Hi everyone... I've got a Psychology degree so I like to think that i know a bit about how people think and why they do the things they do- maybe i don't know a thing, make up your own minds! Also i work with a youth group of girls aged 10-14 so that helps too! Anyway ask me anything no problem too big or too small and I'll do my best...
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i am a virgin but u an seriously thinking about having sex soon. on halloween i think might be the time. but my period will be somewhere right in there. so i was wondering if you have sex right before or right after you have your period, is it more likely you will get pregnet or anything? because i dont wanna get pregnet at all! but i think i am ready for sex. and if i am on my period on halloween can i still have sex and all? i know that might be nasty though. (link)
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First things first, you can never be sure of when in your cycle you are less likely to fall pregnant therefore you should always always use a condom. Obviously this also protects you against sexually transmitted infections which you REALLY don't want!! If you are on your period then it is physically possible to have sex but you still have every chance of becoming pregnant.
Right those are the facts. Now what you should really think about:
You say you THINK you are ready for sex. Be careful- if you need to think it through (and not be certain about it) are you really ready? Secondly, setting a date to lose your virginity- is this really ideal? Finally are you in a relationship? from what you've said it doesn't sound as if you are. Do you really want to live your life with the knowledge that you lost your virginity to a random guy? It's up to you of course- just a few things to think about!
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ok im 13/f and i dont know if im bi or not cuz like sometime si catch myself wanting to "do" things with girls and like i think gurls bodies are cute or "hot" and when i was 12 a girl hit on me went to kiss me and i DIDNT back away...please i dont know if im a lesbien or if girls are just like this please help me i rate REALLY high..thanks so much! (link)
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This is quite a common phase that girls can go through especially at your age when they're trying to work out who they are and who they're attracted to. Therefore, thats all it may be- just a phase and in a few months you may feel 100% differently. However alternatively you may be bi and therefore these feelings will stay with you. At the moment who knows?? But relax! Who cares? It doesn't matter at the moment- you're you and nothing else is important. In time you'll work out your true feelings but until then don't worry about it- it's a confusing time for everyone and I'll bet that thousands of girls are feeling EXACTLY the same as you- they just don't want to talk about it!
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Ok im 13/f and my bf and i are really close weve been dating for 2 year now and we are pretty sure were in love with each other...For REal...and its so weird because when we are just hangin out with all of my bf's friends we are like allways fooling around with each other and like kissing and hugging and i feel sorta..turned on...and i like wanna touch him and stuff...but then when we actually wanna take it a little further he starts putting his hand down my shirt and feeling my boobs! and i chicken out...what can i do to make my boyfriend feel that i want to be like sexually involved with him but i dont wanna be like all the other girls and a "whore" and just do it all at once?
please help i rate fives! (link)
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TALK TO HIM!!!! Honesty is always the best way to handle most situations like this cos then everyone knows what's going on. Next time he tries anything you're comfortable with relax and if he tries anything you're not comfortable with tell him he's going too fast. Anyway you don't know if he'll go any further anyway- maybe he doesn't want to go too far either. Lets face it you have been together for 2 years and after 2 years you should be able to honestly tell him how you feel. Just remember don't get too caught up in all this- only ever go as far as you feel 100% comfortable with.
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Im really really scared about getting my perdiod i have no idea when its comming like no idea. Im scared one of my friends will find out or i will be the last one. My crush is in like all my classes. And the nurse had pads and tampons and stuff but Im scared when im gon aget it (link)
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When you first get it it will be so light that it won't show up or soak through your clothes or any of the other things girls are always worried about! It might me a good idea to keep a pad in your bag just in case so that when you notice when you go to the toilet you'll be prepared. Don't be scared your friends will find out they're all probably worried about exactly the same stuff! You'll look back on this and laugh once you've got it! Good luck
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my gf talks all the time on the phone about wanting to have sex and stuff, but when we're together she doesnt seem like it at all...any ideas? im sort of confused here (link)
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It's probably because she finds it easier to say it over the phone than face to face! Shes building up her confidence so that eventually she'll be able to behave like that to your face! Be patient and eventually that'll happen i bet! You could always turn it into a little joke next time she starts talking like that and say something like "you're totally different on the phone- you'd never act this way in person- i really like these 2 sides of you!" and then laugh! See what she says back ;)
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ok i had an abortion about 2 months ago.im back on bitrh control, my last period blood was red for like 1-2days then its was brown. ive been to the gyn to be treated for chilmidya and some other bacteria, the doc gave me meds, so that should be good right, now its about 1 week before my next period, im still taking my birth control and ive had brown spotting yesterday and today. what is wrong with me??? i need help. (link)
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It could quite easily be your body adjusting after the abortion or adjusting to going back on your birth control or something else entirely normal. However you should probably go and get it checked out by your doctor just to be on the safe side and above all, to put your own mind at rest. Good luck
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ok im with this guy and weve been together for 1 month and i am so ready to have sex with him and i really do trust him and weve spoken about sex so many times but after how many months do u think i should actually have sex i dont want to have it too early..
please answer thanx
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It's not about how many months you "should" wait or even what anyone else thinks. It's between you two and only you two, therefore it's up to you. However, if you're thinking that you're not sure when you should have it it probably means you're not ready yet. It's the old story- if you have ANY doubts you're not ready. You'll know you're ready when you have no doubts and you can see the relationship that you're in lasting. And please make sure you're aware of the consequences! Good luck
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okay my boyfriend wants me to have sex with him .....i really want ot because i'm 16 sooo what do i do? (link)
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Well if you're certain you're ready and this is a relationship you can see lasting then go for it. Just make sure you're aware of the risks of STDs and pregnancy and make sure he wears a condom.
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kinda of very weird question ever asked---- seriously is there any way to judge whether a female had sex earlier in her part of life or not? jus by looking at her....? No offense...jus info (link)
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Sometimes females that have had sex are a little more confident but I've known loads of confident virgins! So the short answer is no to be honest!
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i'm a guy and was wondering something. as the question implys, i would like to know whether most people put feelings or morality first, and why. my example is pre-marital sex. there must be at least 20 questions on that topic before this one...some say 'do it if you feel ready' while others say 'no because you'll regret it and it's not meant to be that way'. both seem good reasons for or against it. is it both? should you really put your feelings and that of another first, or should you stick to your moral values, reguardless of what others or society has to say about pre-marital sex. thanks, will rate. (link)
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Whenever anyone asks a question like this everyone gets on their high horse about it and says exactly what their view is on it and how anything other than their view is wrong. I don't believe that anyone has the right to do tell anyone else whether they should or should not have sex as long as they are of the legal age. Therefore each person has to do what's right for them. Some people have moral or religious values that say they sould wait until they're married before they engage in sex and in this case these values should be upheld. What's the point in having strong values if when it comes to the crunch you're going to go ahead and have sex anyway? If someone has values to start off about sex then they will only regret their actions later on. However, if someone of a legal age wants to have sex and they feel ready for it and they're not married but they're entirely happy about the situation then why not? It's all about individual differences! Well that's my little rant over!!! Hope that was of some help!
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ok. im 14/f. still a virgin and ive been thinking about having sex with my boyfriend. like when he hugs me from behind he'll just start humping me. and i know i tell him to stop but i like it. l.o.l. and he always puts his hands up my shirt. and i like it. but im ashamed of my body. i know im not fat...but i just think i am. i think my legs are at least. but... i dont know what to do. and i dont think thats all he wants from me. but i dont know....i masterbate alot and it feels good. and i want the real thing now but i dont know about it tho.
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If you have any doubts about sex then don't do it. It means that you're not ready yet. If you were ready then you would know that you wanted to do it and you would have no doubts whatsoever. It's perfectly normal to want to have sex- it's your hormones! But at your age it is just as normal to have doubts about it, and these doubts should be the thing that stops you from acting on your feelings. You're not completely happy about it so don't do it. Good luck
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what are the signs of being pregnet??? (link)
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Missed period (but when you're young this can happen ALL the time), sore breasts, feeling or being sick in the mornings, strange cravings.
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i was wondering if you could tell me at what age you had sex. not a lecture to wait or what can happen,, just what age you had it. thanks. (link)
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17 (female)
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(im 19 female)Im just asking, there is this guy i like a lot he liked me, soon as i told him i wasnt a virgin he simply lost interest! and he belives that the one he is going to marry should be a virgin.i feel like SHIT! he has told me he is not a virgin - ofcourse its ok for a guy not to be one isnt it! but anyway, then i told him that i was joking and that i didnt quite have sex.i really like this person and i regret loosing my virginity to this ONE bf" overseas, now if i was to get close with this guy could i live a lie and never tell him? or should i tell him? or should i forget him and move on! but i cant! nicest person iv ever met! what do i do!? is it good to keep it to myself and NEVER tell him.- i feel so guilty (link)
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A relationship without trust never works. You need to sit him down and explain to him that you're sorry you were dishonest but you panicked because you thought you wouldn't be able to start something with him because of his reaction to you not being a virgin. You need to tell him how much you care about him and just see how he responds! There's just no point not being truthful because in the end he will find out and living with guilt is awful anyway! Good luck
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Hi!
I had sex for the first time 2 weeks ago, and it felt fab, my boyfriend enjoyed it so much we did it for about an hour in some local woods. we didn't use condoms and i had sex durin my periods -do u enjoy sex and do u think i'm pregnant? (link)
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Well most people enjoy sex that's why it's so popular!! Just be careful- if you feel responsible enough to have a sexual relationship then you should be responsible enough to use contraception such as a condom. This is obviously primarily because you are at risk of getting pregnant and also because you can catch a sexually transmitted infection. Just because you have sex during your period does not mean that you will not get pregnant, so yes you there is a chance that you could be pregnant. If your period is late then take a pregnancy test as soon as possible. And in future it's so much better to use condoms rather than spend the month worrying whether your period is going to come or not, and sexually transmitted infections can lead to problems with fertility for example so please USE A CONDOM!! Good luck I hope it all works out
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i had unprotected sex with my boy friend 3 months ago, ive had mild cramps in my tummy ever since i've taken 4 preg tests 2 possative then negative (early miscarrige)then today i was told to take another because it didnt add up it was negative.. they still think i had the miscarrige but now they think i've got Chlamydia!!!!! im so f**king scared im only 14 and cant take losing the baby and now maybe having this, they took swobs (spelling), i cryed the hole time, but i knew it was for the best i just dont know what to do, what will they do if they find out i have got it?? what are the symtoms anyways?? will i have to tell my mum and dad???
im so s**t scared?? has anyone here had it??
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Ok don't panic you've done ABSOLUTELY the right thing by seeking professional help. Everything you need to know is in the link below. Quite often there are no symptoms and this is the problem- quite often girls don't realise they have it, but you don't have this problem as you're in the hands of experts so it'll be ok! You won't need to tell your parents so thats not a problem although sometimes this is a good plan but if you're uncomfortable about it don't worry! If you do have chlamydia you will be given medication which will clear it up and you will be fine. In future please use a condom and make sure your boyfriend gets checked out as he'll just give the chlamydia straight back to you if you have sex again. He needs treatment as well. Relax- you've done the right thing and you're going to be fine. Good luck.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/Chlamydia/STDFact-Chlamydia.htm
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I'm almost 19 years old and everytime I have sex it still hurts. Not to sound weird but its like the first 4 inches dont hurt but as it goes in more it does. I've had it about 20+ times and tried different positions. Has this ever happened to anyone else or does anyone know why this still hurts? (link)
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Ignore all the stuff about you not having enough lubrication- they don't know what they're talking about! If that was the problem then it would hurt in the first four inches and you say it doesn't. Therefore i think you need to see your doctor because it sounds like theres something wrong internally. Probably nothing serious but you do need to see a doctor. It's embarrassing but doctors are so experienced with things like this and you'll get it sorted! Good luck
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how sure are trojan condoms.. like what percentage?? (link)
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Use the extra strength ones and it'll be about 97% if you use them correctly.
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Alright, well I have been going out with my boyfriend for a couple weeks now! Well somehow him and my friend got into a conversation about like doing stuff. Not her and him but my bf and me. He said that he was going to do something, like finger me I guess.. at this thing we went to together but he heard that I didn't want it to happen and she said that he should just do it. Well I have never been fingered before and I guess she thought it wasn't a big deal. And usually things for the first time are a big deal! So I don't know what to do.. I am scared of what is going to happen like what should I do and what is it going to be like and like.. yeah I shave I'm just nervous that it'll be maybe prickly or like weirdish down there. Could someone help me out?? :-) thanks! (link)
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If you're worried about this then have you thought that maybe you're not ready for this yet? Seriously give it some thought. To be honest, when the time does come for this (hopefully when you feel really READY for this) he won't mind what it's like, he'll be far too conscious of whether he's doing the right thing i promise! So don't worry about all that. Good luck and be safe
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ok i had sex with a condom like at the beginning of april. im not susposed to start my period until the beginning of may. but every morning for like that past week my stomach has felt just a little bit upset in the morning and a little into the late afternoon. but my bobs dont hurt and im not throwing up and im not smelling anythign unusual. and i just got over having a really bad sinus cold. so should i be worried or not? please help me guys!! (link)
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If the sex was protected and the condom did not split its quite unlikely that you're pregnant. Feeling sick could possibly be put down to you feeling worried about all this! Don't worry until your period is due and if it doesn't arrive then maybe take a test just to be sure if you're still worried. Don't worry too much
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