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I'm moving...
14/F
Okay, in first grade, I made a really good friend. In fourth grade (four years ago), I moved to another state. Me and my friend (let's call her Kat) were stripped away from each other.
When I moved, I met a new girl (let's call her Amy). Amy and I became very very very very very close over four years.
Now I'm about to move back to Kat's state, and I regret it a lot, because I'm making Amy cry.
Amy is actually mentally dependent on me, she literally tells me everything, and if she doesn't I can tell she's not telling me something.
Though I know she'll get over it eventually. I've been trying to introduce her to new people to befriend, but she's still attached to me.
Long story short-ish, I am going to move into Kat's house so I can go to a really good school. Which makes Amy even more depressed.
What should I do to make Amy cry less and make my parting easier for her?
(I'm an unfeeling monster, I realize. I know I won't cry. I've scolded myself for that. I know I have mental issues, but I keep them to myself)
Sorry times 50 billion for typing so much!!!!!!
Please help!
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You're leaving Amy in body, but that doesn't mean you won't be friends. I've moved six times in my life (15f), and it never really gets easier.
You can't disappear completely from Amy's life; and if you think that you want to, you ARE an unfeeling monster! Luckily, in today's age, we have computers, and cell phones, and planes, trains and cars for visits.
Kat and Amy are two different kinds of friends. Make sure Amy knows that its not her you're leaving, its just the place. She will eventually meet someone new, but you should be there for her until she's ready to drift apart. Call/Text/Email/IM her after school every day for the first two weeks or so, then dwindle it to every other, then every three days, then twice a week, and so on. If you really want to stay close with her, then do so, but if not, break it slowly... like a drifting thing, not a "look I'm moving, and I don't care about you really, go kill yourself" way.
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I just went through sort of the same thing. Explain to her that its best for you and if shes your friend then she'd want what is best for you right? Making good friends and having them move away is all apart of growing up, its not easy and no one expects it to be. Make a scrapbook of pictures of you two and put inside jokes and things that way she'll always have those memories. Also write her a letter explaining that even though you guys are in different states you'll always be there for her and you couldn't of asked for a better friend and even though it don't seem like it now she'll be okay eventually and she'll make new friends. Having friends move away or moving away from them is never easy, theres not really too much you can do to make it easier for her. It jus gets easier as time goes on. Try those things, but other then that im not really sure what to say and im sorry if i didn't help. Good luck!
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