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I don't have much time in my crazy schedule and my boyfriend and have gotten really close lately and hang out all the time... my friends are getting annoyed and are saying that i don't spend enough time with them. i try really hard to do things with them, but it seems that i can never fit everyone in.. i want to stay close to my boyfriend but i don't want to lose my friends either.. comment please! (link)
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well, talk to them about it. just tell them how you feel and that you dont want to lose them but you dont have a lot of time on your hands to please everyone. and if they dont understand after that, then they're not real friends. i was in the same situation and i found out that a lot of my friends werent real. i hope you're friends are. good luck.
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i have two friends and one of these friends i like much more than the other. the friend i like more is called "rosie" and the friend that im not fond of is called "mary". so mary is really boring and not very social, im only friends with her through rosie. when im with both rosie and mary mary kind of shuts down and it looks as if she is very uncomfortable. i dont want to her to feel uncomfortable anymore. we dont really have a lot of stuff in common. what are some things that i can do to make mary feel more comfortable around rosie and me? thanks so much. i rate. (link)
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well, i dont really know much about the situation but i'll do my best to help.
try to make sure that shes always included. and let her get to know you more, maybe she doesnt know you that way and she only really opens up to people she knows? tell her things about you to make her feel that its ok for her to open up to you and that she doesnt have to be uncomortable around you. or, you could possibly ask "rosie" if she knows why, because "rosie" was friends with her first. hope i helped. and good luck.
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there's a kid who wants to fight my friend and his little brother (known them for about 10years now)my friend knows i have his back but told me not to jump in if a fight breaks out. the other kid is very street and it could get ugly quick. i kno i can make a pancake out of this b*tch. im 15 years old 6'1 175(muscle i mite add) i dont want my friends geting hurt, so should i fight this kid myself or let my neighbor do it.
talking it over and going to adults doesnt work so please dont suggest that. (link)
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do what you think is best. if your friend starts to fight and it gets bad then i suggest jumping in because you dont want to see your friend getting hurt. its really your choice, but im just telling you my opinion. hope everything works out.
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okay so one of my friends im not too close with her but shes always had a crush on my BF. well i honestly dont kno if she still does but i kno she would talk about him alot last year and she always liked him. and this year she has been flirting alot with him ever since we've been goin out. and she acts all giggley and blushy and all that around him. or when we talk about him. how can i get her to stay away from him with out being mean? because i dont want to lose her as a friend (link)
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tell her that. say you dont want to loes her as a friend and ask her how she feels about him. and tell her that it seems as if shes flirting and you dont really feel comfortable (sp?) about it. good luck.
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my friend called and asked me for a blank Cd and I told her I can't get her one b/c they are my brothers.She kept saying 'oh just ask him' so I said 'i can't, because i had my other friend over and we were watching a movie`I am constantly giving her stuff.i'm not even kidding. I give her clothes,i bought her lunch today(didnt even ask her to pay me back!)when i told her i couldnt she's like 'ok, whatever bye'i thought that was really rude.when people say the word 'whatever' to me i find it offensive and she hung up on me.what should i do? i did nothing wrong and just stuck up for myself... (link)
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you're right, you did nothing wrong. friends like that tend to use people for things, im sorry to tell you this. and when you dont do what they want, they get mad at you. trust me, they're not friends worth having. it only hurts you more. stick up for yourself more and see what happens. maybe she'll realise that she was taking advantages of you. hope i helped.
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My friend is soo depressed, that everytime I'm with her, she brings me down too. And I try to cheer her up, but she just gives me one of those fake smiles. It is breaking up our friendship now, and I don't want that to happen. What do I do to help her?! (link)
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talk to her about how you feel.tell her that you hate seeing her upset. try to hang out with her more. people tend to be less depressed when their around friends and just hanging out. im the same way, in school i fake a smile all day. but if im just hanging out, then im happy. maybe she should go on some sort of medicine to help her. they really do help. but if she does, really watch her. some of the pills do the opposite effect on people. so it might make her worse.hope i helped any.
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I came to a new school this year and i hav a couple new friends and i eally miss my old friends and hardly ever hear from some of them. I kind of feel like my new friends are replacing my old ones but i know they're not and they are great friends. Every time we go to the CVS in my old neighborhood i think it would be the coolest thing if i saw them. Someone please help me. (link)
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well you're not replacing them. its just that you dont get to see them so much and its totally normal for this to happen. especially when you move into a new school. you obviously care about both sets. so you're not replacing them, its just you want to be with both. sorry i couldnt help more. but if you ever need to talk im here.
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Ok, so whenever my best friend has another friend over she won't talk to me (I mean like online). Your probably thinking "ummm, it's rude to talk to you while a friend is there." But she talks to other people! I know this because if I IM her on the bottom it will say (their screenname) is typing. Then she just stops typing when she realizes it's from me and immedatly puts up her away message. Then someone will ask me if I know why she went away without saying anything. My question is how should I confront her? Do you think she is hiding something from me? Thank you. (link)
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im not really sure if shes hiding something from you. if you wanted to, you could make a new sn and im her on that and see if she stops talking to you. or you could just ask her about it. she is your best friend right? though it does seem a little odd. i think you should ask her. hope i helped.
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I just moved to a new school and I'm finding it really hard to make some friends (i'm in 9th). and it just gets really lonley on the weekends because I don't like do anything. And my friends from my old school, I don't talk to them anymore. I don't know if there is any advice you can give me (besides that whole join a sport because I am doing a sport in the spring) and join a club because I am already in some and they arent very helpful with meeting people. Any advice?? (link)
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why dont you start having conversations with people. just talk to them in the middle of class and say "hi" sorry i couldnt help more...
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Well, let me start off by saying me and my best friend camaran have been best friends forever. Well, over the years her mother, Tara, has been having some prblems. She is overweight, smokes, and drinks. Well, about a month ago she got into a car accident from "Drinking Under the Influence". The police scheduled her to have a court day yesterday. But with her illness symptoms, she couldn't make it show she wrote a letter to the judge. Obviously they didn't care and had her arrested for not going to court. She was in jail all last night, but was let out this afternoon. Now they're rescheduling her court date sometime in January. After court she is going to be arrested and go to jail for "Drinking Under the Influence" and causing harm to another person. (she hit the other car when she was drunk and the person who she hit had to go to the hospital) (link)
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just be there for her. tell her you'll always be there and she can go to you any time she needs you and how much you care for her. and you wish this thing never happened. im sorry it did happen. just keep an eye on her and make sure things are ok like she says it is. other than that i dont think there is anything you can do. just be a good friend. hope i helped.
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i feel like none of my friends like me b/c no1 ever wants to hang out with me and im gettin rlly upset about it (link)
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if you have to go out of your way for them to like you, then they dont sound like very good friends to me. no offense. i dont think you should change anything for anyone. you deserve better. hope i helped. if you need anything dont hesitate to ask...i've also gone through something like this and it sucks. im sorry you're going through it too.
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ok...so theres this guy i met and weve become good friends...we hang out on the weekends and stuff and hes really fun to be around and talk to...only i think i like him too much and i kno he likes me too much...i didnt want this to happens on account hes a lott older than me ... what should i do? (link)
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well, if you trust him and really like him i'd say go for it. you cant help who you fall for...good luck!
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My friend and i used to be really close but lately shes been ignoreing me alot and its really hurtin my feelings.. what should i do! (link)
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talk to her about it. thats the only way thats going to make it do she talks to you. ask her why shes ignoring you. tell her how you feel. hope i helped.
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my friend gave me a note to give to another friend...and i forgot to. Later that night i remember the note was in my pocket so i did a bad thing and read it. In the note she talked about how she wants to kill herself and about how she is thinking about slitting her wrisits! what should i do! if i tell my friend she`ll be furious that i invaded her privacy...but if i dont....who knows what could happen! (link)
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its a good thing you read it, tell your friend that you'll always be there for her and what a good friend she is (if you dont want her to know that you read it). tell her how much she means to you. keep an eye on her. let me know how things go, im sorry. i hope she doesnt do anything. if you need someone to talk to, im here. i know a lot about cutting and suicide and all that so i'll try to help as much as i can.
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my two bestfriends hate me for no reason! they think i talk about them when i dont nd ive told them a million times that i dont talk about them. i still want to be freinds with them, what should i do? please help! (link)
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ask them why they think you talk about them. maybe someone else is telling them that you are, if they still dont believe you...maybe they're not very good friends after all. hope i helped. good luck.
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There's this girl in my grade. She really doesn't have any friends, except she persists to hang out with me and the rest of my friends. She's ALWAYS complaining about how fat she is. I tell her that she is not obese, but she merely says, "Oh, God, just shutup, will you? Of course I'm fat." Sometimes I tell her she's not like those obese people, but sometimes I don't say anything. Then she'll say, "So you agree. You think I'm fat?" She gets very much on my nerves. Except the thing is, she kinda is fat. Just like super super chubby, but it's not like she's really obese. Just how do I respond when she complains about her weight?
Thanks. Sorry it is so long, but I really need help. I would really appreciate it. (link)
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when she complains again just be like "ok thats what you think about yourself but other might see you differently and you can continue to call yourself fat but its not going to make you look like a stick, you're fine the way you are it doesnt matter if you're fat or not." or something like that. you might want to make it sound a little nicer though, i tend to sound like a real bitch when telling people things who get on my nerves too. ok so i can be a real bitch lol. well anywayz, i hope i helped. good luck.
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my friend is being extremely annoying. most of our group of friends got into advanced 9th classes (we're in 8th) and she didn't. she constantly says she's stupid and we're all smarter than her, and that isn't true. (she was probably 1 point away from getting in advanced anyway.) whenever she looks at our books, she makes a face and rolls her eyes. now, i can understand why she's upset, but we all know and it's getting really old really fast. what can i tell her to stop this?? (link)
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just talk to her about it. shes probably acting the way she is because she wasnt accepted into those classes too. she just feels left out or is jelous or something along those lines. just talk to her and ask her how she feels about it and why shes acting the way she is. also include that you dont mean to hurt her or anything and you still want to be friends. hope i helped.
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I need some help in planning a 21st Birthday Party!!! It doesn't even have to be a party,just something to do with a best friend,or a small group of friends.Please don't say "Go get drunk!!" cuz that's not my style,I mean I may have a drink or two but not get wasted!!Thanks in advance! And I will rate all answers!! (link)
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well you can still go out somewhere for a while and drink but you dont have to get drunk. thats kind of stupid to do unless your around people you really trust because anything could happen. but think of what a few friends like to do...sorry i cant help more. good luck.
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This weekend im suppose to be going out with one of my friends to a different town around people i dont know and people she does know. How can I hang out with them and be cool w/o making a fool of myself. How do I meet knew people..i thhink im scared a little, but how do i overcome that? Does anyone have any ideas of how I can not be afraid? Maybe Im just scared people will hate me or something? Any Advice ? thanks!! (link)
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just dont care about what people think about you. if they like you then they like you. if you act different around your friend then she might notice and say something. just being yourself should work. hope i helped.
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ok well what do u do if u have a really close frined and then u get another good,nice friend and u want all 3 of u to hang out but the 1st friend doesnt like the new one?
its kinda like... u want 2+1 to equal 3...but it wont..? (link)
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well...ask them why they dont like the new one. i have friends like that. they get alone when im not there, but when i am..all they do is fight. just ask them and see what they say. then go from there. hope i helped.
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