I always lie to my parents so I don't get in trouble. They're awfully hard on me sometimes, but after I tell the lie I realize it probably would've been easier to just tell them the truth, admit what I did in the first place was wrong, and then take my punishment. What can I do to stop lying, and is there anything that my parents can do on their part so that I don't feel the need to lie - or am I just a weak teenager because I used to be such a good kid and never get in trouble?
I think you just need to grow up and realize that lying doesnt get you anywhere. Sometimes if you just tell the truth.. possibly cry a little tell them you'll never do it again and mean it then they wont punish you. Sometimes telling the truth is better in the long run! Even if you do get grounded or whatever.. still keeps you out of trouble and you learn from it. Not much your parents can change.. its all about you and wanting to tell the truth.
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Ok - my uncle hits on me at almost every family gathering. It really bothers me! I told my mom and she said she'd try to help me, but I still feel so uncomfortable around him. He's always staring at me and winking, and saying that I'm hot!
I'm just so uncomfortable ..
Tell him to fuck off. I know i know very harsh but theres things that you've gotta do... and thats one. Also ask your mom if you can stay home from family gatherings and avoid him as much as possible! Hes a sick freak! and something needs to be done... maybe talk to you aunt! Good luck
-holly-
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hey! well, i was just looking over your little thingy and it looked like you give great advice. first of all, i want to say that i have a crush on someone named issac, and that's super cool that your going out with a guy named issac! k, my problem. my parents hate my best friend. she's a great girl, she loves animals and all the same things i love, and she would never make me do anything i didn't want to. and she always is SUPER polite and nice to my parents. what's the problem?
Hehe that is cool that we've got guys named isaac :)
But to your question
Alright parents are so weird sometimes and can sences like something bad in a person. I cant explain it but my parents do it too. And they always seem to be right. I'm sure she acts fake around your parents and thats what gets them. Maybe you should talk to you parents and see what the problem is because I truely cant say! Sorry My answer went super!
GOOD LUCK!
-holly-
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my moms boyfriend molested me.. and im really scarred for life!! i told my mom about it.. but she thinks its fine and that it happens to alot of girls.. she doesnt understand how freaked out i was and AM! i think we should go to therapy but i dont no how that would help.. what should i do?
Dude you need to tell the police! because your mom can get into trouble for not caring. And obviously he'll get into trouble as well! You need to get help and go to a therapy program so you can have someone to talk to. Best wishes to you!
-holly-
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K Here's the deal. I recently went to tx to see my dad's side of the family 4 the first time. When i got there my 17 y\o female cousin gave me a tour of the yard as per my uncles request. A wasp flew down her shirt and a so as not to get stung on her boobs she lifted her shirt briefly exposed herself to me. I turned around out of respect but i still saw. And i liked it :(
my question is, that wrong. i mean shes very attractive and a total stranger to me. I mean i would'nt feel that way about any of my cousins that iv know 4 many years.
please help me AIM: MicroSurjj88 email: loser1588@hotmail.com
THNX, Microsurjj 16 Y\O
Absoltly not I think theres nothing wrong with that. Seeing the fact that you practcly just met the girl i think theres nothing wrong with it. and being a guy... guys like that kind of stuff they cant control themselves if its their cousin. Dont worry about it!
-holly-
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Im havin diffcult evr since my 23 year old cuzin died what shuld i do? i rele miss her! help me asap
Just keep your head up.. think of it as death isnt a bad thing. They are moving to a higher level. Just keep your head up and stay strong. And pray if you are having troubles. Best wishes to you, and good luck
-holly-
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My brother is in Iraq, and hes only 21! it hurts so bad! hes my best friend and i'm only 13! he had to stay till next may and i cant send a lot of stuff and neither can he! what can i do? all my language arts projects are on him too! i wrote and 10 page story about a memory and he was it! can someone help me find out how to keep in touch and live my life not worrying soo much about him?
well no matter what hun your going to be living in fear for your brother until he comes home. Theres nothing that you can do to make things easier. Just trying writing to him as much as possible and wait for his letters in return. Just keep your head up and stay strong. Maybe he'll get to come home earlier. I give you my best wishes. -holly- hope i helped
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Please, if you have an answer, help me. Especially guys, they might understand:
The thing is, I have this guy cousin who is 15 and I was hanging out with him 2 months ago, and he really has gotten quite groovy looking since the last time I saw him. Infact, he is absolutely gorgeous. ANd he is the funniest guy I know, and amazingly fun to be around. And I love him as part of my family, but when I went to visit him in London, I realised that I think I have feelings for him. But I don't think he has any for me...then again, I don't understand how guys are...but he talks about sex with me all the time, and I have seen him pretty unclothed...and he was comfortable with that. But I don't know...is it wrong that I like him, and is it unusual? And how would I know if he likes me or not?
Dont like your cousin. I'm sure he doesnt like you, but its just wrong... yeah you can think your cousin is cute and everything... I have a "step" cousin I guess you can call him. Hes my step grandma's daughters son or whatever so hes not totally part of my family and hes hot... but I would never hook up with him because he is family. Just dont mention it to him... its just kind of wrong. -holly- hope i helped
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holy shit how could you be such a bitch and claim to be alicia...WHEN IM FRIENDS WITH THE REAL ONE and your not her you stupid fucking bitch with no god damn life you must be one ugly fucking loser "BarbieGurl111111" thats the real one you whore
LOL! SING IT SISTA!
-holly-
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okay. my friends and i were going to play a joke on one of my friends for her birthday. the joke was that we would slip in her locker porno so she would be really embarrased, but i got elected to actually print it out. i didn't know where to put it till her b-day so i hid it under my nightstand. little did i know that my grandma would find it when she was cleaning and show it to my dad. now my dad thinks i am looking at porn!! if i tell him the truth he'll think im mean though. what should i do???
Tell him the truth! He might just think its funny. Dont lie to him, just tell him the plan. Next time you wanna hide something i'd say put it in a box and put it ontop of your closet! Sorry that happened, and i hope the plan goes well... if you still do it! -Holly-
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my ma wont let me have a tattoo how can i convince her to let me have one
actually you cant get a tattoo until your 18 even if your parents do sign for one. And once your 18 you can do whatever the hell you want!
-holly-
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Okay, I'm pregnant. I chose to see my family dotor who has been my doctor for years to go see for my checkups. The problem is everytime I have an appointment and go to tell my in-laws about it they are always comparing my doctor to thier family doctor. Like they say "well Doctor So&So would have never done it that way". And they compare the hospital I'll be delivering in to the one they go to as well. You know, it pisses me off because I think it is my decision what doctor I decide to see, especially in this time of my life, I trust my doctors because i have known them for so long. And I refuse to change doctors because I shouldn't have to. This is my choice. The problem is lately I've been trying to bite tougue my in-laws oppinions but its is getting harder. I don't want to say something mean because they are very nice to me and do alot for me and I don't want to come off disrespectful, so what can I do to keep myself from blowing up at them?
Well maybe you can tell them politly thank you for your concerin but I trust my doctor. If that doesnt work maybe you can get your husband to talk to them they are his parents... and he doesnt always have to be nice. He can say its not you that said something to him that he gets annoyed of the fact that they are always bothering you with it. Good luck and I hope the pregnancy goes great!
-holly-
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What would you do if things in your life were always downhill and uphill like big time. I have delt with it all...family in jail family getting divorced rape drugs sex everything in the book ive been through it, and im 14! Ok so I have always had trouble getting through anything and I always feel that i need an adult to talk to..but theres no way i could talk to my mom. So i have 3 people who have helped me in the past. One was my moms friend, one was a teacher and currentley one is my cousin and godmother. Yeah well it seems that everything just got better. Good right? No wrong becuase now shes moving away to south carolina and i live in michigan. I am afraid that everything is going to go back downhill. I have recentley decided to keep my life up and look at the good side of things and take control of what i can. But now i fear i will slip back and go into a deep depression once again. I dont kno what to do im confused..someone please help me.
I'm sure you'll meet someone new soon. You can possibly go and talk to another teacher, meet with a consular. I know those things are tough to deal with... I've had to deal with a few of those things myself! But stay positive and sooner or later things will clear up! I promise, till then keep your head up and focus on positive stuff.
-holly-
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my little sister i always a pain. everday i would say hi to her and she would just give me a nasty look and go to her room. i am nice to her most of the time. we get a long once in a while, but rarely...ahh what do i do to win her over?
yeah sisters are a pain! Even though I am the youngest. maybe invite her to go to ice cream and a movie or something. Have some sister bond time! good luck
-holly-
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I've been having problems with my dad lately ... well now that I think about it i've always had these problems. Sense my parents got divorced when I was like one I've only seen him everyother weekend. I used to hate it and lately i've been wishing I'd never see him. He always seems busy, and when hes not he always seem to be judging people, and mostly me. He won't let me have certian piercing because he think they will make me a bad kid ... he honestly said that! He also said he'd be embarresed. I've just started to learn he doesnt realize im growing up, I just can't stand him sometimes, he makes thing seem like there always my fault, and I just feel really uncomertable around him, like I can't be myself, and he doesn't know me so hes always asking me questions about drugs and stuff, I just don't know what to do, ive tried to tell him not to judge me to get to know me, and i've told him im growing up and he needs to accept it, i evenasked him to respect me because he didn't act like it. And after he seemed like he felt bad, but it didnt last long. Any advise would help thanks aton!
Hey your dad does have a say in your life because he is your father, but he does need to loosen up a little bit. Also I think it depends on your age but there is a certian time in your life where you can say you dont want to go over there anymore, (my friend did it and she was only 15 when she picked to do this) But I may be wrong! Maybe you could talk to your mom and have her talk to your dad about it. Good luck
-holly-
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okay so i was in a chat room and out of no where this guy asked me to cyber. i said no cuz i didn't even know him. well he started saying shit anyway and i was just about to say shut up to him and block him when my mom walked up behind me. well she read what he said and now i'm grounded for two weeks! but i didn't even do anything and i tried to explain that to her! what should i do!!
I think you need to tell your mom what happened, tell her and be like why would i do that! and just tell her, ask her to trust you because she should it so wasnt your fault! Good luck and i hope you get ungrounded
-holly-
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My family expects me to be exactly like my cousin, "Sarah". Sarah's one of those preppy, popular girls, & I'm not even close to that. I have a few close friends & I'm more laid-back. Just because we look alike (we look like sisters), everyone expects us to act alike. I hate being compared to Sarah all the time & being expected to be like her. I don't want to be her shadow. How can I handle this?
I know this is hard but maybe doing something outstanding that sarah hasnt done! Like a sport or some other kind of activity. Show them that your, your own person and that you dont want to be like your cousin! I hope things work out and your family start to realize you wont be like your cousin. good luck
-holly-
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Is it possible for my husbands ex wife and a man to go into an attorneys office and pretend to be myself and my husband in order to make up a will leaving everything to his three children while leaving out my own? I had heard that my husbands former wife and her male friend had my social security number and pertinent info which could be used for such a thing. I heard also that they might attempt to make out a will taking all of the property and giving it to her children (who are also my husbands) . I don't know if it would be that difficult seeing as an attroney would not know my husband nor myself and these two could possibly pull this off. I am paranoid
Maybe you should take it to the police or something. That would be so horrible if that happened. And if they did that and like the police found out that'd be identiy theift and they could get into a shiiit load of trouble! Good luck with everything and i hope it all works out!
-Holly-
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Hey there,
How can I get my mom to like this guy that I'm starting to get real close with. She's only met him once but I can tell that she doesn't like him. She thinks that he is meaning something different when she asks him a question. Like he said how people at work like him because he always talks to them so she thinks that he's just charming me too. How can I get her to open her mind a little bit more because he's completely opposite from my last boyfriend...
I think you just need to sit down with your mom and tell her what he really ment. Tell her that he means a lot to you and that you want to hang out with him and stuff. Just talk to her about him. She should give him another chance before she judges him.
-Holly-
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Me and my little sister do not get along at all! like if she does one little thing i seem to get really mad at her and we end up getting into a bit fight, and the same way for her, if i do something wrong she yells at me too. she has her own room but im surprised if she has ever stepped foot into it lol, she says shes not going to sleep in there until there is cable hooked up, so basically she is in my room 24/7!!! she lays on the floor and watches tv and plays ps2 and leaves plates and cups all around my room n then my parents tell me to clean it up cause its my room but its her room too cuz she like LIVES in here! Please help!!!
Maybe you should like go into her room and play ps2 on her tv and sleep in there and leave stuff around, it is her room. She'll probably come in there sooner or later... Good luck with that! I know its hard I have an older sister as well... Just remember i'm sure she looks up to you a lot even though you guys do yell at each other and what not because i remember looking up to my sisters.
-Holly-
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