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okay. my name is ashley for those who are wondering and im 15 years young. im about to be a sophomore in highschool and basically like to give people advice. i have been told that the things i say are pretty good butif you dont like what i say then good for you, i tried. Ask me anything im always up for the challenge and when i answer your question i normally try and relate it to things similar going on in my life. Say anything rude and i will delete the comment. if you need help and dont want others to see it you can message me on myspace or you can IM me at xBESTmemory x3

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So, me and my friend just admitted to liking each other about a week ago and we've been talking about dating and being together.

Theres a huge problem, it's way bad timing. He will be leaving for the Marines soon after Thanksgiving. We are both happy to wait but the thing is that this JUST started. I mean, we aren't in love so I'm not sure if these feelings will just fade overtime on his part and I'll be waiting for someone who can't break up with me.

But I really think this guy is great and I'd be passing up the chance with someone wonderful, so I'm pretty stuck.

So I'm wondering if it's a bad idea to start something and ANYONE who has experience to please share their stories, I'm open to any answer:)

well him leaving for the marines is basically i test of how much you like eachother and if it is true love it will be meant to be. When he comes back if you still have the feelings for him you did before you'll know that you are supposed to be together.
hope this helped =]

so theres this guy and i like him a lot. but the problem is i dont talk to him that much. i went out with him last year and i liked him ever since. but hes a huge jerk and dumped me bcuz i didnt make out with him right away. i was over h
im but theres just something about him that is just adorable. what should i do about it.?

when you see someone that you went out with and you really cared about it is normal to see them and feel that you still like them...you dont its basically you just missing what the two of you had not him literally. But from what you have said he seems to be a hugee jerk. just dont go by him much, if he flirts with you ignore it.
hope this helped =]

This guy was my classmate last semester and we didnt really talk as in never only when i changed my class i saw him in that class and i didnt have any choice bcoz there was only one vacant chair which was next to him so ya i sat and he was smiling i said hi then he said hi .. well i didn't like him that way because duh i didn't know him..then one day i was absent he sent me a message on myspace and said he ditched 6th period class he also said he was gonna asked me to go with him in the library walk around... he was gonna asked me out... but too bad i told him I was sick that day..he sent me a message again and he said can you be my girlfriend? and then i said no..we should just be friends...until now i see him he has a new girl but he still looking at me..last time i passed by him then he was with his friends he was looking ..lmao.. well i really want to say hi to him but i can't.. we still talk on myspace we always send messages..he still asking me to go somewhere with him but i keep on telling him no thank you.. and i can tell that he told his friends that he liked me.. bcoz i see them pushing him everytime i pass by them... I'm just confused... im sorry if my grammar is not really specific ...

well if you are still confused on if you like him or not try hanging out with him sometime instead of always saying no. and if you want to keep it as less awkward as possible hang out in a group so that if the conversation is dead you have someone else there to help you bring it up. And all those signs you have said up there deff. shows that he likes you.
hope this helped =]

does anyone know a song about a girl who's in love with her best friend?

just friends by the jonas brothers (my favorite)
my bestfriends hot - by the dollyrots
could it be - christy carlson romano
hate that i love you - rhianna

those are the only ones i can think of off the top of me head.
hope this helped you =]

14/f/freshman

i really like this boy, let's call him E. he's a sophmore.. his older brother is best friends with my older brother, so i see him alot. but i'm kindof shy when it comes to boys, so i dont' talk to him. however, we talk all the time on AIM. i usually see him at school, but i never have the courage to talk to him..

now there's another boy, N. i used to like him, but i don't have those feelings for him anymore. he's three years older than me, a junior. but i've known him since i was 7, because he went to my church. he asked me to go to homecoming with him, and i said idk because i was thinking about askeing E. but he said he didn't want to wait forever, that he had other girls he was gonna ask. so i said yes.

however, i really really like E. what do i do? i know i should follow through with my promise to go with N, but i don't want to feel jealous if i see E with a different date.. i'm so confused, please help :/

well. N seems to be somewhat rude about it since he said he wasnt going to wait forever..which is understandable..but saying he has other girls to ask isnt very nice to say..in that terms at least. try mentioning homecoming to E and see what he says, and obviously as N said he already had other girls he could ask. YOu could also talk it over with N.
hope this helped =]

15/f

so theres this guy and i really like him a lot but the thing is he knows i like him but doesnt know me or even what i look like ... and one of my best guy firends is best friends with him and my best guy friend is dating my best girl friend so me and my biff have been trying to set something up where all 4 of us could hangout together...we are probably hanging out tommorow ... so 1st do you think this will be awkward? 2 what should i wear?!? 3 i need conversation topics .. ive never even talked to him before at all! (hes uber shy)

ahhh im so worried i really need some help i really want and need this to work i havent had a boyfriend in over a year and i havent hooked up in 6 months so i really want this to work out and i reallyyyyy like him

please and thanks

so i am basically in the same situation. but what you to do is just be yourself that way you know he would be liking you for you and not who you would be pretending to be. but one thing is make sure that you arent pretending to be stupid, from what ive heard from guys they hate it when girls do it. for the awkward part...no it shouldnt be awkward since you'll have 2 of your bestfriends there. talking should normally just come when your like all talking. and as to what to wear, whatever you want. i always go with whats most comfratable to me =]
hope this helped

when im talking with my boyfriend sometimes he says hes so ugly. and i think hes adorable so i tell him hes not hes really good looking. then he will say something like "you are the only one who thinks that" and occaisonally he will say "it doesnt matter what anyone but you thinks anyway but im still ugly" is he implying something? i get worried. or is he just really self conscious? i try to tell him hes not but he wont agree.

like most guys they need to be reassured of things, such as how they look, how good they are at sports and such. so he is most likely just wanting to be reminded. nothing to worry about =]

ok, normally i am good at love dilemmas, but this one stumps me.

I have been with a guy that I really do love for 7 months. Before him, I dated a guy a state away from me. Now, my ex bf was very caring, nice, etc...or so it seemed. We talked through webcam and instant messages. Well, he wanted to see me on webcam one day and I guess he didnt like what he saw, so the next day he txted me and said it was over. I didnt love him, but i was infatuated with him and that just broke my heart. I got over him and months later i found my current bf. Well, just now while I was on the phone with my bf, I got an instant message from my ex. And it kind of feels like those feelings could still be there. My question is, is it something I should be worried about? I think they could be just friendship feelings, but im not sure. Any help is appreciated!

ive gone through this before also. but what i always just think is okay its not that i like him its just whenever you talk to him you think about times you had and i guess you could say miss them. dont be worried about it, its just normal for this to happen especially if you havent talked to him in a while
hoped this helped =]

Ok. Me and this guy talk alot on the computer and we laugh and hes says Im the only one who ever laughs to his joke and none of his friends do and he will talk like 30 or 1hr extra with me when hes not suppose too. But When Im around him we never talk!! And Im too shy to ask him stuff and I dont know if he like me or not! Does that mean he likes me. Because along ime ago he said I was pretty and asked me if I consider hm as a friend...becuase we were playing to questuon game. So Does he like me?

Help.

my guess would be that yes he does like you. some boys get tounge tied when talking in person but online they can be themselves. other guys hate to talk online and rather talk in person. just be yourself as much as you can ((i know it can be hard, im really shy in person to)) but just try hanging out alot more and you can get more comfratable. and to find out for sure if he likes you ask him online by saying something like soo who do you like? and see who he says.
hope this helped =]

WARNING: This will sound ridicolous, BUT that doesn't make it any less important.

So you know these surveys people send out on myspace, facebook, hotmail etc (The ones with questions about them like "what do you think of my hair" that their friends are supposed to answer!) Well, I desperately want my crush to send it out cause I have some GREAT answers in mind for some of them, but he's not the survey-sending type. We havn't talked for about 5 months ((sadly, we lost touch) and I thought I flirty email like that would be a great way to get him back into my life, but I don't want to be the first one to send it out, and I don't want to TELL him to send it out either (so pathetic!) is there anything I can do? (besides hack him, send it out to myself and some others, answer it, and give him back the password!!)

Thanks!

Well as many of us too have been in this position. What i would do is just fill it up yourself and send it to him. and if you feel completely ridicuoulous just put something as the headline like "heyy, i was boredd =]" then at the bottom you could "send it back sometime if your bored too"
hope this helped =]

well i know this is gonna sound stupid but anyway... whenever me and my bf get together, we look at each others cell phones to see who the other person has been calling/texting. (we dont actually admit thats what we're doing, but thats what we do). well yesterday we got into a fight over it. he got mad because these 2 guys had been texting me. ok now these 2 guys are really nerdy and theres no way i'd ever like them, and my bf knows that. so it was stupid for him to get mad. on the other hand, my bf had made all these calls to this one girl amanda. amanda is really pretty and shes also a big slut, so that made me really mad!! he said he was just prank calling her, but whatever. he said i have no right to be mad at him for calling girls, when i text other guys. well, i guess... but there's a difference here, right? the guys i texted are harmless, but the girl he called is anything but. plus those guys texted me first and i just answered to be nice, whereas my bf is the one who called amanda first. am i wrong to be mad about this?

you arent wrong to be mad about this as long as you take that madness out in a nice way. instead of fighting or yelling at eachother just talk about it nicely. just simply ask him why and if you dont believe him ask your closest guy friend to talk to him. and also explain over and over again that the guys you are texting are just your friends nothing more and if he doesnt believe you tell him to ask your bestfriend.
hope this helped =]

allright well my boyfriend really wants to go to second base. and im not sure if i do and like he has asked me before and i told him i would rather wait. and stuff but i can tell that he really wants to and lately he has begged me and stuff and i dont want him to like get mad at me for not doing it. and i just dont know what to do.

if your not ready, then your not ready. theres nothing wrong with that. just come out and say it and if he is a true boyfriend then he will understand.
hope this helped =]

ok so my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 1 month and i have decided that i am not really that into him anymore i mean we kissed and have had our moments but is there a nice way to let him down gently and still be friends!?!

the easiest way as i see it would be just to say something like "i really dont think its fair of me to keep us in a relationship when i dont have the feelings that you have for me. You are still really great and nice but i think i see us being more friends than boyfriend/girlfriend."
hope this helped =]

ive liked my bff's boyfrined named ryan (ex bf now) since before she ever knew him and i just never old her. so when she started to go out with him i started to like someone else but still kinda like him so after they broke up i thought it'd be okay to date him because she said she didnt care if i did she just didnt want to see me get hurt like i was in the past and like she was in the past but i told her i wouldnt get hurt but that didnt convince her so i said that i didnt actually like him and that i was only preteneding to go out with him even though thats not true. so now since then shes had 3 different boyfriends and says that she hates ryan, but she had called him and asked him to come swimming with her and then she asked him if he still liked her. he said he wasnt going to come swimming with her and no he didnt like her and i think she knew that was his answer anyway but i guess she was hoping for a different one...but i dont know because she keeps saying how much she hates him but then why would she ask him out? She knows hes dateing me but why would she ask?

more than likely she is just trying to be a somewhat good friend by saying she doesnt like him and that you could go out with him. but her saying she didnt want to see you get hurt could mean 2 different thinks. One being she really doesnt want to see you get hurt. or two being that she didnt want you to go out with him bc she still has feelings for him. most of the time when someone says how much they hate someone it really means they like them and are trying to convince themselves that they dont. try talking to her about it and ask her why she is doing this.
hope this helped =]

do you know any quote that relates to players?

www.xanga.com
they have really good quotes there.
hope it helps =]

how can i tell him i just wanna be friends? its soo hard! i hate doing this because i know my boyfriend really liks me but i dont want to go out wtih him just because he likes me. help!!

just come right out and say it. but keep it in a nice way. say something like well i have been thinking and i dont think its really fair of me to keep going out with you when i dont ahve the same feelings for you that you have for me and i was hoping that we could just go back to being friends.
hoped this helped =]

ok well i liked or at least i think i still like him im not even sure anymore, but lets just say that i still do like him. well he found out that i liked him so he invited me to his house on memorial day weekend and we hung out in his basement and watched a movie and we hooked up. and it was my first time and i was really happy. and we dont go to the same school anymore cos i moved two years ago, but we stayed friends. and so the night before school started that weekend at like 11pm i texted him and i said"i loved being with you on friday night! i miss you already!" and he texted me back, and was like "me too, what are you doing next weekend" which kinda made me upset cos like i guess i was expecting for him to message me with something else. ok so then last weekend i wanted him to come over, but he asked if he could sleep over cos his mom wouldnt want to pick him up so late since we live a halfhour apart. and so i asked my mom and she said yes. but then the night he was supposed to come over i really didnt feel right about him sleeping over so i told him that i had to study for my finals and he kinda got mad. but then yesterday neither of us had school so he invited me to his house. and i went and i nkow that he isnt a virgin and i am. and i knew that i wasnt ready to make it to that point yet cos hes the only one who ive ever hooked up with you know and i dont love him. and we were making out on his couch(no one was home) and we were lying down. and we were making out and i felt him touch my belt and i waited to see if he would try to undo it and i felt him try to or at least i thought i did and i said no. and he took his hand off and he said he was sorry and we kept making out. and he kept trying to put his hand up my shirt, and i kept moving his hand away. but then he finally did. and i dont rember if i made him stop o he just did on his own. but then he kept moving my hand toward his penis and he put my hand over his penis(his pants were still on) and he just to make me like massage it if you will. and i moved my hand again. and then i fell asleep and i dont know if he knew if i were asleep or not and i woke up and we were holding hadn and he start moving my hand down his boxers slowly and before he got the chance to move my hand all the way down i just pulled my hand totally away, and like i heard him kinda like "huff+puff" like he was fustrated. and then he had his hand like under my belly button like sotof going down my pants, and he was just rubbing me. but i was really afraid he was gonna stick his hand down there so i moved his hand about 6 inches up. and i was really upset cos i wasnt ready to have sex or anything or go to the next level, and i think he was mad cos i wouldnt. and then my friend who lives in boston text mesaged him last ngiht and was like why did you take advantage of jessi? and he was like well after three hours of making out i got bored. and that made me really upset. and the kid i like messaged my friend john back and was likew ell why dont you just hookup with ehr and john said well if i were to hookup with her itd be because i actually care about her and not for my own benefit. and harrsion messaged him back and said well im sorry that i dont become soul mates with someone the second i see them. wich made me even more mad. cos hes known me for four years and john has only known me for two. and john cares a lot more about me than harrsion does. and me and john are just really good friends and i thought harrison actually liked me. well i wrote this letter to harrsion, so can you tell me if i should give it to him and also some advice on what i should do about him .. like im proud of myself for not letting him take advantage of me but idn, everything still just feels wrong

you really hurt me on thursday. i know how far you have gone, and thats great. but im just not ready for anything like that, and im sorry but thats just how i feel. and obviousily you dont care about me, cos if you didnt you wouldnt have said "well after three hours of making out i got bored" to john. i really thought that you liked me for me, but i guess i was wrong. i was so happy to just be with you, but i guess we're both looking for two totally different things. i'm looking for someone who i really want to be with for a long time and who ill be able to remember for basically the rest of my life. i know that that sounds corny, but this is something that i've wanted for a really long time, and i thought that i could have that with you. but i guess you're just looking for someone who you can "get busy" with. and thats great for you. but that just isnt something i want out of some one, so i guess we're just not meant to be together. and im really upset with the way you treated me. how many times did i need to pull my hand away before you realized that i wasnt going to give you a hand job and for you to realize that i didnt want you putting your hand down my pants. i was just so afriad that it was going to lead into something that i was going to regret. i wasnt about to loose my virgintiy to you right then and there. because i know for a fact that you arent in love you me. and i know that im not in love with you. and i know that you have had sex before, and obviousily you werent in love with them, because if you did, you would probably still be with them. well, i hope you understand how i do feel, because i was able to tell that you were getting frustrated with me cos i wouldnt go as far as you would have liked to go. but i think we should just be friends because i really just dont want to be with you because im just not ready for what you obviousily are ready for.

okay. well to start off you should be proud of yourself for not letting him take advantage of you. that is a veryyy hard thing for a girl to do, especially when they like the guy and want the guy to like them, even though "getting with them" doesnt get them to like them. but what to do with this boy and leave him, not like technically like stay his friend but if you go to hang out with him dont hook up, if he trys to make a move just be like no, were friends because if you hang out alot more and hook up everytime you will become something people like to call a "booty call" when guys arent getting anything at all, they have that girl they know will. personally if i were you i would go with john, he stood up for you to this kid. As for the letter, theres 2 things that you could do. one being give it to him but one thing you might want to take out is that you know what he said about you, just to avoid him getting mad at the kid that showed you. and i would also make sure that he reads it. otherwise you could either call him or tell him in person how you feel just so you know that he heard you and you said it for yourself, becuase sending the note he could easily rip it up and throw it away never to look at it.
hope this helped =]
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hello people have been tellin me rumors that they have seen my boyfriend behind a 7/11 makin out wiyh a girl but he said thats so stupied why wud i do that if the 7/11 is right next to your house than i heard that he fingered and made out widd his ex gf a couple of saturdays ago but he told me he wud never cause he hated her b/c when they went out she cheated on him many times and the day they broke up she told him so he hate her for that than this friend of mine met my bf the other day and said he was huggin and beling all over his friend andrea that i am even chill with and i dont know cause chris likes me and i dont know if he was tryin to break me and mike up but he yelled at chris and said why are you lien to my girl and sayin stuff thatt aint tru... but like every day he tells me how much he loves me and how he wud never cheat on me cuase he said he said he knows wat it feels like to be cheated on cause it has happend to him and i told him to never cheat on me and jus break up widd me if you like another girl i am really!! confused and i need help or adivice?!!

well. what i would always go on is it all depends who is telling you. someone who wants you to break upis of course going to tell you lies or even overextend the truth. normally with a cheater they make up excuses why they cant hang out or if you call them to just talk they are like uhm i cant talk right now and then if you ask they get mad becuase you keep asking. those are the signs i always look for. and if he did get with andrea and your friends with her, ask her. she would most likely tell you.
hope this helped =]

17/f. It has been over a year since I broke up with my boyfriend. And I am still in love with him. Head over heels, would do anything for him, I want to spend the rest of my life with him, I know he is the one, the only one for me, in love. And, he is my best friend. Problem is though, is that he has a girlfriend and they have been going out for a year. I want to tell him so much, but I am afraid that things would get weird between us. I don't want to lose him because he is my best friend. But I just want to be truly happy. I don't know what to do. What should I do?

Also, tomorrow our friend is having a b-day party, and he is going to be there, and his girlfriend. It's going to be all day. I don't want to break down or anything, do something stupid. I just need some advice on how to handle tomorrow, what can I do to not let them get me down too much?

well what most people would say is have your friends ask him what he thinks about you or would he consider going back out with you. dont do that bc eventually your friends start to nag him and then he gets annoyed. what i would do is just casually talk to him at the party not to flirty since his girlfriend is going to be there. then if you ever talk on the computer flirt a little but make sure he is alone if you do becuase you dont want it getting out. and then just basically see where it goes from there. if it is meant to be he will realize that he should be with you. also try hanging out with him away from his girlfriend, yahh that probably sounds bad but it is basically the only way to see if your meant to be, but i wouldnt come on to strong bc you dont want to scare him away or anything. hope this helped =]

okay , so my boyfriend && i have been together for almost 4 months . i love him , really , i do . the only thing i don`t like about him is that he does pot . he says he hasn`t done it for like 2 months. but my friends keep telling me "i wouldn`t go out with someone that does drugs , but thats just me" idk what to do because i really like him , but not sure if i wan`t to keep seeing someone that does pot . and btw : he knows i know that he does pot . what should i do ? should i let it all go to waste & break up with be because of pot ?

uhg ,

well you really love him and tell him that you that you dont want to see him basically killing himself so tell him he should stop. and talk to his friends but keep it subtle soo that he doesnt find out. the worst thing to do is check his phone for text that say stuff about pot. DONT DO THAT ! bc for some reason guys get really angry at that sort of stuff. and then if you find out that he does keep doing it even after you told him how you felt then tell him so you choose pot over your girlfriend, something like that dont sound to mean about it and see what he says if he keeps doing it then i would say dump him but stay close friends bc he is doing the drugs for some reason or another. a kid i know does them bc he feels stressed. which is stupid get a stressball, lol but any ways hope i helped =]

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