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being fingered: how does he know when to stop?
Hey guys
So i have a question, when my boyfriend fingers me how do we know when he is done? Because for guys its different since they have an "endpoint" lol. But for girls it could go on forever right? So my question is, how does he know when to be done? What if he gets bored cuz he doesnt know when to stop?
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I can see what you're saying. Girls could indeed gon on waht feels like 'forever', added to which a female climax is by no means and 'end' of any sort either. And yeah, us guys virtually always climax. Aren't we predictable?? Give a thought to the fact that it won't be the same every time. If you're feeling particulalry horny and he hits just the right spots you'll hopefully climax, and that's clearly the 'break' you're both looking for. Another time you might be happy for him to go on for ages, and he might be equally happy to do it. You might climax, you might not feel the need to...and just want to enjoy the trip, as you might say... and not worry much about where it's going. And another time, things might not quite 'fire' as well...then he (and (YOU!) might well become a bit bored. Then it's a case of letting it wind down naturally. I suppose the classic scenario is when you know he's dying to finger you...but you know...you're not quite in the mood. But you don't want to hurt his feelings, so you do it anyway, right? EVERY couple have been there! And you're probably not going to hit the heights this time. Next time...might be very different! There's a tendency to want it to have clearly defined points and of course be totally brilliant, all the time, every time. But so much depends on how you feel in other ways. So sometimes brilliant, sometimes it just doesn't really work at all, other times it's just sort of 'OK...quite nice but not mindblowing'. The blokes always climaxing thing might seem a bit unfair, but it's just the way humans are built. And it's sometimes much better for us than others, sometimes just OK. Of course, for your boyfriend to fully satisfy you in the orgasmic sense, you need to be completely relaxed and comfortable about 'letting go' that much in front of him. He needs to know just what you enjoy, and what doesn't do much for you. So YOU need to know...and communicate it to him by some means. Describe in words? Guide his hands? Definitely let him know when he's getting it SPOT ON! You don't want him to stop and change what he's doing when you feel something really starting to happen! Usually praising what a guy gets right is more effective than criticising the things he doesn't (the fragile male ego, eh?).I dare say he really wants to make it special for you, but we're not mind readers. And what may have 'worked' with another partner doesn't mean anything regarding YOU. It's usual for the guy to pleasure you first normally. That'll definitely help to keep him enthusiastic and less likely to lose interest! Have fun!
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You should tell him that it's too intense after awhile. Thank him and then move on. As the person receiving stimulation you need to tell him when you have reached a threshold or he will continue on clueless about whether you feel done or not. It's all about communication during/before.
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Uh no, girls have an endpoint too, if it's not obvious to him, it should be obvious to you (at which point you could tell him to stop.) If it's not obvious to you, then he is doing something wrong, to which you should better show him how to get you to orgasm.
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