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Scary Uncle
Ok - my uncle hits on me at almost every family gathering. It really bothers me! I told my mom and she said she'd try to help me, but I still feel so uncomfortable around him. He's always staring at me and winking, and saying that I'm hot!
I'm just so uncomfortable ..
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i have the same problem! i try to avoid him and stuff. i told my mom and shes like we just have a very touchy feely family. it is so wrong wut he does and if u feel uncomfortable and ur mom wont do anything u just keep saying sumthing till sum1 does say sumthin. even if it means the police or sumthin. cus its really gross...i totally feel ur pain.
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It is NEVER okay for your uncle to make you feel uncomfortable in this way. He could be harmless (but just incredibly stupid) or he could be a very dangerous man. I believe that we each have an internal ("gut") knowingness about when we are in danger and it sounds like your gut is telling you to be careful. Even if he is just a creepy (but harmless) guy, it is clear that he has no sense of acceptable boundaries or behaviors. My suggestion is not to allow yourself to be in a situation where you are alone with him and to continue to voice your uneasiness with his behavior to your Mother and possibly to other relatives as well. If, on the other hand, he is a dangerous man and you feel that you yourself are in physical danger or that anyone else is in physical danger because of him and your Mother is not taking it seriously, you may want to talk to someone you trust outside of your family. Best of luck to you.
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Ew, just tell him to leave you alone because it REALLY bothers you. If he won't stop, tell one of your parents or just make a HUGE scene next time he does it.
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tell him 2 leav u alone nd u think hes relli digusting ask family members 4 help. try 2 stay far away from him. good luc
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well that isnt good try to stay far away from him..cuz you dont want him to touch you anywhere he isnt supose 2....but if does do anything run start to your mom thats wut id doo...
* l0vin da rain x3 *
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tell him to his face that you think its gross. and that you told your mom about it because it bothers you tremendously. or you can just have a discusted look on ur face whenever he talks to you or looks at you. i think any of those would werk.. im so sorry about ur situation! i hope i helped!
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O god! i dunno what i would do... just the next time he looks at u in a bad way... give him a mean look...hopefully then he'll know not to look at you in that way again... it's really weird for an uncle to say that to his neice... and i think he needs serious help. try to stay away from him at family gatherings! hope it helps![H][U][G][S] ~Summer
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Tell him to leave you alone an your not intrested. Tell him how you feel about it. If you are scared to confront him alone have your mom or a cousin go with you to do it. Or even do it over the phone, and stay away from him for a couple days or something. hope i helped <3
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o god i have a FEW uncles like that! ok well what i do is kinda stay away from them or tell them about a boy and let them think its a boyfriend! lol i always do that... they never noticed that i go back to exboyfriends all the time! but sometimes its like a joke if your the only teenage girl in your extended family like me. they know that your growing up and they know that you are maturing and they think that you have a love life so they make a deal about it... my uncles always ask if i have boyfriends.
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Tell him to fuck off. I know i know very harsh but theres things that you've gotta do... and thats one. Also ask your mom if you can stay home from family gatherings and avoid him as much as possible! Hes a sick freak! and something needs to be done... maybe talk to you aunt! Good luck
-holly-
hope i helped
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You need to get him to stop! its harrasment..you need to take him aside and tell him that you feel uncomfortable wen he does those things to u and that its not rite and they scare you. If he still doesnt' stop after that..you need to really have an adult or family member help you to get him to stop..hope I helped
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Tell him to back off or throw mean looks at him u can tell ur dad to scare him off but really wut u should do is actualy talk to someone about it or tell him its bothering u or u will do something to really make him stop.
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Eww oh wow thats horrible. OK its great you told your mom..but I think you should tell a guy member in your family. Then maybe he`ll confront your uncle and tell him to BACK OFF. Tell a big brother, another uncle, your dad, etc. You should also say something to him when he hits on you. Dont just let this situation slip by..avoiding him isnt the answer. Tell a male figure in your family and get it resolved asap.
Best of luck..and im so sorry you have such a perv for an uncle
-melissa-
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try to avoid ur uncle as much as possible.. if he ever touches you or nething go straight to the police.. maybe you could even be so suttle to tell him to shut the hell up or stop what he's doing lol.. that's probably the most effective thing you can do.. hope i helped..
xoxox-kenzi
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Don't listen to these people! You cant just avoid him. You need to tell someone other than your mom. I would suggest your main male guardian (no not boyfriend or anything) in your life. Men are more protective of their kids, sisters, cousins, whatever it may be. This is a form of sexual harrasment because its unwanted. What if your uncle was a guy in your class and you told him to stop? IT would still be the same right.
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Caitlin!
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that's gross
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do you live in alabama? cuz if you do thats normal. anyways this isnt normal but it is a psychological condition to be attracted to relatives. i suggest telling him to get help, that is assuming you are sure that you arent mistaken about it being hitting on you. is it your uncle from your moms side or dads? because tahts the one you should be talking to. but yeah other than that not much you can do other than avoid him
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sry..try avoidin him..dont look, speak or be around him if he is in 10-20 feet away from you..or/ and have another male family member or someone tell him off or something.. - hope I helped
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Tell him off, lol, or stay away from him, avoid him at all costs
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YOU SHOULD NOT BE AROUND HIM ANY MORE THATS WHAT I WOULD DO TELL YOUR MOM WHEN HE DOES SAYS ANY THING TO YOU THAT YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE AROUND AND WHEN HE SAYS YOUR HOT....ALL THE TIME...
MORGAN
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