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Everytime I see a fight or leftovers of a gang fight, it makes me super mad. I can watch a hockey fight fine but why does this make me so mad? I was watching TV once and someone got shot when people were trying to steal cattle from another farm and I got so mad that I had to leave and hide on my bunkbed for 10 minutes. I closed myself in by stacking my pillows up arounds me and I cried there. This was the worst time, it was the only time that I got so mad I cried. This is the only thing that makes me so mad. Why do you thing this is? I have always liked to play fight and sword fight. (link)
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You may feel this way because as growing up something may have happened to you, traumatic and now everytime you see stff like thisnit brings back those angry fears of yours. We do not know for sure. I say you see a therapist if you want this cured.
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I cooked a frozen pizza and I like it doughy but never have been able to make it like that because my family won't let me. They like it fully cooked. I cooked one today and cooked it about 4 minutes under. I did preheat the oven and it was in the middle on the top shelf. It was a cheese pizza. I have only eaten one piece. Will it hurt me? Thanks. (link)
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You could get really sick from it and throw up and five you stomach aches. There are reasons we fully cook it so I suggest to eat pizza fully cooken so you don't have these problems.
Hope I helped
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I don't tan, all I do is burn. I NEVER tan because my body just doesn't do it lol. So I was wondering if there was something I could do to help it besides spray tan or burn. Are there like herbs or something that could help? Also do guys like pale girls? Becuase ir seems like every guy I know doesn't like it...Thanks! :D (link)
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Just as Zane said, Put on sunscreen and go walk in the sun. But make sure not to lay in the sun for to long as it could cause harm to your skin. If this doesn't work for you though, remember that all skin color whether your pale, dark, light, tan is you and special and we all come in different shades
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I can be pretty emotional, and it gets irritating. I hate when people yell at me or get on to me. Little things can get me upset or cry. I would love some tips on being emotionally stronger. Im not sure if its cause my parents sheltered me quite a bit or what it could be. i just want to be stronger and not get upset over tiny things and cry or something. i understand everyones emotional, but i feel over emotional. i need a stronger backbone, and not let people get to me, and i can speak my mind and not hold back on so many things. Thank you! (link)
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We feel weak because out thoughts may be negative orsomething may scare you. When ever you feel like crying think of god thoughs that made or make you happy. If you have someone to talk to around you like a good friend or even a therapist you can talk to them as you will feel better expressing your angers/worries. Dont hide your emotions hide as they are what makes up us at the time. Spread your winds and stay positive let your mind express its self. :)
Hope I helped and good luck!
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So I have had glasses the past like 5 or more years but I never really wore them. All of a sudden my eye sight started getting blurry today every once in a while. I had a hard time typing the begginning of this becaue of the blurriness. Could it be because I am not wearing glasses? I look so stupid in glasses and I really hate wearing them. I have gone without them all these years! And I eat my fare share of carrots....
Thanks! :D (link)
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You may have been affected by being banged into something, getting hit in the head or something like that could've caused a fast change. If you are not comfortable with glasses try contacts. I say yu fo see and Eye doctor and make sure everything's ok. Vision is important.
sorry and good luck
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okay so my nipples reeally started hurting about 2 days ago. usually this happens before i start my period but its still 2 weeks until then. me and my boyfriend had sex but we used a condom and it never ripped or anything o: but im still scared that i might be pregnant cause i think he forgot to wash his hands before he fingered me once or twice after touching his penis after he came :s
i put lotion on them yesterday and it started burning so i think that they also might just be irritated but im not sure. what else might it be? and are there high chances of me being pregnant? ._. (link)
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Your not pregnant unless you had sexual contact between the vagina and penis as it is very possible to get pregnant even with protection if yu were together as if you are really concerned see a doctor or wait for missin periods. As for your sore nipples they may be sore from squeezing them or having them touched if that happened. My recomindation is you go asee a doctor and they will no best.
Good luck
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I'm a 16 year old girl and I recently decided to start shaving my pubic hair and now I have a red rash(I've had for about 2 weeks now but it goes away when I stop shaving)and when I shave it every night it hurts and gets more red? and I can never get it perfectly smooth either it looks gross...what can I do to get it smooth and make the rash go away because I don't want hair down there and I don't want it all red and disgusting? (I've never had sex or anything like that) (link)
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This rash is shaved by erritation. Somethings causing this may be
1. you are not shaving right
2. Your type of razor does not work for your skin.
3. you are being to ruff
As I experienced this sort of rash thing too and I tried shaving a different way and now the rash doesn't appear anymore. Make sure you wet the razor or but water down there so it makes it easier to slide and that may help.
Good luck and I hoped I helped :)
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SO I had a normal breakfast this morning then when I was done I wanted to eat more but didn't have time. I had to go to a violin lesson. Then afterwords I wanted to go home and eat, about 9:30. But my dad wanted to go somewhere. When we got home at 11:30 I ate a doughnut,a LOT of mashed potatoes, a cup of water, a cup of chocolate milk, 2 beets, spagetti, and a ton of carmel. I think thats it. I'm usually very hungry but not this hungry. I want to eat more but I dont want to get sick from so much food...Is it just a growth spurt? Im 13/f (link)
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You may be having a growth spurt as at 13 year body is growing and needs good nutrition. You are gojng through puberty where this may hapen more and more so dont worry about it, it's ur hormones changing as try to eat healthy foods :)
Hope I helped
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So some nights like tonight I get really tired. I am really tired now because I am getting over the flu and went back to school today, and it wore me out. I fell asleep on the bus home and that NEVER happens! Anyway, I have a problem where at night, even if I am tired, I don't want to go to bed. I usually sleep on my floor because I hate beds and blankets. My mom hates me for it and sometimes I get in trouble. Even if I don't have anything to do, I keep myself up all night or until I can't stay up any longer just because I don't want to fall asleep! How can I fix this? Thanks! :) (link)
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I have the Same, EXACT problem where your tired and you can't sleep and don't want to. What helps me is to read or play 20 questions and it wares you out I usally fall asleep in cars though where it's bumpy and it rocks you to be. Another thing is I play this game where I can't open my eyes and ask my self qustions like "what am i going to do tomoor or what if" tje only time where i can fall asleep easily though if I have been up 48 hours before that other wise try reading or the other things I said. Hope this helps :)
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Are there any products or anything else to make my feet smaller? Except for surgery (link)
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No there's not, sorry. Making your feet smaller though could lead to problems with your waking or posture though which could affect your daily life. We all come in different shapes, sizes for everything as people with tiny feet may want big feet so be happy with the kind of feet you have and that you have disability with walking. We use our feet for walking so we can get places and so it doesn't matter even what size your feet are. As you said "except for surgery" since there is no other way I don't suggest surgery but you can talk to a doctor if you would like as they will tell you that feet are for walking.
Hope I helped and answered your question :)
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Hey, I'm female, almost 22 years old, and I'm 5 feet. I have a pretty fast metabolism and I've always been pretty petite. I've been complimented on my stomach a lot because it's usually really flat and just looks like it's in good shape.. well lately it hasn't been that way. For the past few weeks I've been extremely bloated. I thought maybe it was a backed up menstrual cycle or I was just gaining weight because I've been eating a lot of junk food, but it just persists even though i've been trying to eat healthier.
I've also had a lot of gas. It'll just be really random and whenever I'm around people I constantly feel like I have to hold it in.
I was on birth control for 2 years and it never gave me a problem. I have an irregular period without it, but recently I stopped taking it.
I shouldn't be having my period anytime soon, one just recently ended and the bloating has been for awhile anyway so I don't believe it has anything to do with it.
Anyways my stomach has been kinda distended and it actually looks like I'm slightly pregnant (SLIGHTLY) not a lot at all. (and I'm definitely not pregnant)... but I'm just trying to explain how it looks. When I press on my stomach it feels tight and sorta firm like it's not exactly fat but there's something inside of me. I don't know if I'm just "backed up" or if it's something serious or what.
Has this happened to anyone else before? I just want my flat belly back :( and I feel sluggish and no matter what I do it's not going away.
It's not permanent right? please help! (link)
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There could be many reasons from this as I suggest you geet a lot of exercise and eat well. Exercise from 30-2 hours a day is good at your age as in eating vegtibles, fruit, carbs and lots of protein. You may be geting sick and if you feel tired then rest. But since none of us are doctors I sugest you go and see a doctor so they can tell you what's going on and help you het rid of it because there's a slight chance it could be serious.
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okay so i shave..down there.. and somedays it really itches and is quite uncomfortable.. but the itch isn't like inside its on the outside where i shave. and there are tons of little red bumps all over. is there any way to get rid of them?? (link)
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Buy a different kind of Razor as this is whatbis affecting you. Yu need a high quality razor that's more advance as for the red little bumps will go awayon their own but it will take like a month or so
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So there's this thing I can do that has been trialed many many times and it worked EVERYTIME. I can tell someones personality just by looking at them. I don't have to know who they are or have to have met them or anything, I just need to see thier face. It's pretty cool. It also comes in handy when I need to see if a boy is right for me or not :) My friends cant do this but can anyone else? Thanks! :D (link)
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I feel like I can do this most of the time but lots of people can depending how social you are you may just have a special thing where it commes natural for you but no necassarily a power..
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when do you know when you are about to have your period? (link)
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You will know when you start to develop breasts and sometimes you may get cramps or discharge that's either clear or white.
Hope I helped some and if it didn't help ask you Mom when she got hers and you will mostly get it around the same time as her but not for everyones case.
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I guess about two days ago or something I discovered a feeling of a lump in my throat when I swallowed. It was at the top, back of my throat and I continuously swallowed and got it to the bottom of my throat but it wouldn't go any further. Then it came back up to the top....It's really annoying. It doesn't feel sharp or anything, just a mushy lump that doesn't want to move. I REALLLLY hope it's not a bug because that would descusting....oops I spelt that wrong...I think. Well, my mom said not to worry about it but that's what she says about everything so Help? THANKS!!!! :D (link)
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it is sick season so possibly you are getting sick but i dont think you swallowed a bug ;) but maybe get a doctor to check it out or even the school nurse or yor mom. Find out what it is and if hurts you really should something about it or if it's irratating. If u cant see a nurse or ur mom or doctor dont know what's up try taking some medicine that make colds go away it might be a symptom of a cold. Sorry and hope it goes away
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hello sir , i am dying to get rid of pimples am 17 ... they are all across my face , my forehead , chin , cheeks etc...
some are dry & some are red and big
HOW CAN I REMOVE THEM? it pains? i cant sleep or study :"(
help me sir, thank you (link)
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I am not a sir but I can try and give you advice. I say go to a skin doctor or pharmacy and get some creams that can help. What will help is before you put stuff on you face wash your face 2 times a day. But you are better of seeing a skin doctor if it's destracting you that much
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My 11 year old sister(turning 12 next month) is 87 pounds, and kinda short, but getting taller. She keeps saying "I'm so fat! I want to lose weight!" She cuts herself now,(which I only know) and I think it's because she thinks she is fat. I try to tell her she isn't but she isn't listening. She says everything looks fat on her. Is she anerexic? My mom said she might have to be force fed in a hospital. (link)
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I just turned 12 this month and weigh 73 pounds so no she isn't anerexic. It is probably the hormones that are causing this behavior. I am short too but getting taller as well.But if she is cutting her self that isn't normal or exceptible no matter how old you are and by making it so your the only person who knows your not being a good sister until you tell someone! So tell someone to help her because she does need help and will thank you later in life when those scars aren't as big as they could've have been! Help her as soon as possible! Please!
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now and i would say we are perfect and plan on marriage after we are done with college. I love him to death but he is breaking me and it isnt his fault at all. He has terminal brain cancer and won't be cured. Only his parents and I know, not even his brothers because he just doesnt want anyone to treat him any different. I cant talk to anyone and wont, but its like im cutting myself off from reality because i can't handle the fact. Yesterday i guess you could say he died, but was brought right back. He fell unconcious with no pulse/heartbeat. What can I do about any of this, its like iv gone mute i dont even really talk around people anymore. What do i do about him too, my life is done if he dies. Any help on anything is highly appreciated, but no i will not go to a therapist. 18/f (link)
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If you love this man and his permant issues don't affect your love for eachothr this is no need to leave him. If you love him and he loves you stay wth him and help him. It's tuff seeing the one we love in pain, but dont pull back. Just help him when he needs it. If he dies and you did everything to help him all that help will come to you one day. So stay and help. Contact me if you need anything darling :)
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i am 12/f and 127 lbs. is that over weight? (link)
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It depends on your body. How much muscil you have and what foods eat and how much you exersize. If you eat really good (veggies, carbs, fruit and protein) and exersize 5 hours each week then you're fine!
I'm also a 12 year old girl and weigh 70.2 pounds but I eat obnoxiously healthy and exersize 2-5 hours a day. (yes, I'm the sporty girl in which everything comes natural to) but i've been told at 12 you don't need to worry about weight because we're all different :)
Hope I helped
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There's nothing online or in books that can help me. Everywhere it says "i stuff my bra because i want boobs" all that to make it bigger! Well i dont want it! i want it smaller. I think getting periods are gross. I did get mine today and i hate it. I dont think i can ever except it! Im athletic and i dont have the time for girl stuff! I hate everything to do with puberty! Make matters worse when i walk out everyday with my outfit my mom cant look at my face when i talk she stares at my shirt and its awkward! help! (link)
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I toooootally agree. I'm super athletic i swim non syop for 3 hours a day and dance for 2 then run when ever i can around my neighbor hood but sadly there's nothing we can do about it. It sucks, right? But you'll get used to it. It won't seem as bad and aful in a few years and it's part of growing up that's why we say "enjoy being a child"
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