My names Amanda im 17 years old! I live in a real small town--bracey,va. i live in an even smaller neighborhood type thing so its just me and my friends. Im single but im basically in LOVE with one of my best friends, yeahh that sucks. Ive been through it all..bad relationships, asshole boyfriends, backstabbing best friends you've been friends with all your life, alotttt of stuff. I can't exactly explain me in a paragraph but i can promise if you ask me anything i will do everything i can get give you the answer or the best advice that im capable of.
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okay so you look like a cool person to ask this to. I'm 14f and me and my friend cate have been BEST friends for 8 years. I moved 4 years ago, but it feels like i still live near her cause we're still bff. now she got this 18 year old bf that is luring her in the wrong direction. First, she starting smoking and smoking pot. WE EVEN MADE A PROMISE TOGETHER THAT WE WOULDN'T EVER TOUCH THAT KINd OF STUFF. AND I DON'T. now i found out she is have sex w/ him. I feel abondoned like i'm i don't fit in w/ her anymore cause i don't do that kind of stuff. I have caught her in lies where she told me that she was grounded when really she was hanging out w/ with her bf. Should i tell her parents whats going on?! should i stop being her friend? (link)
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Don't ditch her thats the last thing she needs. Eventually shes going to need somebody to lean on and thats of course going to be you. A real best friend is somebody thats there for you through everything, right? So dont leave her that will just cause LOTS of problems. Im assuming thats shes 14 as well. Hes 18. not only is that statutory rape it is DEFINITELY against the law. I hate to say it but hes just using her because shes young and easy to get to. Not saying anything about your age group but i know how i was at that age. Talk to her and tell her how it makes you feel, Just be like im your best friend and i dont think what your doing is a good idea, i want whats best for you but i really dont want you to end up hurt. Shes going to flip and think your just jealous and all that stuff. Don't argue with her just lay it out and be like im here for you but i dont want to feel like im put aside and and not as important. Don't tell her parents though she'll think you betrayed her. Hope i helped if you need anything else just ask.
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Okay, in first grade, I made a really good friend. In fourth grade (four years ago), I moved to another state. Me and my friend (let's call her Kat) were stripped away from each other.
When I moved, I met a new girl (let's call her Amy). Amy and I became very very very very very close over four years.
Now I'm about to move back to Kat's state, and I regret it a lot, because I'm making Amy cry.
Amy is actually mentally dependent on me, she literally tells me everything, and if she doesn't I can tell she's not telling me something.
Though I know she'll get over it eventually. I've been trying to introduce her to new people to befriend, but she's still attached to me.
Long story short-ish, I am going to move into Kat's house so I can go to a really good school. Which makes Amy even more depressed.
What should I do to make Amy cry less and make my parting easier for her?
(I'm an unfeeling monster, I realize. I know I won't cry. I've scolded myself for that. I know I have mental issues, but I keep them to myself)
Sorry times 50 billion for typing so much!!!!!!
Please help! (link)
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I just went through sort of the same thing. Explain to her that its best for you and if shes your friend then she'd want what is best for you right? Making good friends and having them move away is all apart of growing up, its not easy and no one expects it to be. Make a scrapbook of pictures of you two and put inside jokes and things that way she'll always have those memories. Also write her a letter explaining that even though you guys are in different states you'll always be there for her and you couldn't of asked for a better friend and even though it don't seem like it now she'll be okay eventually and she'll make new friends. Having friends move away or moving away from them is never easy, theres not really too much you can do to make it easier for her. It jus gets easier as time goes on. Try those things, but other then that im not really sure what to say and im sorry if i didn't help. Good luck!
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Well I really need help on this ok..well i have like 2 best friends 1 is girl who is like my alltime best friend i dont see much of her though but when i do were inseprable ...so thats not the problem..But my other i wouldnt say best friend but a friend Well put the long story short , he wanted a 3 week break up (i said whats the point) so i like forgot about that then and I said i like someone else and he was like all mad (dunno why he broke up with me ) and now he is all mad and hes acting like he doesnt care about our friendship anymore and just got a new girlfriend (he always is really desperate for one if hes single) and thats annoying me so much at the moment and he acts all hard also
This is the really hoping question what should i do and how do i deal with him and the problem?
Thanks a lot
Friend_Girl123--x (link)
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Well it seems to be that he's just trying to make you jealous, because obviously he doesn't have feelings for the girl he was just upset and wanted to get back at you. Question being do you like him and want to be with him? If so tell him that, tell him how you feel. But either way you need to ask him whats up with the way hes acting and that your annoyed with it, that you never meant to hurt him in any way and you have no idea why yall broke up. Basically just talk to him and see whats up thats the only way you'll figure anything out. And you don't have to do it face to face. You can e-mail, IM, or call him but doing it face to face gives the conversation more meaning. Hope i helped!
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i don't get it.
my friends..like, when i talk to guys, they flip & get mad at me & wont talk to me & stuff. & its not like im flirting with someone they like or anything i walk over to them & be like.. can i borrow a pencil? & then i walk back over to them & they give me this dirty look, & ignore me the rest of class. & like.. whenever they say like who do you guys think is the prettiest girl in the grade? they always say, some girl that is yeah sure.. pretty, but.. [this is going to sound conceited] i think im prettier. like, hear me out for a second, all the guys in my school & like even at other schools, always say how pretty i am. & im not a slut or anything. trust me. so i know that there not just trying to get inside my pants or whatever. but like, my friends keep ditching me & stuff.. & saying like.. "go hang out with ... " & stuff like that.
i dont get it? whats wrong with them? (link)
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Jealousy is such a nasty thing lol. Sounds like they could be jealous because you get alot of attention or they may think your acting too cocky. They are definitely mad that you can go up and talk to guys without problems and they cant? but hey whos fault is that, definitely not yours they just need to me more confident in themselves and their actions. Maybe you could start including them when you talk to guys that way it doesn't seem to be as if you are pushing them out in a way. Their not very good friends if they get jealous/mad over tiny things like that. Whenever the issue of a girl is brought up about being pretty dont automatically say oh i think im prettier just be like yeahh shes pretty but ive seen cuter or somethin like that. THey just feel like your shutting them out hope i helped!
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My best friend's birthday in on December 16th. I would like to get her something very special because she almost died this year in a horrible drinking accident, they gave her 35minutes to live. Her life has been dimished to mearly nothing but me, so I want to get her something really great like a nice necklace engraved with her initails. Do you have any other ideas? (link)
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Wow! i went through that with my best friend in march! The necklace with her initials is great idea. Or you could ingrave her intials + your intials and write bff(best friends forever) underneath the intials.
The person belows idea is great too Make a scrapbook with all the memories you've had together.
You could have flowers and balloons sent to her the morning of her birthday and spend the day with her then take her out to dinner at a nice resturant.
Hope i helped. If you want more ideas leave one in my inbox
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i really like this kid, like alot. my friend tom said that hes gonna ask me out, but he doesnt know when. i really wanna go out with him, but everyone hates him and they say hes wierd and stuff. but i dont know, if he asks me out should i go out with him? (link)
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It shouldn't matter what everyone else thinks. If you like him then go for it! Don't go by what everyone else thinks/says. Your the one dating him. Id say go for it if you really like him.
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so there is a guy that i like and im afraid to ask him to hang out because i don't wnat to make him feel weird and ignore me. should i just be friends or go for it? (link)
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If i were you id go for it. Dont let the fear of what might happen get in the way. I mean who knows he might say yes and im sure he wouldnt act all wierd and stuff around you after you asked. Personally id go for it.
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i get along with this guy n iv liked him for a fook of a long tym.. he knows i like him i guess and im always thinking about him, then i think im pathetic for liking him, but we've done stuff, and when we hang out its great fun, but i dont think he is interested, but iv learnt from making assumptions. And i think id rather not talk to him because i hate the thought of him not tlkn to me, i would love to talk to him about it, do i talk to him about it and put my self in that silly situation of if any thing could hav happened it wouldnt any more (link)
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the best thing to do is talk to him about it. Yes you may come off a little silly about it but hes the only one you can get the exact information from. But if you'd rather not then thats okay to, but eventually it will eat at you because your going to want to know. If you dont have the nerve to ask him then get a friend to or someone that you trust. Good luck!
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alright well me and my friend got into some trouble at the mall cause she convinced me to steal a shirt and i did and got caught and they asked her if she had anything and she did but she lied and said no then they asked her if she had anything to do with me and she lied and said no so i got into trouble for her. and ever since then which was on Tuesday - last week, we have been fighting but like i made this modeling thing and we were talking about it and i kinda miss being friends with her. but i promised my mom and my friends not to be friends with her because she got me into trouble. i need help. i dont know whether to not fight with her and have people dissapointed in me or to just give up on her.. ahh please help =[ (link)
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well..she obviously not a friend because true friends dont let friends get in trouble and besides she lied about it all. Honestly i would say get rid of her..but if you can get her to apologize and mean it then be friends with her if you really want to its up to you i know its hard to get rid of a friend. Good luck!
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i want to do something really special for a friend of mine who is going to be getting back from active duty pretty soon. he is a great guy hes been in new orleans for the last month and may have to stay longer, but when he gets home i would like to maybe have a little get together or something, any ideas????? (link)
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throw a welcome home party or such things like that. Make him feel welcome its really hard being over there. Invite some of his closest friends and family and have maybe a welcome back party, go out dinner, i think you get the point. Key here is to make him feel welcome and let him know you care about him. Im sure it wouldnt matter what you did he will be really happy to be home! thats really sweet of you though.
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i just became friends with a girl again and she used to be mean and when we gave her a second chance she started to be mean again.im worried she will be like that again what should i believe? (link)
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Is there a reason why she should be mean to you guys? did you do something to her? if not then maybe thats how she is always going to be give her time if she hasnt changed ask her why she is being mean. i went through the same thing with my friend and she never changed maybe yours wont either but im not sure i dont know her just try talking to her good luck!
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Well, I got into a fight with my friend , shes been my friend since 1st grade. and i'm in 9th grade now. I got into a fight with her because she gave my purse to someone without asking me, and she wouldn't tell the person to give it back. so i said until she gives it back im not talking to you. she started flipping out swearing, calling me fat and ugly and i couldn't get a boyfriend. THEN, i was going to forgive her until she told my other ex-friend marie that i talk about her all the time, and told her everything i said about her (which was true), but i don't think she should do that, i can't trust her or anything . i don't think i can forgive her.. what would u do?! (link)
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ok first of all this girl sounds like a real biotch. if she was really your friend she wouldnt of done ANY of that stuff. If you want to be friends with her talk to her work it out. You have a reason to be mad i mean cmon whos real friend does that to them? GOod Luck!
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What do you do when your best friend is kind of blowing you off and when you aren't hanging out anymore. I miss her and don't want to let go. (link)
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give her some taste of her own medicine blow her off when she trys to hangout with you! and when she says we need to talk tell her why your doing it or you could take lead and tell her that you guys need to take about your friendship good luck!
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Hi My name is Nicole, Well most of my friends do drugs and well i dont because i have head on my sholders.Anyways so i told my bestfriends boyfriend that she was still smoking and later on she came up to me and yelld at me. And well her and her bf broke up because she lied to him and i guess there was more to the story so yea.....anyways so now she got allof myfriends agenst me for some stupid reason and i dont even know what i did to the rest of them....Do you guys think i made the rigth choice by going to her boyfriend and not teacher because she would be grounded for the rest of her life if her parents found out..... so what can i do to get my friends back..
PLEASE HELP PLEASE (link)
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yeah! you did the right thing!. Ok well first of all theyre not your real friends because they got all pissed off when you were trying to help! Start hanging out with other people sooner or later theyll realize what they did. GooD luck!
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i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me? (link)
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ok well first off all...forget wut all of them said because you shouldnt change yourself for guys.Boys like cheerleaders because they were short skirts and act all stuck up!but hey you could try out for cheerleading..that might help and also be more social start being outgoing and hang out with people more(if you arent already) goOd lucK!
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Well, yesterday my best friend Rachael came over, and my crush Paul came over too. We all sat around watching movies and then Rachael goes, I'm in the mood to make-out with somebody, so she makes out with Paul 2 times!!! I was sitting right there too! She knows I like him and she just did it right there I got so pissed, and shes like dude jess your a stalker so she walked into the kitchen and they were holding hands n like his hands were on her hips as she was looken at me sayen "don't look jess" so i was like wtf whatever so i sat there with the mute on the tv cuz i didn't know how to react, they walk in and then i jus got so pissed i had to call my BESTEST FRIEND courtney and when i did, she had her phone off so i had no one to talk to. i was sitten on the computer talken to some people and then rachael stands up.. and walks into the dining room with her pants unbuttoned and i was like oh my god and she went to the bathroom i then flippen out on paul and when they left rachael said bye jess n i shut the door on her. you'd be mad too right? or do u think im just overreacting? (link)
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omg! wut a skank! u have every right to be mad no your not overreacting! shes deff. not a very good friend i woulda kicked her ass!!freakin hoe!
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I have a problem...i like this guy justin. I have liked him for like 3 years and recently my REALLY good friend Shilah started liking him and he liked her too...they went out for like 1 week and she thinks she loves him but i like him alot and recently we started "talking" like b/f g/f... and i told my friend about it and now she is mad at me... but i liked him first what do i do? Do i go for him and say forget her or do i forget him?
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Amanda (link)
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lol wow me and you have alot in common my names amanda and i like a guy named justin too..haha neways..id say go for him your friend knew u liked him first so she shouldnt of went for him neways..youve liked him for 3 years wut did she like him for like a week? personally if i was you id go for him you might regret not doing it. goOd luck amanda!
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beginnin of last year me and this girl became very close. we are alot alike and we even look alike so when we hang out people ask if we are sisters or whatever. but recently shes been actin weird. im a grade higher than she is and a freshmen. whenever we are with my guy friends she changes and makes up lies to impress them. also we were together last weekend and the guy im currently interested in called. me n him talked for a while then she wanted to talk to him so i gladly agreed not knowin how it would turn out. she became extremly flirty and all "i love you i love you aww hahaha" and she knows i like him she even told him she drinks which she doesnt and that she is expiranced with guys... which she is not. this isnt the first time this has happened. first time it wasnt only the guy i liked. it was my current boyfriend please tell me what to do about this. thankssss =) (link)
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wut a whore...she just wants attention..tell her to guy stand on the corner and find her some guys and to lay off yours
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see i have this friend and my friend stick up for my worst enmey instead of me!! and i am super angry!!! what should i do??? (link)
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wut a bitch she isnt really your friend
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Okay, right now I am having a problem with my man, and I have these two best friends. They have always been right about my guyz in the past…but now, one is getting the “I warned you” vibe while the other is getting the “He loves you, Go for him!” vibe. They both know as much as I know…and they both know him as well as the other knows him…yet one is getting a good vibe and one is getting a bad vibe. I don’t know which one to listen to, cuz I trust both of them with my life…yet…they both know me as good as the other…so what am I supposed to do? I am so lost and confused. HELP ME PLZ! (link)
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take a chance and go for him. If you dont, your gonna wonder what it could of been because you know your friends arent always right even though sometimes it seems like the best thing to do is listen to them
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