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my friend is being extremely annoying. most of our group of friends got into advanced 9th classes (we're in 8th) and she didn't. she constantly says she's stupid and we're all smarter than her, and that isn't true. (she was probably 1 point away from getting in advanced anyway.) whenever she looks at our books, she makes a face and rolls her eyes. now, i can understand why she's upset, but we all know and it's getting really old really fast. what can i tell her to stop this??
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Just say "look its not a big deal and we're getting tired of talking about this" let her be mad at you for a little while if she has too. its no big deal she needs to get over it sooner or later
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tell her you love her as a friend n all but there is nothing you can do about being in the classes..some ppl are more focused than others..tell her if she wants somthing done she can do it herself bcuz whining about it isnt going anywhere.
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really, I know the normal response is to be nice, but I'd in a jokingly way, yet where they know that your serious, be like Oh shut up, For all we know you were one poit away, just joke around, but in the way where they know your not kidding
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just talk to her about it. shes probably acting the way she is because she wasnt accepted into those classes too. she just feels left out or is jelous or something along those lines. just talk to her and ask her how she feels about it and why shes acting the way she is. also include that you dont mean to hurt her or anything and you still want to be friends. hope i helped.
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things are not always going to happen her way... & you just have to accept that and get on wit ur life... tell her that u guys feel bad for her... but she should stop complaining cuz its going to get her & everyone else around her down... she should work hard this year so she can get into advanced classes next year
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Just be straight forward. Say "If you want these good grades you have to work for it like we did. It's just not going to be handed to you on a silver platter." You have to work for what you want. Plain and simple. Unless of course you're a spolied rich brat and your parents give you whatever the heck you want then that's entirely another story, but when it comes to getting an education and a good job, you have to work for that. Hope this helped.
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you should tell her that it isnt a big deal taken a class from 1 grade above.. she will do it next yr nd it will b the same thing. nd just tell her tht u dont like how shez alwayz rolling her eyes at ur books nd if shez a true friend she will understand bcuz every1 getz annoyin some time nd itz up to the few ppl to tell them so they can fix there attitude.... iif that dont work den i donno wut to say but just tell her how u feel about the sistuation because u should tell ur feelingz nd not keep them inside
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Yeah, that's never an easy thing to deal with. I can understand this from both ends. When in school it is hard to separate your social lives from your academic lives, thus school blends with all else... because of this, your friend is constantly reminded of what she is seeing as a shortcoming. And as such, she is going to get defensive and feel left out.
All I can suggest is to not let her dwell on the differnces in coursework. Talk about other things. Make a point to not gloat about the classes you are in that she is not. She needs to be able to realize that you are not at fault for this, and that there is nothing you can do about it.
Perhaps she could also use this as motivation to prove herself so that maybe she can enter into advanced courses eventually, too. If she's that close to getting in, then working harder on her end should make her point to also get in.
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