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I really need advice rite now. I have been going out with This guy for about 8 months (on and off) and I really love him. But all that I end up getting out pf this relationship is MORE drama and Hurt. I really like him but sometimes it seems like it wasnt meant to be. Ever since I met him and His buddies ITs all been He** and drama and HatE. I haven't cried sooo much in the last 5 years than I have these several months with him. He already cheated on me twice...and there is also this girl that likes him and He has Liked her Forever and I'm scared that he will go out wit her....she is such a bit** too...is it because I'm jelous of her...of what she can have or do?? i really dont know..MY LIFE IS jUST ALL Drama and I want it all to go away. please help me..

dump him. if he cheats on you and likes another girl he's not right for you. Trust me, you'll get over him. It might take time but it'll all be better in the end.

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I have this friend who is incredibly paranoid, particularly about me likeing his girlfriend or his girlfriend liking me. I;ve assured him this is not the case, and so has his girlfriend, and it causes him deep psychological trauma to see us in the same room even talking now. And I was talking to his girlfriend, and he walks into the room, and I make a joke about only wanting a pen, and he takes it as an insult, and now won't talk to me. He refuses to be my friend anymore, and threatened my teeth!...I have no idea what to do....please help me!!
thnx...

This happens to a lot of people. He needs to realize that you don't like each other.. if you did you she would dump him and you guys would go out. Tell him he needs to relax and say if it'll make him feel better you won't hang out with her for like a week and let them spend quality time together to prove that she really likes HIM and only HIM. If it's really bad though you might want to see if he'll go see a therapist. If he won't even talk to you try to iM him online if you both have sn's or call or write him a letter. You could also have his girlfriend talk to him since he'd be most likely to listen to her if its their relationship he's most worried about. To prove to him that you don't care for her like that you might actually have to not hang out with her or talk to her for a week or two so he'll finally get the picture that you really don't like her. Hope I helped!

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heyy, my friend told me i should go out with this guy who happened to be her ex, but theyve both dated other people and moved on... so now hes my b/f and we like each other a lot,and when we hung out at the mall the other night with my friend she started liking him again and now shes making me feel all bad cuz shes like "oh i'll never stop liking colt, and i will always love him" and "he was mine but now you have him" what should i do?? and how should i handle my friend?? love, lauren!!
ps.. colt is my b/fs name

She's the one who told you to go out with him. If you guys like each other tell her that she even said to go out with him and you feel badly but you really like him. She had her chance and lost it. Just be sure to say it in a way where she won't get very mad... a lot of friendships are ruined over guys. Hope I helped!

rach3l

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ok...i have turned into a complete and total prep..my family had ALOT of money...i get 100 every 2 weeks for allowence...and next month, i am getting a brand new SL55 AMG mercedes-benz...
but only my family knows about it...i dont want to tell anyone else, but people are starting to find out...my old friends have started calling me a "rich bitch" just because of the colthes i wear...and they completly kicked me out of the clique...so i started hanging out with the other "rich kids" and they are really nice...everyone thinks that they are evil, just because they have money...next semester, my parents are sending me to a private school..which i also havent told anyone about...and tuition alone is 18,000 per year, let alone books and uniforms...people are turning their backs on me just because i have money, and i am dreading to find out how many of my friends are going to leave me after they find out how much money i actually have..i feel really sad that my friends are leaving me just because i have alot of money...i could understand if i was bragging about it, but i havent told anyone...what do i do?

Everybody always thinks that if you're rich then you're snotty and stuck up and don't want hang out with the not so fortunate people. Try to go on a shopping spree with them and buy clothes for them. Say that you really don't care about how much money you have and you don't want to lose them as friends. If they're actually true friends they should understand. Hope I helped!

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There's this boy who is my friend but i don't know what to do. i like him a whole lot but i don't know if he likes me or not. What should do?

Tell him you like him and if he feels the same way he'll probably tell you =c)

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I'm very overshadowed by my best friend. She's a very flirtatious, outgoing, redheaded vixen and everyone wants to be friends with her. Now, I don't mind it so much, I'm happy that she is well liked by people, but it's the fact that I seem to be getting less and less attention from her every time she meets somebody new. Especially guys. Every guy she meets has had a crush on her. (Except, thankfully, my CURRENT boyfriend...note that I said CURRENT..ex-boyfriends are another story) And often times she has crushes on them, but she still has to complain about them liking her. She seems to treat me like a child and she's the "All-knowing-one", especially when it comes to relationships, and it's really starting to piss me off! She steals my jokes and claims them as her own OFTEN and she says that I'm a bad friend because I once decided to stay with my boyfriend instead of going to hang out with her, while she has ditched me many a time to hang out with guys. (I can think of two instances from just last week.) I'm really bothered by her, yet I remain her friend and most of the time I really don't know why. And I want to talk to her about this, but I've tried before and she always apologizes and then forgets about it two days later.

And when it's just her and I things are fine! We have a great time and everyone's happy and once again I've become the comedian between the two of us, (material she later steals from me to use in front of her flirting victims), but when it comes to boys I'm completly ignored and she's off in the corner creating some sort of drama. It's weird for me, because before I befriended her I was always the center of attention among the group. I was the loud, funny, loving one who everyone wanted to give hugs because I would gladly dish them out. And now it seems like nobody has any time for me because they all want to be with her. Like she's taken all of my friends, but still claims that I'm her best one.

What should I do? I know the most logical thing would be to stop being friends with her, but we've been together for so long and we have most of our friends in common with each other, so there really would be no way to avoid hanging out with her.

I went through the same thing, and I still am. There's no way you just can't be friends with her because if she took all your friends and you ditch her then YOU would be the one with no friends. The next time she ditches you say, see you ALWAYS ditch me for guys and I did it ONCE and you got mad at me! or something of that sort. There's really no way you can avoid hanging out with her. Just keep being friends with her and try to get back the old relationships with your other friends before your friend took them. That way, if things go wrong, you can still try to hang with them.

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Hey! I might sound stupid for asking this, but I really want to know. I was talking to this really cute kid about my birthday. He's kind of a minor pothead. Anyways he likes me. I was asking him what he was going to get me for my birthday, and he said he was gunna get me a G, and a platinum necklace. Yeah, so I was just wondering, what is a G? does it have to do something with weed (he knows i dont smoke) or does it have to do with jewelry? Or something else? I'd appreciate anyone whos answers this question and I'll rate high! Thankins in advance!

G-string. I bet he wants to see you in it ;) haha. Hope I helped!

Love, racheL

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Glitter name? Can you make me one! Thanks! i have no clue what to tell u but my name is erin! umm answer this and tell me what info u need so i can send it! cool advice!

Ok I need to know what color gltter you want. You can go here and just click on the one you like and send me the hyperlink. Also if there's any specific font you want it to be in. =c)

http://www.wtv-zone.com/aylana/bringontheglitter/bringontheglitter-1.html

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Okay, theres this chickk that goes to my school. I was haveing such a good day cuz I got my hair cut and I got stuff to scrunch my hair, and I thought I looked soo nice. EVERYBODY was complimenting me, and I've never got any compliments from any of these, like my best friend amanda told me i looked pretty, and I've never been told that i was pretty before so it was really cool. But this one chick, shes supposed to be one of my best friends, says I look really bad, and I'm trying to looklike one of my other best friends named Justine, But i wasn't, because Justine doesn't even scrunch her hair! And my belt had broken that day and It wasn't cuz of me, it was because I wore it like everyday and it was fallen apart, it was my favorite belt, and I like put pins in it so it wouldn't break anymore, and then of course I said. "look at my belt" in front of her, and she said "That's what happens when your fat" and I'm like "Dude your mean" and shes like "Truth Hurts", I dunno, she was never mean before, Do you think she was just mad that everybody was complimenting me and not her??

I rate high..!

First of all she can't be one of your best friends if she actually said that! She's so mean. Obviously she's jealous. She probably thinks you look better than her so she's trying to make you feel bad. Maybe she's used to having all the attention and then you get it and she's mad. Just because you look better than her doesn't mean she needs to be all jealous haha. Anyway I hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything for you! =c)

Love, RacheL

By the way your hair sounds really cute =cD

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Well ther is a boy I like at school who is really ugly but hez extremely funny and none of my friends know cuz they have crushes on him too! So this is a total secret but anywayz hez like my best friend thts a guy! Well Monday  he had a bee stinger stuck in him and well he hasn't been to school since monday.... i know this is really stupid but i'm scared hez allergic to bees and they couldn't get the stinger out...I am scared okay! I have his number cuz its in our school directory...but I wouldn't call him unless my friends were over n i'm havin one come over saturday..if he doesn't show up at school tomorrow should i call n see if hez ok? Also tell me if I should be scared!

Please Help Me I am soooooo scared!

Definately call him tomorrow if he doesnt show up at school. I'm sure he'd appreciate you caring. You don't have to call him if your friends are there.. I think he'd like it more if it was only you. Just take a couple deep breaths and dial his number and ask if he's there. It's normal to be scared if you're calling a guy you like, but after a while the initial scareness ((i dont think thats a word but oh well haha)) will wear off. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything for you! =c)

Love, RacheL

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ok me n my bestest friend had a stupid fight about her having a boyfriend and i don't/my mom is stupid and i can't hang out with her alot/she's moving to another state in a lil while... geez! n then we stopped talking for like 2 weeks n i miss her alot... i mean she is my bestest friend in the whole wide world!!! what should i do!?!?!

Talk to her. Say you're sorry about everything and you don't want to get in a fight.. especially if shes moving. Tell her that you're sorry for yelling at her and she's still your best friend. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything else for you!!

Love, RacheL

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OK well, I have two friends. Recently one of my friends has been hanging out with another group who me and my other friend dont like. Well, My friend who is hanging out with the other group always acts like nothing is wrong, but it feels like she is drifting farther and farther away out of the friendship the three of us have. I want to ask here not to hang out with this other group. But how, and how can i do it w/o hurting her feelings? Well I'm looking forward to advice! Thanx in advanced.

You can't just ask her not to hang out with the other group. They're probably all friends now and there's really nothing you can do about it. Just go up to her and say it feels like she's drifting farther away from you guys and then make up a date where you can all spend time together. After that it should get easier. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything else for you! =c)

Love, RacheL

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Ok well i was at a football game last night. And yeah well my best friend moved about well almost 2 months ago.
So I met this guy at a football game (hes in grade 9 and im in 8) and yeah well ive known him for a few years i guess but this was the first time that we ever talked.

Ok. But yeah so he talks to my friend that moved, lets call her ashley, and he said that ashley called me a "lesbianish freak, slut, who has fake boobs"

ok and my (ex) best friend has no boobs so maybe shes jealous but who knows. and i DO NOT have fake boobs, lol i can prove it. So i called ashley and she goes ok who are you gonna believe some fag boy that youve known for one day or me. But the thing is she always spreads rumors abuot people so this really doesnt suprise me. But that guy doesnt even know me and hes nice and he wouldnt make that up.

Who should i believe. Please help.

I rate 5 for everyone.

It doesn't really matter because you're not gonna be able to get the person who said it to admit it. If I had to believe somebody I would believe the guy, especially if the friend moved and is always spreading rumors and the guy is nice. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything for you! =c)

Love, RacheL

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OK I have this "friend". Really she used to be my best friend, then I went away for the summer and she really started irritating me by talking about all these hot guys she's saying and how they all hit on her and how when I come back I get the less hotter one because she saw them first. WTF is that?! Do any of your friends do this? And plus, I KNOW for a fact that all of them do not hit on her because 1) She's honestly not that attractive. I'm prettier than her, and I don't really think I'm all that pretty anyway. 2) Whenever we went out together, which was quite alot, nobody ever hit on her. She'd always approach the guys she knew first.

Well anyway, back to what I was originally saying...over the summer things got different. After I got back things were not the same between her, me, and our other mutual friend. The mutual friend and I would still get online and call each other and hang out and stuff. But the main girl barely wanted anything to do with us. The one thing that set me off was one day we were all supposed to go to Ryan's (a steakhouse) which is 30 minutes away but this "friend" called and bailed on me (telling me she had a headache and didn't want to drive) like she always ALWAYS used to but I always took it from her. So I was pissed and asked my other friend to go hang out so we went to Wal-Mart and guess who pulled up right as we were walking home?

Yup you guessed it. So the other friend asked for a ride and the "friend" looked kinda irritated then hesitated. Since then I haven't spoken to her till a few days ago. Today she was suposed to take me to pick up my check from Subway, but she didn't. I called twice, left a message on her phone and on AIM but nothing. I knew she wasn't going to come which is why I made plans for someone else to take me.

My problem is, she wants me to go to her birthday party on Friday and since she's been such a terrible friend to me and done nothing but made me feel ugly when we were out together (by saying the hot guys were looking at her not me), and never keeping promises or plans...should I go? I mean normally I'm such a loyal person but I think she's just gone overboard with this. I'm sick of it.

I'm so sorry this was long...I just thought you all should nkow the whole story. Thanks for answering and I will rate you a 5 if you even put one sentence just because you read all this! :D

She has been a really bad friend and all but I think you should go to her party. Maybe if you talk to her there things will go back to normal between you. Plus if you don't go she'll think you're ditching her and ignoring her and then things would probably get worse. Maybe she has a good reason for all this, like family problems or something, but probably not. Just go to her party and see what happens from there. Hope I helped! Leave me one if I can do anything else for you! =c)


Love, RacheL

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Okay my problem is that my mom wont give one of my best friends a chance!!! My mom thinks just because Nicole** (**name has been changed) is just a lil different than my other friends that I cant hang with her! Ive asked many times to go out with Nicole but my mom continues to say no because "theres just something about her..out of all the people who call you, shes the rudest" hellloooo she (my mom) dont even answer the phone most of the time! I DO! Ugggghhh! is there ANY way to convince my mom that my friend isnt all trouble, even though she may be?

I went through the same thing with my mom. Everybody needs a friend who gets into trouble sometimes otherwise life would be boring. I have a couple friends that get in trouble a lot but they're so fun! If you hang around her just be sure to not go too far or get into too much trouble. Your mom is being protective of you. My mom was the same way. She didnt' want me hanging around a lot of my friends for different reasons of hers. Just tell her that your friend really isn't as bad as shes making her out to be. Say that she's really sweet and blah blah blah. Tell her that you wouldn't hang out with anybody who was all trouble and you're capable of making decisions on who your friends should be by yourself. Hope your mom understands and I hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if I can do anything else for you!

×3 Rachel

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Ive had this friend Z since 7th grade and we talk everyday, mainly cuz he IM's me all the time. But I also have a boyfriend that ive had for a year and 7 months and they obviously dont like eachother. Z doesnt like my boyfriend cuz he doesnt talk to him and that bothers him and my boyfriend doesnt like him because he thinks that Z is tryin to steal me from him. Well...lately its becoming a little obvious hes jealous. But in the last couple days everytime he talks to me he keeps talking about his ideal girl and theyr some things i have in common with his ideal girl. Everytime i ask him if hes talking about me he keeps sayin that he thinks im "a cool person to talk to" and "im a great friend". But yesterday he told me he had an opionion about me...but has kinda been avoiding me all day today. Not knowing this is driving me crazy. But the main point here is...is this guy sending me mixed signals or what or does he want me in a more than friends kind of way...plz help, sry its so long, ill rate a 5 if u answer.

Ohh I think that he likes you. I mean if he talks about his ideal girl and a lot of things are like you, and then he avoids you all day then he must like you. You should just come straight out and ask him if he likes you and see what he says. If he kind of stutters or you catch him by surprise and he pauses before he answers then he probably likes you. Or if he says no really fast then he still probably likes you. Hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if I can do anything for you! =c)
Love, RacheL

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Hello. Here is the situtation (sorry if its long)

Im a freshman in high scool, and I have 2 really good friends. One of them, let's call her Jacki, is really close to me, weve been friends for a long time. My other good friend is Kelsey, I havent known her as long as Jacki and we arent as close as Jacki and I are. So, unfortunetely Jacki went to a different high school then me, but me and Kelsey are at the same school. So, me and Kelsey have been hanging out at school, but the past two days she hasn't been talking to me that much. She sits at the opposite side of the lunch table, she hardly talks to me, and she talks to other people. I have other friends at the table and everything, but it really makes me feel bad because I feel like I have no REALLY good friend to talk to :-( I miss being with Jacki... please help. Thanks if you take the time to read it all! =)

Talk to her about it. Tell her that you miss talking to her lately and you want to know if anythings wrong. Try talking to her during lunch and try calling her. If she still ignores you then ask her if you did anything wrong and why she's not talking to you. If she still ignores you after that then shes probly hanging out with other people that don't want her hanging out with you for some reason. If that's true then shes not worth being your friend. Hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if I can do anything else for you! =c)
Love, RacheL

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Alright well first of all.. I'm 16/female.. if you needed that info to help me out or whatever

Well.. last night I was over at my friend caitlin's house and we got bored so we walked around the corner and met up with some friends(rachel,chrus,anthony,katie) and we were hangin out talkin and what not.. and then we decided to walk back to rachels house.. so we're walkin and talkin and I'm a smart ass.. and someone said somethin stupid so i made a remark about it.. ya know? but chris stares at me and laughs.. like nto staring bad way.. just staring.. but yeah.. then we're back at rachels and chris wanted to swim so he strips down to his boxers and jumps in.. hah it was cute.. but anywhos.. the whole time when we're all sittin out there talkin I would look over and catch chris lookin at me.. I mean it feels like there's somethin there.. but I don't know.. I mean.. he's an awesome kid.. I'd like for there to be somethin there but I don't know.. I mean he's a grade younger than me.. but he's not immature and sldflk I don't know.. I wanna get to know him better to see if there is something there and everything.. but he's not one of the people that I hang out with all the time.. so what do i do?

Thanks a bunch

You can start hanging out with him and get to know him better. Hang out with that group of friends more to get closer to him to know what he's like. Then I'm sure you'll figure out what to do. Hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if you need anything! =c)
Love, RacheL

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Okay, one of my best friends (a guy) is going out with one of my old friends who i dont really hang out with anymore but we're still nice and evrythng 2 each othr. But my best friend seems like he doesn't like her as much anymore but shes in love. I recently discovered that i really like him a lot but when they break up shes going to be soo upset but i really wana make a move. What should i do?

If I were you I would wait a little bit until she gets over him.. just try like a week and a half - 3 weeks or something. By then she won't be as sad or angry about it, but if she is then just try to wait a little longer. If she still is after 3 weeks then just say that you really like him, and then make your move. Hope I helped =c). Leave me one if I can do anything for you!!
Love, RacheL

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Okay, this might sound stupid but here it goes: My friend is obsessed with the fact that I have a lot in common with her boyfriend. Whenever she brings up the subject, she'll call him and ask both of us what things we like, and if we say the same thing she'll scream and say that we're going to fall "madly in love." I've told her hundreds of times that he's going out with HER, and he obviously LIKES her! I've spoken to her b/f once, and I don't like him that way, but she's obsessing that he's going to break up with her for me.. whom he's never even met. She's mad that she has NOTHING in common with this guy, and that I do, and I don't want to lose her as a friend.. and she won't listen to anything I say!

Sorry for the long post, but any ideas on what I should do?

Wow, you're friends taking this stuff way too far. If you've never even met the guy tell her she has nothing to worry about... that you don't even know him and you don't want to go out with him. He likes her and he's going out with her. Maybe your friend and this guy should have a talk about it all. If she keeps this up she IS going to lose her boyfriend soon! Hope I helped! Drop one in my inbox if you need any more help!
Love, RacheL

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