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Her mom's gonna be in jail.....
Well, let me start off by saying me and my best friend camaran have been best friends forever. Well, over the years her mother, Tara, has been having some prblems. She is overweight, smokes, and drinks. Well, about a month ago she got into a car accident from "Drinking Under the Influence". The police scheduled her to have a court day yesterday. But with her illness symptoms, she couldn't make it show she wrote a letter to the judge. Obviously they didn't care and had her arrested for not going to court. She was in jail all last night, but was let out this afternoon. Now they're rescheduling her court date sometime in January. After court she is going to be arrested and go to jail for "Drinking Under the Influence" and causing harm to another person. (she hit the other car when she was drunk and the person who she hit had to go to the hospital)<< At least that's what everyone thinks, or she could bail herself out for 7500. Now my friend, Camaran, seems fine with it. I don't think she is ok with it though....i think she is just trying to hide her fear and worry. What should I do, what can I do, to help her?
*thnx so much*
xoxoxo shortie
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She probably is hiding some feelings from you, unless there is some aspect to the relationship between her mother and herself that you don't know of yet; maybe she thinks the jailtime will set her mother straight and prevent a similar incident from occuring again.
If she is hiding some emotion then it will become obvious over time as she'll look worse, talk to people less, and other anti-social things.
As of now, I wouldn't try to push any thing out of her until you start seeing some of those things I just mentioned; you're her best friend so you're obligated to be on the lookout. Just stick near her for now, and let things develop.
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that's a really tough situation. the best you can do is show Camaran that you are there for her no matter what, and if she ever needs to talk, you are more than happy to listen. but don't force anything. chances are this is a really rough time for her, and she might even feel a little embarrassed about it, eventhough she shouldn't, so it might be hard for her to talk about it at first. give her space, but make sure she knows ur there for her unconditionally, and when she's ready to talk, she's lucky to have a friend like you there and ready to listen. hope everything turns out ok.
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well...thats a pretty tough thing to live with. she is probably just insecure with it right now that her mom did that and doesn't really want to talk about it. just see what happens and if she talks to you about it, then talk to her, and tell her, but don't put pressure on her right now cause i'm sure she is under a lot already
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Wow this is tough. All I can say about it is that, you shouldn't bug her about it too much just ask her straight out one day and ask her what you can do and swear you won't tell anyone about it. Stay off gossip for a while,so your friend knows you won't tell. If she dosen't talk forget it. She is probably sad, but it's her problem. Pray for her at night and stick to what you think is best.
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just be there for her. tell her you'll always be there and she can go to you any time she needs you and how much you care for her. and you wish this thing never happened. im sorry it did happen. just keep an eye on her and make sure things are ok like she says it is. other than that i dont think there is anything you can do. just be a good friend. hope i helped.
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