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My name is Jessica. I was born in Missouri. I`m 15 years old.. I'm a freshman. :] I can be a bitch for saying whats on my mind so if you think so then just keep it to yourself,but then again i can be nicest,sweetest person. I love to have fun and be goofy =]. I hate fake people so im no fake. I hate labels they start alot of drama so dont label me. Drama is for the big screen. Don't get me involved. However, if you chose to pick a fight with me I will have the last word. Honesty is very important to me. I say what's on my mind and not ashamed of it. If you think it's rude, I don't care. Girls that try fitting in and wearing certain clothes to do so is retarted.I don't get mad easily over stupid things. If it's not something important I don't stress over it. Respect is very important. I belive that everyone should respect each other and everyone else."I'm not perfect. No one is. When girls leave me rude comments saying that I'm a bitch or something, it doesn't bother me. I have confidence in myself and words don't hurt my feelings. I ignore it. I don't mind being judged on anything I do because chances are, you don't know me at all so don't act like it. Thanks to the people that actually respect me. Call me a bitch, ugly, whore.. whatever you want but it doesn't bother me. I know I'm not so your opinion doesn't mean anything to me." Screen name: HAUTExMESS.
"Calling someone ugly won't make you prettier. Calling someone fat won't make you any skinnier. Calling someone a bitch won't make you any nicer. Talking shit about someone won't make you better so consider getting a life & shut the hell up."
Likes: Music, long conversations, gum, money, friends, picturess, rollercoasters, meeting new people, my pink puppy ( stuffed ), acting crazy, doing stuff other people dont do, hugsss, nail polish, makeup, my iPod, cleaning, being comfortable, boysss,
Dislikes: boring people, liars, fast food resturants, feet, bad breath, bugs, school, major thunderstorms, vanilla, fakes, everyone dressings the same, blood, bitches, stoners, being sick, people who tYpE liKe ThiS, heart breaks, allergies, people who have no self-esteem that make fun of other pople, ugly mean people, ignorant people, smoke, things and people that confuse me, people who break promises, two faced people, waiting in lines, slow computers, holiday songs, animal prints, losers, white socks, comedians, marshmellows, eating disorders, being lonely, being left out, interfering people, animal cruelty, arrogant people, perverts, people who think they are perfect , weirdos, hangovers, being scared, wanna bees, arguments, being unhappy, people who dislike homosexuals, stuck up people, racsim, DRAMA, fake friends, and LAMES !!!!!
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ok so im sad lots of the time and moody and stuff because of one girl and she cares about me alot and she wants me to be happy she doesnt want to have a relation ship and she dosnt LIKE me i dont want her to like me i want to move on .. this has been going on for years and years by the way so its not som little average heartbreak,what should i do .. and for the record how can i keep my self from being sad about other girls cause.. fuck,this happens every fucking time !!!! sorry for swearing but .. woah i just cant take it anymore i get into the state of depression were i want to die and everything and i dont see the point on being alive.. but w.e thats stupid i like another girl .. been friends with along time .. weve liked each other on and off and yeah i need to hint that i like her .. and yeah and how can i get her to like me .. like frickhahaha well please help me on all thos questions .. it would be sweet if it was a long sentence answer cause iv asked this in differnt ways befor but i cant seem to be geting the kinda answer im looking for.. well somthing that might help * because .. yeah iv tryed lots and i seem to be geting the same stuff over and over agian .. thanks .. bye
15/m
the first girl seems like she cares about you alot and you may always have a place in her heart. Maybe your depressed all the time because you fall in love to easy, try taking it slow. Always remember that no girl is worth killing yourself because later on in life you will find a WOMAN that will wanna spend the rest of her life with you. You should talk to her more and hang out with her then maybe she could start to get to know you more and then you could take it from there but i think i told you what i had to tell you. Im sorry if i didnt tell you anything that could help or what you wanted to hear. I tired.
hi guys! okay theres this guy at my school and i like him. how i found out i liked was throuh numerous chorus rehersals flirting. now that my feeling have devloped into more than a crush, im in trouble. i want to ask him out. ive never been the type of girl to wait for the guy for reasons that are too long for now. anyway the only catch is i havent had to ask someone out since january when i asked a privious bf out and i really like this guy! i need some advice as to asking him out without scerwing up the liffle friendship we have.
thanks in advance!
start it off slow & ask him to hang out with you sometimes or ask him to come over sometime, just for him to get to know you a little better. Maybe that you could find out if he likes you as well & to see if the flirting in class is just because he thinks its funny or if its serious. Some guys are like that, they will flirt with you because they think its funny or they are bored.
Hopefuly you wont have to ask him out, he may ask you out if he gets to know you.
ok i've had a crush on a guy for quite some tim now (4 years to be more exact) and this year i decided, since im seeing him for christmas.. that will be the day i decided what to do.. if i should get on with my life, or try for something (i only see him once a year during xmas) so what now, now that i found out we're not going there for xmas? i'll never get closure! or answers! i feel like i need to confess my feelings for him, face to face, before i can move on.. or you know, make another kind of decision.
so what do i do? be stuck on him for another year? i don't know!! help please!
it sounds like your in love hun. but i wouldnt try to be sprung over a guy that i can only see once a year. there other guys out that are willing to be with you everyday & wanna spend time with you.
maybe you should tell him how you feel & maybe he feels the same about you, you may never know. You could start it out slow and ask him if he wants to hang out sometime.
if this is a log distance relationship then hun well they never work out.Im sorry to tell you that but its true. you should have a boyfriend that is close to you so that you can get scoop on him sometimes and to find out if he is cheating on you cuz thats how most long distance relationships end.
i hope this advice helps you out & answered what you asked.
well this girl named B asked my boyfriend out and stuff and then her friend said they hookedup .. i didnt know who to believe so i gave my bf the benifit of the doubt. but i was with him yesterday and on his recieved calls there was a call from her from the 19th. i dont know what to do or how to respond because of everything that happened. he said he didnt tell me because he didnt want me to get mad. im not sure though
talk to him about it and see what he says but of course he will denie it if it was true.
if i was you i would confront her. but try not to start a HUGE fight.
alright well i'm 90% sure i want to break up with my boyfriend.. but idk what im goin to say.. he broke up with me last week and he got his friend to call me and say "john wants to break up with you. bye" (he asked me out the next day, which is how we are going out again). so i was maybe thinking i could get my friend to call him and say the exact same thign to see how he feels! or i might say "hey i think we should just take break from each other and just let things smooth out" because we got in a fight earlier today.. and hes just too dramatic and he always brings a lot of unneeded drama. so someone please help me. how should i do it?? and should i do it on the phone?
do itface to face that shows him that your a bigger person.and just say hey look things aint working out the way i wanted them to so i think we should see other people.
okay so this has nothing to do with me
but i'm just wondering do you guys like girls who are really misterious , dress diferent (not emo or goth or something like that just more of a rock style) listen to rock and hard metal stuff like that , walk alone almost all the time , are quit , have really dark long hair untill the ass =P , play electric guitar , and are really pretty but don't wear tight jeans or stuff like that
please answer it's just a question i had on my mind =)
it depends different guys like different girls. Just be yourself and NEVER change forr a guy...
is acne a hudge turn off.. or does it realy matter.. im wondering
15/m
well all teens get it. and i mean ALL but you will grow out of it. but here are some ways to helpl prevent it from coming back...
1)when you wake up in the moring to go pee have some rubbing alcohol by the sink or sum where. Rub that on your face using a cotton ball. And make sure its 91% alcohol. Be sure to use it twice a day Morning and night. That just gets rid of the oil.
2) when you get out of the shower rub UNSCENTED lotion on you face to keep it from drying out.
3) ask your doctor about clerocin t.it works GREAT i use it.
dont buy those products off of teevee because they dont work too good. Proactive really dont work....
14/f Ok so there is this guy that i really like, and we are pretty close friends. The winter snowball dance is coming up, and i was wondering if anyone had any ideas of how to ask him to go to it with me, even if we just went as friends. Or should i wait for him to ask me?
well maybe you should bring it up in a convo somehow... like... " hey who are you going to the dance with?" or "are you going" then maybe if he talks about it you'll say well maybe we could go as friends. Just talk to him about it but dont come out of no where and say it, then you may just embrass yourself. Find out around school if he's taking anyone then you might find out that he's alone. but you should wait too long to talk about it.
Okay, if a girl is under 16 and a guy is 18, is it a legal for them to date? Someone told me that it is as long as you don't do anything with them but someone else told me that you can't date at all until the girl is 16. What's really legal?
of course you could still date him but if you get caught having sex with him or sexual stuff than you guys could get in serious trouble. he could get 6 years in jail/prision.if you are going to be having sex with him than you should be extra careful.
JUST BE CAREFULLLL...
ive been talking to this guy for almost 2 months. we have sex and everything, and im 17 and hes 20, but weve been friends ever since we were little kids. and we wouldnt be able to have a relationship because people would say stuff about it and i dont like that. and now i think im starting to develope feelings for him and i dont want to if we cant be anything.. cause im still in high school, and i dont think he has feelings for me cause he has a history with girls, like cheating and stuff.. and i dont think hes in for that.. and since im younger, i think he just wants to have sex and thats it. like when we have sex as soon as were done, he puts his clothes on and drops me off.. but when i talk to other guys, he gets mad and i dont know if hes acting like he cares.. what do you think?
first off if you have feelings for him you should talk to him about it. And thats good that you have been friends with him for some time because you should have some trust in each other, which could make it last.But if he has had history with cheating on girls then what makes you think he won't do it to you ( not saying he will... but think). All guys are after sex but you may never know this could be more than just that.
Now since he's older and your younger he thinks that your at a vulnerable stage right now and he can get anything he wants anytime. So dont give him sex all the time and if he gets mad thats stupid...then you should know if he's using you.
this jealousy thing thats because he thinks just because you are talking to this guys that your having sex with them too. Yeah it seems like he cares about you alot.
i really hope i helped because that was a tuffy!
i have known this girl for several years, and she is who i consider my best friend. everyone since we met has assumed that we were dating, even going to get married. we have dealt with this sort of thing from the get-go. The wierd thing is, she seems to be everything i could ever want in a girl, but i had never thought of her that way.
Lately though, those type of thoughts (us actually dating) have been floating thru my mind frequently.
When i look at her, i see not just my friend, but a very insanely beautiful woman. I dont want to ruin a friendship, but i do not know what to do!!!
well i think you should tell her how you feel. If you like her as much as you think then it shouldnt ruin anythink cuz true love never invades on friendship. TELL HER
Ok, i really like this guy at school, but my close friends really hate him (he rejected them), and so i went to my other friends, and they were shocked, and not in a good way. I like the guy alot, and he flirts with me. I havent told my close friends, and i really want to, bacuse i always tell them. What should i do? I really need advice!
well if you like this guy a lot then it shouldnt matter to your friends how you feel. They should be happy for you being happy. If they get mad over you liking a guy then they cant be real friends. Just do your own thing and if they dont like then let them be because you and this guy could have something special.
but you should never put a guy before friends unless you know that you and a guy are serious about each other.
me and my boyfriend are allllways bored at my house... what can we do besides sexual things.. like wrestle, etc.
find out something that you both wanna do such as.... taking a walk, watching a movie, talking, play sports, some way to get to know each other at the same time.
when i have guy friends over we watch movies, go forr walks and wreastle with each other but what you do shouldnt matter, he should be happy just being there with you.
We used to be very close friends
then rumors spread about us
and he got mad and hated me and my friend
i sent him a sorry message and then he didnt reply but he messaged me later[which he hadnt done in like 2 weeks] and just acted casual
it was kind of awkward
but my question is, Do you think hes gonna start talking to me just as much as he used to ?
or do you think that was the only thing he was gonna say and its just gonna stay like that?
im pretty sure he liked talking to me before he got mad , but idk....
help!?
DONT RUSH ANYTHING ! just let him work his way back in but you could start by saying hi to him in the halls at school && flashing a cute smile at him once in awhile
so there's this guy that i am really into. we'll call him steve. i think he likes me... but not more than a friend. probably not even that much cuz we barely talk. whenever i'm around him i freeze up. how do i keep myself from freezing up and start dropping hints???
one more thing... one of his best friends is one of my best friends, we'll call him Joe. i told Joe that I like steve. but i don't want joe to go ask steve if i like him cuz that's the immature way of doing it. i did that in like 6th grade and it never works. how can i use him to find out??? that is... if i need to use him to find out.
I would have Joe start a convo with Steve . . . like have Joe say something like " man what do you think about her, she's a wonderful girl".And when you find out from Joe that Steve likes you too just start being yourself around him. && try not to giggle alot infront of him because you dont want to seem annoyying right away.
You can do it trust me. If this dont work, Im sorry.
okay, what do guys like...
Girls with a mystery, like they never give them full self to you at once, they gradually give themselves to you, like everyday's a new day, with a different mystery
Or, If the girl just give her whole personality her whole self all at once, do you think guys get board of that..I'm the Mystery and shes the giving one, shes my bestfriend and we both like the same guy...
I'm 14 hes 15 and shes 14
well it depends on what the guy likes =] all guys are a little different && have a special taste....
there is this guy i like and i want to get him to ask me out please tell me how.
you cant make someone like you but you should try to get to know him && maybe he will end up liking who you are.
15/f. lately i've been getting really upset because i'm 15 and i've never had a boyfriend, or a first kiss. i get really embarrassed when people talk about their boyfriends and their first kiss. and i'm always afraid that someone will make fun of me because i'm prude and never had a boyfriend. i don't know if it is something about my personality that is scaring some guys away. don't say that i shouldn't change myself for a guy because i would never do that (meaning dress differently or style my hair different). but i mean my personality. i'm a VERY organized person (like everything has to be neat) and i take my grades very seriously. is that a turn off? because sometimes i can become controlling if we are doing a project or something. what is something that i can do to become less controlling in situations? also i don't think that i'm ugly. so what is wrong? i also can get nervous talking to guys. OMG i'm just getting really frustrated with myself.
so basically these are my questions:
1)what can i do when people ask me if i'm prude knowing that i am?
2)how can i become less controlling in group projects?
3)is it weird that i'm 15 and haven't had a boyfriend or a first kiss?
sorry its so long...but thanks!
1.)well when someone was to ask you if your prude just give them an honest answer && if they find that wierd just remember taht if they dont liek you for who you are then they arent really good people. BUT you could also tell them that your just not ready or its none of their business.
2.)When you are in a group doing a project just ask the other people for their ideas and if you have some kinda combine them together . .. . like comprimse.
3.)No it isnt wierd because your day will come one of these days. And when it does come you'll be the happiest girl ever && you may not know how to a girlfriend but thats going to be okay because your knew at that kind of stuff. But remeber you should become friends with a guy and learn how to trust him then yu could take it serious.. YOU ARE NOT WEIRD && STOP THINKING SO NEGITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF....
i hope that was what you are looking forr in advice.
I've never had a boyfriend, and I know for a fact this guy is going to ask me out this week. I want to say yes, but what do I do? Just say yes?
well it depends if you think your ready for a boyfriend but you shouldnt rush it at all. Become friends and get to know each other a lil. Relationships last longer when you have trust in each other.
JUST FOLLOW YOUR HEART HUN . . .
okay, well i have no idea what to get my boyfriend for christmas.
he doesnt like sports, nor fishing etc..
he is more into music
and i would like to get him something more special then just concert tickets or somthing.
pllllease help with cute ideas
thank you!!
well my familly always just gives me money forr christmas because they really dont know what to get me.
Its easy and simple . . . Money
but you should try asking him but without giving it away that your getting him something. Then you should know exactly what to get him. Or just spend the day with him romanticly.....