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Notice: From now on if you want to tell me something or ask me a question that has nothing to do with advice, you can IM me at thefishaim. Thank you! - The Fish.---
Question: "I like someone, but I don't know if they like me, how can I tell?"
Answer: Everybody is different, I have no way of knowing how your crush expresses him/herself. The best way is to just ask them, you'll never get anywhere if you don't.
I'm sorry to be rude, but these are the only questions I have been seeing in my inbox, and I am tired of them. I won't be answering them anymore.
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okay, so i have sorta a lot of guy friends
and i dont know what them for christmas
some ideas.
PLEASE :[
thanks
btw. 15/f and my friends are my age.
You can't go wrong with cookies.
does anyone know this?
Ex.i miss you like a child misses the blanket and
i love you like fat kid loves cake
im a girl and i need the nice/creative/funny/cute for my friend, and shes a girl too
i miss you like________________ and
i love you like_________________
i appriciate your help =)
- I miss you like Bill Buckner missed that ball in the 1986 World Series.
- I miss you like a tapeworm misses the large intestine.
- I love you like a pirate loves treasure.
- I love you like a Tyrannosaurus Rex loves smashing into things and eating other dinosaurs.
- I love you like a kitten loves yarn.
- I love you like Kel loves orange soda.
- I miss you like a lobster misses the ocean.
- I miss you like an owl misses the night.
- I love you like a wolf loves his pack.
- I love you like a clam loves its shell.
- I love you like Narcissus loves himself.
- I love you like the Moon loves the tide.
That's all I can come up with right now. Hope I helped.
For once in my life, I have met my soulmate and we're getting married July 28th. The thing I've been wondering is my friend who is 18 well we've liked eachother for quite a while, but I know nothing will progress since he's such a sweet guy, I just think he needs to find someone his age. Even though we like eachother, I just can't go any further with him not just because I'm getting married but because I'm 25 and he's 18, and he's only a Junior in High School. I just want to be friends with him, but I don't know how to tell him because we'd went farther then we should have in the first place. So if anyone has any suggestions let me know please. Should I break off the friendship or keep it??
This is just my opinion, but I think you should break it off. I might be wrong, but it seems that from what you're saying, you might be tempted to go too far with this guy. If not, you don't know how he feels. What if being close to you as a friend is too much for him, and he can't get over you? I think it's only fair for both of you to get some distance between each other. You don't have to break your friendship for good, but just take it slowly. And talk about it with him! I could be way off base with everything I said above, but I do know that you won't solve anything if you never say anything. You said you don't know how to tell him, but you know how you feel about the situation, so just tell him that. Start with "I need to talk to you." and go from there. That's really the only way to save your friendship. :)
-Lia
Hi so I have this frend, shes relly kool. We were relly tight when we were younger, but then she moved a way (relly relly far) and we lost touch, but whenever we talk, its like nuthin ever happened. And were myspace frends and like i look at her profile alot. i have a big crush on her (ima girl to), and she is bi. I am going to visit her this summer. wat do i do. do i hid my fellings or not? if it helps we are both 17
Tell her! It'll be hard, but you have to atleast try! What if she feels the same way, but is too afraid to tell you? You don't want to go through your whole life not knowing. Maybe when you're both 80, you'll finally admit it and you can be together but that will be SAD because you'll have missed out on so much! I know what it's like to miss out on an opportunity--it totally sucks! Whatever she says, you'll have no regrets if you take the chance. If you don't, you'll having nothing BUT regrets!
-Lia
I would like to know if a straight people read or watch homosexual stories. is it because they might be gay ect. Or support them?
i have no clue where to put this qeastion in what category. so sorry
I'm glad somebody asked this! Yes, many do. They all have their own reasons.
For instance, I don't know if you're into fanfiction (stories based on other works, such as books or movies), but there is a genre called slash, referring to homosexual pairings. Most people who read slash are straight women. Many enjoy it because when they read a romance story between a woman and a man, there's a lot of pressure. We tend to empathize with the woman in the story and put ourselves in her situation. When it's two guys, the woman can just sit back and enjoy herself. This is the same reason that a lot of heterosexual guys like lesbian porn. Instinctually, if it was male/female porn, some guys would feel threatened by the other man, but when it's two women, he can just watch.
Now, I'm bi, so I'm very concerned about gay rights issues. That's why I like to watch movies like Chasing Amy and Brokeback Mountain, because they show how people deal with sexuality. It's interesting for me, but I'm sure there are straight people who find it interesting as well. As for reading, I like stories about het, gay, and lesbian couples. Love is love. =D
It's entirely possible for a person to like reading stories and watching movies about homosexuals, and at the same time hate gays. Of course, that person is a hypocritical asshole, but to each his own. It's also possible to completely support gay rights and hate reading stories about gay couples. :D
-Lia
So, my best friend and I were hanging out the other day. He asked if I thought my sister had had sex with her boyfriend. I said "yes" and he called her a slut. He might have been joking, I'm not sure. So I was pissed (justifyibly, yes?). I was talking to my sisters boyfriend, and he mentioned him. I said "yeah I'm not very happy with him right now" and he said "why" and after much persuasion, and a threat to punch him in the face, I told him exactly why. Now my best friend is denying it, and not letting me explain. Who's at fault? Is it me, for telling Brandon, or my friend, for calling my sister a slut, or is it mine for telling him yes in the first place?
Should I just ignore him and let him come around, or should I call him/go to his house/write him a note/etc? I love him to death, and I have about 7 hours worth of comics at his house, if that makes any difference.
Since you know him so well, you probably could have predicted that reaction. Then again, maybe not (as Lumiere would say). Your reaction is definitely justified! I can't stand the word "slut". Joking or not, it's beyond offensive. Talk to him face to face. You gotta say to him that you won't take that--no matter what his opinion is, she's your sister and you're not going to just let him insult her! You shouldn't, anyway. I don't think he's going to come around unless you make sure he knows you have a problem with it.
(And if you will permit me to insult your best friend, he's a pussy for denying it. Forgive me if that was out of line.)
*explosion of hearts...and duck pizza!*,
Little Washu
14/f
The other day, I posted something, about my friend hurting my feelings. But, I hardly went into ANY detail. So, now that I feel a little better, I'll go into some serious detail.
-I go to a rich snobby catholic school. Which means, every girl in there, is super mean.
-Even like the loser girls, arn't even nice, no one is.
-We don't do anything in our school, like dances & junk. [ another good reason to leave. i like schools that have activities & stuff, yeah i'm weird..]
-i may hang out with the popular group in school, but i'd rather have no friends at all.
If you were at my school, you'd understand. You can't walk away from your lunch table, without worrying their talking about you.
-Their all SUPER boring. The only way they have fun, is if their picking on someone else.
-None of the guys like us, because they think were all bitches. so, therefore you can't even have crushes on guys & stuff [ they may sound like a retarded reason to switch schools.. but come on, think about it.]
-Theirs only one girl who i actually like. But, sometimes.. she even gets on my nerves, because shes kinda a slut.
So, thats my school. I got in a big fight with my 'best friend' yesterday, I was saying how I was just thinking, only THINKING about switching schools. & shes like why? & i was like.. well its not like you talk to me alot anymore & stuff. [ Yeah, sounds like a stupid reason to leave.. not. Shes one of the few real friends i have.] & she got all defensive saying no im not, oh my god! & stuff.. so then, she got one of the MEANEST girls in the grade involved. & the girl ended up screaming at me & everything. So, i ended up leaving, & i cried myself for sleep, for two hours.
Give me one good reason why I should stay at that horrible school.
You shouldn't. If you want to leave and your parents are on board with that, you should leave. Your friend is being very immature. Tell her flat out that it's your decision, and that it really doesn't change anything. You can still be friends with someone you don't go to school with. If she still has a problem with it, then I'm sorry but she is not much of a friend. Do what's right for you. As for the other girl, well, you won't have to deal with her once you're out of there.
-Beulah =)
Let me first describe this one girl to you--
-her names hayley.
-shes the popularest one in school
-people worship her. [she even has people who go out to her locker for her & get her things!]
-shes really confident
-but shes also really mean. .. if she doesnt like you.
-shes really rich. she has a ton of REAL louis, chanels, coachs juicys & all that.
-her dog evne wears like these juicy jackets & stuff.
She had this big party, & you had to be on her A-list to get invited. I wasn't I was like on her B-list or something. & she posted it everywhere in school, & everything. Anyways, shes been REALLY nice to me lately, & i want to be better friends with her. Her one friend just moved away, & that means theres a spot open. & i want to make that spot for me. how do i do it?
don't tell me, to be myself or anything.. because, that obviously hasn't been working out too well.
kthanks
If she's mean to the people she doesn't like, then she doesn't have confidence. Confident people don't have to look down on others to make themselves feel better, and that's exactly what she's doing. I have a hard time seeing why you would want to be friends with a person like this. Seems to me that she sees people as dolls. Do you really want to be one of her toys? Say you become her "friend". She's just going to use you! Think about it. What you want is to be able to go to her locker and get things for her. You are worth more than that!
I'm not going to tell you how to waste your time with someone like this. She'll only end up hurting you. Focus on yourself. Paint your nails, write a short story, and rearrange the furniture in your room. Then get some real friends who will actually care about you.
I'm saying this for your own good.
-Beulah
PLEASE HELP ME! ok. I HAD 5 BFFs. Then, I liked this guy and one asked him out 4 me when I told her not to. Then, my "BFFFF" keeps ragging on me about wut I wear and stuff like that. Also, another is turning the "wrong corner". Another talks behind my back. The last one is pretty much all I have left, because she does NONE of those things, and is the most like me. But, what should I do about the others?!
Screw the others. They don't care about you. They're backstabbers and fair-weather friends...except for the "wrong corner" girl. She has her own issues. The only true friend you have is the last one, so stand by her. To the rest, just say to them, "I'm done with you." They don't care about you, so you shouldn't care about them.
-Beulah
ok well I've been hanging out with my bestfriend a lot lately and we met this group of guys. They're cute and I like a couple of them. I found out a couple of them liked me too but now I've been hearing from people they're talking about me. Like they're all cool with me and then they say stuff to other people that isnt true(kinda two-faced). I dont know if they're actually doing this but thats what I've been told and I believe some of it cause one of my good friends told me. I heard today that this one guy that I really like out of the group and I knew he liked me was sayin stuff about me. He calls me a lot and called me tonight but kept hanging up. I don't know if I should keep hanging out with them or what. please answer bak thanx
These guys don't sound like they're worth your time. They may be cute, but they are being very immature. You deserve more respect than that. Trust your gut. If you have any reason to think that you shouldn't be spending time with these guys, stop. Believe me, they're not worth it.
-Beulah =)