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My Friend
My friend sleeps around. Now people think I do. How do I fix my reputation and help my friend?
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If you had given an age this would help alot more, but from what it sounds like you are probably a young girl in high school.
Let me tell you something: Kids in high school are CRUEL and they do and say things intensionally to hurt you. No matter what you say or do people are going to say what they want to say, and believe what they want to believe. I know I was the same way, I used to spread rumors about people just for spite, and I'm sure you may have done the same even if it was something little and stupid. Everyone has done it.
You know the truth about yourself. You know that you don't sleep around. And if it's going to affecet a relationship that you have with someone like a boy or even just a friend, then they weren't your friend to begin with. Because a TRUE friend would believe your word over rumors and if a person truely liked you they would do the same.
It's ignorance, and people are immature. They're too wrapped up in gossip and drama to give a shit about something that matters.
I had people say the same things about me just because they were cruel. But what I say to that is "Yeah, I know I'm a slut. I can't even tell you how many guys I've fucked. Man, this one 42 year old that I slept with, he told me that he had herpes and now I might have it and I'm really super bummed... His poor wife I wonder if she has it too... I feel just horrible I wonder how he's going to tell her that I'm pregnant with his baby! Well, at least i THINK it's his baby...."
They look at you like you're crazy and leave you alone about it. Then they'll just start spreading that rumor about you. And once that gets around, they figure it's too stupid to even believe and they just drop it. Guarenteed they'll find someone in a few weeks to say is a slut.
I promise you, it will stop. At one point or another it will stop.
Best of luck to you and your friend.
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Well, that's all up to you. But first of all, you have to ignore it. (Unless you fit into this category, & you do sleep around, but I really doubt it or else you wouldn't have a problem with any of this.)
I'd either talk to her, or just not hang around with her. I know it'd be tough, but it you're really that concerned about the labels people throw at you, that's something you('d) have to put up with if you're friends with her.
Jess♥
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you could say to people --just because she "sleeps" around with people doesn't mean i do--
and if you are not happy about your friend sleeping around maybe you should say thats not right and it's just leading the boys on because they will start to like her and get a interest in her and she will nagged and she will be leading all these boys on and it's not fair!!
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Don't start to, or keep going if you are already. Being associated with "sluts" can cause this. Talk to your friend and let them know it's gross. Tell as many people as you can something that will make them think you're the total opposite. hope i helped!
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