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I'm Emily
I'm 18 years young
I can be a bit straight forward but it comes from the heart
I'm moving to Florida next week!
I have a Jeep and it is very sexy.
I'm a little short for my liking
I am an aspiring model
I'm going to college for massage therapy, but am hoping to get into the entertainment business.
I used to be on my highschool's fencing team, and I miss it a whole lot ::sigh::
I used to fence with a sabre.
Art is my life
Andy Warhol is AMAZING!
I'm obsessed with tattoos and piercings
I am a guitarist, a photographer, a painter, and an artist.
I'm a loner, I'm a loser but I like it that way.
My friends and family mean the world to me.
I have 3 dogs.
I've been through more than I should.
I've been told I'm too adult for my age.
I'll answer your questions if you need it [=



Words of advice on love:
- Don't ever let someone tell you that you are not in love.
- If you say that you THINK you're in love, then you aren't. If you really feel it, then you are.
- Never let someone judge your relationship unless they know FACTS.
- To me, age is not an issue. If you are 13 and dating a 30 year old, then it's a big deal. If it's 5 or 6 years, not a big deal.
- If you are being abused mentally/physically GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Don't give the excuse that he apologized. If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you.


I'm not a fan of answering questions that are listed in the FAQ. If it's a question you can look up on Google then please, look it up on google. Don't be lazy.


I do not like when people have issues with typing.

iif u typ3 liik3 thiiz iit piissesz m3 0ff. Alot.

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a guy left this on my myspace. what is it supposed to be?

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thanks!

.... It's a face.

Eyes, nose, and a mouth.

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My friend sleeps around. Now people think I do. How do I fix my reputation and help my friend?

You might not like my answer... But here we go..

If you had given an age this would help alot more, but from what it sounds like you are probably a young girl in high school.

Let me tell you something: Kids in high school are CRUEL and they do and say things intensionally to hurt you. No matter what you say or do people are going to say what they want to say, and believe what they want to believe. I know I was the same way, I used to spread rumors about people just for spite, and I'm sure you may have done the same even if it was something little and stupid. Everyone has done it.

You know the truth about yourself. You know that you don't sleep around. And if it's going to affecet a relationship that you have with someone like a boy or even just a friend, then they weren't your friend to begin with. Because a TRUE friend would believe your word over rumors and if a person truely liked you they would do the same.

It's ignorance, and people are immature. They're too wrapped up in gossip and drama to give a shit about something that matters.

I had people say the same things about me just because they were cruel. But what I say to that is "Yeah, I know I'm a slut. I can't even tell you how many guys I've fucked. Man, this one 42 year old that I slept with, he told me that he had herpes and now I might have it and I'm really super bummed... His poor wife I wonder if she has it too... I feel just horrible I wonder how he's going to tell her that I'm pregnant with his baby! Well, at least i THINK it's his baby...."

They look at you like you're crazy and leave you alone about it. Then they'll just start spreading that rumor about you. And once that gets around, they figure it's too stupid to even believe and they just drop it. Guarenteed they'll find someone in a few weeks to say is a slut.

I promise you, it will stop. At one point or another it will stop.

Best of luck to you and your friend.

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please please please please help me! how can you email pictures from a phone to a computer?? i have verison, razr and i desperately need to know this before tomorrow. i need details too!!!

if thats not possible, how can i get pics on my phone w/o buying software??????

When you take the picture, send it as a normal picture message, but in the address you send it to, type in the email address and send it.


So, if you have the picture already saved, press send picture (I'm not sure the EXACT steps to do it on the razr because I don't have the phone infront of me).

If you know how to send a normal picture message, do it that way. Then in the address part type in the email address and you should be good to go.

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I have some best friends, and I have a very best friend. Well we are goin to high school next year. Do you think theres a good chance we will stay best bets friends? JW for your opinon. Tanks i will rate ya!

I'm sure you will stay friends, but you may not remain the best of friends all through highschool.

Highschool changes EVERYTHING. I lost almost all my friends when I went into highschool, they all turned to druggies and sluts and I wasn't into that scene.

I'm not saying this is going to happen with you and your friends, but it definately could. But what I suggest you do is spend as much time together as possible in highschool, that will keep you all close.

But, if you all end up not staying friends you always make new and better friends in highschool. I made the two best friends in the entire world in highschool and it sucks because the are moving in August.

Just don't let highschool drama get to you, cause that's what will tear you guys apart.

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Hey! Long time no see. This is sbloemeke, by the way, if you remember me. :)
Alright, so onto the question.
I have a friend, let's call her Mary. I met her through Helplink here, believe it or not, when we were both mentors. I IMed her a month after adding her to find out who she was, and she was wondering the same thing. Well, we became friends after that, and eventually we learned that we share a brain wave, and really don't need to talk too much about emotions because we know exactly what the other person is feeling.
Well, she had always been a bit on the depressive side of the spectrum, but nothing major until recently. She would have her times where she wanted to die, but the thought of me and what I'd feel ended up stopping her from doing it. It worked the same with me, by the way.
Well, recently she had some problems. She got into a bit of trouble with the school for cutting classes, which she never did. The school didn't listen to her, her parents, other students, or other teachers. As a result, she could have lost credits and in the end not graduated. I don't know if she lost the credits, but I know she has a bunch of detentions at lunch and on Saturdays. She still seemed fine and had a hope at winning orchestra president, and she worked so hard at it. She lost, and that is the point where I really began to become afraid.
Mary just stopped IMing me then. I never heard from her, even in E-Mail, and I usually got a IM from her once every 3 days, and I sent one every 3 days, about. I IMed her yesterday, and the result absolutely shocked me. She changed completely. She doesn't care anymore, she is isolating herself to stop problems, she is amazingly calm, and she is considering leaving her school which she loves for a private school.
Now, I have been mentoring people for one and a half years, so I see stages in a person. Unfortunately, I have never seen a person in this state who ever survives more than three weeks afterwards, unless they are put into a hospital. And even after they get out, they usually kill themselves 3 weeks or so after getting out. It does nothing at this point. And there is nothing I think anyone can do.
I am really upset. I am upset for her, I am upset for her friends, and I am upset that one of my truest, closest friends is probably going to be dead in only a matter of time. I don't know what to do. I can't call their hospital or psychiatric ward since I do not live there, I do not know the number, and my parents would lock ME up if they ever found out any of this. I also would feel awful if I find out that was a game with me or anything along those lines. I cannot tell any of her friends, because I have not ever talked to any one of them, and don't know how to contact them.
So, I am left with counseling her myself to see somebody or try to help her on my own. However, the last time I did that, I broke down. I witnessed her nervous breakdown, and I couldn't do anything to help it. I tried to give positive remarks, but I just was mentally decapacitated after that hour, and I was doing more harm than good at that time. I broke down myself, and almost killed MYSELF on the spot there. So, that is out of question as well.

So, I have a rock and a hard place to choose from. Yet, if I don't choose, my life is guilt from here on out.

What do I do?

You can't blame yourself for anything that happens to her. Because, in reality, people will do as they please no matter what anyone says.

Maybe you are wrong about her, maybe by her isolating herself from things it's a way for her to refocus herself, and by going to a new school is a chance for her to start out new. I've been in situations where I just stopped talking to people, isolated myself from the world practically, and I'd sit in my room and play guitar and cry. THAT was my therapy.

Different people have different ways of dealing with their problems and their emotions. And it is completely unnecessary for you to consider ending your OWN life due to someone else's problems. Think of how many times one of your best friends has had a nervous break down. Now, if every time that happened and you considered ending your own life... I would say that you would have needed to speak to someone.

I lost a friend a year and a half ago. I blamed myself because I said that only if I was there with her at that party, she would still be alive today. You can't keep going and blaming yourself. When someone is born, their clock already starts ticking. They only have a certain amount of time to live on this earth. Once that time runs out, there's nothing you can do. When it's their time to go, it's their time to go.

You need to tell her that her problems right now are only temporary, and by ending her life it's a permanent solution to temporary problems. Things are ALWAYS going to get worse before they get better. So, once she feels like she's hit rock bottom, she may feel like that for a little while longer but things will start getting better for her.

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I just got out of a relationship w/ a guy that I didn't talk to much before we started dating. He was a fun guy and I asked him to a dance and we got closer from there. Well, we broke up over a month ago, and he hasn't said anything to me at all really. He's smiled at me, but it's rare. I do want to keep a friendship with him even though he broke up with me. Should I talk to him first, or should I be patient and let it come...or tell him I miss talking to him? What would you do?

It's all about what you'd be more comfortable doing. I would personally walk up to him and ask him how he's been and how school has been going. Be like "I haven't talked to you in a while! How have you been?" That kind of deal. You could tell him that you miss talking to him.. If YOU would be comfortable saying that.


Just start up a conversation. Talk about projects you have in the same class and ask him how he's doing in that class. It's just small talk. Take baby steps. You'll get there. It's only been a month, so don't feel shot down if he doesn't want to talk to you.

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Ok, so there's this girl I used to date, like a year ago. And now she's constantly on my back, telling me stuff like she loves me (as a friend though). Thing is, i barely know her, we didn't date for that long and honestly I find her annoying. I wanna tell her to just piss off and let me be, but I can't because she seems really fragile, she had an abortion a few weeks ago too, and that doesn't help. Worst part is she even seems to like me more than friends go, even tho she has a boyfriend (the one that got her pregnant).
I've tried letting her know that she's coming on a bit strong and everything, and how she can't love me cause she barely knows me, included some nice words tho so she wouldn't be too hurt, like that she's nice, and then she drew the conclusion that i should want to see her cause I said she's nice, so she hasn't backed off.
I'm loosing my mind here and I don't know what to do. I'd be so grateful if you could help, and i'll rate. I'm 17/m, and she's 17 too, if that helps you figure it out.

Just tell her straight up that you don't have feelings for her. I really can't tell you anything other than to tell her straight up. Who gives a shit if she had an abortion? That's her fuck up, not yours. (Sorry if it sounds rude but any teenaged girl getting an abortion to me is a slut unless they were raped. It's their problem)... ANYWAY. Tell her just to leave you alone. I personally wouldn't be able to think of a nice way to put it. If someone is pissing me off I tell them that they are pissing ne off. I try not to be around the bush about it because it seems fake. Because, for the EXACT reason that you are explaining, they will come on stronger and won't back off. Just say look [insert girls name here] You're coming on wayyy too strong for me and you need to back off because you're getting on my nerves. Done. If she goes and cries.. Let her deal with it. She's a big girl, she'll be okay. If she think's she's mature enough to have sex and get herself pregnant THEN get an abortion, she'll be able to deal with someone telling her to basically fuck off.


EDIT: It doesn't matter whether she's been with him for a year, or however long. She had sex. Having sex means knowing there is a chance you WILL get pregnant. It's called PROTECT YOURSELF. She got an abortion and there is no need for one. She should have to deal with the consequenses. There is no need to kill an innocent entity because she decided to fuck up her life. If you don't want a kid, either protect yourself in any way possible or DON'T HAVE SEX AT ALL! It's fucking common sense. Sex was MEANT for reproducing. She's stupid. Don't feel bad for her because she got an abortion. That's not your problem.

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Ok for starters, here is some brief beackground information:
New Girl= Katelyn Everyone likes her (almost everyone). She dresses like a hooker *lol*. She has all the guys tied around her finger. And The worst thing yet. She sat in MY Lap! :|

I was sitting in Gym and the girl comes up to me and wrappes her arms around my neck and sits in my lap! So I said "Kayelyn I'm Not That Way!!" and She said "I'm not either!". So she got off. Then About a couple of minutes later she did it again. What can I tell this girl? I'm a GIRL! I'm Not Bi, or Lesbian I am STRAIT!!!

Well, first of all, it doesn't mean that a girl is bi or a lesbian when she sits on other girls laps. She's probably just joking around with you. I know plently of straight chicks that do that. I sit on my female friend's laps all the time.

All you can say to her is that you really don't like it when she sits on your lap and ask her to stop. She doesn't know it's bothering you unless you tell her. Whem you said "Katelyn I'm not that way" she probably took it as you being serious but sarcastic at the same time. Just tell her it bothers you, there's no harm in that. If she doesn't stop, slap her.

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What does it mean to "fall for someone" i get the general idea but could anyone explain it better for me please? thanks i'd appreciate it!

When you feel you start to have feelings for them and you feel they could be more than just a friend.

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How do you get an ex-friend to stop fucking talking to you. I'm usually good at getting people to leave me alone, but this guy is insane. He stopped talking to me for a while but now he is starting again despite when I tell him to leave me alone. Any ideas?

This is going to sound insanely harsh. But if you don't want the kid to talk to you just do this. Repeat this sentence "[insert ex-friend's name here], I DO NOT like you, you piss me off. For the love of GOD and the sake of my sanity, STOP EFFIN (Or fucking) TALKING TO ME!"


This kid that I was never friends with somehow found my screen name, saw my myspace and would talk to me every day in school. He annoyed the ever living shit out of me. So, one day in school he came up to me and started talking to me. So, I said this: "Dude, I don't know you. I don't know HOW you got my screen name and why in the hell you started talking to me. But you annoy the SHIT out of me. And I would greatly appreciate it if you didn't talk to me. If you don't stop talking to me, I'll duct tape your mouth shut.. We clear?" He didn't say a word, and I walked away and he's never spoken to me since.


Try that.

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ok.My really close guy friend recently died and im really bad at dealing with its been 2 months since he died but i still have those days were i miss him so much and get all depressed..and well i dont want to get this depression and i miss him ALOT but i dont want to feel this whole in a stomach like a part of me is missing...is there anyway i can get over it?how can i learn to cope with it?!

You really can't completely get over something like that. Your friend died only 2 months ago.. Mine died almost a year ago. I'm still having trouble getting over it.



You're going to be feeling like this for a long time, it's going to take a while to start coping with it and not be as depressed, but it's a long road.


What I find that helps, is talking about it. The more you talk about it, the more you'll cry. And crying is healthy.


But I garentee for the next few months, everything you see, do, hear, etc. will remind you of your friend.


But for now, just talk about it. I promise you it will make you feel better.

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me and my best friend met this ah-mazing guy in washington DC last spring hes from Chicago and his names tim I live in NY and we didnt keep in touch!!Is there any hope anymore?! and if u live in Chicago do u know someone named tim? i know impossible but ya never know!! thnx a bunch

Well, first of all let me just say that there probably is no hope. He lives a million miles away from you in another state. So, I highly doubt you'll ever get in contact with him.

And, do you have ANY idea how common the name Tim is? In my school ALONE there are 10 guys named Timothy. My school isn't that big either! There are like 800 kids maybe a little more. My boyfriend from another town, his name is Tim and in his school there are probably 20 guys named Tim.


If you knew his last name, phone number, and/or what town in Chicago he lived in (Chicago is very very very big). If you don't have that information, odds are you'll never get in touch with him.

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My best friend had phone sex with my brother and she doesnt want me to be mad. Do I forgive and forget, or stay mad at her and forgive her eventually or stay mad at her forever??
Signed,
Grossed out

Well, what your brother and your friends do is really none of your concern. You have every right to be grossed out. My best friend slept with my brother. I don't give a damn that they had sex, but I'm still freaked out by it.


Sure, you should forgive her. It's really nothing to be mad about. Just think of the incident as something that happened between her and some random guy, or your brother and some random girl.

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I have a friend we've been together for a long time but now we are geting into the stupedest fights how can i get her back or leave our relatioships at enemy?

Have you tried talking to her?

You really need to try to talk things out with her, you've been friends for a long time and I see no reason why you guys should be fighting all the time. You kids must be bickering like a married couple!


Try to have a night/afternoon/day out with eachother, just do all the things you like to do. Talk, and have fun! You should be able to figure things out, get everything out on the table about what's been bothering you guys.


That's what a friend of mine and I did. We had gotten into a HUGE fight, but we're okay now. We made up and got to hang out and talk things out. You should try that.

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hey
well basically ive got a best boy mate. i think he might be gay?
there has been several hints, we were talking about will and grace and the characters in it and i said i love will hes is so fit and he was yeah he is.
and the other day he wouldnt answer me on msn then he said he was watching porn and i said ok then and he said i like willys (OMFG)
he walks kinda campish and he squeeks when a leaf or something falls on him.
i have asked him a few times in the past and we talk about sex alot and i said can i sleep round .. i was joking of course and he was like erm.. no so i dont know if he his or not
o yeah this morning he asked to borrow my mirror :| yeah....
so i think he might be gay but i feel if i ask him i might offend him.
all GOOD help will be rated 5's
thanks in advance xx

Well, here is what you have to do. First off, he sounds JUST like my friend David (who is gay).

Anyway, hang out with him one day at a mall and if you see a guy even remotely goodlooking, be sure to point it out to him. Say OMG that guy is SO hot! See what his responce is.

Also, point out a few girls that you think are pretty and say [insert best friend's name here] she's so pretty! I could see you with a girl like that.

If you go into a clothing store, and you see a shirt you like, rant and rave about how cute of an outfit it would be on you. See what his response is then.


After a while, go get a bite to eat and then you should say, [insert best guy friend's name here], look, I really don't mean to offend you in ANYWAY, but we've been friends for a while and I know you very well. You know you can tell me anything, ask me anything, etc, and I hope I can do the same for you. But, I have a question for you. Again, I don't mean to offend you... but I've been noticing how you act around me alot, and just how you act in general.. It's making me believe you might be gay, unless you are just metorsexual (straight men that act like gay men). You don't have to answer me, I'm just curious.


If you two are close enough friends, then he should tell you. However, if he DOES admit to it and he's not ready to come out yet you MUST give him your word you will not say anything or you could potentially end your friendship with him.


He does sound gay to me. He acts just like my best friend David. JUST like him!


Best of luck to you!

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This one girl invited me to her birthday party I dont want to be mean and say no because that'll be men does anybody know any good excuses and PLEASE HURRY.

Tell her you have to visit family in another state.

Or, that you're grounded.


Works all the time for me =) cause I actually have family out of state.

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okay so i just started proactive for my face, and does anyone know if it acutally works and how long

It works for some people. It didn't work at all for me. I used it for two months straight, and my skin just got worse from it.


If it does work for you, your skin should start clearing up in about a week or two.

But again, it works for SOME people. Which, they fail to advertise in their commercials.

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okay, well just recently i entered highschool. i love it every way. but the only problem is that my friends, my old ones from middle school. they bareally talk to me. we all used to hangout every single weekend. and now they are all interested about being popular and hanging out with the right croud. and it gets me really upset because they all hangout together and im home alone and they dont even ask me to hangout when they know im sitting home all alone. my best friend still even hangs out with them and i ask her to hangout and shes like i cant im sorry and this is an every weekend thing.

One thing you need to learn about highschool, and I learned this the HARD way. Highschool changes things.


Your best friends WILL turn into bitches. It's happened.


If they are making such an effort to exclude you from their plans, why not make the effort to make new friends? Lose a friend, gain a better one.

Highschool is going to have so many new experiences for you, there are so many new people there. Try to get to know someone from one of the other schools and start trying to find a new group of friends. That's what I had to do.


Even the most popular girls from my middle school are not friends anymore, they are friends with other 'popular' girls.


Just leave them alone, forget about them and move on. I know it's hard to just drop them as friends, but really think about it.. They pretty much did it to you.

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ok i have a friend that just got a puppy and she is scared that i am going to take it away from her because the puppy like me better what should i do? i still want to be her frined but she wont hang out with her but if she is goign to not trust me then i dont think i should

Well, if you were to take her dog that would be illegal. Because it's HER and her family's property. Not yours. If she was a good friend, then she'd know you, being a good friend, wouldn't take your dog.


A dog will act friendlier to one who gives it more attention. It's only a puppy, it wants to play.


If you think she's not going to trust you, then it's your choice not to hang out with her. It's stupid that she's upset that she thinks you're going to take her dog. You can be fined if you take her dog. And possibly arrested.

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i just found out my best friend is pregent, she is about 5 to 6 months along and is due in january and she is going to make the kid call me aunt because we are so close, like sisters. i feel totally shocked because she is only 17 while she is gonna marry the guy, i know its gonna be hard for her, and im just not sure what to do for her right now, i just need some ideas because i am completely in shock.

All you can do right now is support her. You're her best friend and I'm sure the stress of having a child at such a young age is enough for her. So just support her in any way you can.

Go to check ups with her, buy her a few diapers here and there, baby clothes, etc. Just do what any good friend would do- Help her and BE THERE.

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