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Hey I'm Laura. I love giving advice and helping people out. If you ever have a question, drop one in my inbox! I'm always on, so your question will be answered very quickly. =)


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so i started likeing my ex boyfriend agian. and i reallly want a boyfriend right now buti dont want to just settle cause there ae plenty of guys out there but my ex is kinda a freat guy.
idk what to do. go for it or keep searching?
(keep in mind im kinda young) hehe

I say you experience dating different guys. You've already been with your ex and it seems like there are some things about him you don't like. So yeah, you're young. Go have fun. :]

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just a simple question. what is cheating. cause honeslty i don't know. i mean i know sex and kissing is but..is there more to cheating than physically? cause sometimes i feel like i might be cheating on my boyfriend even though i've never done anything sexually with anyone else.

In a sense, you can be emotionally cheating on someone if you have strong, prolonged feelings for another person. It's ok to develop little crushes on other guys but if it's more than that you should let your boyfriend know. It's only fair to him and the relationship that you're truthful about your feelings.

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ok my boyfriend lets call him nick really loves me and i really love him too. ok we told each other that we loved each other about a month or two after we started going out. we have only been goin out five months and we have already had sex it was his first time but not mines. im 14 and he is 15 i just want to know if im moving to fast because i have also put him over most of my family but i also dont have the best family either but thank you and i will appreicate any advice you have to offer.

If you are comfortable with what you've done, then you haven't been going too fast. It's all up to you and how you feel. It's ok to put him over your family but just remember they're still your family. You should try to be there for them even if they're not the best.

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how do you know if your a good kisser?

You can ask the person you kiss. The best thing is to just have confidence. If you keep doubting whether you're a good kisser, you'll do worse. Just relax and it comes naturally. Also that phrase that "practice makes perfect" works for this.

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OMG my bf is a total dick, like after we had sex he couldnt stop talking about this girl and I was like wtf I just had sex with you and all you can talk about is another girl? I like cant believe he would do this to me! I'm in love with him!! And I know hes in love with me, how can I make him realize that I'm the one for him, I mean I've given him everything! Like before we met I was a virgin, and then he wanted to have sex so I gave in because I love him and I didnt want him to break up with me! All he talks about is other girls, and he just laughs when I get upset, What should I do, how can I make him realize I'm the only girl he should talk about!!!!

if he can't appreciate what he already has, a loving girlfriend, he doesn't deserve you. i hate to say this now that youve given your virginity to him but it needs to be said. if you didnt actually want to have sex, he shouldve respected your decision instead of bugging you about it. by laughing at you when you got upset & talking about another girl, he's disrespecting you completely. you deserve a guy who will give you his full attention & accept your choices.
you can't make him realize youre the only one for him. if he can't already realize it then he's not the guy for you. i honestly think you deserve so much better than that hun.

♥ lAuRa

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So I was searching around a site similar to Myspace when I saw this guy's pictures. He was in a place I absolutely love to vacation at, so I sent him a message. It turns out he goes to my old school.

We've been talking for a while, only on the computer. He keeps bringing up how we flirt, and wanting to date me, and wanting to meet me. He says it in a certain way, as if he wants to know how I feel before he asks me, but he is so obvious. I know for sure he isn't some creepy old guy, but I really don't like him that way. I guess I just can't develop feelings for a person I've met only through the internet.

He's a nice person, and I think he really likes me, so how can I tell him I don't feel the same, and I don't want to meet him?

Aw well you should aim to tell him in the nicest way possible. If he really likes you, making him sad will happen inevitably. Maybe say something along the lines of "I think you're a really cool guy, but I just don't feel that way about you." Telling him you don't like him as more than a friend is better than leading him on. Good luck & I hope all goes well.

♥ laura

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i have been with my boyfriend for 5 months but we are not together officialy itis supposed to be a flig but i realy like him and he admitted he has slepted with other lasses since we have been together i want to finish it but dont know how to or what to say but i realy like him and dont want to loose him but i dont him making a fool of me any longer plz help i will rate.

he isn't worth your time. if he's been with other girls while you're dating, he obviously doesn't respect you enough. you deserve better...dump him. don't feel bad if he's sad because he's being an idiot. i doubt he'll even care that much though. i mean, look at how he's been treating you.

♥ lAuRa

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Ok, I'll have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 weeks, tomorrow. I've heard rumors that if his g/f wont have sex with him that he dumps them after a month. And I'm 13 and I don't want to have sex. He is having a party next weekend and invited me to it. Its a pool/birthday party at his house. If my mom lets me go, I'm going. But if that rumors true...he well might wanna ya know. What should I do?

Just tell him you're not ready and you don't want to have sex. If he still tries to force you after you talk to him, dump him. A relationship isn't just based on sex. If he thinks it is he's got a lot to learn. He's not worth it if he dumps girls for not getting sex.

♥ lAuRa

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My oyfriend keeps pushing me in having sex, but i'm not sure if i should . i am not sure if im ready to have a really committed relationship. What should i do? please help! P.S. i'm 17 years old

Honestly, if you aren't 100% sure you're not ready. Tell your boyfriend you aren't ready to have sex yet. If he truly cares about you he will stop pushing you into it. If your boyfriend continues to try and have sex without you wanting to, break up. If he wants you and not just your body, he will stop. If you let this go too long it may turn into rape, which is not good considering he's your own boyfriend. Good luck! I really hope he understands your feelings. =)

♥ lAuRa

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Can one find love online? Even if the lovers are separated by hundreds of miles? Explain.

5's for all quality responses because this is your opinion and you therefore cannot be wrong.

Hmm, that is very much debate able. I believe you can find love online. When you talk you can tell that you share that same interests and seem to make a connection. A person's personality can show through when you are talking to them. Sometimes you can feel the chemistry without being with the person. It's just there. If it's true love I'm sure that the two people will eventually be together, regardless of how far apart they are now. =)

♥ lAuRa

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My boyfriend is moving and I really really like him, and we have been going out for 3 years and I wont see him anymore should I break up with him or not!

If you still like him then don't break up with him. Before he moves find out ways to keep in contact with him and set times on the weekend or some time to see each other (if he didn't move too far.) Talk to him about it. If he still likes you, just try your best to keep in contact. You have been with him 3 years so I'm pretty sure you can trust him. Long distance relationships can work if you really try. Maybe one day you'll move in together. =)

♥ lAuRa

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My guy gets mad when I'm with or talk to any other guy who I'm just friends with. What do I do?

Well a little jealousy in a relationship is good. It means he's afraid to lose you, which says how much he cares about you. But this seems to have gone too far. You need to assure him you're just friends. Let him know that you really love him and no other guy would ever replace him. Tell him you will always be faithful. If he still gets mad after you talk to him, maybe it's time to split up for awhile. Let him calm down before you get back together. If he can't trust you, it's time to break up. Without full trust in a relationship, things begin to fall apart.

♥ lAuRa

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ok my girlfriend has a abusive dad. hes always drunk and beating her. yesturday when i was visiting my girl, he was beating her up, i just got really mad. i couldnt control my self and i pushed him away. and i guess he was drunk and i was really angry he would beat up katy like that, but i beat him up pretty bad. am i right?

You did a good job of protecting her. You really need to tell the police right away. It's for the best. Katy might be upset but she doesn't deserve to be treated like that under any circumstances. You're being a great boyfriend. =)

♥ lAuRa

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welp, im going to ask this really hott guy out tomorrow and im so nervous...but i kno this isnt a question but i just wanted to tell people, wish me luck. *if we do start a relationship, our annaversery will be June 2nd! lol) WISH ME LUCK! i dunno why, but whoever wishes me luck, will get a rating of 5. :)

Good luck!! You are a nice girl I think he'll say yes! =)

♥ lAuRa

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I really like this guy that I'm friends with already. He was dating my friend, but she broke up with him and said she wouldn't care if I asked him out. So I did, but he said no. I was heartbroken! Should I still be friends with him even though he broke my heart?

Yeah, you should still be friends with him! The closer you get to him, the better chance you have that he might start to like you as more than a friend. Give it time and get to know each other better. Don't give up on him yet! Only fate will tell if you end up together. Good luck with him!

♥ lAuRa

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i made out with my boyfriend last night. could i be pregnant? please reply quickly because i am so worried!

No. You have to have sex in order to risk pregnancy.

♥ lAuRa

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hi my name is stassia and i need advice to help my boyfriend forget about his mom passing.

I don't think he will forget this. He will never be able to. When someone very close to you dies, it's like a part of you dies with them. You should just support him right now. Let him know if he ever wants to talk, you are there for him. If he wants to get his mind off of it, try to help him create a busier schedule. Spend time with him and make him feel good. If he's really down in the dumps, it wouldn't hurt for him to talk to a counselor about his loss. Just be there for him and he'll really appreciate it. =)

♥ lAuRa

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Ok well theirs to boys.. The one ive been on and off with since last february.. And we've been threw everything you can image together.. He was my first serious boyfriend and we did everything for each other.. But one day he cheated on me.. And its been about 2 months and every since then he's been denying it .. But i know he did and i know he just didnt want me to know but for the past 2months he;s been telling me he loves me and is sorry for everything.. Last night we went for a walk on the beach :) And he told me he loved me and cared about me and i know he wasnt lying.. And one of my xbfs Dan likes me again dont get me wrong i still care about him and what not but dan is taking me to prom and i didnt tell the other one.. and he said if i ever get back with dan he is never talking to me again.. But im deff. going to prom but i dont want to hurt dan because last time i left him for my other boyfriend.. which is the first guy i was talking about.. Should i just tell the first one im going to prom with dan and see how he reacts.. and see what happends from then on?! please help...

Yes, tell the other guy your going to the prom with Dan. He shouldn't get mad. If he really cared about you he would let it go. I think you should go to the prom with Dan and have fun. If this other guy likes you, he will wait for you. =)

♥ lAuRa

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One of my best friends just told me that she liked me today. She asked me if i had any feelings about it and i said not yet. The problem is that i don't really know if i like her as more than a friend. I used to like her like about a month ago, but i stopped. This may not make any sense but i want to like her as more than a friend because she is one of the nicest people i know, but i just don't think i see her that way. Is that possible? I don't want to hurt her and tell her that i'm not interested but i don't want to go out with her either. What should i do?

If you are unsure of how you feel, you shouldn't go out with her. You shouldn't try to have feelings that just aren't there. Not only are you hurting her by doing that, you're also hurting yourself. Tell her the truth. Right now you only want to be friends. She should understand when you tell her that. =)

♥ lAuRa

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I like this guy and he likes me.. I want to tell him how i truley feel but im afraid.. Should i gain up my courage and tell him? or just leave it alone?

You should tell him! Since you know he likes you it will be easier because there will be no fear of rejection. If you don't tell him you will never know what could happen between you two. Good luck! =)

♥ lAuRa

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