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~A little Advice for the broken hearts~
You are afraid and hurt and you dont know what to do. You feel empty and alone, like the whole world has just ended. You have a hole in your heart one that feels like it can never be repaired, but just know that in time that hole will be gone. Getting your heart broken is like getting a deep cut. It hurts really bad, and no matter what you do you cant stop thinking about it because you know its there and its hurting, but with a few stitches and a little tlc (friends and family helping you through) and some antibiotic ointment (ice cream) soon that cut will only be a scar (a memory) it will always be there but it wont hurt anymore, you are strong and you can make it through this!!
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i am a 13 year old girl and i ahve been fingered many of times but not given HJ or BJ but i want to know and i want to have sex but i dont know what to do? could you give me some advice x
I agree with adviceman 13 is too young to be having sexual relationships (or really at 13 all you can really have is a sexual situationship) I definitely think you should wait. Take time to educate yourself on all the things you need to know about sex before partaking in sextracaricular activities. (I sound like my mother but it's so true) enjoy your childhood while you can. It's ok to be curios and learn about sex. But do it in a safe way research online teen sex information. Just be careful what you type and how you type. Ask an adult you trust for more information on sex, pregnanct, STD's and HIV. Please when you do have sex use proper protection. Sex can be fun for a minute but that minute isn't worth spending the rest of your childhood waking up every 3 hours to a screaming baby with a smelly diaper.
I don't think my parents love me rather my mom I'm always getting bashed for doing something "wrong" for example I'm on the computer when she says I cant be playing computer games but what I'm doing is I'm reading an article online I GET BASHED FOR NOTHING!!! and it really gets on my nerves what do I do?
Your parents love you very much. Sometimes as a paren't you get caught up in the day to day snuggle of everyday life and it's struggles and you forget to let the ones you love most know how you feel. Its easy to forget that the little things matter most to those we love. I think you should have a grown up sit down talk. Ask your parents for some separate time for you to talk to them about something important. Remember that the most calm you are the more calm they will be. When confronted sometimes people feel attacked so be sure to delicately explain. Let theme know that you know they love you. They provide food clothes a roof over your head and all the good things you have. And tell them you're thankful for the things you do have because of them (parents love being reminded thay they are doing something right) but tell them that lately you have felt a little set aside and that you're hurt and youre feeling the lack of love from them. Maybe ask for special "you" time every once in a while and ask what you can do for them to improve your relationship. I am so sorry you are going through a rough time right now but I promise you... it will get better.
what should I do about my dad losing his job
The best thing you can do is support and encourage him. Losing your job is a hard thing to go through especially when you have children. So dont make fun and be careful what you say because repeatedly mentioning it can cause extra stress. Maybe offer to get a paper route or something to help out with finances until he is back to work. Good luck!
So my family - my mom, brother, and my friend all live in a one bedroom apartment. We've lived like this for 3 years this month. But my brother has recently told us that he wants to live by himself. Either he keeps the apartment and we move out or he will move out and we keep the apartment. So me and my friend were thinking about getting a place together. But my mom wants to move with us too. But I really dont want her to. I really dont want to live with my friend either, I just want my own space but someone to go half with on bills would be nice. But my mom would have nowhere else to go. She got fired from her a job a couple of months ago and she has bad knees and hips. She also has a drug habit. So shes trying to get disability. And my friend has a job but she also doesnt pay her bills on time. For the last 4 months she's given my brother like 200 total for rent. She makes enough to pay him. But she spends it on food (eating out) and buying she really doesn't need. They both dont like to clean. I also dont want extra baggage I just idk I feel like its mean but I also feel like I should give them a chance. I also dont want my mom to get comfortable because I dont want live her forever. Any suggestions???
I understand wanting to help out your mom but if she is using you may not want her to move with you. You should try to get her some help before her addiction gets worse. Just think of it like this.. What if someone turns her in for doing drugs and your house gets raided. Drugs on the property, they are not going to ask questions you will get in trouble. Or if her addiction gets worse she may strat stealing also not good. Now as for your friend just tell her you want your own place. Be honest with her. Its ok to want to be on your own. Its just a part of growing up and realizing its time to move to the next phase in your life. And if she is your true friend she will understand
i want to really die please help me sir give your number i will come my house please
Please do not do anything to hurt yourself. If you need someone to talk to you are more than welcome to message me. I will try my hardest to help you. Always remember Suicide is a permanent solution to a temperary problem. Anything can be fixed... except death. If you are having a hard time try counseling or go to your local emergency room and have yourself admitted the people there are nice and they can help you. Dont do anything you will regret. Remember although life can get hard sometimes there are so many people in your life that love you and care for you and losing you would devastate them. Good luck and feel better.
Stephie
hey, have you found out anything about how to pretend that you are a virgin? im in the same sutation i know lying is not a good start but i have no choice. i need help!!
There is no way except to just lie and say that you are but either way Zane is right there is no point in lying. If the person can not accept that you are not a virgin then that person obviously does not respect you enout and as Zane said that person must not be mature enough to have a relationship. Be yourself dont try to change for other people.
:) Stephie
I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
Thanks:) x
You are only 14... you are just a child yourself... raising children is not easy.. You think that raising a child is just holding them, playing with them and loving them. I use to think the same thing. I got preganant at 16 and I thought ooh a baby yay someone to hug and cuddle and dress up like my own personal baby alive doll. But its more than that. I am now 20 years old with 2 children and I still struggle with it. Please do yourself a favor and wait until you are older and more mature you think that you are ready now but the truth is your not... you are not even old enough to get a job... you are going to need money to buy everything that you need for this baby and you need ALOT. Dont do it... be responsible and mature and wait
Ok so here is the situation, my sister and I are best friends like we are really close. I'm the oldest and recently she did something that I thought was really foolish and very dangerous, so I told on her. My sister is a lot more advanced than me as far as sexual things go (I'm a virgin, she isn't) and so I don't know I think the big sister part of me kicked in. She war really mad at me but she isn't big on holding grudges, Do you think I over reacted by telling on her?
If your sister was doing something that you honestly felt was dagerous you did the right thing to go to an adult and let them know... You are just being a good sister and worrying about her is not a bad thing she will get over it dont worry
im 14 and i get stressed out a lot i get stressed because i have an aunt who is 17 DAYS older then me and always saying shes the boss beating me up and i have tons of bruising from her and we always fight. i also want to know if there is a way for her to leave me alone? oh and she always had to be right if shes not she will hit me even when she knows she is wrong. and when she stresses me out i want to walk around so i dont have to be in the house with her. but my mom says no. i do live in a safe town too so nothing will happen i will always have my cell phone on me too. so can any one help me with my 2 questions.
1. how do i get my anut to leave me alone?
2. how to convince my mom to let me walk so i can walk the stress off rather then other things?
Tell someone what she is doing to you this is abuse and its not right. Also you dont want to walk alone but you can try going out with a responisble friend maybe your mom will allow that good luck
I really have a feeling that my step brother and his friend have hooked up a secret camera in my room. I know, it sounds crazy but you would have to know them to know why I feel like this. I feel like I have no privacy in my room. How can I know if there really is a camera in my room and what are the signs to look for in having one in your room? I want to confront my mom about it but I want to know for sure before I talk to anyone about it!
Look all around your room for something that is not usually there. maybe see if anything is moved. If you dont find anythin then maybe just go to your mom and tell her you are feeling like this anyway and have her get to the bottom of it good luck
Ok so today I had a girls day with my sister in law. We're both 18 so she lives with her parents. Well we were doing our nails and I was the one putting stuff on the table and I tried to be sure that I didnt mess up the table. Well, it turns out something actually got on the table and it won't come off. Her mom and step dad were furious thinking it was her. She didnt tell them it was me, but they want her to pay for a whole new table. I want to confess but I don't want my new mother and father in law hating me already but I also feel like it's my responsibility to pay for a new table especially since isn't wasn't her fault! Do I just give her the money that I would owe or full out just tell her parents?
You need to tell them that you are the one who did it. She is getting in trouble for something she didnt do. They wont hate you for being honest. And if you pay for it everything should be okay. You can get nail polish remover too and try to get it off. Good luck.
How do I stop my mother-in-law from trying to control how I raise my son?
Well you need to sit down with her and tell her that this is your son not hers and she needs to stop trying to get in the middle of raising him. She already raised her kids now she is done. This one is yours and she needs to back off. Let her know or she will keep on trying good luck
hey guys! ok so yesterday i hit my sister cuz she was pissin me off (im 13 and shes almost 12) so my mom screamed really loud 4 us 2 come dowstairs. and from what i remember, (my mind has accumulated a habit of forgetting the nasty things my mom says and does 2 me. its actually a good thing so that way im not so sad) my mom told us 2 sit down and she started tellingmy sister and i how it was all our fault and then she went on to start criticizing us us like she always does. so i looked @ the ground and rolled my eyes thinking and hoping she did not see. but she did. before i could process what was happening, my body had instinctively curled up into a tight ball. as my mother was screaming and hitting and pulling my hair so hard i was positive it would rip out of my scalp. i was so scared i was crying uncontrollably and she didnt care. she kept yelling at me and my sis. and then she told me to look at her while she was talking. so i did. and before i knew it, she charged at me again and began screaming and pulling my hair and hitting me. she screamed "don't f***ing glare at me b**ch! how does it feel to be hitby someone bigger than you?" is this abuse? or merely dicipline? explain. thanks in advance. kisses!
Yes sweetheart this is abuse and I am so sorry that you have been put through this.. You and your sister do not deserve this and I know its scary but you need to call someone and get out of there. If you dont it can get worse. Here is a link to child help
please visit this website and call CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. If you just want advice thats fine call them they wont know who you are unless you tell them
http://www.childhelp.org/pages/help-for-kids
good luck and please call that number
Hi guys! I'm having a little bit of trouble with my family right now, and I don't know what to do. This will be a bit long...sorry.
I'm 20 years old and in college, and my parents are control freaks over me. They already picked my MAJOR (I can't change it even though I hate it, or they won't pay for college) and every time I come home, I have a curfew of midnight. This is understandable since it's their house, but it's just annoying because I have an apartment an hour away where I have FREEDOM. But, they are used to their strict style of being raised and think that I've become a monster with too much freedom. This is how all my cousins are treated as well.
For the past couple of days, they have been giving me and my sister the silent treatment. I kind of have an idea why they're mad at my sister (that's another story) but I have NO clue why they would be mad at me, except for maybe the fact that I've been hanging out with friends too much? They were kind of talking to me on Friday (when I came home from my apartment), then asked me if I wanted to go to dinner, I was on the phone and said No, I wasn't hungry, and they came back totally different and ignoring us. This has gone on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday (today). In that time, I realized my parents were pissed off (with no idea why) and the only places I've been were the gym (I go daily) and a grad party for 2 hours.
Today, I woke up late and missed church. I woke up when they were leaving, and I heard my mom say that she was going to have a talk with us. Later in the day, when my parents weren't home a neighbor stopped by who has been at my house all the time, whether my parents were there or not. He was at my house DAILY last summer and my parents like him a lot, so there should have been NO problem there. Except, when my dad walked in an hour later, he was SHAKING in anger, purple in the face...even my friend was shocked. My dad pointed at me, and then pointed at the door and I followed him. He couldn't even make full sentences. He was saying, "I can't believe you're entertaining guests" or something like that. I didn't even know what was going on. My mom came in from the garage (she had tears in her eyes like she had been crying) and she PUSHED him in the garage when she saw how angry he was. She literally had to PUSH him and hold him back and shut the door...from what? HITTING ME? She said, "you upset your dad" and I just responded "I don't know why you guys are so mad at me." and told my neighbor to come downstairs with me.
I've been hiding out here all night although I'm sure there in bed. I called my brother and he told me my mom said we're not going with them on vacation (to visit my brother).
I honestly have NO clue what could have gotten them this angry, but they are furious with me for what I think is no reason at all. I'm afraid to approach them even. My questions are:
- How should I handle this? Is there a way to handle it without them blowing up at me?
- Were my parents justified in their anger?
This is legitimately my account of what happened. I'm not hiding or changing anything at all.
This seems very odd. By what you are saying I dont see anything wrong with what you are doing. You are 20 years old yet you are still obeying their rules and living your life how they want you too even if it means you are not happy... I think that what you need to do is sit them down and have a talk with them. I dont know them personally so I can tell you if they will blow up or not but this may be the only way you are going to find out what is going on... Tell them how you feel about every thing going on. Also if it were me I would let them know that I was not happy with the major they chose and you want to do something else with your life... What you and they need to realize is this is your life, you need to do what makes you happy and you need to live it... stop letting them live your life for you... If they are not going to pay for college and you cant afford it go get a loan and go to the school you want to go to... If they wont pay for your apartment then cut out some volenteering and get a job to pay for things while you are in college... I know its nice to have the help of your parents but they are taking this too far... If anyone has the right to be angry its you. You are an adult and they are still telling you what to do... you cant even stay at your own apartment without permission... Talk to them figure out what is going on with them and let them know how you feel about them running your life and then try to work tings out, good luck best wished
hello stephanie, this is brock
who asked about what to do
for that women on
facebook...what should i do
becoz i and that women we
both leave in different countries..i told her what she
means to me and i asked for
forgivenes.but she is not ready
to forgive..she is saying that
she doesnt even wants me to
contact her plz help..i too need a mom who would love me..
It may help If I knew a little more about you and your situation so I am going to ask you some questions and it is okay if you do not want to answe them, but I might be able to help you better if I knew some details...
so first where is your biological family? (your real parents)
how did you meet this woman and what brought on the conversation of her adopting you?
what exactly did you say to this womans friend?
why did you go to her friend in the first place?
what country are you in and what country is she in?
What is it exactly that makes you care so deeply for this woman?
how long have you known her?
I know you are hurting and you are upset and I am going to try my best to make you feel better and maybe even give you some advice on this situation.. please message me again with some details or even email me at stephiesadvice@aol.com
somedays ago i found a woman aged 43 on facebook who was ready to adopt me..since no one loves me..she was ready to love me..she was single and divorced..she wanted a son and i wanted a mom..everything was going ok..but then i contacted her friend..and asked some question about her,.her friend told her about it..and she got mad at me and now she wants me to stop contacting her..she means my family and my world..i cant live without her..i can do any thing to get her..i love her a lot..plz help me ..i need a mom to love me iam 17 now and my name is brock
Brock first I would like to say that I am sorry that you were left alone in the world.. It must be so hard... I want you to know that you can always come to me for advice and you can email me at stephiesadvice@aol.com if you want to talk or just need a friend... As for this woman try to contact her and let her know how you feel... Tell her you did not mean to offend her in anyway and if you did you are sorry and you would like her back in your life... if she is not willing to accept that then you need to know that you are going to be okay... I know it is hard but it will get better... If you need a friend I am here to talk... I am so sorry that this is happening to you.. I wish I could help more good luck and remember you can email me or message me on here anytime
18/f
I left my laptop at home for a whole day because I was at my boyfriend's house. Me & my sister sometimes changes each other's desktop backgrounds to something funny as a joke. But this time, I had a problem with her changing my desktop background. 1) Because my desktop background was a slideshow of multiple pictures I literally put together by myself for hours. 2) she got on my computer without my permission and she had her own. When I saw it, I was a bit angry, but I still stayed calm thinking that my photos were still on my computer.
Later I was looking for the folder where I had my photos, and all of my albums were gone... Besides some particular photos. So I started freaking out, because I worked really hard on them. So I asked her if she deleted them and she gave me the attitude saying that she didn't delete them and continued to talk to her boyfriend. I got so frustrated because I went through my past folders, current folders, and even went through all the hard drives. The only photos that was available were the photos that she saved as my desktop. So I asked her boyfriend since he's tech-savy if computers could delete photos by themselves. Because everything was there.. Besides my past wallpaper/slideshow photos. My sister once again, gave me the attitude and answered the question for him "no. the only way pictures can be deleted is if you delete them yourself." And her boyfriend was like, "maybe you placed saved them in another place." And I said, "no... I didn't. I click on these folders everyday and it's not in here." they completely ignored me and continued to talk to each other and started watching, "Friends."
She didn't even bother to apologize to me, or even try to help or explain it to me. And she randomly walks in an hour later while I had to remake all the photos all over again and said, "wake up mom made food." And shut the door on me WHILE I was talking. And I walked by the living room to get some orange juice that my boyfriend bought me.. And I saw her in the corner of my eye she was staring at me and she didn't bother to say anything either. I opened the fridge and the orange juice was gone too... I had a full gallon of orange juice and it was gone.
It might sound really stupid, or maybe I'm just having a long day. Or they're just little things that's irritating me. They knew my boyfriend got me the orange juice, they didn't even bother to leave me ANY at all, she gave me the attitude for no reason, shut the door on me when I'm talking, and she knew that I made my wallpaper/slideshow putting photos together and everything, didn't apologize, or explain, ignored me, and she doesn't even live here. -___-"
Do I even have the right to be angry? Or is it something that I should try to ignore??
Well with the background changing thing I think that you may be a little hard on her about because you both do it to eachother as a joke and she was just doing it to make you laugh... but as for the other things you do have a right to be upset about it ... instead of bottling your feelings and ignoring it why dont you go sit down with her and say hey I am sorry that I got upset with you for changing my background I know that it was just a joke and I shouldnt have gotten angry but I did because I had worked hard on it, but you were just trying to make me laugh and I took it the wrong way.... then explain how the other things had bothered you and how you are feeling about it and maybe she will see that she has done wrong and apologize good luck
ok so my family dont like me because they think that i will turn out like my mother... who is really bad.... but anyways she aint in our lives... so i ended the emotional abuse b getting up and leaving and now that i just mind my own business the go and accuse me for things they lost and like i stole it... and i just would like to know how to tell them to just back off respectfully and not like them saying im not considered a part of their family no more! it hurts but i dont want them to get hurt with the things i could say!... what do i do and say???
just tell them that you mean no disrespect but the way that they are treating you is not right you and your mother are two different people, just because your mom did stuff wrong doesnt mean that you did and you should not be punished for her mistakes and if they do not wish for you to be around thats fine but they need to leave you alone if they want you to go... everyone wants to have their family but if yours is treating you this badly, you are better off without them goos luck and best wishes
So my uncle has me watching the children for the week because they don't have to go to summer camp. Problem is he won't let me put them in front of the TV. All day so I need to know what to do with them. They were 8 and 6
Take them outside to play, do crafts, read books, make up educational flash cards... kids are easy to entertain but remember they have a short attention span at times... do things that you use to enjoy doing when you were their age good luck and have fun
anytime anything happens in our family, my sister and I get yelled at. Our parents are always telling us we are disrespectfull when all we EVER do is talk to them in respectfull tones and we NEVEr say anything rude! all they do is mimic us with rude tones or scream at us for no reason. Today i found out my dad smokes from my best friends father, when i ask him about it he yells at me saying to stay out of his f****ng life or im grounded, now im in myroom because my father smokes, he also had the decency to tell Me that my life is messed up. He constantly puts us down and tells us we are all basically crap and mean nothing to him, but then whenever anything comes down on him he calls us disrespectufl and threatens us. is this just the way all parents are? Do all parents scream and throw (yes i mean throw) you in your room? i am 15 almost 16 and i am grounded from going out of the house untill i get a job, its the middle of summer and i have applied everywhere in my town, even places that arent hiring. I look way younger than most people and I also have no experiance? i dont find this family fair at all! what am i supossed to do!??!!
(PS i am a girl and i am my fathers only child, my sister is my step sister and my step mother always lies about anything that happens in the house while he is at work)
Huni this is not the way parents are supposed to be and this is not how all parents are... I would never ever treat my children like this... What they are doing to you is called abuse and you donot have to stand for that. You need to talk to your father and tell him that you mean no disrespect but you are hurt by the way he treats you and if things do not approve than you need to talk to another family memeber who is an adult and will understand you and tell them what is going on in you home and ask for help good luck sweetie and best wishes to you and your sister