & then usually all day & night Friday and Saturday nights. Yesterday we hung out all day & then we went back to my house and we were laying in my bed & cuddling. We were spooning and I could tell he was already hard from that & we had talked about hooking up a few days before. We've obviously made out before but i haven't had the chance to really do anything to him because we're never in the right place for it. I decided to give him a blow job because I have my period and it's too early for sex.
He started kissing me and we were making out & it was getting pretty heated. He was really hard and at one point he was like ontop of me and humping me so I decided it was time to blow him.
Of course I've given head before, but I've never given him head and I was really nervous. My mom was downstairs and I was paranoid so I just went under the covers and blew him down there. It was really hot under there and it was hard to do a good job. I couldn't look up at him or see how he was reacting. He was breathing pretty heavily, but about halfway through started moving his hips around. Is that good or bad? I was feeling like I wasn't doing a good job after that. I had almost his whole penis in my mouth and I was also using my hand at the bottom and had pretty good rythm. He came and i swallowed all of it and when I came up, he was smiling and I was like sorry that sucked and he was like "no it was amazing" but didnt really convince me.
He kept smiling after and I was like why do you keep smiling and he said "nothing yu just make me so happy"
After that I was pretty confident that he liked it. He was snuggling me and tickling me. I jokingly asked him what his favorite part of the njght was. He said "to see your gorgeous smile" and then he was like "but you want me to say your blow job" and then said "it was good but you can do better" I was kind of offended. Was it good or not? Should I be embarassed if it sucked?
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Him moving his hips is probably a good sign, if he was trying to get a better position, he probably would have tried to move your head with his hands.
Secondly, unless you're biting, it's pretty hard to give a bad blowjob. If he came, it means he orgasmed, which means he enjoyed it.
By "you could do better" he probably meant various little tricks some people do/like like tongue flicking or what not.
Basically, don't worry too much. He said he liked it, and he came, which should be a good hint that he liked it.
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Hey guys
So i have a question, when my boyfriend fingers me how do we know when he is done? Because for guys its different since they have an "endpoint" lol. But for girls it could go on forever right? So my question is, how does he know when to be done? What if he gets bored cuz he doesnt know when to stop? (link)
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Uh no, girls have an endpoint too, if it's not obvious to him, it should be obvious to you (at which point you could tell him to stop.) If it's not obvious to you, then he is doing something wrong, to which you should better show him how to get you to orgasm.
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My name is dreanna I'm 15 years old and I just had sex with my boyfriend for the first time ever yesterday around noon yes it was my first time having sex with anyone not just him... I'm scared I'm pregnant because I've been looking up stuff on the Internet and I'm pretty sure I found something that said if your wet constantly after having sex you could be pregnant and I've been wet constantly none stop and it's starting to scare me. Do you think I'm pregnant??? (link)
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Did you use protection? If yes (assuming proper use) you probably aren't pregnant. If not, you may well be. Keep in mind though, any symptoms you find online are no way going to show up just a day after you have sex. Even a pregnancy test wouldn't be able to show anything this quickly.
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Alright so here is my problem. My mom is taking me for a Pap smear and said its also to see if I'm sexually active. My parents know I had sex two years ago but they don't know that the last time I did was a little over a month ago. Will my doctor be able to tell I did a month ago besides the obvious things like remains is semen and std or pregnacy. I would greatly appreciate it if someone would take the time to answer this. Btw I'm 16 f in Texas (link)
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No they can't. They can't even tell if you're a virgin or not because the hymen might not break during sex or can break from other physical activity. All that said however, anything you discuss there is confidential, so you don't have to worry about them telling your parents. The doctor will probably ask about your sexual history. It's best to tell the truth because it is important for diagnostics.
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i have had 3 back surgerys in 2009 and 2010 and since then i have been on major morphine pills to help with the pain. the operations were complete failures and now I live in constant severe pain. some days are better than others but I just cant stand it any longer and I am tired of ruining my wife and the rest of my familys lives by being aburden to them. I never feel good enough to go camping and do things we used to do all the time. So, If I were dead and gone. they could go on and enjoy thier lives. what is the easiest way for me to end my life without it looking like suicide? thanks... and sorry for the bad spelling (link)
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Nobody on this site is going to tell you how to kill yourself, or if they do, they won't be on the site for much longer. I don't consider myself qualified to advise on mental health issues, and wouldn't really know what to tell you about the suicide subject, however, have you tried talking to your doctors about a different pain management regiment? I've had many surgeries, and I've found that morphine doesn't work very well for me. If you are asking for something different as opposed to just more of a drug, the doctor is far more likely to take you seriously. Morphine does have a possible side-effect of causing suicidal thoughts, however so does chronic pain... That's definitely something to also talk to your doctor about, you might be able to get a referral to a psychologist to help you either with therapy or with medications. Certain antidepressants do have the added benefit of dulling pain receptors. Without knowing what specific problems you have with your back I don't know how to advice you about what you could do about not being able to do activities you used to or physical therapy will help, but in any case, massage therapy should. I am not even talking about full on chiropractor massage (that could help or hurt depending on what problems you have) I am just talking about regular massages, which could help relax the muscle and ease pain somewhat. You still have plenty of options, and you should explore them.
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Alright, me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex last night. I guess it was the "heat of the moment" or just that moment. I know it wasn't smart, and I know it's unsafe. I understand that plan b cannot be used as birth control, but I took it to lower the risks of getting pregnant. I know not using condoms do not protect you from STD's, I understand that.
I basically just want to know, if there is a high chance of me getting pregnant? I know there's a chance, but just curious if I'm safe enough on not getting pregnant.
I took plan b three hours after having sexual intercourse, but I took plan b a month ago when the condom broke before. Should I be okay? (link)
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Did you have your period between uses? It loses effectiveness if used more than once during the same cycle. If you have had it, the rate of failure if taken within 12 hours is only .5% so you should be fine.
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I know all girls are different. But for some
Reason I think I Am Really hard on myself about this
But I wanna be open and comfortable with my boyfriend..what ia the best advice or way for doing this? Do men ever judge girls, or is it just most women feel shy? (link)
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The colors vary.
Once a guy is in the general area, unless it has like razor sharp teeth or something, he isn't going to care.
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this is for the GUYS only!!! i'm worried about gettign eaten out. for guys with experience... do girls smell/taste bad? i mean i shower every day but i'm just owrried if a guy eats me out he'll be grossed ut by me! also, i was wondering about shaving downs there... what do guys like? bikini wax, landing strip, completely bare!? i don't want girls to answer, i i want guys to say what they really think please! thanks (link)
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Basically, once a guy is in the general area, unless it has like razor sharp teeth, it really doesn't matter. If you are showering daily and taking care of yourself, it should smell/taste fine.
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Would you consider it healthy if an 18 year old girl is not (and has never been) sexually active and doesn't masturbate? (link)
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Sure. You do those things when you are ready, not on someone's schedule.
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can you get preganent if cum gets in you ass??????
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No. You can get an STD though.
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Is kissing just a natural thing you're either good at, or not good at? How difficult is it to be a good kisser? (link)
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Some of it comes naturally, but then there are tricks you can pick up. Also, everyone likes to be kissed differently, so pay attention to how your partner is reacting and see if you need to adjust anything.
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Okay,
I know this is easy but I get confused.
I normally take my bc pill at 1;00pm
but because we moved the time forward
should I take my pill at 2:00pm instead?
or should i just keep taking it at 1?
what is the best idea?
I am sexually active, I don't want to take
chances thats why I'm trying to figure this out..
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Yeah basically, just do it at whatever time is easier for you to remember. 1 hour isn't gonna mess with the hormones or anything.
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Hi, I have oral herpes and was wondering if it is possible to spread it to my partner with a cut on my lip from biting it. I am not having a outbreak right now, just wondering it its possible to spread it to them through the cut. (link)
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HSV1 is typically oral, HSV2 is typically genital, but each can get on the other. Yes you can spread it when you are not having an outbreak.
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Is it easier to get prego when you have sex and your on your period? Or is it the same? (link)
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It's harder, but not a lot harder. Always use protection, not only to prevent pregnancy, but to protect against STDs as well.
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if you had sex and didnt use a comdom and you was on your period can you still get preg
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You are less fertile then, but there is still a chance of getting pregnant. Always use protection, if not just to prevent pregnancy then to prevent STDs.
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So my boyfriend and I titt* f*ck a couple of weeks ago, but I woke up the next day with all these red dots on my chest. I told my bf and he said that its the friction between the penis and my boobs that caused the red dots. Over the next couple of days, the red dots went away, but theres still a couple that are not very noticeable, but it is bothering me. I have not gone to the doctor, but I have called STD lines and they were very rude to me. So is it really just friction? or is it herpes? ps he's not a virgin, if that helps (link)
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while i agree that its unlikely its an STD, i have to make a few corrections. first off, there are STDs you can get from skin contact, HPV is one of them. another thing is, you can get herpes pretty much everywhere, its just that those areas are most common.
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so i my boyfriend came in me on tuesday and wednesday i took plan b.. my period isnt due untill nov 1.. well he came in me again last night.. i dont need to take it again right? since it prevents the egg from attaching and only one egg is realesed so does that mean im fine and i dont need to take it again or what should i do ( oh and he came in me because the condoms broke both times not because he wanted to, just so you know and im 16) (link)
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2 condom breakings means hes most likely using the condom wrong. you need to squeeze the tip when rolling it down so the seamen has somewhere to go. plan b prevents fertilization, or attachment. im not sure on the specifics, but it likely possible to get pregnant after using it, although it is basicaly a high concentration of the same medication as in the birth control pill. and its probably not safe to pump yourself so full of hormones by taking it a second time in such a short time.
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So my boyfriend always seems to be exceedingly keen to perform oral sex on me. He basically pleads! However, although he's done it plenty of times sometimes I'm just not comfortable with it because I think it must taste HORRIFIC - and smell horrific too. I mean it never smells bad to me, but I've read that girls can taste really bad or good. I'm scared I'm in the former group and I only feel comfortable, or fully comfortable, with him doing it after a shower although he has done it before when I haven't felt comfortable with putting him through the trauma 'cus I haven't washed or checked down there for a few hours!
basically, even if it did smell and taste bad, does a guy mind alot?
and if he's always asking, basically pleading to do it and going in a mood when he can't do it, that can only be a good thing, right? He always says that boys are simple creatures and if he says he likes doing it, he likes doing it. He's also a very nice person and I'm worried he only does it because he thinks I get so much pleasure from it.
(I do, but I don't find it so essential I ask him for oral specifically).
Any help is all good. :)
Its been intriguing me for a while now :) (link)
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http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutmetopic.php?t=964&userboard_id=4026
if he keeps asking to do it, it means he likes it. if he was only doing it because he thought you liked it, he wouldnt be asking as often, he might even only do it when asked. also, since you keep insisting to shower beforehand, and probably otherwise act uncomfortable, chances are hes picked up on it, so hes doing it despite the fact that it makes you a little uncomfortable, so he must really like it.
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