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I'm Almedina. I'm foreign, and I'm pretty much ready to handle whatever life throws at me. Ha, pretty random that I go from being foreign to life,but anyways. I've had this column for about two yearsnow, and I don't update it as I should, or want to but with school and this crazy teenage life of mine, it gets pretty hard to do so. I've been giving advice to all my friends since I can remember and I love trying to help them. I'm out going and extrememly loud once you get to know me. I'm usually shy at first unless I've gotten to know you. I don't understand life sometimes. But I've got my whole life to figure out the meaning of it. I'm selfish at times, and stubborn. I care too much about things I shouldn't and not enough about the MOST important things in my life. I'm very annoyed with people at times, and tend to just block everyone out. I'm afraid to say I'm in love, but I'm not afraid of love itself. I'm myself and that's all I can be. I've gone through a lot, so I'm willing to help in whatever way I can (:

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I have been dating this guy for a year and itis all going well about a month ago he dumped me and I a mixed raced and he said he cant get to serious with me as I am mixed racedand that confuses things for him to much and he is white I still have no idea what he meant by what he said unless I am just weird?

Basically he's not being true to himself or you. Because of the fact that you're mixed, he's unsure if he can be in a relationship with him. You're not at all weird, he's just acting childish. A race shouldn't be the reason people break up, therefore you shouldn't waste your time on someone who won't waste their time on you. Regardless of race, if it's meant to be it will. If he didn't have a problem with your race for a whole year and he suddenly does now.. it's something else. If I were you I'd talk to him because you deserve the truth.

Does sex feel really good ?

16f

It depends, on you and the sexual partner. (:

Hey! So my boyfriend and I have only been going out for a few weeks, and we love to spend time together. Everything's going great, but the only problem is that we don't always know what to do/where to go for fun little dates on Saturday nights and stuff.. any suggestions? (Besides for the usual movie/dinner/bowling)?

You could make a list together of all the places you'd want to visit that are somewhat close. For example, you could go visit like a fun museum, sounds kind of lame but it can be a lot of fun. Where I live there's a city museum where it's a play ground almost with so many different things that can be done. You could go downtown and visit just different places, and restaurants that you've never heard of. You could also do the usual stay at homem cuddle with a cute movie (: This should keep you busy for a while, and then you can always just mix it up. One weekend something new, another something original.

my bf's ex gf from like a year ago WONT leave my boyfriend alone. like she will try anything to talk to him.. but my concern is i think hes actually talking to her telling her he loves her. i dont know what to do.. i want to break up with him but.. omg. AHHH
what should i do? confront him?
17 f

Def. confront him because if he's talking to his ex girlfriend, he's not being true & fair to you. If he denies talking to her, trust him. But if your suspicion starts to rise again, ask him about it once again. Again if nothing, you're going to have to go with your gut on this one, babe.

Okay i have a boyfriend and i really like him actually i am in love with him. The thing is he has this cute friend with a great personality i like him a little but the problem is that my crush on him is ruing my ability to be around my bf. I want to stay with my current bf but mr. cutie is too busy taking up my mind and i like my bf.

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

Too Many Guys
Maggie Female

Try to figure out if you're attracted to the "friend" in just a sexual way because if you are it's fine, it'll go away. But if you're starting to like him for HIM actually, then try to see who you like more because it's not fair to your current boyfriend if you like his friend. Try just not hanging around your boyfriend and that guy at the same time, and you'll forget about him.

im 15 and im a tomboy and i heard this boy...lets call him DF wants to ask me out i have never been asked out before and i have never liked a boy before and i dont want to be mean and say no but i dont want to go out on a date with him what should i do and thank you to whoever takes the time to answer this thanks alot PPPEEEAAACCCEEE OOOUUUTTT

I don't get what you're trying to really ask? If you like him, why not say yes? If you don't like him, just tell him that. Honesty is the key. Tell him and you don't really see him like that but he's a good friend which you wanna keep hanging out with and such. Just because you're a tomboy doesn't mean that there are hotties out there that would love to ask you out :)

14/f
my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month. we go to different schools, but were both friendly with each other's friends. we dont see eachother THAT often, but were really close and we talk all day and everyday. my problem with him is that his friends disrespect me and make rude comments about me. i mainly ignore it, but its starting to really piss me off. and what bothers me most about it is that sometimes my boyfriend would laugh along with their nasty jokes. i know they dont really mean anything by it, but its constantly happening. should i continue to ignore it or talk to my boyfriend..? thanks in advance!!

Talk to your boyfriend about it because if you don't the situation will probably worsen causing other problems. Don't let anyone disrespect you in any way. Plus if you're boyfriend respects you, he'll talk to his friends about it.

is there anything wrong with anal sex??.. i did it over the weekend and yea, i liked it.. hurt really badly, but i liked it. thanks for the advice!!

No there's nothing wrong with anal sex. If you're into that kind of stuff, that's your own personal business. :)

Okay so i want to ask this girl to winter formal, i went to prom with her last year, and my best friend, who happens to be her best friend says that she would definitely say yes if i asked her, but i dont know how i want to ask her, i mean i want to do something special, but i cant think of any ideas, last year for example, when i asked her to prom i left a bunch of roses in her mailbox, and they said to look out her window, and i asked her then, but what should i do to now, i need help.
if it helps im a junior... thanks

If you've ever watched any of the Laguna Beach episodes during the dances, they have AMAZING ideas. But you could surprise her by being in her room with a poster that has some catchy phrase, or anything simple like "Winter formal.. with me?" You could ask her parents to help you think of something (and also this will help so they don't get spooked out if you do something crazy, lol.) You could leave a trail of roses, along the drive way leading into her living room where you can be standing there with a bouquet of roses, in a candle lit room & then simply asking her would you go to winter formal with me? I think that would be AMAZINGLY adorable, and a for sure yes! Good luck.

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femala

okay so i like this guy alot we use to be really close people thought we were going out & stuff.
then he started talkin to my x best friend & now me & her dont talk anymore but there going out & she dosent love or care about him she dose stuff behind his back & she goes to my school & i would tell him but he just says oh i talked to her about that she said she`ll stop but she never dose. everyone knows im crazy about him we talk & afterwe get off the phone i start crying so bad.i try telling him everything he says he loves her but she dosent lovehim i dont know what to do.

If I was in your position, I'd try to talk to this one one more time. If he still doesn't listen, then you can't really do much BUT don't make it seem like you don't care anymore. Let him find out on his own what you've been trying to tell him for himself. He'll realize that you were just trying to look out for him, and he'll see that. He'll experience the feeling of betrayal and that's when you should step in and be the friend he'll need. Hopefully he'll realize that you're the one he really likes. Good luck!

17-F
ok so a few months ago i hooked up with this guy, [yess we had sex] but we havent realy talked since. and now im like dating his friend which is all perfectly fine and going great..but i have this strange ackwardness around the other guy[the one i hooked up with]. like when i hear his name or when i see him. and i go to school with him so i see him quite a bit. my question is why do i feel this way?? i just want it to go away. i hate the feeling! and also how can i get rid of it. help if you can. thnx.

I think you just feel awkward around him because of the fact that you guys hooked up and now you're going out with his friend, making it almost more awkward. You'll get over this odd feeling after a while. I know how you feel, most girls feel that way when they've hooked up with a guy or even liked a guy but it didn't go anywhere. If you just don't fuss over it as much, and let it be ; that awkwardness should just fade way. Hope I helped & good luck with your relationship =]

okayy i really need advice asap. okay so theres this girl who now goes to my school this year & shes a sweetheart and were friends. Were not like super close but i love her to death. So theres this guy at my school that is just gorgeous & i really like him. We hung out and all that & i really connected with him. Well when i came home i found out that the girl that i'm friends with went out with him for about a year off and on. She was upset with me and cried so muchh. Like she told me she doesn't want to be friends with me anymore cause it hurts her too much and she thinks i don't care about her. i talked to her and all that but she decided not to be friends. When one of my friends get mad at me, like everyone does and i'm so scared of that. I know your gonna say well then their not real friends but idk, just bare with me lol.anyways - Well the guy i like says he really likes me & don't even like his ex girlfriend anymore but shes still head over heels for him. I offered to stop talking to him and shes like NOO i don't wanna make your life shitty, please just get to know him & leave me out of it. I really don't know what to do. When i hung out with him the other dayy, i didn't wanna leave. Hes so cute & sweet and ahh i just like him alott. So what do i do? The girl i was friends with said shed get overr it eventually but i don't want the whole world hateing me because of this. For one its not their business and two, i can't stop who i likee even when i didn't know they datedd. i'm so shooken up over this situation. My best friend is also friends with this girl and i'm so afraid she`ll turn on me after she said she really wouldn't. I'm so scared. And i feel so bad that i did this to the girl but i don't know what to do. should i stop talking to him? should i just let her get used to it, or get over it ? please help me alma. - i know you, & your one truthful person. Just give me advice on what you would do if you were in my place. thnk you so much.

I don't see why your friend automatically said she wouldn't be your friend just because you started to like her ex-boyfriend. She's being unreasonable, that's for sure. If you kept track of every guy that you liked & his ex-girlfriend ; you'd never find a boyfriend. Honestly your friend will eventually get over it, but you have to understand that she is hurt and mad, and it's not that she's mad at you ; she's hurt at the fact that he's seeing other people. It's, I guess, a reaction people get when they see their ex's with others. You didn't even know that they went out before so it's not like you PLANNED to go after this one particular guy. Your other friends shouldn't turn against you because you're right ; it's NOT their business, & if your friend goes and involves everyone in your business then she's not someone who you can trust. I don't think you should stop liking this boy, because I think your friend is throwing this a little out of proportion, but let her calm down a little, and then try talking to her about this again. I hope everything works out.

okay, so one of my girl friends ex boyfriennd and i have always got along really well. we laugh and have a good time. and just like through everything i guess i started liking him. him and one of my friends had dated for a while but theyve been broken up for like 3 months. we have been hanging out lately but she doesnt really know about it. i still feel kinda guilty though.. i dont even know why. she doesnt like him anymore but naturally shes still a little protective.. is it wrong to like him? and possibly go out?

It's not wrong to like him or go out with him, because you can't really control whom you decide to like. Going out with this boy, may cause you and your friend to not be as close anymore. Some people see it as if " if he's on the market, he's anyones" but yet it is your friend's boyfriend. And also it could also result in a happy ending. A few of my friend's have gone out with my ex-boyfriend's ; and I was fine with it. So it all depends on the friend. She may be fine with it, but you really want to make sure. But if she's fine with it, go for it. [:

Heyy Dudes & Dudettes ,

Okay , Well see theres this guy he's my ex and I still really like him.. and I just started to talk to him not to long ago .. and like he's always liked me but I don't know if he still does.. so I decided to be like hey im going to invite him to go to the movies and stuff so I called him and stuff and he calls me back and says sure :) and stuff like that .. is there any possibilty that maybe in the future he would go back out with me?

Thank you.
Betty.

Yes there is. Usually when people say yes to an invite it's because they like the company of that person. So there is a possibility that he likes you because if he didn't, he wouldn't of said yes. & Also most couples who have broken up, don't want to hang out with each other.

Hey Dudes & Dudettes ,

Is it possible to go out with your ex again ? After you like dated 3 times already..?? Because everyone tells me that me and my ex are so cute together and that hes the perfect guy for me.. and I was wondering because I still REALLY like him.. is there any ways to get him back ? Please help.

Thank you so much.

Betty.

Yeah, you can go back out with your ex. Why wouldn't you be able to ? You could start talking to him again, & start from there. That's how relationships begin - through communication and hanging out with each other.

my boyfriend is moving very soon. and i think it would be cute if he bought me a promise ring promising that we will be faithful to eachother while we are so far away. how would i hint it to him without actually saying it?

You could mention it slightly while talking to him, or you could mention it to one of your friends that is friends with him as well, & they could "suggest" it to him.

I suck at kissing. Ive made out once, and I told the kid I had not done it before. but this kid was like WAY different then the one im with now. he doesnt want to move to fast, and im ok with that. but we are like really in love with each other. and on our first date we did kiss once, I think I kinda did it. but I could tell he wanted to. I get really nervous... and like I did kiss him but I don't know what to do with my lips???? It was a tiny kiss. so yea... but like I really need to know what to do! I want him to take control but that doesnt always happen so... I need to know what to do so I don't look stupid haha. thx so much!!!!

You can't really suck at kissing. It's a natural thing to human beings, but some of us are just better because we have more experience with it. Just go for it, you can't really mess up because everyone kisses their "own" way. Take control by grabbing him closer to you. It's attractive to guys ;]

he asked a girl and she said yes.. how do i tell her it was my brother??? i dont want to hurt her feelings.

Just explain to her that it was your brother on your account. Try to be nice, but don't worry to much. Because it's better if you tell her now before she really starts to like you to the point where she really might get hurt. [Since she said yes, she might actually like you (: ]

so im 14 years old and a girl. about to be a freshman. and im in love. and i KNOW i am. evey time i tell someone that they say ohh your too young. your NEVER too young. and ive been wiht this guy now for 2 months and a week exact. and my mom is like freaking out on me. i havnt told her but she can just tell becuase SOO much more happier. ive waited 3 years to be with this guy agian. and he isnt cute. at alll. sounds mean. but im just tryign to explain this. when i started going out with him. people were like why hes ugly. and weird. and odd. and he ISNT. he is the SWEETEST guy i know. and i know if people sat down and had a conversation with him they'd fall in love with him. yes he is ugly. but he is not werid. he is just diffrent from what i am so people think oh they cant be together. who cares. he listens to rock and can dress in blakc every now and then. and he can be quite in school becuase he actually wants to learn something. so people think he is kreepy and weird. but my mom is like i want you to live your life and your not going to be becuase your going to be with him. and i get where she is coming from ive thought about it. becuase when you get to highschool you meet soo many diffrent people but ive already met enough people in my life. and i guess my point is should i listen to my mom and for now be friends with him and wait and maybe get other friends back. or do something else? sorry if it made no sense. im just so confused.

Just a tad bit confusing but that's okay ;] - aren't we all, haha. Okay well your mom and friends are right. You do meet a lot of people in high school and a lot of things change in high school. If you feel like you should remain friends than only you can decide that basically. You might meet someone you really like in high school so I would wait and see what happens down that road, but then again you might not. You might feel that this guy is possibly the one for you, so honestly don't let him go because if you do, he may not come back, you know ? Whatever you do I hope you're just happy with it. (:

okay well i just started school 3 days ago on wednesday. the 6th. and ive been talking to this kid whos a softmore & im a freshman . and we like talk all the time. were always flirting && hes like asking to go out sometime. do u tihnk he likes me or should i wait & see how things go

He ovibously likes you since he flirts with you and wants to hang out with you. Go hang out with him sometime but be careful becuase he knows your younger and he might try to take advantage.

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